Ask if she is down to swing? Lol
As I have said, I do not think that would work for us.
well my ex was an addict, and after 18 years, I had enough.
So a year ago while on tren, I said fuck, I'll start banging this hot chick at my work that wants it. We banged, found out we really liked eachother and now we're together.
I'm kinda a pushover in life, and was just complacent with my shitty relationship. They say tren is the relationship killer, but in my case, that was a good thing. It helped my ego to a point where I was just tired of being walked on.
I don't recommend people making decisions while on tren tho...
As long as you are happy now I guess? This is a different case than mine since I am enjoying with her and it is only 2 years together.
I see where you’re coming from, I was like you..
You have 2 options, be single and chase pussy until you’re ready to settle.
When you get in your 30s, it will be a different mind set
Chase money, gains and status and stop chasing pussy. Pussy isn’t worth it.. everytime you think of sex, jack off, or distract yourself with something else
Again, say it after me, pussy isn’t worth it. it’s a headache. don’t ruin your life and hurt someone.
I know that pussy is just like any consumable like you mention. There are times when work is stressful when indeed this issue is completely absent, but one cannot be subjected to constant pressure. I just conclude that every past relationship I had ended from my said because I was "getting bored" from what I was offered. I was asking married people if the" boredom" is something I should embrace in order to start a family like I want, or alternatively, how can I push this feeling aside.
Tren.... I'd pick up several different working girls through out the day. I was in sales.
Your wife is banging, or wanting to, other dudes anyway. Love and live.
You say, my partner is also thirsting for other dudes? Maybe, but I don't mind as long as she does not act on it. she experienced betrayal in the past so I am reluctant to think that's her way of thinking.
Have you ever heard of or considered polyamory?
My wife and I have been together 19 yrs, we became poly about 6 years ago. We have a girlfriend we've been in a triad with for 6 yrs now.
We also can both see other people and fuck whomever we want, plus we have all the benefits of going home to each other and having a stable relationship.
It's really the best of both worlds for us. If you're interested in learning how to do something like that in a healthy way, I recommend the book "The Ethical Slut."
The book kind of teaches you how to communicate and get your needs met, deal with jealousy, all that good stuff.
So far I'm getting more strange pussy than my wife is getting strange dick, but you never know I could go on a dry spell. Also this year I got to fuck a girl I'd been thirsting over for 4 years, and my wife was totally OK with it. In fact she was invited to come and declined lol.
I tried to pitch that idea a year ago jokingly, I was not met with pleasantness. Guess I should let the time fly and try again? maybe she would also get board with me to let this thing hold? I am pretty sure she's not bi so if it's another woman she would defentily would not approve. If its another guy , that's a no from me.
have some kids brother between making coin, running the house hold, and all the shits and bits in between does take your mind off your cock and focused on your life ahead and family.
only a fool with kids and family will think twice to runied what his got you only got one chance in life dont fuck up.
You say I would become more committed once I have kids? that sounds right but does not explain human behavior of wanting other partners while also having childeren. I am talking about wanting, not acting, I want that gone or suppressed.
My humble opinion on this. I'm not a life trainer or anything.
The person you are with isn't the one. Isn't love and neither care about her.
When I was with someone I cared about no other girl presented me any kind of interest.
I quit watching porn because I didn't had interest in looking at another girl even if it wasn't physical. Didn't attracted me anything else just her.
But long story short we aren't together anymore and I became a mess. Shit happens.
What I would do in your case?
I would break up and next girl I would be sure that she is the one.
If you remain in this relationship eventually you will cheat. If you think about another girl all day eventually you will step wrong.
Even if it takes 1 year or 3 but what goes in your mind all day it's start to obsess you and if it's 3 year from now it will be worse than now because you lost few years in a dead end relationship. At 29 you aren't that young anymore. You should start to work to settle if you want a family, kids and all the packages.
Swing and things like that I wouldn't do myself. I'm a old school somehow.
She could fall in love with another guy and you remain single just because you wanted to try something else. I heard those kinds of stories before.
And in the end keep in mind that grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence and pussy is pussy at the end of the day. Is like drinking Pepsi or Coca-Cola.
That's how I view things at least.
Thanks for the input, I do not believe in the concept of "the one", I actually believe we are meant to "react" with many partners as possible, as long there are no bad consequences and everything is consensual, maybe I am not meant to be monogamous? How can I start a family then? I live in a vey conservative country, not many girls are up to that, maybe I should relocate to US/Canada.
