A tough decision (GF problems)

GeaR_and_SauCe

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OK, let me start by telling you that I live in Philly. In June, I would go to the jersey shore every weekend when I met this girl from my neighborhood who was living there for the summer. She gave me her number and eventually one weekend in July when I was down the shore, I called her and we hung out. She was awesome and everything was great, I started going down to see her everyweekend. The only problem was that she was moving to South Beach, Miami in mid-August. She wasn't going for any real reason, just because she wanted a to party down there and the Philadelphia area was getting old. She stay at my house in Philly her last night here, cried all morning that she didn't want to leave me but eventually she had to go. I made plans to visit her for a week in Miami the following week when she was there and settled in. I get there and everything is amazing, we are parting for 10 days and she gets a job bartending at some hotel bar on collins ave. The vma's are there and we are really having a good time. We start talking about our relationship and she makes it a point for me to know that she wants to be my girlfriend. I wasn't too cool with the idea considering she lived in miami and me in philly but whatever, I went along with it and everything was great. I came home on a Tuesday and there was a hurricane hitting Miami on the following Friday so I bought her a plane ticket to come home for a couple of days until everything passes. She ends up staying with me for 10 days and we have a great relationship. Once again, Sunday comes around and its time for her to go back to Miami and she cries to me that she doesn't want to go. Before she leaves, to make her feel better, I buy myself a plane ticket to go back to Miami the following Thursday. So, the longest time without her was that period Sunday to the following Thursday, which is 12 days. I talked to her on the phone every single day and she tells me she got a new job as a door girl at some bar and that at night, she hangs out with people from the bar. I talk to her everynight until 5 in the morning and I trust that she loves me so I don't assume she is doing anything wrong. I tell her that when I come back that I will come see her and drink while she is working. INSTANTLY, she says "NO, you can't come here"....ME: "what the fuck do you mean I can't come there, its a bar, I want to drink...".......HER: "well, if my boss knows I'm friends with you I'll get in trouble".....ME: "you're a door girl, your whole job is to get people to come there..".....HER: "oh, well its a lot of private parties..you might not be able to come" I go back and she starts acting funny. As soon as I get out of the cab and into her apartment she kisses me and tells me "I forgot how much I loved you." Which totally freaked me out. What the fuck is that supposed to mean, I think to myself. Anyway, we go out that night and shes text messaging someone on her phone the whole time. I grab her phone, slam it shut and tell her that I come all the way down there to see her no to watch her talk on the phone. Now I'm not a controlling person so I really didn't make an effort to see who she was talking to because I trusted her. I was at the airport for 7 hours that day and it was a Thursday, nothing special. I wanted to go back to her apartment and go to sleep but she insisted that we go to these 2 dive bars filled with all locals. I could tell she was looking for someone and when I ask she tell me shes looking for her roommate, which was a bad excuse because her roommate told me she was going to sleep at a friends house that night, she wasn't going out. So we go back to her apartment and everything is good until saturday. Someone is text messaging her phone all day and she isn't telling me who it is. At about 9:00pm she gets a text message from someone named guy saying "You suck, call me when your boyfriend goes to sleep" So, I freak out and she tells me its just some guy she works with who is trying to hookup with her, and she told me, thats why she doesn't work there anymore. I tell her not to give out her number like a whore. We go out and she starts actling like she never did before, shes always loved me but that night she was acting like she didnt want me to be there at all. She say she is calling her roommate and she has to go outside because its too loud inside to hear her phone. I watch her through the window and she talks on the phone for about 10 minutes, comes back in, and tells me "she didn't answer". Me: "well, then who were you talking to" Her: "No one, no one answered" So we get in a cab to go somewhere else and she is on the phone the whole time. Shes talkling to some jerkoff named guy saying "Yea, we are going to space, come meet up with us" I lose it, screaming at her to get off the phone before I stuff it up her ass. She goes "i'm sorry, here i'll throw the phone out the window if you want to" Me: "no, just put it away" We get in the club and she picks her phone up to check for a text message. I grab the phone, turn it off and slam it in her purse. She gives me a look but forgets about it, shes drunk at this point. 