Bad sex with girlfriend

[KingCahoot3627]

I feel like her demands can be met with her on top. She'll have more clit friction and you can suck both tits at the same time if they are big enough. And the best part is, if she isn't happy with the body contact, she'll have to adjust herself.

I also don't believe u have said much to indicate she's a psycho. She might just be on Paxil and it takes an earthquake plus the nips to shake the spooge out of her.

 

[ToastEater]

Get her the smallest hard plastic WeVibe. It’s kinda pointy. We’ve invested thousands in sex toys. They’re the best. She needs to diversify. You need to work with her and help her grow sexually. What I’m hearing is that she’s only found one way to cum. Yet. Now it’s up to you. Make it fun! No judgement.

 

[All Nats McGee]

A possible fast track way to make her come in a completely new way is one of these drugs:
100-150mg MDMA
10-20mg Desoxyn
500mcg PT-141

EDIT: These should only be used as a last resort.

 

[Biggerarms22]

This is a thread that I would never imagined that I would make in my life, but I guess that there is a first time for everything, and it’s been really bothering me, so here we go.

About a month and a half ago I met a new girl through a dating app, something that I never thought would happen, and she was absolutely perfect, so we were kind of enamored when we laid eyes on each other.

She said that she was looking for a relationship, but wanted to take things slow, so I did wait almost two weeks for sex.

During these 2 weeks I had some of the best days of my life, even sexless, and I was sure that everything would be perfect and that this was probably my future wife.

Once we started having sex however, it was painfully obvious to me that we just didn’t get along in bed, which I never thought it would be possible, because after all, all a woman has to do is lie on her back with her legs spread and that’s it, how hard can it be?

Turns out, for some very hard.

I started penetrating her and while she was clearly enjoying it, and after over 20 minutes of ramming her, I felt the momentum was going down, and I asked if something was wrong, to which she replied that she needs to be stimulated in a very specific way.

So basically what she asked of me , in order for her to be able to come, was as follows:

I basically have to be on my knees while she’s lying on her back penetrating her, while she rubs her clit with one hand, and one of her nipples with the other, and wants me to bend over and suck on her other nipple, but I can’t lay on her because if my body touches the hand that is rubbing the clit, she can’t do it.

So I basically have to bend like a reverse U, keeping the the gap on the crotch area while being able to keep her nipple in my mouth.

At first it was kind of ok, but after a few times I swear to god it’s become a fucking chore.

I never thought I would ever refer to sex as a chore, but here it is.

I asked her if there was something wrong with my body, namely with my cock size , but she says it’s perfect and that it has nothing to do with me.

I have been told in the past by a few girls that I am a great lover and that I had a big cock, but if not for that I think I would be headed to trauma land because of this situation.

I just feel miserable at times, because it’s very hard to enjoy sex with her, and she’s absolutely perfect (appearance wise), it’s been affecting me a lot, and we have been together just a couple a months, can’t imagine what it would be like in a few years, but I’m starting to think that it won’t be lasting very long.

I would appreciate if you guys could share some similar experiences, thanks in advance.

You need to establish control. Once you do this she will cum however you want her to cum.

It honestly sounds like it's hitting your ego. You need to alpha up, and own her. She's a challenge for you, doesn't mean you need to quit.

If your girl is perfect as you said and otherwise is just a little difficult to climax and you're second guessing you're being a fucking tool bag. Do her and yourself a favor and move on or adjust your mindset.

 

[rthor4573]

Fairly similar situation with my wife. She needs a very specific thing for her to orgasm. Yes, it can be a bit of a chore, but hell, I want her to cum too, ya know.

I mean, you can do what some are saying and try to make her cum other ways, establish dominance, whatever...

Or you can do 1 of 3 things.

Buck up and do it.

Or come to her and tell her how you feel. "I'm coming to you with this, not because I want you to feel bad, but because I like you enough that I want to make sure we're both very much open and on the same page." If you frame it as you having this talk for a nice reason (because I like us enough to talk about this) as opposed to a bad reason (you're cumming demands SUCK!) then she'll look like the asshole if she gets upset about it. Seriously man, communication.

Or you can split.

 

[CrispyRockClimber]

I feel like her demands can be met with her on top. She'll have more clit friction and you can suck both tits at the same time if they are big enough. And the best part is, if she isn't happy with the body contact, she'll have to adjust herself.

I also don't believe u have said much to indicate she's a psycho. She might just be on Paxil and it takes an earthquake plus the nips to shake the spooge out of her.

This is spot on this is exactly what I have to do with my wife. Sometimes I like to try and get both nipples in one pinch, it frees up your hand for other activities.

