Psychologist experience

[pinkman]

What happened to me today is absolutely unbelievable.
I decided to try psychotherapy once again after negative experiences in the past.
So I decided to go to a chief psychotherapist who works in a clinic cause I thought that this guy has to be good to work there.
But what happened then was unbelievable I felt like I'm in a bad movie.
In the beginning I wanted to describe to him my situation which is complex. I have a lot of issues and I wanted to describe them to him so that he could understand my situation. He didn't even give me the chance to describe my problems to him but quickly interrupted me telling me stuff like that I create bad energy and that this affects him negatively and that in his opinion psychotherapy has to be beneficial for the patient and also for him, meaning that if I complain too much and it drags him down then I'll get kicked.
Can you believe this? I really felt like I'm in the wrong movie.
I wasn't even whining. I was trying to describe my problems and he didn't even give me a few minutes in the beginning of the 1. session. I wasn't even able to talk about the things which are on my heart and which I suffer from.

I'm really done with psychotherapy. After the session I felt like crap. I was so disappointed, disillusioned and also angry at myself. He even questioned what I said and made it look like I'm only acting like I am sick or that my bad health is psychosomatic. This guy knows shit about me and my hormones and what not and thinks he can act like I'm imagining all of this. He even made fun of my bad health and asked me why I don't retire.
I'm really at a loss of words here. When I think about what happened during this session I almost feel mentally abused. You gotta imagine this. A patient who has an awful lot of problems and worries goes to a therapist for help and then he doesn't even get the chance to describe all his problems and is told that he whines too much and creates too much negative energy.
This is like a surgeon who complains that he cannot see blood. I have never heard such a crap before that a therapist only treats patients if he also profits from the sessions and if you come across as too depressive and drag him down then he won't treat you.

[keriheat]

I mean this seriously. Sounds like you need to go back. You will consider some of the things that were said today, somewhere in the next 7 days and something should ring a bell. You go back and talk about that bell ringing. You dont want this guy to baby you and you dont want him as a Friend. What you need is someone who will help you dig deep and unravel your pain. If you just want to feel good the first time out go get a massage.

[Tyler81]

That sucks.

I dont think you need a psychotheraphy course tho.

I think you need a life coach. Someone who helps you change the way you think about life, and yourself.

Have you heard of Anthony Robbins?

I used to listen to his tapes in my car on the drive to and from work. That's what basically got me through the hell of the past few years. I am much more positive person now too

Check him out if you have time.

[Bridger]

Therapy can be very helpful.
There are many factors to consider and this particular therapist may not be the best fit for you. Or maybe he touched a nerve and that can be a good thing in the long run. No one on the board can decide that for you.

[pinkman]

A psychologist should first of all be willing to listen and to understand where a person is coming from. This was the first fucking session! If you aren't even given time during the first session to explain your case then I don't know what to say.
How else can he help if he doesn't even know about all things which drag a person down? To me it's a smack in the face if I'm interrupted and cannot even talk about the things which I suffer from. If this is how psychotherapy generally works then I shit on it.
When a person is hurting then first of all you should listen and make this person feel accepted and taken seriously and not tell her that he problems are "draining" your energy. WTF is this? If he cannot even bear listening to people's problems he shouldn't be doing therapy. This is a fucking joke.

@ tyler

Never heard about him but I'll see if I find something from him.

[BBC3]

You have to understand. What you are all about right now is knowing the answer while YOU PRETEND to seek other. The goal of a psychotherapist is to POKE YOU. Only you can fix you - BUT THROUGH THIS TOOL.

Take my marital situation. We are seeing independent shrinks at first. they are taking different approaches but to the same goal. THAT IS to realize what WE WANT. Say my wife see's hers. Its a WOMAN. She says this and that to my wife. This is PROBING.. The ultimate outcome is that she will FORCE my wife to reconcile her true thoughts by making her self accountible. Then by her own explanation to the shrink she must pick an action or direction, OR BE FOOLISH. So now not only does she account, she has to defend her position, and to herself - through the shrink. Thats an example...

You are younger. You lack of understanding of you and your rebellion to this process is understandable. You have to want to Improve your life, to improved your life. For this to happen you truly have to be OPEN.

But trust me in that childishness is foolishness. And you will suffer in the long run. Be sure you have a CLinical Psychologist and not some asshole "counselor" with no PHD.. These can be young, inexperienced, and DANGEROUS. They may even have experience, but to drop the ball with a subject at just one, but the wrong time, can be devastating in cases.

[HeadDoc]

The late Milton Erickson conducted many a first session just like this. It certainly sorted out the consumers vs. the perpetual shoppers. Erickson had his own institute and it flourishes to this day for training therapist and providing services. Some people will find this style offensive. Some of these may also be "just shopping around".

[1erCru]

It appears a bit narcisistic but having had experience with CBT therapists its not much different. They simply dont let you sit there and ramble on about your problems, period.

[pinkman]

I don't give a shit about what they think works.

If I am not even allowed in the first fucking session to even explain all the problems which I have then this is absolute bullshit. This is like going to a doctor and the doctor doesn't even allow you to tell him where it hurts. This is bullshit! They can take their psychotherapy and stick it up their asses.
I went there and had even written a list with all important things I wanted to bring up and wasn't able to because I was interrupted all the time and told that my problems drag him down. I never heard such an insulting crap before. This is like a proctologist who is afraid of sticking his finger in people's assholes.

I rather talk to someone who cares and who listens and is really interested than to some smartass who thinks he doesn't even have to understand my problems.

[BBC3]

Keep in mind - People are people, AND SOME JUST DONT GET ALONG. Some of these QUEERS really are ASSHOLES, and unable to maintain professional objectivity toward their job. You may very well not have liked the PERSON sitting in the shrink seat. And they may have not like you. So shop it further. Its your $$.. If anyone is thinking I am being unfair in my thoughts then consider this - What kind of person does it take to be a cop? Everyone they deal with is unhappy with them. They are not rescuing kittens from trees. So basically they would have to wake up in the morning thinking "ahh, another day of manhandling degenerates and punishing people...." REALLY.. So what kind of a person does it take to be a shrink....? Very few people use perfect thought in choosing their career paths. The rest are miserable all the way along till a coronary...

ONE THING I think is important in the patient relationship is having good rapport. I am sure their are arguments both ways, but it would seem to me that to find solid councel, one would have to also have PERSONAL REGARD for WHOM IT IS that they are choosing as such. This person should be an "Idle" type icon for you, as you should respect and want to know their opinion...

Do not ignore your natural and GUT feelings either. You may be right and he may have just been a filthy cockbag. Their is a WIDE GRAY LINE as to where the border is in provoking thought and action vs. just being an asshole. And I am not referring to the word asshole as I am know to use so commonly as a term of endearment.... And their are enough asshole shrinks and INCOMPETENT counselors to go a long way round...

Originally Posted by pinkman

I don't give a shit about what they think works.

If I am not even allowed in the first fucking session to even explain all the problems which I have then this is absolute bullshit. This is like going to a doctor and the doctor doesn't even allow you to tell him where it hurts. This is bullshit! They can take their psychotherapy and stick it up their asses.
I went there and had even written a list with all important things I wanted to bring up and wasn't able to because I was interrupted all the time and told that my problems drag him down. I never heard such an insulting crap before. This is like a proctologist who is afraid of sticking his finger in people's assholes.

I rather talk to someone who cares and who listens and is really interested than to some smartass who thinks he doesn't even have to understand my problems.