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[Ian Smith]

I had it out with my Boss last week,, it was a pretty heated conversation,, after I spoke with the Human resource manager we both decided that it would be best for me to leave,, he said he would give me a good ref but stated that there was little that he could do about the problem... Anyhoo,, later that week my girl broke up with me (we were coworkers) she stated it was because she heard from someone at work that I was a recovering alcoholic... Which is true,, and I hadnt told her about it because we had only been together for 5 months and I was doing well so I decided i would wait until she knew me better to tell her..... Anyways,, the only person at my job that knew I was a recovering alcoholic was my dipshit boss.... I told him 6 months ago that I needed the day off because i needed to go find some help,,, only he knew...... she wont give me the name of who told her,, but I know it was him..... Honestly,, if she is going to unload me because of that,,, then fuck her,because I was good to her and very respectful, obviously the respect wasnt mutual,, but I would love to rip a sizable hole in my ex bosses chest,,,, the little prick...... what would you guys do?

 

[bigtraps]

Well Ian your right about her, you seem to be a very good bro and I'm sure you'll find better. I would suggest being more open and up front next time though, girls like that, or so they say. The mere fact that you realized you had a problem and got the help needed is a very admirable. As far as your ex-boss, I would try something non violent. Don't get yourself into trouble for that asshole. I'm sure someone here will give you some ideas. Hang in there it will get better.
Bigtraps

 

[Ian Smith]

Ya

Well Ian your right about her, you seem to be a very good bro and I'm sure you'll find better. I would suggest being more open and up front next time though, girls like that, or so they say. The mere fact that you realized you had a problem and got the help needed is a very admirable. As far as your ex-boss, I would try something non violent. Don't get yourself into trouble for that asshole. I'm sure someone here will give you some ideas. Hang in there it will get better.
Bigtraps

Ya, I guess after its all said and done,,, this wont matter too much,, but It is difficult because despite the fact i know I dont have time for resentments,, Im still human..........

 

[biggie260]

not sure

Ya know I am not sure but you might want to look and see if any confidentiality issues have been broke here. I know at some places where people work if they have a problem with drugs or alcohol the company will not discipline them if they are actively seek help and are doing better. I think there have been some lawsuits in the past about this as well. I guess it depends on what the conversation was with your boss when you told him. If this developed when you were working at this job and there were some conditions agreed upon by you and your boss then there have been some rights violated. just a thought. Which could result in a civil lawsuit.

 

[stevemac]

YOUR EX IS A MORON! there's a big dif between an alcoholic and recovering alcoholic, for good sakes youre making changes for the better and she holds that against you. screw her man, you're better off without her.

 

[Joe West]

she broke up with you cause your an ex drunk? damn what a puritanical bitch. you are far better off without her bro. fuck killing your boss, send the asshole a thank you note.

 

[Rod]

Ian, I know that it is hard to end a relationship under those circumstances. But, perhaps it is for the best. If she takes gossip from work as a reason to break it off then perhaps she is not the one.

 

[dolfe1]

Ian, I know that it is hard to end a relationship under those circumstances. But, perhaps it is for the best. If she takes gossip from work as a reason to break it off then perhaps she is not the one.

Or maybe not the real reason she broke up with you, who knows what kind of bullshit your boss fed her, maybe a hidden agenda here. Just a thought, or maybe you shouldn't think about it at all, might not be productive.

 

[Rod]

Or maybe not the real reason she broke up with you, who knows what kind of bullshit your boss fed her, maybe a hidden agenda here. Just a thought, or maybe you shouldn't think about it at all, might not be productive.

Thanks for clearing that up Dolf.

 

[Ian Smith]

Thanks

Thanks for clearing that up Dolf.

LOL, thanks dolf, not that I didnt allready have enough to think about.
He does have motives,,, thats why we were argueing,,, he called her office a bunch before her and i started dating,,,, I put a stop to it and was fairly insulting about the fact that he was a fat old man and she was an attractive younger lady,,,, and told him that if it didnt stop that I was going to blow him out of the water.... But she never let me do it,,, which placed several questions in my mind from the start...... Good lord, now that I look back,,, I never should have dated her,,, she allways made excuses for his behavior,,, and I took it.......... Im a dork,,, screw this, Im going to a pron site!

 

[eleven11]

A little porn will always chear you up. Better to find out now than long into a relationship. Like the other guys said she should support you for being an ex not dump you. seems like there was more to her than you realised.........11

 

[Bob Smith]

As someone else said, I would look into the confidentiality laws.

 

[Ian Smith]

yes

As someone else said, I would look into the confidentiality laws.

I agree with you and Biggie,,and have had the same thought,,, but Im sure with out someone (her) that will confirm it,,, it would all be for nothing...

Im simply going to let it go,, Ive been boiling pretty hard over this for a bit now,,,, but I know who and what i am and what I want to be.... And this will have no effect on any of that....... Im insulted by all of it,, but Im just gonna let it go...... I guess I need to start practicing what I preach, In stead of stewing over the possibility of revenge...... Im actually happy Im not dating her anymore,,,, just pride kicking in.

 

[Bob Smith]

You could always threaten them with a lawsuit and see if they buy you off instead.

 

[Ian Smith]

You could always threaten them with a lawsuit and see if they buy you off instead.

surely they would want me to name someone first... Someone who would verify that he said it.

 

[Ian Smith]

Ha

she broke up with you cause your an ex drunk? damn what a puritanical bitch. you are far better off without her bro. fuck killing your boss, send the asshole a thank you note.

I had forgotten how point blank you were... thanx

 

[Phreezer]

Well, I'm sorry to hear about your bad luck Bro!!!!

But.. If you have one Drink.. I'm going to drive up to your house and kick you in the balls!!!!

Things have a way of working out for the best!

 

[Ian Smith]

Phreezer

Its stepping stones, not bad luck...

 

[moralanimal]

If you are truely recovering then this is life on lifes terms. What does sober stand for- son of a bitch everything is real. I assume you probably told your boss and it was not the case that you were sent to drug treatment by your employer. If this is true then is most definetly is not confidential. Just keep it simple and don't pick up. Get to a meeting; hopefully you have a sponsor. If you feel like you are going to drink PM me. Take it easy bro.

 

[Ian Smith]

ya

If you are truely recovering then this is life on lifes terms. What does sober stand for- son of a bitch everything is real. I assume you probably told your boss and it was not the case that you were sent to drug treatment by your employer. If this is true then is most definetly is not confidential. Just keep it simple and don't pick up. Get to a meeting; hopefully you have a sponsor. If you feel like you are going to drink PM me. Take it easy bro.

Thanx, Im cool..... Alot of good guys out ther!!