 

[Joe Morgan]

not sure what kind of style you have but a lot of girls like to be dominated. you got to show her who’s boss in the bedroom. that might change things up a bit if you haven’t been doing that.

 

[Joe Morgan]

Also I’m sure you already know, but a lot of foreplay will help her get off easier during sex.

 

[flenser]

Sounds a lot like some kind of dominance game to me, especially this early in a relationship. I have nothing against that personally; dominance games can be fun and can strengthen a relationship as long as you don't play to lose.

 

[Jankauskas]

Sounds a lot like some kind of dominance game to me, especially this early in a relationship. I have nothing against that personally; dominance games can be fun and can strengthen a relationship as long as you don't play to lose.

I think that she’s genuine just has it hard to orgasm.

I had a girl once that couldn’t orgasm at all, she said that she could only do it by herself, never had done it during sex.

There are some people that masturbate so much that they get used to only coming that way, I think maybe it’s the case with her.

 

[Villain]

I think that she’s genuine just has it hard to orgasm.

I had a girl once that couldn’t orgasm at all, she said that she could only do it by herself, never had done it during sex.

There are some people that masturbate so much that they get used to only coming that way, I think maybe it’s the case with her.

She knows what she likes and what it takes to make her orgasm. You really can’t fault her for that and if you love her or are committed to her, then you’ll make it work. And refer to my earlier post on a couple workarounds.

 

[Jerry5000]

Man up cum in her ass if you can’t do it with her move on don’t let it bother you not worth it life’s short . I didn’t really read entire thread . Life’s short if there’s no connection then not worth the waste of time . Only fair for both sides imo

 

[Ridethelightningbarefoot]

I mean if everything else is good maybe it's worth a little communication and compromise from both sides to solve the problem. If you haven't communicated to her about what you think your not giving her a chance to rectify the situation. If y'all aren't willing to compromise for each other thats the deal breaker

 

[notdeadYET]

I mean if everything else is good maybe it's worth a little communication and compromise from both sides to solve the problem. If you haven't communicated to her about what you think your not giving her a chance to rectify the situation. If y'all aren't willing to compromise for each other thats the deal breaker

I'd be careful about compromising so early in a new relationship. This girl sounds important to you and I hope things end up working out with you two. That said, if you're still feeling like this a few weeks or months, do not settle. In the long run finding whats compatible for YOU is what you deserve. Same with her. Good luck man!

 

[EazyE]

Honestly brother
Get some toy involvement.

Go nuts, get s vibrator for her, throw that bad boy on and go to pound town.

I have to fucking WORK hard to get my wife to come.
Like DAMN hard, some women are like that.
Once you put in that work, you can get her to do some crazy stuff too and really spice things up in bed

And once you know what gets each other off, then repetitive experience will be the best teacher. The more she orgasms for you the easier it will happen for her.

 

[RobertoFR]

Sex is like anything in a relationship, and people can have different « vision » of it.
You can have different sense of humour, different political opinion, different vision of the familiar, and different way to f*ck...
It’s hard to “fix” it when there isn’t the connexion in bed from the beginning.

But it can also be the fact that she’s just “hard to come”. Like you stated above some people take time to orgasm.
I once fuck an Asian girl that came 3 times in 5 minutes with me almost doeing anything.
I also fucked a girl for more than hour, trying everything, make a scream and like it, but she still wouldn’t come...
Some girls are really hard to make come.

You gotta have your dick at a 37 degree angle, the temperature of the room must be at 28 degree celsius exactly, you gotta lick her asshole, while rubbing her tits with some chocolate sauce and slap her in the face with a big ass sausage, all this while listening to some Katy Perry shit...

And I understand it feels like a chore...

 

[Ozzy619]

This is a thread that I would never imagined that I would make in my life, but I guess that there is a first time for everything, and it’s been really bothering me, so here we go.

About a month and a half ago I met a new girl through a dating app, something that I never thought would happen, and she was absolutely perfect, so we were kind of enamored when we laid eyes on each other.

She said that she was looking for a relationship, but wanted to take things slow, so I did wait almost two weeks for sex.

During these 2 weeks I had some of the best days of my life, even sexless, and I was sure that everything would be perfect and that this was probably my future wife.

Once we started having sex however, it was painfully obvious to me that we just didn’t get along in bed, which I never thought it would be possible, because after all, all a woman has to do is lie on her back with her legs spread and that’s it, how hard can it be?

Turns out, for some very hard.

I started penetrating her and while she was clearly enjoying it, and after over 20 minutes of ramming her, I felt the momentum was going down, and I asked if something was wrong, to which she replied that she needs to be stimulated in a very specific way.

