How to start over as after falling out with family?

[ComancheChief]

Yeah I think NJ only has one defensive driving course which I took I'm gonna talk to them about another driving improvement program...

Also been looking into moving to another state some states don't have point system I don't have any misdemeanor or anything so yeah trying to move asap none of this stuff shows up on background check

Moving to another state is a big change that comes with risks. You need to really have everything set in place before you do that (job, housing, post office transfer etc..) Also it’s going to cost quite a bit of money to move belongings and transportation.

 

[malfeasance]

Yeah I think NJ only has one defensive driving course which I took I'm gonna talk to them about another driving improvement program...

Also been looking into moving to another state some states don't have point system I don't have any misdemeanor or anything so yeah trying to move asap none of this stuff shows up on background check

You are not paying attention to a damn thing anybody else has to say in this thread.

The only reason to consider moving is for work, to get a better job/ higher income.

Maybe a better quality of life, too. For example, you love the outdoors, so Montana or Oregon, or you like the mountains and skiing, so Utah or Colorado, or you are a homo, so San Francisco. But even then you need a good job wherever you are going. If there are things that attract you to a location, then others want to move there, too, and supply and demand causes the cost of living, especially property and rent, to go up.

So, priority one.

Work.

Pay attention.

What are you doing about work?

 

[Stealth500]

or you are a homo, so San Francisco.

View: https://youtu.be/rhrtLidtfIw?si=QubmulyEBgyPGOOA

 

[bigboichoi]

You are not paying attention to a damn thing anybody else has to say in this thread.

The only reason to consider moving is for work, to get a better job/ higher income.

Maybe a better quality of life, too. For example, you love the outdoors, so Montana or Oregon, or you like the mountains and skiing, so Utah or Colorado, or you are a homo, so San Francisco. But even then you need a good job wherever you are going. If there are things that attract you to a location, then others want to move there, too, and supply and demand causes the cost of living, especially property and rent, to go up.

So, priority one.

Work.

Pay attention.

What are you doing about work?

I'm working this weekend Saturday and Sunday I got some other jobs lined up

 

[malfeasance]

Saturday and Sunday still leaves Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday.

How many hours on Saturday or Sunday?

You need to be putting in 50-60 hours a week at paying work before you start worrying about any of the other stuff you are posting about. If you are not doing 50-60 hours, then figure out how to do that before anything else in your life.

Priorities.

 

[AlexDavis43]

Absolutely listen to everything @malfeasance is saying, but also to what I said.

Going back to school & needing to pay rent (or share rent/bills with friends or a significant other). Jobs like at UPS & FedEx require little skill and offer shift work, to accommodate your school schedule. You can get a job with either of them tomorrow.

School is not a get out of jail free card. You still need to work for money.

I know about comfort zones. But you're way beyond that. Gotta start taking work seriously. Wtf are you doing with the rest of your time? I will flip a table if you say playing video games.

 

[malfeasance]

Wtf are you doing with the rest of your time? I will flip a table if you say playing video games.

LOL

 

[NewGuy756]

idk man but unless you learn a marketable skill with the proper certifications you'll likely end up in dead end jobs barely able to make ends meet.

Unless you got someone you know that can get you an in somewhere, it's probably best to stick it out where you are at and go to school to learn a marketable skill.

Whenever I watch people interviewing homeless people on the street the biggest reason they say the ended up there isn't drugs but that their family treated them like shit so they moved out with no safety net and prefer the streets to the abuse from their family members.

 

[bigboichoi]

idk man but unless you learn a marketable skill with the proper certifications you'll likely end up in dead end jobs barely able to make ends meet.

Unless you got someone you know that can get you an in somewhere, it's probably best to stick it out where you are at and go to school to learn a marketable skill.

Whenever I watch people interviewing homeless people on the street the biggest reason they say the ended up there isn't drugs but that their family treated them like shit so they moved out with no safety net and prefer the streets to the abuse from their family members.

Yeah my family really treats me like shit I got accepted to a few schools as a transfer but I'm still broke

I've been working every weekend but it's not enough it's only 300 per week right that's nothing. My part time job doesn't have much weekday hours I'm doing gig work

I applied for gas station stuff like that I mean it's not easy man with the tickets I got fucked over I can't do Uber for a little while also my reputation got ruined so I have to move elsewhere.

Life is fucking hard lmao no joke I can't imagine how those felons rebuilt their life I'm already going through hell with the tickets and surcharges I never had a DUI at all but I still have 4k surcharges unbelievable