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GymRat79

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So my wife is 38.

She is getting ancy to have children. Right now I am training for my first show and I have told her that I need to focus on the show at hand and nothing else. She keeps saying "You could have waited to enter a show until I got pregnant."

I am currently on a gear cycle also which I asked her if she would have a problem with it before I started and she said "no." That was the agreement.

Its stressing me out and I dont' want this to interfere with my show prep.

What would you do if you were me? File for Divorce? Threaten you will leave? Tell her "Sorry babe but you are not as important as this show to me right now."

Cause I want to do well and that takes 100 % commitment. Even over your wife and family.
 
GymRat79 said:
So my wife is 38.

She is getting ancy to have children. Right now I am training for my first show and I have told her that I need to focus on the show at hand and nothing else. She keeps saying "You could have waited to enter a show until I got pregnant."

I am currently on a gear cycle also which I asked her if she would have a problem with it before I started and she said "no." That was the agreement.

Its stressing me out and I dont' want this to interfere with my show prep.

What would you do if you were me? File for Divorce? Threaten you will leave? Tell her "Sorry babe but you are not as important as this show to me right now."

Cause I want to do well and that takes 100 % commitment. Even over your wife and family.
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Damn you are really in it to win. Congrats to you man,Ive met a few guys like you. Their body comes before everything.
 
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Dema said:
Can't have sex while on show prep? Wtf...... Many guys have knocked up their ol lady while on gear...
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Sperm count greatly reduces,I think he just doesn't want that responsibility of caring for a pregnant wife while he is trying to count his macros to the T.

BTW fuck you @Dema
 
Dema said:
Can't have sex while on show prep? Wtf...... Many guys have knocked up their ol lady while on gear...
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She thinks I can't get her pregnant taking gear. I think I'll try tonight just to make her quiet. I don't care if she is pregnant while prepping for a show. The show is in 15 weeks and she wouldn't be due till May. The thing with her is that she says how confused she is about me going back and forth on having children. Part of me wants to have them, the other part of me wants to just focus on training and shows while I am young enough to be competitive. If any other members on here have been through something similar please post about it here.

She also compares all the time about how I was when we first met. Back then I loved the gym but I didn't have plans of competing. Now I do and she says my mindset is different. It rubs her the wrong way.
 
GymRat79 said:
Cause I want to do well and that takes 100 % commitment. Even over your wife and family.
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WTF? How old are you?

That sentiment is some shit I would expect to hear from a 25 year old guy on the cusp of turning pro about his live-in gf, not a wife and/or family.

If you ain't a pro, that show shouldn't be more important than your family. If you are a pro, it probably shouldn't be either.

The stupid trophy won't mean shit when you are 50.

You can train hard without being a fucking retard.
 
Ok well how do you get good then? This is why some athletes go train elsewhere for the 3 or 4 months to prep for the sport they are in. This is why they don't allow their wives to travel with them during that time. It must take 100 % focus. Just how I look at it.

I gave her a ring and I tell her I love her everyday. If she got sick or needed me by her side, I would drop the show. But please don't say I am training too much if I go to the gym in the morning and the evening. Its really ignorant and selfish in my opinion to do. Especially since its only a 16 week prep and there are 52 weeks in a year. I do not cheat on her even though if I was a dick I would, and I don't put a ring on someones finger because I am selfish. I also don't lay next to her at night holding her and kissing her before I fall asleep because I only care about myself. I am in training.
 
GymRat79 said:
Ok well how do you get good then?
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Train twice a day (of your routine calls for it). Don't be fucking stupid in between.


FFS, people do this all the time while working full time and raising kids.

You aren't Ronnie Coleman or Phil Heath. What you are doing in no way requires isolating yourself or disregarding your family needs for any length of time, let lone 3 or 4 months.
 
grey said:
Train twice a day (of your routine calls for it). Don't be fucking stupid in between.


FFS, people do this all the time while working full time and raising kids.

You aren't Ronnie Coleman or Phil Heath. What you are doing in no way requires isolating yourself or disregarding your family needs for any length of time, let lone 3 or 4 months.
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Like I said in my previous post, I train twice a day. She doesnt' like it that I get home around 9 pm sometimes. She is not an athlete so I understand she doesn't get it. But she is married to one, so she needs to learn to compromise. I lay with her and kiss her goodnight, every single night. We spend plenty of time together as we work together! I got her a job at my business with good pay. She see's me enough. To be honest If she got pregnant this attitude would end so she's just moody like most women.
 
@GymRat79..nice name btw...i think divorce is pretty heavy, I mean sit down and find the happy medium. There should be support on her end and you guys should be able to come to a compromise. Divorce is the last thing bro. In my opinion at least, if you really love eachother.
 
GymRat79 said:
she needs to learn to compromise
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You want a woman nearing the end of her possible childbearing years (if the boat has not already sailed) to "learn to compromise" about wanting a family while you post about divorce so you can work out without hearing complaints?

Dude seriously. Take a few (million) steps back, get some perspective.

Good luck.
 
GymRat88 said:
@GymRat79..nice name btw...i think divorce is pretty heavy, I mean sit down and find the happy medium. There should be support on her end and you guys should be able to come to a compromise. Divorce is the last thing bro. In my opinion at least, if you really love eachother.
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Sarcasm is hard to sense online. I was only kidding.

Even though for about 5 minutes I considered it ;)

I would never divorce my wife over the gym but I would honestly like to be left alone about training so much.

Any advice?
 
GymRat79 said:
I would never divorce my wife over the gym but I would honestly like to be left alone about training so much.

Any advice?
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What I did was explain to her *why* I felt it was important, and had her join me for around 1/3 of my sessions.

Hard to say if that works for yours though.
 
Dude, get your mind right. Divorce because of a bullshit amateur contest in 15 weeks?? The fact you even considered that is just messed up. She's 38, she isn't getting any younger and the risk of complications goes up after a woman is over 35. Fuck a stupid show, your family always comes first!!! You're going to look back at this and think to yourself what a moron you were acting like. The stupid shows aren't shit and bodybuilding will always be there for you. None of my trophies are worth what my son is to me
 
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