How much sex drive is too much sex drive (40 year old married man)

[Malevolent666]

Just 150mg a week of Deca makes my sex drive insane. I think about my banging my wife pretty much constantly.

My question is: how often should us men really be thinking about sex? The obvious answer is as much until it becomes a problem in your marriage. Which it has but a positive is I'm much more nicer, romantic and affectionate toward her with the higher sex drive. It's like we are dating again, on my end anyway.

The issue is she can't keep up sexually as she just isn't at my level and at my mood so to speak

 

[Dunkirk]

I've always had a high sex drive and I've only recently started using Test only. Prior to that, I think about it multiple times a day and able to perform daily until I crashed my test levels with a poor diet. It did give the wife a break lol.

Safe answer, it's as often as the least sexually active person in the relationship. HOWEVER, it's still a two person relationship. Because if the roles are reversed you'd want to be able to satisfy your wife and not leave her wanting.

The right answer is not a number, it's communication. I mean deep, open, everything gets said, no judgement communication. If any relationship or marriage is to last, both parties need to be happy. There has to be a compromise and that is achieved when you ask her the question, not us. Don't take the wrong way, I'm not saying you shouldn't ask here.

Keep being romantic that'll definitely make things better for her, but make sure to give her the break she needs. Again, that's something only she can tell you. Make sure you open up to her and she should return the favor. This communication isn't a one time thing either, it needs to be constant. Wish you the best

 

[Nemesis RR]

KY. She will be fine. Don’t overthink it.

 

[Malevolent666]

I've always had a high sex drive and I've only recently started using Test only. Prior to that, I think about it multiple times a day and able to perform daily until I crashed my test levels with a poor diet. It did give the wife a break lol.

Safe answer, it's as often as the least sexually active person in the relationship. HOWEVER, it's still a two person relationship. Because if the roles are reversed you'd want to be able to satisfy your wife and not leave her wanting.

The right answer is not a number, it's communication. I mean deep, open, everything gets said, no judgement communication. If any relationship or marriage is to last, both parties need to be happy. There has to be a compromise and that is achieved when you ask her the question, not us. Don't take the wrong way, I'm not saying you shouldn't ask here.

Keep being romantic that'll definitely make things better for her, but make sure to give her the break she needs. Again, that's something only she can tell you. Make sure you open up to her and she should return the favor. This communication isn't a one time thing either, it needs to be constant. Wish you the best

Well put! I appreciate the fantastic input.

 

[Ghoul]

Well put! I appreciate the fantastic input.

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[Malevolent666]

Vyleesi | Bremelanotide Injection | HSDD Prescription Treatment

Vyleesi is an FDA Approved bremelanotide injection prescription treatment for premenopausal women with hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD).

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The FDA approved treatment for women with horny but insufficiently attractive husbands.

Aka PT-141

I'm far from insufficiently attractive. Literally most women would call me an 8 and have been told the Johnson was made to please women.

The farthest reason why my wife can't keep up is the way I look. I honestly think she could use a little Test and daily Cialis. She'll never get on board with that though.

 

[Ghoul]

I'm far from insufficiently attractive. Literally most women would call me an 8 and have been told the Johnson was made to please women.

The farthest reason why my wife can't keep up is the way I look. I honestly think she could use a little Test and daily Cialis. She'll never get on board with that though.

Assuming she's north of 35, consider doing some research on the myriad benefits of female HRT. Carefully weigh the potential risks but look at current data and dismiss the hysterical BS that was common 20 years ago , then perhaps try to gently sell her on the life enhancing effects of female hormone optimization. It's actually a lot easier for women to find a sympathetic, quality of life concerned doc for that than men.

She's lucky enough to live with a literal hormone expert (relative to most, including docs) in her house, who has her best interests in mind.

Just make sure you hire ugly old gardeners in the future .

 

[Dunkirk]

I'm far from insufficiently attractive. Literally most women would call me an 8 and have been told the Johnson was made to please women.

The farthest reason why my wife can't keep up is the way I look. I honestly think she could use a little Test and daily Cialis. She'll never get on board with that though.

That's the thing, I couldn't convince my wife to take anything to boost her sex drive. I'll be honest, it would make things a lot easier

 

[LGOP528]

That's the thing, I couldn't convince my wife to take anything to boost her sex drive. I'll be honest, it would make things a lot easier

My wife was very much against taking pharmaceuticals but ghoul is right, the hrt benefits for women really sell themselves. I started looking into all of this for the same reason you made this post. My reasoning actually changed as I researched the topic. I know what crushed E2 feels like and would not wish that on anyone.

I am actually of the opinion that it is more important for women that need hrt to get it. My understanding is as they age their E2 production slows and their E1 levels shoot up or the conversion from E2>E1 increases so they naturally run around with crushed estrogen and we know what that shit does.

I imagine it would be like running the wrong ratio of test and EQ.

 

[Ghoul]

My wife was very much against taking pharmaceuticals but ghoul is right, the hrt benefits for women really sell themselves. I started looking into all of this for the same reason you made this post. My reasoning actually changed as I researched the topic. I know what crushed E2 feels like and would not wish that on anyone.

