Children with autism

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Cramps88, Jan 10, 2018.

  1. Cramps88

    Cramps88 Member

    I'm writing this because last year my two almost three year old son was diagnosed with autism. I was able to enroll him in a speech therapy class this month that starts next month and still waiting for an appointment with a specialist pediatrician. I have talked with a couple of members who also have autistic children especially @CAswole. I thought I would start a thread so we as a community could discuss this topic and share experiences that our children and we as parents have. I'm still learning a lot about autism and don't understand everything so I thought this would be a good tool for me and others. Before we learned that our son was autistic me and my wife thought that his behavior issues were just him kind of being bratty but in reality he has been frustrated at his inability to fully communicate. I did not realize this until the diagnosis. This is something I learned and will probably be learning a lot more as time goes on.
     
  2. CAswole

    CAswole Member

    Good idea brother. This will be a good place to share our experiences. My son starts potty training real soon. Went out tonight w the wife and got him underwear and a baby potty:)
     
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  3. Cramps88

    Cramps88 Member

    It's funny you mention that we went out and did the same thing last week. Just so he could try the underwear I let him run around today in a pair. He loved it and got pissed when I put a diaper back on him. :D
     
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  4. EarlHickey

    EarlHickey Junior Member

    I was diagnosed with Asperger's as a child but luckily I was fairly functional. I can offer that experience if it helps?
     
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  5. x11

    x11 Member

    Worked with a guy with autism, had no effect on his ability to do complex tech work ie keep big servers running. Dude detected and wrote a script to mitigate a virus before regional techs knew it even existed.

    Regional techs got pissy cos he set up all this computer fuckery shit outside of the company policy to protect his servers. Boss had to discipline him cos regional guys were butthurt. the boss didnt know exactly why so the discipline was half assed pathetic. Dude saved the company thousands, boss knew it.

    He would struggle with a front desk job tho.
     
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  6. Cramps88

    Cramps88 Member

    Something that I'm learning about autism is the early detection allows parents to gain knowledge and the tools to help their children lead what's considered a normal life. For us the biggest challenge is my son's behavior issues. Since he can't communicate well he often lashes out when he gets frustrated. I'm hoping that speech therapy combined with home exercises will help him communicate correcting some of his aggressive behavior. At times I feel helpless to help him and I often get depressed because I do not like to see him hurting in such a manner.
     
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  7. Cramps88

    Cramps88 Member

    I would love to hear about your experiences especially how things were when you were younger.
     
  8. flenser

    flenser Member AnabolicLab.com Supporter

    Me too. I still have some related.. symptoms (for lack of a better word), but no one who isn't told would ever suspect. I've always sort of thought of the condition as one of my strengths, actually. I learned to hide it mostly to avoid getting my ass kicked regularly in school.
     
  9. gr8whitetrukker

    gr8whitetrukker Member AnabolicLab.com Supporter

    I plan on getting my oldest (the one with diagnosed aspbergers and adhd) in to combatives to give him confidence in school. Its easy to pick on kids like that and separate them as weak prey when in reality the kid with aspbergers is likely without a doubt the smartest kid in the classroom but he is also vulnerable to social engagments. He cant seem to discern simple communications like who his friend is and whos picking on him. He doesnt have much empathy. Its a strange thing
    Some things that usually go hand in hand with autism is a screwed up digestive system. My son requires miralax to go shit. A diaper because he will shit himself due to not either being aware of his bowl movements or the inability to stop them. Not sure which. Even after all these yrs i cant figure out which it is. Some things to consider

    Also if money is an issue and he or she is actually diagnosed SSI will help with some care and medicines if your under a certain income threshold. Check what your state can provide for you as well. I lived in NY for 28 yrs and now TX. NY had ALOT of special education tools at our disposal. Specialized schooling free of charge that got my son, who was 3 at the time, prepared for public school. Gave him a much needed running start. Special aid's when he was in public school to help him thru the day. They also provided help with home aid's free of charge to provide speech therapy and social stimulus. Also we had a major university come conduct a study on my son at home which was cool. It was a broad study not necessarily about him.

    TX is very different. We havent got a lick of help down here for anything. The victories we won were the ones we fought for. As in my wife against the entire school board. They dont wanna spend a dime and they will try to do everything possible to prevent it. I started to have to attend board meetings with her to back her up and make sure no one either intimidated her or backed her down. We eventually got the school aid he needed but it wasnt easy. We dont get help from SSI down here and pretty much anything else. My wife operates an autism awareness group on her own time. She has alot of passion for this stuff
     
  10. Yeah the South treats poor/disabled people worse than the Northern states . Oklahoma is even worse than Texas in "Entitlement help" . I watched people die in OK that didnt need to . And the education system was near non-existent and poorly funded. One of the many reasons we didnt stay in OK very long....POOR STATE -Doesnt care about its people !
     
  11. gr8whitetrukker

    gr8whitetrukker Member AnabolicLab.com Supporter

    I always figured it was because TX doesnt have a state income tax to pay for the programs. IDK about OK. But at least from my experience in NY those services arent "free". We had a crippling state income tax that made all that possible. For those that have never paid a state tax just look at your pay check. Look what the federal and Social security takes out. Now NY state tax is MORE than both of those. Every paycheck. Its alot of money every year
     
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  12. The place we just recently moved to theres a 7-8 yr old girl across the street with Autism and shes shy around strangers but is bright as a light and lots of fun to talk to . Her parents just got her a new Polaris 110 ATV and shes already mastered it ....they think they found her "calling"...she wants to be a quad racer . I think she can do it !
     
  13. flenser

    flenser Member AnabolicLab.com Supporter

    I got picked on a lot. Hard to say how much of it was just me misinterpreting what was happening.
     
  14. Cramps88

    Cramps88 Member

    I didn't know that about the digestive system. What is the reason behind digestive system problems? Plus my hats off to Mrs Trucker. She sounds like a pit bull. I think it's really decent of her to put so much time and effort into such a cause. Eventually I'm going to pick your brain so I can get a better understanding of autism.
     
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  15. gr8whitetrukker

    gr8whitetrukker Member AnabolicLab.com Supporter

    Idk the reason but its usually paired together. ADHD is often paired with autism as well. A day without medicine is like a day in hell. He is utterly incapable of shutting the fuck up or calming the fuck down. Very frustrating. Weve been thru alot of meds to keep him down to earth. I was against them many years ago because i didnt want to use drugs on a kid but now i couldnt see it any other way. Makes life alot easier for those around him.
    Did you know parents of special needs kids have a 50% increased chance of divorce? Like the divorce rates arent high enough without all that extra crap right?
     
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  16. @flenser -- you consider yourself Autistic ?
     
  17. flenser

    flenser Member AnabolicLab.com Supporter

    No. I was diagnosed with Asperger's when I was pretty young. My parents didn't tell me - or anyone else. I learned about it much later. I always just considered myself weird : )
     
  18. I might have a touch of Aspergers myself , I am socially awkward and slow to talk to people or trust . It was suggested by doctors when I was younger . My daughter has it worse...
     
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  19. CAswole

    CAswole Member

    My son is an extremely picky eater. We're constantly trying new things and he'll go through fazes where he loves a certain thing for awhile but then won't even touch it. One thing that is helpful is that he loves chocolate milk lol (and he says " chocolate milk") but it's really whole milk with carnation breakfast. He's on the smaller side and this thankfully supplements some nutrition, protein and calories he needs.
     
  20. gr8whitetrukker

    gr8whitetrukker Member AnabolicLab.com Supporter

    Yup, picky AF!!!:mad:
     
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