So basically what she asked of me , in order for her to be able to come, was as follows:

I basically have to be on my knees while she’s lying on her back penetrating her, while she rubs her clit with one hand, and one of her nipples with the other, and wants me to bend over and suck on her other nipple, but I can’t lay on her because if my body touches the hand that is rubbing the clit, she can’t do it.

So I basically have to bend like a reverse U, keeping the the gap on the crotch area while being able to keep her nipple in my mouth.

At first it was kind of ok, but after a few times I swear to god it’s become a fucking chore.

I never thought I would ever refer to sex as a chore, but here it is.

I asked her if there was something wrong with my body, namely with my cock size , but she says it’s perfect and that it has nothing to do with me.

I have been told in the past by a few girls that I am a great lover and that I had a big cock, but if not for that I think I would be headed to trauma land because of this situation.

I just feel miserable at times, because it’s very hard to enjoy sex with her, and she’s absolutely perfect (appearance wise), it’s been affecting me a lot, and we have been together just a couple a months, can’t imagine what it would be like in a few years, but I’m starting to think that it won’t be lasting very long.

I would appreciate if you guys could share some similar experiences, thanks in advance.

do not. I repeat do not wife this chick up or you will question your entire existence. Your soul will few like it died.

a sexless marriage or a marriage where the sex is a chore is lifeless and you will always feel like something is missing.

don’t ask me how I know but I was once with a chick that required acrobatics as well. I performed well but she wasn’t up to my standards in the freak department. Never ever settle for a chick.

 

[Formsh1ft]

This is a thread that I would never imagined that I would make in my life, but I guess that there is a first time for everything, and it’s been really bothering me, so here we go.

About a month and a half ago I met a new girl through a dating app, something that I never thought would happen, and she was absolutely perfect, so we were kind of enamored when we laid eyes on each other.

She said that she was looking for a relationship, but wanted to take things slow, so I did wait almost two weeks for sex.

During these 2 weeks I had some of the best days of my life, even sexless, and I was sure that everything would be perfect and that this was probably my future wife.

Once we started having sex however, it was painfully obvious to me that we just didn’t get along in bed, which I never thought it would be possible, because after all, all a woman has to do is lie on her back with her legs spread and that’s it, how hard can it be?

Turns out, for some very hard.

I started penetrating her and while she was clearly enjoying it, and after over 20 minutes of ramming her, I felt the momentum was going down, and I asked if something was wrong, to which she replied that she needs to be stimulated in a very specific way.

So basically what she asked of me , in order for her to be able to come, was as follows:

I basically have to be on my knees while she’s lying on her back penetrating her, while she rubs her clit with one hand, and one of her nipples with the other, and wants me to bend over and suck on her other nipple, but I can’t lay on her because if my body touches the hand that is rubbing the clit, she can’t do it.

So I basically have to bend like a reverse U, keeping the the gap on the crotch area while being able to keep her nipple in my mouth.

At first it was kind of ok, but after a few times I swear to god it’s become a fucking chore.

I never thought I would ever refer to sex as a chore, but here it is.

I asked her if there was something wrong with my body, namely with my cock size , but she says it’s perfect and that it has nothing to do with me.

I have been told in the past by a few girls that I am a great lover and that I had a big cock, but if not for that I think I would be headed to trauma land because of this situation.

I just feel miserable at times, because it’s very hard to enjoy sex with her, and she’s absolutely perfect (appearance wise), it’s been affecting me a lot, and we have been together just a couple a months, can’t imagine what it would be like in a few years, but I’m starting to think that it won’t be lasting very long.

I would appreciate if you guys could share some similar experiences, thanks in advance.

Leave. It will not get better. I've been in a relationship for 10 years with absolute boring sex, and like I said it will never get better. You will fuck other girls, it's just a matter of time.

 

[Ozzy619]

Bad sex with girlfriend becomes bad sex with wife. Which becomes bad sex with wife and fucking amazing sex with girlfriend. Then you know, alimony, child support, and shit like that.

Save yourself the trouble and move on. I've had women that were more difficult than others to figure out what worked 'for them'. This one actually gave you the cheat code to her pussy and it seems like a chore.

One last thing tho. I could be completely wrong. So keep fucking her until you're really really sure!

Some men have to learn the hard way. My child support is stacking up. I likened my ex to a Lamborghini that I could never drive how I wanted. Lamborghinis are expensive to maintain. Even more costly when you wreck them. A woman will always hit in the pocket.

 

[Ozzy619]

If I have to give any thought to sex in a relationship ever again I’ll just walk away. There’s way too many fish in the sea to have me question myself and be secure in who I am as a man. The seeds of doubt will fuck you up. They will begin to manifest in other areas of your life and before you know it will question your very existence once you are too invested. Any relationship is an investment. Don’t invest in anything that makes you doubt yourself.

The person who cares the least has the most power in the relationship.