Good experiences with women. Do they exist?

[RedXXSouth]

Maybe my perspectives is skewed or I just need to meet more people. But in all my life I have never had a consistently good experience with women. I dont want to be a misogynist but it sure seems like facts support that perspective.
I have never been cheated on but trying to help, love, save, or just be friends with a woman has always been the catalyst for my life falling apart.
Nowadays it looks like they have become even worse. I have as good a wife as you can get and I still don't see it lasting. I have never met a single woman that didn't tell me how their ex was a narcissist. Never met a single woman that didn't cheat, lie, manipulate, and be fake asf. So post your good experiences and I will tell you how it is all gonna fall apart lol.

 

[BigTomJ]

I've had an almost universally positive experience with some very isolated exceptions.

Not being a dick, but maybe it's you or you're just chasing the wrong women.

Don't get me wrong, I've come across some absolute dumpster fire women that need some serious introspection time. But my romantic experience hasn't included many of them.

 

[RedXXSouth]

I've had an almost universally positive experience with some very isolated exceptions.

Not being a dick, but maybe it's you or you're just chasing the wrong women.

Don't get me wrong, I've come across some absolute dumpster fire women that need some serious introspection time. But my romantic experience hasn't included many of them.

No you are probably right. But I don't think I expounded enough. Women have a major problem with complacency and comfort. They all say they want the type of thing i got but keeping it up is much harder. Mentally they seem to be so weak that it is hard to accomplish anything with one. Anything can break them. They will have a friend group that all hates each other and constantly betrays each other. That's not the kind of thing I am into. Time always get to them.

 

[Fattyone]

Women are human. So are men.


Plenty of good and bad humans out there. Sometimes the scales tip one way or the other. There are no absolutes.

 

[pigeonhed]

It seems the issue might be with your perspective. You appear to believe that all women are part of a homogeneous group and share the same experiences you've encountered. However, this is not the case. Each individual has their own distinct reality and experiences.

 

[Fattyone]

Not being a dick, but maybe it's you or you're just chasing the wrong women

I know someone who has nothing but sob story after sob story about women and all this negative shit he goes through.

He finds all his women at bars. Because he spends all his time at bars. I don’t understand how people only fish in trash piles and can’t figure out why all they’re catching is trash.

 

[RedXXSouth]

I don't find women at bars. Most of the time.... Randomly dated a lot of women for long enough to see the same thing over and over. Listened to friends, family, coworkers all lament the same thing. I haven't had it nearly as bad as most. I'm just seeing a trend and asking if anyone else is experiencing it.

 

[Zbignew]

OP, I don't know you, but like I tell my new sales guys when I'm onboarding them: "if everyone you contacted today was an asshole maybe you're the one who was being an asshole."

Also, another aphorism I live by: "Everyone is an asshole sometimes, some people are assholes all the time."

And since you wanted to hear good experiences: I've been married 25 years to a Ride or Die Bitch who has stood beside me through bad times and good. And before her (I married late) there were multiple multi-year girlfriends who were, if I'm being honest, more devoted to me than I was to them.

I'm not one for religion or new agey bullshit, but there's something to be said about that laws of attraction nonsense: you get back the energy you put out into the world.

 

[UncleBuns]

There are no facts to back up your claim like you state in the original post. I have a great woman. She isn't perfect, and I certainly am not either. Relationships are difficult and we have ups and downs and fight occasionally but it's at least 90% positive. She improves my life A LOT and I'm lucky to have her in it. I've been with women who were terrible for me in the past and learned those lessons and also been with great women that it didn't work out with for various reasons.

If you really feel that all women are problematic either you are selecting bad ones or the problem is more with you. Are your expectations realistic? If you are mentally healthy enough and mature enough for a long term relationship there are plenty of great women in the world. I know many and meet them all the time.

