Where the fuck did I go wrong?

So 40 years old with a boyfriend with felonies for shit like stealing comics and no job? How’s that fit in

shit my dad explained this to me.
Why is it people take on parental habits
Stealing comic books is a felony now? He must have taken the entire delivery truck!!! Lmao
 
Personality/character is actually LARGELY driven by genetics
I've seen and know too many persons who have rejected everything their parents did and went their own way, improving their lives, to accept your statement as an absolute, even if I don't necessarily disagree with it.

Genetics tell me to fuck every good looking young female, conquer territory, make them pay tribute to fill my treasure vaults, slay my enemies, add to my harem, and rule with an iron fist. But genetics can be overcome, and I manage to live peacefully with my fellow man, cooperate voluntarily in society, and restrain myself around good looking young females.
 
I've seen and know too many persons who have rejected everything their parents did and went their own way, improving their lives, to accept your statement as an absolute, even if I don't necessarily disagree with it.

Genetics tell me to fuck every good looking young female, conquer territory, make them pay tribute to fill my treasure vaults, slay my enemies, add to my harem, and rule with an iron fist. But genetics can be overcome, and I manage to live peacefully with my fellow man, cooperate voluntarily in society, and restrain myself around good looking young females.
Just because they don’t live the exact same life as their parents doesn’t mean they don’t have a lot of the same personality traits and character. I have a lot of my dads personality and character. He has been a life long drug user, womanizer, doesn’t have a stable income or job, and has never lived anywhere longer than a year or two.

I have been married for 7 years with no end in sight, have had nothing but steady jobs since I graduated college, top 10% wage earner.

what we have in common is our drive, passion, work ethic, intellect and discipline. I honestly I’m a lot more like him than different from him. But the ways in which our personality manifest itself is completely different, we just don’t live the same type of lives
 
I've seen and know too many persons who have rejected everything their parents did and went their own way, improving their lives, to accept your statement as an absolute, even if I don't necessarily disagree with it.

Genetics tell me to fuck every good looking young female, conquer territory, make them pay tribute to fill my treasure vaults, slay my enemies, add to my harem, and rule with an iron fist. But genetics can be overcome, and I manage to live peacefully with my fellow man, cooperate voluntarily in society, and restrain myself around good looking young females.
Possibly agree that genetic inheritance is significant, but determining social upbringing, education, society in which a person grows and communicates. Therefore, surround yourself with the right people. And you determine your actions and lives, and not as inherent in you by nature, it makes you a person, not an animal
 
Just because they don’t live the exact same life as their parents doesn’t mean they don’t have a lot of the same personality traits and character. I have a lot of my dads personality and character. He has been a life long drug user, womanizer, doesn’t have a stable income or job, and has never lived anywhere longer than a year or two.

I have been married for 7 years with no end in sight, have had nothing but steady jobs since I graduated college, top 10% wage earner.

what we have in common is our drive, passion, work ethic, intellect and discipline. I honestly I’m a lot more like him than different from him. But the ways in which our personality manifest itself is completely different, we just don’t live the same type of lives
You say everything correctly, with all the resemblance to our parents, we have an example of what we will be and what we can become if we draw the right conclusions from the mistakes of our parents.
 
You didnt go wrong, she did, dont blame yourself.

Gotta quote Tupac here “you cant turn a hoe into a house wife”

Scandalous women will forever be scandalous women. Was she a scandalous woman? Proofs in the pudding. You just didnt know, until you knew.

It could be alot worse, you couldve been married with kids, she could be dragging you through the coals taking half of everything thats yours, turning your kids and friends against you, and when its all said and done you realize your still tethered to this bitch till one of you dies. I dont speak from experience but have known a number of guys who can attest to this.

Women can be incredibly vindictive, i mean just utterly ruthless.
 
I was gonna say the same thing, You didn't go wrong at all. She is the one who went wrong. She fucked up. People do stupid, horrible, awful things all the time.

