For the married folks - how do I keep "desires" at bay?

[Elistheman]

Hello all.

I am not married myself, but I believe I would marry my current partner (almost 2 years together), however there are times where I wish I could have sex with other ladies. I am on self medicated TRT and I blast maybe 1-2 times a year, during those times this desire is unbearable and sometimes occupies my mind a fair bit. it gets to the level I fantasize about it so much until I remind myself that I am not this kind of person and I have integrity, the problem is, I think it is unnatural to have one partner while also think it's unfair towards her.

My question is for the married meso members who also blast/cycle high dosages (2-3 compounds 400mg + each), how do you deal with these thoughts? does it go with age (I'm 29)?

 

[narta]

If your partner can't cover your sexual needs or your "needs" need to find multiple partners to be covered, the honest thing to do is split up and chase all the tail you want.

Infidelity always ends up in broken people and ugly stories.

That being said, at your age, and specially if you don't want to settle down, split up, fuck everything you want however you want and then get married.

I am married, 20 years and counting and she can cover my craziest sexual needs and wants. Never thought of fucking someone else. We live together, fuck together, train together, laugh and cry together. Don't need anything else.

 

[combover]

Hello all.

I am not married myself, but I believe I would marry my current partner (almost 2 years together), however there are times where I wish I could have sex with other ladies. I am on self medicated TRT and I blast maybe 1-2 times a year, during those times this desire is unbearable and sometimes occupies my mind a fair bit. it gets to the level I fantasize about it so much until I remind myself that I am not this kind of person and I have integrity, the problem is, I think it is unnatural to have one partner while also think it's unfair towards her.

My question is for the married meso members who also blast/cycle high dosages (2-3 compounds 400mg + each), how do you deal with these thoughts? does it go with age (I'm 29)?

When you blast, what do you run?
Npp and deca take my libido to absolutely distracting levels.
Tren makes me throw in an extra jack session each day.
For me, I just kinda got used to it. Same as managing shorter temper.

 

[Elistheman]

If your partner can't cover your sexual needs or your "needs" need to find multiple partners to be covered, the honest thing to do is split up and chase all the tail you want.

Infidelity always ends up in broken people and ugly stories.

That being said, at your age, and specially if you don't want to settle down, split up, fuck everything you want however you want and then get married.

I am married, 20 years and counting and she can cover my craziest sexual needs and wants. Never thought of fucking someone else. We live together, fuck together, train together, laugh and cry together. Don't need anything else.

We fuck like 1-2 a day, and she's up to more as much as I need/want, this is double sided. This desire is not because I don't get enough, it's like a feeling of wanting something different? I don't want to do the food comparison... , get my point?

When you blast, what do you run?
Npp and deca take my libido to absolutely distracting levels.
Tren makes me throw in an extra jack session each day.
For me, I just kinda got used to it. Same as managing shorter temper.

Test, NPP, mast and an oral (usually dbol drol or sdrol).
I tried jacking off, but that does nothing to alleviate this feeling.

 

[combover]

We fuck like 1-2 a day, and she's up to more as much as I need/want, this is double sided. This desire is not because I don't get enough, it's like a feeling of wanting something different? I don't want to do the food comparison... , get my point?


Test, NPP, mast and an oral (usually dbol drol or sdrol).
I tried jacking off, but that does nothing to alleviate this feeling.

Well you probably don't want my advice, I just went ahead and started fucking a coworker. Now we're in a relationship and I'm happier than I've ever been.

 

[Elistheman]

Well you probably don't want my advice, I just went ahead and started fucking a coworker. Now we're in a relationship and I'm happier than I've ever been.

Any advice is welcome? I'm open to hear anything.

 

[narta]

We fuck like 1-2 a day, and she's up to more as much as I need/want, this is double sided. This desire is not because I don't get enough, it's like a feeling of wanting something different? I don't want to do the food comparison... , get my point?

If you fuck all you want and still need something more/different that's called greed. Nothing wrong with that, but you should do her a solid, split up and persue as much difference you need to fullfil your desires.


Infidelity is for pussies that want something stable when their hunt is fruitless to return to cause they can't stand to be alone.

 

[Iamnatty]

Hello all.

I am not married myself, but I believe I would marry my current partner (almost 2 years together), however there are times where I wish I could have sex with other ladies. I am on self medicated TRT and I blast maybe 1-2 times a year, during those times this desire is unbearable and sometimes occupies my mind a fair bit. it gets to the level I fantasize about it so much until I remind myself that I am not this kind of person and I have integrity, the problem is, I think it is unnatural to have one partner while also think it's unfair towards her.