 

[Northfortuly]

Maybe my perspectives is skewed or I just need to meet more people. But in all my life I have never had a consistently good experience with women. I dont want to be a misogynist but it sure seems like facts support that perspective.
I have never been cheated on but trying to help, love, save, or just be friends with a woman has always been the catalyst for my life falling apart.
Nowadays it looks like they have become even worse. I have as good a wife as you can get and I still don't see it lasting. I have never met a single woman that didn't tell me how their ex was a narcissist. Never met a single woman that didn't cheat, lie, manipulate, and be fake asf. So post your good experiences and I will tell you how it is all gonna fall apart lol.

Well, lad, I have plenty of friends and they’re all incredibly supportive and kind women. I wouldn’t be where I’m at without them. I can throw a rock and hit half a dozen that are great mothers, friends, wives/girlfriends/employees/bosses and have their entire lives together. Bills paid, mortgage paid, house clean, food made, all with $100 gel nails.

If everyone woman you meet and interact with has the same nasty energy, I’d say it’s directly related to how you make them feel. It’s either Deimatic behavior, a form of crypsis, or deliberate deception to gtfo of that conversation or relationship.

 

[RedXXSouth]

There are no facts to back up your claim like you state in the original post. I have a great woman. She isn't perfect, and I certainly am not either. Relationships are difficult and we have ups and downs and fight occasionally but it's at least 90% positive. She improves my life A LOT and I'm lucky to have her in it. I've been with women who were terrible for me in the past and learned those lessons and also been with great women that it didn't work out with for various reasons.

If you really feel that all women are problematic either you are selecting bad ones or the problem is more with you. Are your expectations realistic? If you are mentally healthy enough and mature enough for a long term relationship there are plenty of great women in the world. I know many and meet them all the time.

Well, lad, I have plenty of friends and they’re all incredibly supportive and kind women. I wouldn’t be where I’m at without them. I can throw a rock and hit half a dozen that are great mothers, friends, wives/girlfriends/employees/bosses and have their entire lives together. Bills paid, mortgage paid, house clean, food made, all with $100 gel nails.

If everyone woman you meet and interact with has the same nasty energy, I’d say it’s directly related to how you make them feel. It’s either Deimatic behavior, a form of crypsis, or deliberate deception to gtfo of that conversation or relationship.

I am happy to hear this. I cannot say the same. Although I am in a good relationship with as good a woman as I have ever seen. I don't think what you are describing is norm though either. I'm not having any problems for the past couple years but I see them everywhere.
I hope you are right but I think we just live different lives and have different standards. In my experience i cannot be friends with a woman whatsoever because they always start falling for me. I have never spent any significant amount of time (literally hours)with a female that didn't lead to sex or them throwing it at me. I never met or went on a first date that didn't end in sex.

 

[Northfortuly]

Change your outlook. I am a woman and have male friends, actual friends who support and cheer for me. I don’t hit on them, and they don’t hit on me. They’re just these incredible kings that I’m blessed to know. It’s not a matter of attraction or lack thereof, because some of them are very handsome.

 

[UncleBuns]

I am happy to hear this. I cannot say the same. Although I am in a good relationship with as good a woman as I have ever seen. I don't think what you are describing is norm though either. I'm not having any problems for the past couple years but I see them everywhere.
I hope you are right but I think we just live different lives and have different standards. In my experience i cannot be friends with a woman whatsoever because they always start falling for me. I have never spent any significant amount of time (literally hours)with a female that didn't lead to sex or them throwing it at me. I never met or went on a first date that didn't end in sex.

You're right that everybody's different. After reading your replies, I would wager that it's a combination of your attitude and how you approach things, your expectations and how you choose to view the world, and the women you choose to be around. If there's a pattern in your life that is bad then there's only one person that can recognize the pattern and change it. I doubt you're "cursed". If healthy relationships are not the norm in your world, you need new friends.

 

[narta]

Not being a dick, but maybe it's you or you're just chasing the wrong women.

This.

You are/were mixing with the wrong crowd. Stop chasing the "trophy" women and focus on the person. "Trophy" women are just for show, usually dumb fucks that only care about looks and what gives them an easy life/free money.

I 've been with my wife for couple decades. We have laughed, cried, fucked, drank, traveled, chilled together all those years without a single BIG fight. Why? Because we saw US and not the individuals me/my. Those went out the windows the day we decided to get married.

