Need some input from all the dudes on here that get women easy

[Dead]

Is attraction all down to looks or confidence or what?

look man, hate to make a thread like this I’ve been a prick to a lot of people on this forum. I admit I have a lack of experience with people. Mostly keep to myself. I think some stressors in my life made it hard to just form connections with people. Then the acne scars happened and I took that out on everything around me. Hope some of y’all can forgive me for that.

but to the point of this thread. I was surrounded by dudes who got so many girls. Like they just fling to them. Granted that’s a small town and everyone knows each other. But still. I never had it quite like them. I’ve had a few girls in my life. But never been a player. I honestly wish I had that quality just so I had game.

what is it with y’all that makes you so good with women, confidence, appearance?

Also I’m highly interested in this. If you weren’t always good with women what caused it to change? A break up? Repetitive experience with women? Asking for numbers to get over your fear of rejection? Help me out! Lol shit. I always feel that everyone around me is better than me in every aspect. I know what a pathetic ass trait.

I don’t know man just looking for some input
I can have a big ego at times and have pretty good confidence until it has to be applied in a social setting it turns to a mess. Social anxiety I think. And I hate that shit.

I got a girls number last night. And I’m pretty sure the best way to go about it is not put women as a priority, focus on yourself, build yourself up. And don’t even stress over expectations or outcomes of the interactions.

but I know there’s dudes who know exactly how to finesse a girl. Give me some insight into that. Probably everyone here got more life experience than me so it would be much appreciated

 

[Dead]

shit too long post to sum it up:

for those who got game and know how to finesse women, how did you learn? And what are you doing to have game you know?

 

[Eman]

Have a good personality, be confident and be yourself.

Confidence is much more important than looks. You need to meet certain requirements.. be clean, dressed properly. Other than that, confidence and personality is key.

Also, don't be afraid of rejection...

 

[Demondosage]

Was always a shy guy growing up, never good with women. I had only been with 2 chicks up until I was 21 yrs old, then from about 21-24 I was with close to 200, and that's the honest to God truth on my children's life.

#1- you want to be rejected, it'll get you over it quick. It's a girl, so what if she says no.

#2- most of how a woman reacts to you is all based on how she feels that day, little has to do with you actually.

#3- looks account for less than you think, matter of fact I have noticed a really big difference between being dressed to the 9's and just acting like I don't give a fuck, and when I didn't give a fuck I got so much more play. Women are very insecure, sometimes if you are dressed too nice or too built it's harder, not easier.

#4- it's a numbers game like sales. Start acting like someone with nothing to lose. Talk to anything you think is attractive and talk abt fucking whatever. The approach is actually the biggest turn on to a female and most won't even remember what you talked abt, they just remember the approach and the body language.

#5- this one is harder but when you speak stand directly facing her and keep your arms open. It shows you have nothing to hide. Most guys wanna stay closed up or looking down, look dead at her and stand as if your saying "here I am, blow me!"

#6- don't ask her what she wants to do, you TELL HER what you wanna do and where you wanna go. So many chicks get so sick of these redundant and scared dudes who can't make plans.

"Hey, have you ever been to this place for dinner? I've been wanting to go again, you wanna join me?" It's simoke, she is gonna say yes or no, get your answer and if not ask about 1 more day she is available. After that forget it and move on...NEXT!!

#7- act like she is already your girlfriend. NEVER ASK if she is having a good time or if something is wrong. That will get you nowhere quick

#8- fuck all this going dutch shit. Your e the man, you pay for the date. If it doesn't work chalk it up as nothing more than the cost of entertainment. Act as though you can handle shit and there is nothing worse than a cheap fuck who cannot pay for a dinner. It says "my worth doesn't go any further than this burger and fries"

Don't go too fancy on date 1 but play to your means. Honestly a decent girl has more respect for a guy who pays for her meal at Applebees than a cheap fuck who takes her to a steakhouse and makes her cover he half.

#9- force yourself to make a move. Try to kiss her on date #1, if she doesn't accept it but she is into you, you didn't ruin shit. They'll come back.

