Girls???

[luex]

What do you guys think of girls and success at a young age? I’ve often heard they are almost like kryptonite. Through my own experiences I feel as if it’s hard to have a committed relationship and try to be the best you can. That sounds selfish, but I feel as if it’s hard to have something real with a girl and give 100% into lifting/bodybuilding. What are your thoughts?

 

[EarlHickey]

Mostly true but there are exceptions imo.

 

[RealET]

Have girls but not a girlfriend if you want to start financial ventures.

Having a girlfriend and “giving 100%” into bodybuilding is kind of a loaded topic.

What is 100%? Quitting your job? If 100% is that much then having anything in your life beside bodybuilding will detract from it. If it’s not that I don’t understand how having a girlfriend can be a hindrance to your bodybuilding goals unless she doesn’t want you to exercise. Man up and set some boundaries.

 

[Eman]

Better to find someone that shares some of the same interests as you. It's not too hard to find someone else that enjoys working out.

With that said, if bodybuilding has consumed every facet of your life... I hope you're being paid for it. Otherwise, you may look back and have some regrets.

Business ventures on the other hand, if you have a mature enough people you're with I can't see it really being a huge problem... It won't be easy a lot of the time but at least there is a monetary reward at some point, which is better than a 6 pack as far as families go.

 

[OldmanRob]

I started a business and I guarantee that the process took much more time than body building. I'm now going onto year 6 and it still has me busy all day everyday.

I put in 10 to 16 hours a day and sometimes that is weekends too. Any passion can consume you.

Nothing personal, but don't blame body building for the lack of relationships. If you really like someone you will make the time. If your spending all day working out your doing something wrong.

Like @Eman said above, find a gal into working out.

 

[Dw725]

Unless it's a drug habit or something , you have to find someone who supports whatever you wanna do . If not it's probably not a relationship worth pursuing.

 

[flenser]

A strong committed relationship at a young age is the very definition of success. If you think otherwise, your priorities are truly fucked. There is no greater challenge or more rewarding achievement than becoming the kind of person someone else can be completely devoted to. By comparison, your next PR in the gym shouldn't even be a consideration.

 

[Bundy55]

Fuck that. Im 32 and love being single and I'm successful enough to be happy and comfortable. I do not think the definition or foundation of success is being in a committed relationship as a youth. In fact I feel I'm a stronger more independent individual for going through life solo. I have plenty of friends and girls to see but being committed to one just isn't for me. I enjoy putting my efforts into other areas of my life... it's way more rewarding for me. Don't let anybody tell you how to live your life. Do whatever makes you happy brother. Might take some trial and errror until you realize what it takes to be happy but you'll find your way. Good luck bro

 

[flenser]

Well, if you're extremely lucky you will make it through life blissfully ignorant of the value of a dedicated partner when things go awry. It is an unfortunate tendency of youth to consider one's self immune or at least far removed from the time when such things become essential to happiness. Nearly everyone ends up being wrong about that; a few even realize it at some point.

 

[Bundy55]

Different strokes different folks. More than one way to live. Do what makes you happy OP. Don't listen to people telling you the correct way to live. There is no correct or better way... only your way. Anybody who needs another person to be the happiest they can be is fucked

 

[luex]

I've had the long committed relationship at a young age...16-21 I dated a girl for 5 years..I've always wanted to do something bigger or something more with my life, but it seemed like she was ok with just having a normal life, having a family etc...and by no means is there anything wrong with that..I just find it hard to find a girl who has the same interests as me at this age...Right now I'm thinking start a business, what can I do to get ahead, I don't go out drinking and that also plays a huge role because almost every girl my age goes out and drinks and parties. I feel as if I'm in the mindset where when I'm doing stuff I ask myself is this productive? Will this help you at all in the future? Whereas others are just looking to have fun right now. I'm not just blaming bodybuilding specifically either, more of a goal specific reasoning and as far as a lack a relationships...I'd say its far harder to continue them on my end rather than a lack of them.

 

[x11]

Find a girl more committed to body building than you and support each other, best of all worlds.

I have more interest from girls now I am past my physical prime and have more time and money to spend.

Girls were not interested in my broke, struggling young ass.

Remember females are hypergamous by biological nature and cannot really commit to any guy that can't demonstrate or promise financial and emotional security and stability.

Unless they are into the bad boy thing which so many are but that's are different problem.

 

[johntt44]

Fuck that. Im 32 and love being single and I'm successful enough to be happy and comfortable. I do not think the definition or foundation of success is being in a committed relationship as a youth. In fact I feel I'm a stronger more independent individual for going through life solo. I have plenty of friends and girls to see but being committed to one just isn't for me. I enjoy putting my efforts into other areas of my life... it's way more rewarding for me. Don't let anybody tell you how to live your life. Do whatever makes you happy brother. Might take some trial and errror until you realize what it takes to be happy but you'll find your way. Good luck bro

This is good advice! I got married at 24 and never looked back but someone else might do better on their own.You have to find what works for you.

 

[johntt44]

Find a girl more committed to body building than you and support each other, best of all worlds.

I have more interest from girls now I am past my physical prime and have more time and money to spend.

Girls were not interested in my broke, struggling young ass.

Remember females are hypergamous by biological nature and cannot really commit to any guy that can't demonstrate or promise financial and emotional security and stability.

Unless they are into the bad boy thing which so many are but that's are different problem.

Thats not true, I had girls all over me when I was young and broke. Of course, this was before Social media!