Bad sex with girlfriend

Jankauskas

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This is a thread that I would never imagined that I would make in my life, but I guess that there is a first time for everything, and it’s been really bothering me, so here we go.

About a month and a half ago I met a new girl through a dating app, something that I never thought would happen, and she was absolutely perfect, so we were kind of enamored when we laid eyes on each other.

She said that she was looking for a relationship, but wanted to take things slow, so I did wait almost two weeks for sex.

During these 2 weeks I had some of the best days of my life, even sexless, and I was sure that everything would be perfect and that this was probably my future wife.

Once we started having sex however, it was painfully obvious to me that we just didn’t get along in bed, which I never thought it would be possible, because after all, all a woman has to do is lie on her back with her legs spread and that’s it, how hard can it be?

Turns out, for some very hard.

I started penetrating her and while she was clearly enjoying it, and after over 20 minutes of ramming her, I felt the momentum was going down, and I asked if something was wrong, to which she replied that she needs to be stimulated in a very specific way.

So basically what she asked of me , in order for her to be able to come, was as follows:

I basically have to be on my knees while she’s lying on her back penetrating her, while she rubs her clit with one hand, and one of her nipples with the other, and wants me to bend over and suck on her other nipple, but I can’t lay on her because if my body touches the hand that is rubbing the clit, she can’t do it.

So I basically have to bend like a reverse U, keeping the the gap on the crotch area while being able to keep her nipple in my mouth.

At first it was kind of ok, but after a few times I swear to god it’s become a fucking chore.

I never thought I would ever refer to sex as a chore, but here it is.

I asked her if there was something wrong with my body, namely with my cock size , but she says it’s perfect and that it has nothing to do with me.

I have been told in the past by a few girls that I am a great lover and that I had a big cock, but if not for that I think I would be headed to trauma land because of this situation.

I just feel miserable at times, because it’s very hard to enjoy sex with her, and she’s absolutely perfect (appearance wise), it’s been affecting me a lot, and we have been together just a couple a months, can’t imagine what it would be like in a few years, but I’m starting to think that it won’t be lasting very long.

I would appreciate if you guys could share some similar experiences, thanks in advance.
 
I’m having a hard time picturing this position. You’re going to have to post pictures or nobody’s gonna be able to provide any useful advice.

In all seriousness, a lot of women need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. Sometimes that matches up with the pubic bone and hard fucking achieves those results and other times either she has to use her fingers or you need to use yours.

The nipple sucking definitely sounds like the part that makes you have to contort. Maybe do that as part of foreplay only and then stop during sex. Explain that you just can’t twist into these difficult positions. Communication is key!
 
From my point when i imagine this, she wants to feel cock inside, nipple suck, clit rubbed by her, so basically she wants to be fucked by a ghost because you mentioned if you touch her she is turned off. SHE HAS ISSUES MAN. Maybe stuck on an ex and that's what she got on her mind.
Source: experienced similar with an ex.
 
Lol that sounds like way too much work. Why don’t you just go down on her until she orgasms? Do it right and it’ll be done in 5-10 minutes. Practice makes perfect. Then do you on top
 
Lol that sounds like way too much work. Why don’t you just go down on her until she orgasms? Do it right and it’ll be done in 5-10 minutes. Practice makes perfect. Then do you on top
I’ve done that and fingered her and she came, but most times she wants to do that stupid gimmick of hers and it gets me exhausted.
 
Sex isn't always easy when you meet someone new. In the course of a relationship, people find new ways to get themselves over the edge.
I’ve had some girls that were very easy, some that were harder, but this is just too much. It’s not enjoyable.

Plus for some reason, I don’t know if it is because she has big tits, she says she can’t have me laying on top of her for very long periods because “I’m too heavy”.

I have had thinner girls that took my weight like champs, and it’s not even like I’m 300 pounds.
 
I feel your pain brother. She only gets the big O one of two ways, doggystyles fingering using the thumb for penetration and the pointer finger rubbing the clit all in one motion going vertical instead of horizontally.

The other is on top with me on my back. The problem with that is its my worst position for staying hard as a rock and always has been since I get numb after a couple minutes and lose all sensation. I have to be totally on point 100% to stay full until she gets off and that may take a minute or 30 minutes and I have to play with the nipples just right with one hand and grab her by the hip with the other and talk her and lead her to it. It's a chore lol
 
I agree with @Eman

my wife and I were a bit like that when we met, different needs neither of us were used to. But over time of experimenting and being open minded we kinda molded our needs and wants together to where neither of us feels it’s a chore to get the other off, I know I’m getting what I want and vise versa

the problem comes when the other person is closed off to ideas and unwilling to try new or different things
 
I feel your pain brother. She only gets the big O one of two ways, doggystyles fingering using the thumb for penetration and the pointer finger rubbing the clit all in one motion going vertical instead of horizontally.

The other is on top with me on my back. The problem with that is its my worst position for staying hard as a rock and always has been since I get numb after a couple minutes and lose all sensation. I have to be totally on point 100% to stay full until she gets off and that may take a minute or 30 minutes and I have to play with the nipples just right with one hand and grab her by the hip with the other and talk her and lead her to it. It's a chore lol
Im really not happy and starting to think it’s just not worth it.

I know Il be miserable in the future.
 
I have found communicating, litterally sit down and go over things that you and she is interested. Talk about it. So you both are not guessing. Its impossible to know, and sometimes they jusy assume you should know.

Sit with eachother. Look online at positions, toys, ropes, clamps, all that stuff, and see if there is anything you both like to try.
Just make it clear at first there is no judgement and be opened minded. Its always good to try something once.

Agreeing where you both feel comfortable or uncomfortable with.

Edit- plus it shows you really are trying and care. Also that you are mature. Also that your are horny. All good stuff
 
She is not over an ex. Ditch that shit, she cannot get off because she was so used to some dickhead acrobat that nothing else will work.

It ain't you man, when these bitches are emotionally fucked up they do this kind of stupid shit. That's the equivelant of a guy telling a woman that the only way he can get off is an underdog blowjob from the back. Of course there are plenty of ways to get off! You can get off on her face, hitting it from the back, having her on top, etc etc. But think abt it bro.....what would a woman say if the only way you could get off was from an underdog blowjob from the back? She would think you were fucked up!! No different, I would ditch the chick myself
 
I am guessing she closes her eyes too as she is doing it. Yea bro, it's because she doesn't wanna be reminded she ain't with the dude anymore, that's why if you touch her she gets turned off she is an emotional nutjob!!! Trust me dude, I've been with enough fucked up bitches to know what's up!!
 
Actually, let me just add one more thing here.....tell that bitch to give you an underdog blowjob from the back while trying to say "yes sir" with your dick in her mouth!! Tell her thats YOUR SPECIAL WAY and see if she does it every fucking time!!! If she does then maybe the future will look bright and u should stay together
 
Honestly brother
Get some toy involvement.

Go nuts, get s vibrator for her, throw that bad boy on and go to pound town.

I have to fucking WORK hard to get my wife to come.
Like DAMN hard, some women are like that.
Once you put in that work, you can get her to do some crazy stuff too and really spice things up in bed
 
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