5 minutes later, like I'm supposed to be stupid, she says she has to go to the bathroom and leaves her purse with me. As soon as leaves I grab her purse......no phone....she gets back, I feel her pocket....she took the phone to the bathroom. I flip out screaming at her "Fuck you, you think I'm fuckin stupid you fuckin cunt, I come all the way down here to see you and you're on the phone with some guy, I'll fuckin kill you...I'm gettin on the plane in the mornin and I never want to see you again you slut"....She starts crying like a caught 4 year old and hitting me trying to convince me that I have no reason to act that way. We get outside I say "fine, give me your fuckin phone, I'm checkin your text messages" Being caught, she smashes her phone on the ground. I lose it, I get in a cab and go back to her apartment. She gets home and tells me that she was working at the bar and this guy was trying to hook up with her and that she had a good time with him and his friend so she just wanted to be friends because she didn't have any yet in south beach and that he tried to hook up with her but she told him she had a boyfriend and that he respected that. I didnt believe a word of it. When her and the roommate go to work I ransack the house and find her social security card and get the last 4 digits of her social. I go to an internet cafe and go on sprint pcs.com and change her voice mail password. I leave a couple days later and she gets a plane ticket to come home telling me that she hates south beach and she wants to move back home for me. On the day she leaves south beach, she was supposed to take the bus to the airport because she doesn't have a car there but she calls to tell me she got a ride. I instantly get upset and she tells me that her roomate is borrowing her friends car to drive her. She comes home and we are hanging out for a couple of days. Shes laying next to me in bed when I decide out of no where to check her messages. It was like a sixth sense. I get the first message from "Guy" its from a couple nights back saying at 4 am "hey, whatsup, I hope you didn't fall asleep, I'm not sure where you apartment is exactly so call me back, or you can come to my house if you want because you still have my keys".......next message let 10 minutes before I check her messages "Hey, its me, guy, in miami, I hope your comming back and I can't wait to see you. Call me when you get this" I flip out and grab her by the neck, I show her the text message and she breaks into tears to confess everything. I tell her to call the guy right now on speaker phone and tell him to never call her again and that he is going to get fucked up if I get back to south beach. When she calls she sounds like a little kid who is forced to tell a friend that she isn't alout to play. She says everything and then pauses for a minute a says "no its nothing like that" and she never puts him on speaker. I flip out and say "What? Its nothing like what?" and she hands me the phone and goes "you talk to him" I pick up the phone and its dead, he heard me and hung up. I ask her what he said and why she said "no its nothing like that" but she insists that she can't remember. It just happened a minute ago and she can't remember? Bullshit I tell her we're through and I take her back to her mom's house. She calls me leaving messages and shit crying for days and days telling me that she loves me and wants to be with me and thats she so sorry so regrets it the most in her life and that she moved home for me. I tell her that things can never be the same but she insist on hanging around. She stays at her mom's house and I decide to meet up with her on a Friday night to talk. As soon as she gets in the car I hand her my phone and I tell her to call the guy and say "hey, its me, listen, I think i left my social security card in you car on the way to the airport, did you find it?" and thats it. If he says what are you talking about then he didn't drive her, if he takes the question seriously then he did. She insist that she doesn't want to talk to him and she isn't going to call. I tell her to get out of my car and that I never want to see her again. I ask "Did he drive you to the airport?" She says yes. I bug out. I never hit a girl before in my life but I grab her by her hair and threw her the fuck out of my car. She is still home and I talk to her everyday and she begs me everyday to get back with her. She cries and cries and swear she loves me but I don't know what to do. It was the best relationship in my life until that point. I love her but Im not sure I can look past this. She moved home from south beach for me and I told her that it was rediculus to go out when she lived 1000 miles away. I saw her all the time and I was always back and forth, it was fun. Now shes home for me and I don't know what to do. What do you think?
 