#10- don't talk about the gym unless she wants to. Don't dress in muscle shirts or anything like that, stay humble appearing.

#11- get a few drinks. Seriously, if you're a shy guy then get a few drinks to loosen up.

#12- act like someone with nothing to lose

#13- act like someone with nothing to lose

 

[Demondosage]

Bro, let me share a story with you guys real quick.
I used to work in a dirty fabrication shop. One day I couldn't take it anymore and on my lunch break I drove my car around and just pulled over next to chicks and started talking. I got fucking nowhere.

I left work that day, covered in dust. I noticed this smoking hot chick that lived behind the building out walking her dog. I had a mouth full of chicken and I was spitting it out the window real quick so I could try and redeem myself. Pulled up next to her, said "hey, I work behind you and I've noticed you out here a few times and I thought you looked good. You wanna hang out sometime?"

3 days later I was in that chicks bed pounding the shit out of her! Again, a numbers game, just cause I didn't get anywhere on my lunch break didn't mean I didn't redeem myself later that day. But had I let it get me down I wouldn't have gotten anywhere.

I acted like someone with nothing to lose, and the reality of it was that I was someone with nothing to lose then

 

[Villain]

Bro, let me share a story with you guys real quick.
I used to work in a dirty fabrication shop. One day I couldn't take it anymore and on my lunch break I drove my car around and just pulled over next to chicks and started talking. I got fucking nowhere.

I left work that day, covered in dust. I noticed this smoking hot chick that lived behind the building out walking her dog. I had a mouth full of chicken and I was spitting it out the window real quick so I could try and redeem myself. Pulled up next to her, said "hey, I work behind you and I've noticed you out here a few times and I thought you looked good. You wanna hang out sometime?"

3 days later I was in that chicks bed pounding the shit out of her! Again, a numbers game, just cause I didn't get anywhere on my lunch break didn't mean I didn't redeem myself later that day. But had I let it get me down I wouldn't have gotten anywhere.

I acted like someone with nothing to lose, and the reality of it was that I was someone with nothing to lose then

The biggest truth was reiterated on points 12 & 13. When you act like you have nothing to lose, it is a quality that women find irresistible.

 

[Dead]

Bro, let me share a story with you guys real quick.
I used to work in a dirty fabrication shop. One day I couldn't take it anymore and on my lunch break I drove my car around and just pulled over next to chicks and started talking. I got fucking nowhere.

I left work that day, covered in dust. I noticed this smoking hot chick that lived behind the building out walking her dog. I had a mouth full of chicken and I was spitting it out the window real quick so I could try and redeem myself. Pulled up next to her, said "hey, I work behind you and I've noticed you out here a few times and I thought you looked good. You wanna hang out sometime?"

3 days later I was in that chicks bed pounding the shit out of her! Again, a numbers game, just cause I didn't get anywhere on my lunch break didn't mean I didn't redeem myself later that day. But had I let it get me down I wouldn't have gotten anywhere.

I acted like someone with nothing to lose, and the reality of it was that I was someone with nothing to lose then

Yeah see that’s the shit I’m talking about dudes who do it like that. Type a dudes fwb with a chick while other dudes are texting her planning dates n shit

what do you think was different between the interactions during the lunch break and the chick u met later

 

[Dead]

Thanks for the replies everyone

definitely good insight

 

[Gbro]

Flirt with the fat ugly ones. You won't feel any pressure, and it will help you get an understanding of what works.

 

[Dead]

Flirt with the fat ugly ones. You won't feel any pressure, and it will help you get an understanding of what works.

The weird thing is I have 0 issues with that like it’s only me being attracted that fucks me up like some kinda bitch

I actually get irritated when a girl like that shows me affection. Idk maybe I’m a dick but maybe I should try that then

 

[Silentlemon1011]

Honestly

Just sont settle for something you dint like.

Most Importantly, be you.
Yeah it's cool to smash all the time, but it gets fucking old.

I still smash all the time, but it's with the love of my life (my wife)
who I got by being myself

EDIT
Also
Fuck them if they dont like you.
Just means you're not compatible.
Shrug it off as " Not the right one for me" and move in to find someone who fits

 

[Dead]

Honestly

Just sont settle for something you dint like.

