Idk why but I thought this might be a good place to ask questions.
The girl I had been seeing for almost two years suddenly began ghosting me in early November. took me a few weeks to get her to reply and tell me what's up. I asked if she's ok and said I was worried about her ( we talked every day and it's unlike her to disappear for 8 days). She apologized and said her grandmother had been sick and she was staying at her house in another part of the state with her, but she's ok.
Through December she had barely replied to me and said she's sorry, she's terrible at communicating during stressful times. I know the grandmother health issue was real, but I saw it as an excuse for something else - asked if I hurt her in some way and to have the chance to make it right if so - said please don't think you did anything wrong, it really just is very busy right now and I feel like I keep disappointing you and I don't want you to have to go through that over and over as it's not fair to you, so I thought it would be easier to disappear and hopefully not hurt you rather than have to explain myself.
It's been a month since that text, I replied but she didn't say anything else. I basically said, hope all is ok, wish you didn't feel like you had to disappear, but if you need the space and time I understand and we can reconnect when things settle down for you - no reply.
I've been through this a couple times before with other women and it always involves another guy. I know that people who do this kind of thing tend to come back, too, from experience - unless you get creepy, I guess.
It's really difficult for me because we were dating all this time, I was hoping it would turn into a true serious relationship - I had asked her to be exclusive a year and a half ago but she said she wasn't looking for a boyfriend right now.. we had been seeing each other for 3-4 months and I tried to lock it down. Didn't work at the time, but we kept seeing each other up until November of 22.
I have this gut feeling though that there's something I can do about it. I know you're supposed to go no contact, and I know you're not supposed to want this person back. But I do, and I want to make it work because we're super compatible and I think have a lot of potential for a great, happy future together.
Has anyone ever reeled a woman back in this situation? I'm sure we've all had it. Not being able to seemingly do anything about it is killer.
The girl I had been seeing for almost two years suddenly began ghosting me in early November. took me a few weeks to get her to reply and tell me what's up. I asked if she's ok and said I was worried about her ( we talked every day and it's unlike her to disappear for 8 days). She apologized and said her grandmother had been sick and she was staying at her house in another part of the state with her, but she's ok.
Through December she had barely replied to me and said she's sorry, she's terrible at communicating during stressful times. I know the grandmother health issue was real, but I saw it as an excuse for something else - asked if I hurt her in some way and to have the chance to make it right if so - said please don't think you did anything wrong, it really just is very busy right now and I feel like I keep disappointing you and I don't want you to have to go through that over and over as it's not fair to you, so I thought it would be easier to disappear and hopefully not hurt you rather than have to explain myself.
It's been a month since that text, I replied but she didn't say anything else. I basically said, hope all is ok, wish you didn't feel like you had to disappear, but if you need the space and time I understand and we can reconnect when things settle down for you - no reply.
I've been through this a couple times before with other women and it always involves another guy. I know that people who do this kind of thing tend to come back, too, from experience - unless you get creepy, I guess.
It's really difficult for me because we were dating all this time, I was hoping it would turn into a true serious relationship - I had asked her to be exclusive a year and a half ago but she said she wasn't looking for a boyfriend right now.. we had been seeing each other for 3-4 months and I tried to lock it down. Didn't work at the time, but we kept seeing each other up until November of 22.
I have this gut feeling though that there's something I can do about it. I know you're supposed to go no contact, and I know you're not supposed to want this person back. But I do, and I want to make it work because we're super compatible and I think have a lot of potential for a great, happy future together.
Has anyone ever reeled a woman back in this situation? I'm sure we've all had it. Not being able to seemingly do anything about it is killer.