Wow, thats really long, I didn't realize, I doubt anyone will actually read the whole thing. Oh well....
 
I read the whole thing man and Im wondering if all this Drama is just for a piece of ass. No offense but it doesnt sound like you were in Love just lust.

If im wrong dont take offense. Personally I gave up chasing, arguing, and long talks a long time ago. If they want me they will do what it takes. If not get the FUCK out.

Just my .02
 
GeaR_and_SauCe said:
OK, let me start by telling you that I live in Philly. In June, I would go to the jersey shore every weekend when I met this girl from my neighborhood who was living there for the summer. She gave me her number and eventually one weekend in July when I was down the shore, I called her and we hung out. She was awesome and everything was great, I started going down to see her everyweekend. The only problem was that she was moving to South Beach, Miami in mid-August. She wasn't going for any real reason, just because she wanted a to party down there and the Philadelphia area was getting old. She stay at my house in Philly her last night here, cried all morning that she didn't want to leave me but eventually she had to go. I made plans to visit her for a week in Miami the following week when she was there and settled in. I get there and everything is amazing, we are parting for 10 days and she gets a job bartending at some hotel bar on collins ave. The vma's are there and we are really having a good time. We start talking about our relationship and she makes it a point for me to know that she wants to be my girlfriend. I wasn't too cool with the idea considering she lived in miami and me in philly but whatever, I went along with it and everything was great. I came home on a Tuesday and there was a hurricane hitting Miami on the following Friday so I bought her a plane ticket to come home for a couple of days until everything passes. She ends up staying with me for 10 days and we have a great relationship. Once again, Sunday comes around and its time for her to go back to Miami and she cries to me that she doesn't want to go. Before she leaves, to make her feel better, I buy myself a plane ticket to go back to Miami the following Thursday. So, the longest time without her was that period Sunday to the following Thursday, which is 12 days. I talked to her on the phone every single day and she tells me she got a new job as a door girl at some bar and that at night, she hangs out with people from the bar. I talk to her everynight until 5 in the morning and I trust that she loves me so I don't assume she is doing anything wrong. I tell her that when I come back that I will come see her and drink while she is working. INSTANTLY, she says "NO, you can't come here"....ME: "what the fuck do you mean I can't come there, its a bar, I want to drink...".......HER: "well, if my boss knows I'm friends with you I'll get in trouble".....ME: "you're a door girl, your whole job is to get people to come there..".....HER: "oh, well its a lot of private parties..you might not be able to come" I go back and she starts acting funny. As soon as I get out of the cab and into her apartment she kisses me and tells me "I forgot how much I loved you." Which totally freaked me out. What the fuck is that supposed to mean, I think to myself. Anyway, we go out that night and shes text messaging someone on her phone the whole time. I grab her phone, slam it shut and tell her that I come all the way down there to see her no to watch her talk on the phone. Now I'm not a controlling person so I really didn't make an effort to see who she was talking to because I trusted her. I was at the airport for 7 hours that day and it was a Thursday, nothing special. I wanted to go back to her apartment and go to sleep but she insisted that we go to these 2 dive bars filled with all locals. I could tell she was looking for someone and when I ask she tell me shes looking for her roommate, which was a bad excuse because her roommate told me she was going to sleep at a friends house that night, she wasn't going out. So we go back to her apartment and everything is good until saturday. Someone is text messaging her phone all day and she isn't telling me who it is. At about 9:00pm she gets a text message from someone named guy saying "You suck, call me when your boyfriend goes to sleep" So, I freak out and she tells me its just some guy she works with who is trying to hookup with her, and she told me, thats why she doesn't work there anymore. I tell her not to give out her number like a whore. We go out and she starts actling like she never did before, shes always loved me but that night she was acting like she didnt want me to be there at all. She say she is calling her roommate and she has to go outside because its too loud inside to hear her phone. I watch her through the window and she talks on the phone for about 10 minutes, comes back in, and tells me "she didn't answer". Me: "well, then who were you talking to" Her: "No one, no one answered" So we get in a cab to go somewhere else and she is on the phone the whole time. Shes talkling to some jerkoff named guy saying "Yea, we are going to space, come meet up with us" I lose it, screaming at her to get off the phone before I stuff it up her ass. She goes "i'm sorry, here i'll throw the phone out the window if you want to" Me: "no, just put it away" We get in the club and she picks her phone up to check for a text message. I grab the phone, turn it off and slam it in her purse. She gives me a look but forgets about it, shes drunk at this point. 