In the few decades I walked the earth, one thing always struck me: old couples are few and far between them, but every damn time I asked for advice from one they all said one thing: Learn to say sorry, throw out your ego.

 

[Iamnatty]

Maybe my perspectives is skewed or I just need to meet more people. But in all my life I have never had a consistently good experience with women. I dont want to be a misogynist but it sure seems like facts support that perspective.
I have never been cheated on but trying to help, love, save, or just be friends with a woman has always been the catalyst for my life falling apart.
Nowadays it looks like they have become even worse. I have as good a wife as you can get and I still don't see it lasting. I have never met a single woman that didn't tell me how their ex was a narcissist. Never met a single woman that didn't cheat, lie, manipulate, and be fake asf. So post your good experiences and I will tell you how it is all gonna fall apart lol.

I have also had bad experiences with women and it started when I was a child and have had bad experiences with my mother and step mom , and then brought that into my adulthood where I wanted love from women and it never really worked out that great. And people can act like it’s your fault and sometimes it is. But it can also be bad luck that the women in your life are shitty women , which had also happened to me. I hope u find what you’re looking for as I hope I do as well. Like people have said I know they are not all bad but I guess I have had the bad ones.

 

[cdoubleu]

Nowadays it looks like they have become even worse. I have as good a wife as you can get and I still don't see it lasting. I have never met a single woman that didn't tell me how their ex was a narcissist. Never met a single woman that didn't cheat, lie, manipulate, and be fake asf. So post your good experiences and I will tell you how it is all gonna fall apart lol.

Perspective has been touched on by a couple other guys already, but this portion of your OP stands out.

You mention you have what you might consider as good a wife as one can get, and that you personally have never been cheated on, but it sounds like you’re expecting all the shitty things from previous experience to happen again.

If your wife has not slighted you yet, try not to focus on the possibility that she will. Rather, focus on the positive and project that into your relationship instead. The attitude that you bring into this will not go unnoticed; positive or negative, it can have a way of molding your other half.

 

[bighunanballs]

i trust my wife wholeheartedly and love her dearly. i 100% know she is loyal as am i to her. she's crazy as fuck, i think all B's are crazy in the eyes of the logical male mind but they are a necessary evil for co-existence.

 

[RedXXSouth]

I think you are all right. I'm not trying to zone in the negative. I don't think for a second my wife is disloyal. I just see a lot of bad women out there. Someone said it is the way ibmake them feel and that might be pretty apt. I do alot and strive for alot. Not many people can keep up with my schedule or my intensity in life. I know it makes people feel bad when I do so much or don't get tired when they do. But I decided to live this way regardless of judgemental or consequences. My wife understands.

 

[Country Club Hero]

I believe they are a completely different species but there are definitely some good ones left.

They are all crazy to some degree. It is about finding one that you find the proper crazy/baggage to incredible chemistry ratio. I seek women that have being trustworthy and loyalty as their strengths.

Must love Jesus and be a great mother for anything potentially serious for me. And either love or tolerate dogs well. Oh, and good teeth.

 

[RedXXSouth]

I believe they are a completely different species but there are definitely some good ones left.

They are all crazy to some degree. It is about finding one that you find the proper crazy/baggage to incredible chemistry ratio. I seek women that have being trustworthy and loyalty as their strengths.

Must love Jesus and be a great mother for anything potentially serious for me. And either love or tolerate dogs well. Oh, and good teeth.

I raised my 3 sons on my own. I didn't allow any woman to really take the place of mom step-mom whatever. I don't like to rely on anyone because it makes you complacent then they let you down. I do 95% of all the cooking, we do our own laundry and hers, she doesn't have to work anymore because I make a killing, and my boys are about to graduate high school the rest they are mostly self sufficient. Every once in a while she will run an errand for me and she does take care of our dogs. But other than that she just works out and gets her nails/hair done, massages, pussy waxed and tries to live her best life. She does have bad anxiety and it is hard for me to connect with that because I big dick everything and solve everything.