Need advice.

[Ian Smith]

Ok, Ive gone from a dumbass thread to a serious thread... My ex just called me,,,, she asked me if I wanted to come to her sons 2nd B-day party,,, she said he really misses me,,, everytime the door bell rings he runs to the door,, then when he sees that its not me,,, he gets upset,,, she said he keeps saying my name then holds his hands up, like he is saying where is he..... She broke up with me for, some may think a good reason, to others not... What the hell do I do? I can honestly say that I care very much for the little guy and miss him,,, but what future would there be in it? I feel horrible,, I figured he was going to miss me,,, because his biological father has never been there,, so I stepped in,, we spent tons of time together,and I enjoyed it, but his mother doesnt love me,,, Im cool with that now,,, its something I have no control over,,, but he didnt ask for this, I feel fucking awful, I have no idea what to do.
Guess I shouldnt of gotten off line

 

[Salvia]

it would be best just to stay away.....

 

[SikFuk!]

Damn - rough situation...now I am not a expert at life, but my few years...27 of them...have taught me that life is f*cking hard...sometimes...actually more than I wish...sh*t happens that no one wants to happen...what can you do? From me...I think you should worry about yourself in a time like this. What can you do? Be there for little man? You could try, but be honest with yourself...what is going to come of that? What if the new boyfriend gets close to her, your position to little man will be taken away by him if things get serious...If you really want to look out for the little man, you may want to consider what happens down the road...if she gets serious with someone else...marries him and then what? Little man will have to switch male role models...again. That isn't a good situation for him either... personally, I would suck it up and not be involved with either one...You also may want to consider that maybe she is just being a woman and playing the scandalous role that they all play so well and just playing with your mind and trying and get some sick and twisted rise out of you...not to mention the hardship it is going to be on you to have to let little man go when you have spent so much time with him...either way, from my point of view...this is all just a bad situation and I would steer clear...just my two cents, good luck with that tho, peace.

 

[Ronin_]

I agree totally with Sik Ian, I'd stay away. I would explain your reasons to her

 

[Manuel_Hung]

I was in the exact same situation.....bro it doesn't work believe me.......it really complicates shit....I love those kids so much I dated the girl longer....even though I was not feeling it anymore....It is hard....but breaking ties in the long run is the best thing!

It has been a yearsince we broke up, I got a fantastic girlfriend and still think about my ex's 2 kids!

 

[spound]

Sikfuk- That is some damn good advice. Ian- i would go with that.

 

[Massive690]

best of luck to you- with whatever you choose to do

 

[Phreezer]

I would think it best to stay away.... He doesn't understand what's happened, and this will only confuse him further...

Now..on the other hand..maybe she want's a little something something and she's using the kid as an excuse to get some Ian Peter ...

What are her intentions?

 

[Ian Smith]

If she wants some Ian, thats fine by me,, but that Peter guy your talking about had better stay the the hell away while Im naked!

 

[Phreezer]

Oh come on IAN...We know you're Hoping for Rambo to come tuck you in wearing his speedos .... admit it!

 

[Hogg]

I'm with the others on severing all ties. She is probably using the kid as a weapon against you, knowing that she would not be able to manipulate you on her own.

I wouldnt fuck her either.

Single moms are nut cases. Let this one find a brady bunch situation to solve her problem.

 

[Ian Smith]

OH BOY! I think its time for a manlier avatar....LOL



Thanks for all the advice guys.

 

[Phreezer]

Single moms are nut cases.

Man this is Advice that should be taken to heart...I don't believe Hogg has ever said anything more true in all my time on the boards!

 

[big rob]

Okay I'll be the one to say it this time....

Post a picture of her, (not the kid) so we can advise properly.....

 

[Ian Smith]

Okay I'll be the one to say it this time....

Post a picture of her, (not the kid) so we can advise properly.....

Thank god big rob is allways around to bring us back to reality..lol
I dont have any pics of her on my pc.

 

[ramboj70]

Ok, Ive gone from a dumbass thread to a serious thread... My ex just called me,,,, she asked me if I wanted to come to her sons 2nd B-day party,,, she said he really misses me,,, everytime the door bell rings he runs to the door,, then when he sees that its not me,,, he gets upset,,, she said he keeps saying my name then holds his hands up, like he is saying where is he..... She broke up with me for, some may think a good reason, to others not... What the hell do I do? I can honestly say that I care very much for the little guy and miss him,,, but what future would there be in it? I feel horrible,, I figured he was going to miss me,,, because his biological father has never been there,, so I stepped in,, we spent tons of time together,and I enjoyed it, but his mother doesnt love me,,, Im cool with that now,,, its something I have no control over,,, but he didnt ask for this, I feel fucking awful, I have no idea what to do.
Guess I shouldnt of gotten off line

why is she calling you anyway if she dont love you, tell her you can not because you care for her son to much to hurt him anymore then she already has, tell her you came to close to the boy and she fucked up both of you by breaking up, tell her you will give a B-day present and she could eaither pick it up or you can mail it, I would put the pressure on her bro, she did it to you and her son.

 

[dolfe1]

Ian, I vote for you to stay away, a lot of good advice already posted, it will only make things harder.

 

[thick]

lol, u took my line. As for Ian, stay away bud. It will make things more complicated. Also, i would not even buy the kid a present. I remember your thread about this chic. F'k her. you dont need her

Okay I'll be the one to say it this time....

Post a picture of her, (not the kid) so we can advise properly.....

 

[graybass]

Sorry

Bro, tough stuff. You need to be strong, and stay away. As all others said, it'll be best in the long run. She's going to find a new guy some day. All you can do is hope the new one will love the little guy as much.
Bro your killing me, had close to same situation once. The kids make it the hardest. Life moves on.

 

[bigpmp]

Bro,

She is just trying to get to you through her son because she knows you care for him. Women are about control. She knows she can use her son to manipulate your feelings. In my mind this is unexcusable. Don't be surprised if you showed up at the party if she tells everyone that you still call her and can't stand not having her. It is all bullshit. Stay away. The little man is 2. How much do you remember from when you were two? End her little bull shit game now and neither you or the little guy gets hurt. She can get her control fix somewhere else. IMHO