5 minutes later, like I'm supposed to be stupid, she says she has to go to the bathroom and leaves her purse with me. As soon as leaves I grab her purse......no phone....she gets back, I feel her pocket....she took the phone to the bathroom. I flip out screaming at her "Fuck you, you think I'm fuckin stupid you fuckin cunt, I come all the way down here to see you and you're on the phone with some guy, I'll fuckin kill you...I'm gettin on the plane in the mornin and I never want to see you again you slut"....She starts crying like a caught 4 year old and hitting me trying to convince me that I have no reason to act that way. We get outside I say "fine, give me your fuckin phone, I'm checkin your text messages" Being caught, she smashes her phone on the ground. I lose it, I get in a cab and go back to her apartment. She gets home and tells me that she was working at the bar and this guy was trying to hook up with her and that she had a good time with him and his friend so she just wanted to be friends because she didn't have any yet in south beach and that he tried to hook up with her but she told him she had a boyfriend and that he respected that. I didnt believe a word of it. When her and the roommate go to work I ransack the house and find her social security card and get the last 4 digits of her social. I go to an internet cafe and go on sprint pcs.com and change her voice mail password. I leave a couple days later and she gets a plane ticket to come home telling me that she hates south beach and she wants to move back home for me. On the day she leaves south beach, she was supposed to take the bus to the airport because she doesn't have a car there but she calls to tell me she got a ride. I instantly get upset and she tells me that her roomate is borrowing her friends car to drive her. She comes home and we are hanging out for a couple of days. Shes laying next to me in bed when I decide out of no where to check her messages. It was like a sixth sense. I get the first message from "Guy" its from a couple nights back saying at 4 am "hey, whatsup, I hope you didn't fall asleep, I'm not sure where you apartment is exactly so call me back, or you can come to my house if you want because you still have my keys".......next message let 10 minutes before I check her messages "Hey, its me, guy, in miami, I hope your comming back and I can't wait to see you. Call me when you get this" I flip out and grab her by the neck, I show her the text message and she breaks into tears to confess everything. I tell her to call the guy right now on speaker phone and tell him to never call her again and that he is going to get fucked up if I get back to south beach. When she calls she sounds like a little kid who is forced to tell a friend that she isn't alout to play. She says everything and then pauses for a minute a says "no its nothing like that" and she never puts him on speaker. I flip out and say "What? Its nothing like what?" and she hands me the phone and goes "you talk to him" I pick up the phone and its dead, he heard me and hung up. I ask her what he said and why she said "no its nothing like that" but she insists that she can't remember. It just happened a minute ago and she can't remember? Bullshit I tell her we're through and I take her back to her mom's house. She calls me leaving messages and shit crying for days and days telling me that she loves me and wants to be with me and thats she so sorry so regrets it the most in her life and that she moved home for me. I tell her that things can never be the same but she insist on hanging around. She stays at her mom's house and I decide to meet up with her on a Friday night to talk. As soon as she gets in the car I hand her my phone and I tell her to call the guy and say "hey, its me, listen, I think i left my social security card in you car on the way to the airport, did you find it?" and thats it. If he says what are you talking about then he didn't drive her, if he takes the question seriously then he did. She insist that she doesn't want to talk to him and she isn't going to call. I tell her to get out of my car and that I never want to see her again. I ask "Did he drive you to the airport?" She says yes. I bug out. I never hit a girl before in my life but I grab her by her hair and threw her the fuck out of my car. She is still home and I talk to her everyday and she begs me everyday to get back with her. She cries and cries and swear she loves me but I don't know what to do. It was the best relationship in my life until that point. I love her but Im not sure I can look past this. She moved home from south beach for me and I told her that it was rediculus to go out when she lived 1000 miles away. I saw her all the time and I was always back and forth, it was fun. Now shes home for me and I don't know what to do. What do you think?
holy shit was that long bro, bro, I would do this, stop seeing her, the way you put it you will most likel;y kill her, so stop seeing her. there are many chicks out there that will be with only one man,
 