I know it sucks, I know it hurts, but she is the one who fucked up BIG TIME. Don't let HER stupidity make you question yourself. You are doing great. You are fucking kicking ass, man. Now you are single, making bank, in great shape and single. Just enjoy life, don't get any STDs though. IMO don't go wasting money on a new car or some dumb shit like that. If you save up properly, since you're making 6 figures at 23 you can retire by 40, easily. 45 if you still wanna live a little fancier (but again, don't go buying new cars and shit lol)

You are still young. So is she. Take some time to re-figure out who you are, without her. Figure out what makes you happy. Learn a new skill, like learn to play an instrument or something. Just live life and keep kicking ass. There are plenty of real women out there that actually won't be bitchass hoes and cheat on you. Don't fuck with her anymore, don't let her play the game of "I'm so sorry it was a mistake, take me back." It will be sooo tempting because you just want thing to go back to normal, but they never will. The trust is fucking GONE. She killed it.

You just keep on doing you and you will find a real high-quality woman!
 
You are doing great. You are fucking kicking ass, man. Now you are single, making bank, in great shape and single. Just enjoy life, don't get any STDs though.
How is he going to avoid catching STDs? Do you have any idea how prevalent they are now?

Almost 1 in 5 women has herpes, HSV-2, and when you count HSV-1 infections of the genitals, it is a lot higher than that (and substantially higher if you are sleeping with nonwhites). HSV-1 infections generally are in the vast majority of females.

One third of females 14-24 has HPV. It goes much higher when you go over 24 years old.

Chlamydia and other things you have probably never even thought about have somewhat lower prevalence rates, but they are all out there and all of this adds up when you are considering your odds of being exposed to an STD. Think about all of that. Unless you find a young virgin and marry her, and sleep with nobody else, the odds of catching an STD are extremely high.

But just don't get any STDs though! LOL! Good luck.
 
How is he going to avoid catching STDs? Do you have any idea how prevalent they are now?

Almost 1 in 5 women has herpes, HSV-2, and when you count HSV-1 infections of the genitals, it is a lot higher than that (and substantially higher if you are sleeping with nonwhites). HSV-1 infections generally are in the vast majority of females.

One third of females 14-24 has HPV. It goes much higher when you go over 24 years old.

Chlamydia and other things you have probably never even thought about have somewhat lower prevalence rates, but they are all out there and all of this adds up when you are considering your odds of being exposed to an STD. Think about all of that. Unless you find a young virgin and marry her, and sleep with nobody else, the odds of catching an STD are extremely high.

But just don't get any STDs though! LOL! Good luck.

I use to fuck a whore off the streets about every other night, never got one disease. Never got hepatitis, nothing.

My dick is hornier than any fear of a disease :)
 
How is he going to avoid catching STDs? Do you have any idea how prevalent they are now?

Almost 1 in 5 women has herpes, HSV-2, and when you count HSV-1 infections of the genitals, it is a lot higher than that (and substantially higher if you are sleeping with nonwhites). HSV-1 infections generally are in the vast majority of females.

One third of females 14-24 has HPV. It goes much higher when you go over 24 years old.

Chlamydia and other things you have probably never even thought about have somewhat lower prevalence rates, but they are all out there and all of this adds up when you are considering your odds of being exposed to an STD. Think about all of that. Unless you find a young virgin and marry her, and sleep with nobody else, the odds of catching an STD are extremely high.

But just don't get any STDs though! LOL! Good luck.
Lol Jesus man calm down! I am well aware of those numbers which is why I said that. All I meant was "be safe and not stupid". Don't go fucking random chicks without protection. Is that better??
 
little background about me. I’m 23. Graduated college last year. Work my balls off. Make fantastic money. Just bought my dream car. Really genuine and good guy. I wake up go to work and come home and saw my girlfriend and went to the gym. Went on dates. Got her nice things. She’s still in college so not a lot of money considering what I do she lives a pretty awesome life for being in college. I’m making 100k+ right now so we live a pretty fucking good life considering our age and situation. I’m going back to school for my nurse anesthetist license here in a year or so. I’m not some fuck around loser. I’m successful and strive to be better and a solid man.

She ends up fucking some 21 year old ghetto fuck college kid. I worked my ass off for the last 3 years for this girl. I really did love her and cared for her. I never thought I’d want a family and kids but she changed that in me. I really enjoyed every moment. I was just happy.

I bought a absolutely gorgeous rose gold 2.5 karat diamond ring and plane tickets to Hawaii with helicopter rides and everything for New Years as a congrats for graduating.

our relationship wasn’t perfect. But we were happy and best friends. We did everything together. But I don’t understand how the fuck you can Throw away years of your life with someone who was supporting you through EVERYTHING.