My question is for the married meso members who also blast/cycle high dosages (2-3 compounds 400mg + each), how do you deal with these thoughts? does it go with age (I'm 29)?

I don't know if this helps but if your partner is willing to satisfy sexual needs (which it sounds like she is ) then I think one thing that helps is to not watch porn and thirst trap women on Instagram. Those things will have your mind subconsciously wanting to fuck all kinds of hoes. I think marriage can be awesome. But the way the world is with lust and shit you will need to stop looking at those things in order to have successful marriage I belive.

 

[Elistheman]

If you fuck all you want and still need something more/different that's called greed. Nothing wrong with that, but you should do her a solid, split up and persue as much difference you need to fullfil your desires.


Infidelity is for pussies that want something stable when their hunt is fruitless to return to cause they can't stand to be alone.

Hmm, never looked at this that way, greed? I mean even when it comes to possessions or food, I am always satisfied with what I have, I think it is something else? like maybe I am missing experiences by staying with only one partner?

don't get me wrong, I fully agree with your 2 posts in this thread, I never cheated and never will since I believe it is the lowest a human can come to.

I was just trying to understand if everyone is feeling this? maybe it means I am not fully committed? or is it normal? how should one manage this if this is normal?

I don't know if this helps but if your partner is willing to satisfy sexual needs (which it sounds like she is ) then I think one thing that helps is to not watch porn and thirst trap women on Instagram. Those things will have your mind subconsciously wanting to fuck all kinds of hoes. I think marriage can be awesome. But the way the world is with lust and shit you will need to stop looking at those things in order to have successful marriage I belive.

I have no social media, I work in a laboratory as a researcher, no girls that look even remotely slutty. The problem starts when I am in the gym or at the beach with my partner, trying to understand if this is normal male psychology? is it the high T/DHT? on TRT dosage it is much less pronounced but is there.

 

[narta]

maybe it means I am not fully committed? or is it normal? how should one manage this if this is normal?

If your desires overpower your will to say no then you are not fully committed. Is it normal? Yes, it is normal to admire a fine piece of ass. To fuck it, no.

As for managing, as I said, split up, chase the tail you want and when you have fulfilled that part of your personality, find a person you truly want to be with and commit to it. You are young enough to justify such behavior, but not a kid to deny that is wrong in the grand scheme of things.

 

[Elistheman]

If your desires overpower your will to say no then you are not fully committed. Is it normal? Yes, it is normal to admire a fine piece of ass. To fuck it, no.

As for managing, as I said, split up, chase the tail you want and when you have fulfilled that part of your personality, find a person you truly want to be with and commit to it. You are young enough to justify such behavior, but not a kid to deny that is wrong in the grand scheme of things.

I am saying no. Basically the woman I am now with was the end of the last “loop” with another woman that also lasted for 2 years before I “wanted other options”. I just want to end this loop of ending relationships just because there is “some other piece of ass” not necessarily better. This is my problem.

I am also lacking/was lacking emotional attachment to all of my previous partners which is a result of my military PTSD.

I’m just looking for advice to overcome this, finally start a normal family, maybe this is the wrong forum or context? I just feel that test/DHT exacerbates the feeling of wanting something else, not necessarily because I am not happy.

 

[TTK]

I see two options.

Beat your meat

and/or

Start swinging

I go for both

 

[Elistheman]

I see two options.

Beat your meat

and/or

Start swinging

I go for both

yeah, beating the meat can satisfy me for approx 30min- 1hour until I start thinking about this issue again, this is not due to horniness alone.

I am only willing for another woman to join but I am not sharing my partner with no men, sorry no cuck mentality. Swinging means both of us get to play with others, and to be frank I cannot imagine someone touching her, likewise I do not want her to be put through the same thing as imagining me with another woman. It would just be wrong.

 

[TTK]

yeah, beating the meat can satisfy me for approx 30min- 1hour until I start thinking about this issue again, this is not due to horniness alone.

I am only willing for another woman to join but I am not sharing my partner with no men, sorry no cuck mentality. Swinging means both of us get to play with others, and to be frank I cannot imagine someone touching her, likewise I do not want her to be put through the same thing as imagining me with another woman. It would just be wrong.

Well.