If you have honestly never hit a woman before and she makes you wanna hit her and grab her neck then stay the fuck away from her before you end up with a nasty ass domestic violence on your record.
 
First: Youll never be able to forget this instance. Therefore it will always be in the back on your mind wondering if she is still cheating on you.

TWO: Trust is a must in any relationship. You dont trust her and you never will

Three: Since you dont trust her you must end it now. If you stay longer it will intensify your feelings for her most likely and make it harder for you to get away.

Four: Now that you have decided to move on with your life, go find another woman. Not girl a WOMAN, you will thank me later.
 
right when you brought up she's a jersey girl, i kept reading, although reluctantly. Then when I read "she began hanging out with people from the bar" I stopped reading.

If that doesn't tell you she's a whore, you are an idiot. I could pick apart that whole post, but you'll just come back swearing and saying you love her and want to kick our asses etc etc. The reality is, most american guys are weak, pussy whipped, needy, dependant pussies who need a girl to complete their ego. This girl is trouble. I didn't need to read the whole post to tell you that.

GET OUT NOW WHILE YOU CAN BOY! run!
 
Ok bro first of all not to get you down but old girl was fucking dude.Shes was having her cake and eating it too.You need to tell her that you will never see her again till she confesses everything to you.And stand behind that.I dont know what is about guys but there girl cant cheat on them and they need to know every detail.If you can t deal with it without wanting to kill the bitch then try bro.And as a last resort go get you some puss on the side and show how its feels.
 
scientificTheGreat said:
Four: Now that you have decided to move on with your life, go find another woman. Not girl a WOMAN, you will thank me later.

Best advice for anyone to ever receive.
 
scientificTheGreat said:
First: Youll never be able to forget this instance. Therefore it will always be in the back on your mind wondering if she is still cheating on you.

TWO: Trust is a must in any relationship. You dont trust her and you never will

Three: Since you dont trust her you must end it now. If you stay longer it will intensify your feelings for her most likely and make it harder for you to get away.

Four: Now that you have decided to move on with your life, go find another woman. Not girl a WOMAN, you will thank me later.

Take this into advisment. Life is too short to be angry and upset all the time. Find someone that REALLY loves YOU and is mature enough to be faithful and honest.

T
 
Bro look here

Bro, I am 39 years old. If you dont believe a thing I tell you atleast do what I tell you and find out the truth. I don't know how old you are but you sound under 25. Don't get me wrong or offended here but your being led around by your dick.
Man you gave me anxiety just reading that shit. Had to pop a few xanaxs and wash em down with some vodka.eeeewwwwwwfff
The reason why it bothered me so much is because I used to date the wrong chicks too.
The solution to your problem would be to take that bitch, start fuckin her and then jam her in the ass, grab her by the hair and shove your cock in her mouth and make her suck her own shit off your cock while hocking loogies all over her face and hair. She is a whore and filthy cunt. Before you leave wipe your nasty cock off on her hand towels and curtains and piss all on the wall and floor. Thats done to make you feel good and make sure she understands that she was treated how she deserved. Oh yeah and toss a 20 dollar bill on the dresser and make sure she knows that you overpaid and expect some change.
Then you change your phone number and get a restraining order if necessary, and leave that filthy cunt alone and go out and find a decent chick to hang out with./ One that might respect you enough to break it off with you instaed of deceiving you.
Hope this helps.
Respects,
JMB
 
you caught her in a lie. she lied to you GS, what more do you want? would you like to be with her and all of a sudden get a nasty itch or a burning sensation from your pecker? i would throw her aside for a bit. i did it to mine for the same reason. she kept her phone up her ass for months. i found it one night and made some phone calls that she had on her phone.


GAME OVER!

so be a man, and do what you know is right. if you love her then forgive her. if you truely do not love her, be gone!

by the way, how old are you?
 
Bro you need to relax. Before you even knew anything was wrong in maimi you were threatening to kill her. I grew at the jersey shore and also live in philly now. If your not old enough to know your not going to meet you wife there you have some growing up to do. 95% of the bar girls are looking to just get laid. I've been a bouncer in philly for the last couple years and i've seen bachloretts get banged in bathrooms. I taken girls out to my truck and banged them. Take them for what they are worth. But one day you are going to put your hands on a girl in front of the wrong person and get hurt.
 