I am actually of the opinion that it is more important for women that need hrt to get it. My understanding is as they age their E2 production slows and their E1 levels shoot up or the conversion from E2>E1 increases so they naturally run around with crushed estrogen and we know what that shit does.

I imagine it would be like running the wrong ratio of test and EQ.

I would add that it's important to ensure she get annual mammograms.

Not because it's likely to induce breast cancer, but since the most common form is HER+, that is, accelerated by estrogen (the desirable, most easily treated type, in the unfortunate event) because if it went undetected for years you wouldn't want the strain of thinking HRT you advised somehow put your partner in a bad situation. Caught early, it has a 99% survival rate.

 

[LGOP528]

I would add that it's important to ensure she get annual mammograms.

Not because it's likely to induce breast cancer, but since the most common form is HER+, that is, accelerated by estrogen (the desirable, most easily treated type, in the unfortunate event) because if it went undetected for years you wouldn't want the strain of thinking HRT you advised somehow put your partner in a bad situation. Caught early, it has a 99% survival rate.

I will pass that on!

 

[AlexDavis43]

Just 150mg a week of Deca makes my sex drive insane. I think about my banging my wife pretty much constantly.

My question is: how often should us men really be thinking about sex? The obvious answer is as much until it becomes a problem in your marriage. Which it has but a positive is I'm much more nicer, romantic and affectionate toward her with the higher sex drive. It's like we are dating again, on my end anyway.

The issue is she can't keep up sexually as she just isn't at my level and at my mood so to speak

I think it's good when you and your wife have matching sexual desires. That is great chemistry.

Doesn't work so well if one partner wants it way more than the other (?)

I think about my banging my wife pretty much constantly.

But it's a good sign that the only person you're thinking about banging is your wife.

 

[Malevolent666]

I think it's good when you and your wife have matching sexual desires. That is great chemistry.

Doesn't work so well if one partner wants it way more than the other (?)



But it's a good sign that the only person you're thinking about banging is your wife.

I'm obsessed with her and we've been together 12 years. Decas effect on my brain is wild

 

[AlexDavis43]

I'm obsessed with her and we've been together 12 years. Decas effect on my brain is wild

You have something great brother (I mean your wife and the chemistry you have with her) (by "chemistry" I mean love sex compatibility etc, not gear).

 

[IronJohnDoe]

Some great answers already, so yes, communication is really where everything starts from.

Open, calm and honest but without any pressure, you both have needs, the key for successful relationships in my experience is to be able to find a compromise so that you both happy.

Which compromise that could be, only you and her would know after a good talk, we all different after all.

I am quite lucky as my misses she is totally in favour of future hormonal treatment (not necessarily at the moment as we go at it like rabbits multiple times a day) and she is open to ehm alternatives, for example it might happen that I might be wanting more and she might be tired or not in the mood, usually she'd go down and finish me, but I am aware that I am lucky fucker and didn't have this option with previous ones.

Talk about the issue, like has been said already, is very good that you are into her and not just wanting to bang anything and anyone so that's a great starting point, wish you luck to you both and hope you'll find a happy compromise that works for you and her.

 

[yelloeyes]

I absolutely love this thread and that you are trying to help your wives.

Not just for sex drive... women NEED hormones later in life to help with brain fog, bone density... the benefits are endless. Look up Dr. Mary Claire Haver...

BHRT changed and saved my life. I was post menopausal at 48. I literally thought I was going crazy. Everyone said.. "This is part of growing old..." yeah.. okay. It's 2024.

I had to find a menopause specialist. My gynecologist is on pellets but couldn't prescribe. I got bloodwork done and I was totally depleted. I started with compounded T, E, P & DHEA cream. Within DAYS I felt human again. About 4 months in my body stopped absorbing E only. Weirdest thing. I did not have any interest in pellets so I started compounded T, E & P injections. I had to switch to sesame oil as I had huge ISRs from MCT and grapeseed oils... and yes, I have to pay for this out of pocket. Insurance won't cover it. I also take 25mg DHEA nightly. Wow... life changer. Libido back in full overdrive, energy like I hadn't had in years. I have had to tweak it a bit over time as things change but I am SO grateful I found out that I could do something about it besides suffer.

I get bloodwork and have to physically see my provider twice a year as they changed the scheduling of T in GA. I am waiting on my results as I am waiting to see if the thyroid med she put me on 6 months ago is helping.

My mom is 79. She has been on only E for years. Her gynecologist passed away and we could not find another prescriber. She ran out. When I tell you I was scared... she was foggy and totally out of sorts since the last time I saw her 3 months prior. I literally called 9 different offices... no one would prescribe. "I don't have anyone her age as a patient that I prescribe hormones to." Well.. you SHOULD. I also ordered some backup E pills from India. Her GP put her on low dose Lexapro.

I finally found an NP that worked at a wellness spa. She had to pay out of pocket but she got her prescriptions and she also put her on P as well. When I saw her 3 months later she had gone back to herself. A total 180.

I will fight to get this stuff until my dying breath.

Good luck. There is so much new information out there to help.. and so many more specialty women's health clinics.