You guys are in trouble

 

[onefinalrep]

We fuck like 1-2 a day, and she's up to more as much as I need/want, this is double sided. This desire is not because I don't get enough, it's like a feeling of wanting something different? I don't want to do the food comparison... , get my point?


Test, NPP, mast and an oral (usually dbol drol or sdrol).
I tried jacking off, but that does nothing to alleviate this feeling.

I feel ya bro. As long as you are taking certain compounds the feeling doesn't go away. You are young too. When I was young I was in a similar situation. Got all the tail I could ever want and still wanted different tail as well.

I guess like the one guy said that is greedy. I was not honest with the woman I was with and did have sex with others.

I'm a different man now and I have been married a long time. I don't get as much tail as I want but it is not the fault of my wife (long personal story). Its hard to not want to get some tail somewhere else but I think about the woman I have and how lucky I am to have such a great partner by my side.

If you truly respect your woman, nothing is worth cheating.

PS- I have taken gear breaks for several months at a time and I can tell you that the thoughts of wanting sex at all greatly decreased from like multiple times every day to maybe once or twice a week.

 

[TTK]

I'm 35. Married 15 years (Military marriage that actually lasted).

Like I said previously I'll beat my meat if I need it and if the partner and I are both in the mood for a bit of strange we'll go bang a different person.

Stuff like that gets a lot simpler in a very long term relationship.

But my wife is also on a little bit of gear herself... so we've got good chemistry together. Literally.

I've also seen almost every male friend of mine ruin his best relationship by cheating. From what I have seen, the moment you start doing shit behind your partners back you start a time bomb ticking. Even if you get away with it, it will come out in one way or another and poison the relationship. But I'd say the same thing about being sexually unsatisfied in a relationship.

If I were you I'd get a fleshlight subscription. They're fucking wild.

Or end it.

 

[Elistheman]

I feel ya bro. As long as you are taking certain compounds the feeling doesn't go away. You are young too. When I was young I was in a similar situation. Got all the tail I could ever want and still wanted different tail as well.

I guess like the one guy said that is greedy. I was not honest with the woman I was with and did have sex with others.

I'm a different man now and I have been married a long time. I don't get as much tail as I want but it is not the fault of my wife (long personal story). Its hard to not want to get some tail somewhere else but I think about the woman I have and how lucky I am to have such a great partner by my side.

If you truly respect your woman, nothing is worth cheating.

PS- I have taken gear breaks for several months at a time and I can tell you that the thoughts of wanting sex at all greatly decreased from like multiple times every day to maybe once or twice a week.

I have been in the following loop since I was 19:
- have sex with many girls
- pick 1 to be committed to
- find out after a year or 2 that I want something else
- brakeup (it was always from my side, abruptly)
-go on tinder, cycle continues.

Now that I'm 29, I'm thinking of kids, but I still have this feeling, been on TRT since 24 and this has only exacerbated the situation.

I am willing to "suffer" for the current girl, marry and have kids, I am just looking for a way to put my "desire" on mute.

I'm 35. Married 15 years (Military marriage that actually lasted).

Like I said previously I'll beat my meat if I need it and if the partner and I are both in the mood for a bit of strange we'll go bang a different person.

Stuff like that gets a lot simpler in a very long term relationship.

But my wife is also on a little bit of gear herself... so we've got good chemistry together. Literally.

I've also seen almost every male friend of mine ruin his best relationship by cheating. From what I have seen, the moment you start doing shit behind your partners back you start a time bomb ticking. Even if you get away with it, it will come out in one way or another and poison the relationship. But I'd say the same thing about being sexually unsatisfied in a relationship.

If I were you I'd get a fleshlight subscription. They're fucking wild.

Or end it.

I was thinking of the fleshlight idea for a while, how are they? worth it? have any brand recommendations?

 

[TTK]

I was thinking of the fleshlight idea for a while, how are they? worth it? have any brand recommendations?

Go the original fleshlight brand. And get the right lube. If you get bored with it, get a different one.

 

[Rido]

Ask if she is down to swing? Lol

 

[combover]

Any advice is welcome? I'm open to hear anything.

well my ex was an addict, and after 18 years, I had enough.
So a year ago while on tren, I said fuck, I'll start banging this hot chick at my work that wants it. We banged, found out we really liked eachother and now we're together.

I'm kinda a pushover in life, and was just complacent with my shitty relationship. They say tren is the relationship killer, but in my case, that was a good thing. It helped my ego to a point where I was just tired of being walked on.

I don't recommend people making decisions while on tren tho...