1. Don't get physically aggressive with girls.
2. Take this as a lesson learned and move on. You should have left her the first night when she was texting all night.
3. There are way too many good women out there to be getting hurt by trash.
 
1. If you're dumb enough to get physical with a woman, you deserve whatever charges she presses you with- even if she makes up a few just to be vindictive.

2. Leave her. It is not love.

3. Next time you're in a public place, look around and notice all the fine women there are in the world. Why stay with a cheater that obviously drives you nuts???


-FreeMan
 
Dude, how old is she? this sounds like the behavior of a girl between 21-24.
The bro's here on meso have really helped me sort shit out with chicks and one of the points that always comes up is the age issue. Most girls under 25 are dumb sluts. They are stupid too. As if we dont know what discreate texting means. Im only 21 and have a real hard time dating girls my age. Ive had a far better time in the 25-28 yold bracket.

"Personally I gave up chasing, arguing, and long talks a long time ago. If they want me they will do what it takes. If not get the FUCK out."
read these words!
 
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I grab her phone, slam it shut

I tell her not to give out her number like a whore.

I lose it, screaming at her to get off the phone before I stuff it up her ass.

I grab the phone, turn it off and slam it in her purse.

I flip out screaming at her "Fuck you, you think I'm fuckin stupid you fuckin cunt, I come all the way down here to see you and you're on the phone with some guy, I'll fuckin kill you...

When her and the roommate go to work I ransack the house and find her social security card and get the last 4 digits of her social. I go to an internet cafe and go on sprint pcs.com and change her voice mail password.

Shes laying next to me in bed when I decide out of no where to check her messages.

I flip out and grab her by the neck, I show her the text message and she breaks into tears to confess everything. I tell her to call the guy right now on speaker phone and tell him to never call her again and that he is going to get fucked up if I get back to south beach.

she never puts him on speaker. I flip out

I never hit a girl before in my life but I grab her by her hair and threw her the fuck out of my car.


YOU sound like a raging lunatic. If you're like this with every girl you have problems. If she is the only one that makes you this way then stay away from her.
 
did you guys realize:

-American (a good majority of them) girls are EXCEPTIONALLY needy and emotional?

-The most overweight females on the planet?

-The most heavily medicated (for depression) females on the planet?

-Have the highest sense of "self entitlement" issues thanks to feminism?

-Are laughably shallow, materialistic, creatures with no soul.

Don't believe me? try picking up a chick today. tell her you drive a geo metro and are a substitute teacher. She'll either laugh in your face, or turn and walk. Now turn around and walk up to another girl. When the first question they all ask comes around, "what do you do for a living" tell them you are an attorney. Then the second question: what kind of car do you drive?" A: benz.

They will be all over your ass if you are guy 2. NOW, some of you can say "well duh guy 2 is driving the nice car and has a good job". YES, but guy 2 may also be a raving ASSHOLE who beats and rapes women, but THESE american women will crawl into bed with him on their first night based on his income level.

Not to mention the "princess syndrome" most american girls have. "YOU OWE ME, I deserve, I'm a victim". Its classic victim speak from the feminists. So today's american woman uses that to make you feel guilty and lead you around by the dick (like mentioned above).

I'm sure she'll find SOME WAY to make herself the victim, all the while popping zolofts like M&M's, binge drinking, and fucking half the bar. BUT YOU LOVE HER, so you'll make excuses for her, etc.

Again, by and large, American men continue to be manipulated and controlled by the women in the U.S.
 
i love this thread..screw the bitch..Im 36 and im sick of whores...now all i do is screw and live my own life..do you know..life has never been so good. TRUST ME BROS...I work in a salon doing mostly womens hair. I have learned over ten years of this work..How deceitful and sneaky whores really are. All they want is attention, and to be be lusted after. Its the american way alright. Sometimes i want to just knock them all out, listening to their lying ass stories. But, on the flip side..in this business..IVE NEVER FUCKED SO MANY BITCHES IN MY LIFE!!! lol.. As i always say": take lots of naked pics..get video footage to archive..AND MOVE ON"
 
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