I’m genuinely so mad at the world. Everything I have been working towards this last year was just thrown in my face and I feel like a dumb fuck. I can’t focus on anything and don’t give a fuck about anything. I’ve suffered from depression my entire life and she helped me alot through it all. Even when I had no direction. I just don’t understand. I’m not sure what to do. Everything I’ve been doing I just hate now. No focus what so ever…
Congrats on going for your CRNA. Forget her man. Sorry..it hurts but she wont be the last. Ur 23 brother? Way too young for marriage..or even a very serious relationship IMO....both of u. You will find later in life..u really had no idea who u were until much later. Never for some. This is from 3 time loser to get a marriage right. Time heals. You will be fine.
 
Fact is, we are animals, each of us is / will do what is in our best self interest. Love is a drug.. don't let the drug influence your rational thinking.

Look at life from an analytical / animal behavior standpoint, and it's all rather easy to understand. Look at it while on drugs (love, etc other emotions) and... you are looking for a trip. Good or / Bad, results may vary, but the drug always wears off, be it good or bad.
 
You didnt go wrong, she did, dont blame yourself.

Gotta quote Tupac here “you cant turn a hoe into a house wife”

Scandalous women will forever be scandalous women. Was she a scandalous woman? Proofs in the pudding. You just didnt know, until you knew.

It could be alot worse, you couldve been married with kids, she could be dragging you through the coals taking half of everything thats yours, turning your kids and friends against you, and when its all said and done you realize your still tethered to this bitch till one of you dies. I dont speak from experience but have known a number of guys who can attest to this.

Women can be incredibly vindictive, i mean just utterly ruthless.
Not only women can be incredibly vindictive, people in general are such a form of life that can take revenge and enjoy it. Serve revenge as a favorite dish
 
Fact is, we are animals, each of us is / will do what is in our best self interest. Love is a drug.. don't let the drug influence your rational thinking.

Look at life from an analytical / animal behavior standpoint, and it's all rather easy to understand. Look at it while on drugs (love, etc other emotions) and... you are looking for a trip. Good or / Bad, results may vary, but the drug always wears off, be it good or bad.
Love makes us dependent and weak. But he's fine. You have to pay for everything in life. The risk is sometimes justified and brings a lot of emotions and happiness. And to live exclusively with pragmatism and profit, as for me it is boring and not interesting) but this is my opinion)
 
One thing is for certain, he needs to question his future career choice.

If you suffer from depression and can't see that a relationship lost is no big deal at all, then he shouldn't become a Nurse Anesthetist as that is a pressure cooker of a job that only the most calm and focused individuals should do.

Having worked healthcare for 25 years before I left I was around NA's all the time helping them with collecting spinal fluid that I would later do all the testing on, arterial lines, IV's on extremely difficult patients from newborns to elderly.

If you come to work depressed without a total focus on what you're doing you will be loathed in a setting where you really are the end of the line and are expected to pull off the impossible over and over all day long year round.

Forget women if you are serious about your career, love is a silly emotion and causes you to lose your grasp on reality. I'm not here to tell you that you have to make lots of money in life to be happy and that buying things is gonna fill the void because that won't lead to long term happiness either as I found out when I approached middle age and was sitting on a pile of cash and investments and walked away from everything(getting rid of most all of my possessions except my cash and investments) and found myself much more happy and lighter on my feet without having to drag a bunch of shit around with me anymore.

Philosophers have dealt with this issue of feeling lost and uncertain for thousands of years. There are no objective universal answer. You gotta be honest and don't just do something because those options are available, a philosopher would call it living in bad faith if you just choose something like being an NA because it's and option that is available instead of choosing something that is more authentic to your own desires.

Over those 25 years I spent working in labs I worked with 6 doctors that killed themselves through all means of suicide from drug overdose to blowing their brains out. Many people think just because you have this great career that you're on top of the world, and that's total bullshit that is sold to people in a capitalist society that thinks money and power is everything and solves all problems.

I can remember when I was in college in a lot of pre-med courses with guys that went on to medschool and you would be surprised the number that were only interested in making money, no mention of a true desire to be a doctor, they wanted to make as much money as possible. That's scary if you ask me and someone has poisoned us with these ideas that money is the only goal in life. I can tell you at the certain point where you have enough cash to insulate you from life's ups and downs, money is just money it doesn't mean jack shit, just like relationships end up being baggage as well. At the end of the day you only have you and your own mind, that's all there is and all there ever will be.
 
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