Most Importantly, be you.
Yeah it's cool to smash all the time, but it gets fucking old.

I still smash all the time, but it's with the love of my life (my wife)
who I got by being myself

I like need it to prove to myself I can do it like a challenge.

I feel lesser knowing that all my friends had this shit come easy and I don’t. It’s totally because of my anxiety it makes me a little fucking bitch with this stuff and I hate it. It’s embarrassing honestly. It’s no surprise. I’m aware of how fuckin lame it is

I’m completely aware that having girls to have sex with a ton will serve me no gratification in my life

I simply see it as a challenge that I have yet to be able to overcome nor have I really tried either

I Cannot be one a these guys texting a girl waiting for her to give something up while she’s already having sex.

 

[Dead]

I don’t have a desire to sit around and be texting buddies with a girl and buy her shit and compliment her over and over. You know that type.

but I just don’t got direction for the finesse side of things.

 

[desertwarrior]

Spot on. Take a swing and let things happen.

Was always a shy guy growing up, never good with women. I had only been with 2 chicks up until I was 21 yrs old, then from about 21-24 I was with close to 200, and that's the honest to God truth on my children's life.

#1- you want to be rejected, it'll get you over it quick. It's a girl, so what if she says no.

#2- most of how a woman reacts to you is all based on how she feels that day, little has to do with you actually.

#3- looks account for less than you think, matter of fact I have noticed a really big difference between being dressed to the 9's and just acting like I don't give a fuck, and when I didn't give a fuck I got so much more play. Women are very insecure, sometimes if you are dressed too nice or too built it's harder, not easier.

#4- it's a numbers game like sales. Start acting like someone with nothing to lose. Talk to anything you think is attractive and talk abt fucking whatever. The approach is actually the biggest turn on to a female and most won't even remember what you talked abt, they just remember the approach and the body language.

#5- this one is harder but when you speak stand directly facing her and keep your arms open. It shows you have nothing to hide. Most guys wanna stay closed up or looking down, look dead at her and stand as if your saying "here I am, blow me!"

#6- don't ask her what she wants to do, you TELL HER what you wanna do and where you wanna go. So many chicks get so sick of these redundant and scared dudes who can't make plans.

"Hey, have you ever been to this place for dinner? I've been wanting to go again, you wanna join me?" It's simoke, she is gonna say yes or no, get your answer and if not ask about 1 more day she is available. After that forget it and move on...NEXT!!

#7- act like she is already your girlfriend. NEVER ASK if she is having a good time or if something is wrong. That will get you nowhere quick

#8- fuck all this going dutch shit. Your e the man, you pay for the date. If it doesn't work chalk it up as nothing more than the cost of entertainment. Act as though you can handle shit and there is nothing worse than a cheap fuck who cannot pay for a dinner. It says "my worth doesn't go any further than this burger and fries"

Don't go too fancy on date 1 but play to your means. Honestly a decent girl has more respect for a guy who pays for her meal at Applebees than a cheap fuck who takes her to a steakhouse and makes her cover he half.

#9- force yourself to make a move. Try to kiss her on date #1, if she doesn't accept it but she is into you, you didn't ruin shit. They'll come back.

#10- don't talk about the gym unless she wants to. Don't dress in muscle shirts or anything like that, stay humble appearing.

#11- get a few drinks. Seriously, if you're a shy guy then get a few drinks to loosen up.

#12- act like someone with nothing to lose

#13- act like someone with nothing to lose

 

[Demondosage]

Yeah see that’s the shit I’m talking about dudes who do it like that. Type a dudes fwb with a chick while other dudes are texting her planning dates n shit

what do you think was different between the interactions during the lunch break and the chick u met later

2 things, my approach was "I've noticed you" and girls like to be validated, and the fact that I got her at a time she was pissed off at the guy she was seeing before. Actually, when we started hangin out she dropped some dude who drove a brand new corvette, my ass was in an older 2 door accord. She talked abt how he ignored her a lot and then here you have this guy telling her he's noticed her.

Now, this technique works very well bro! Like if you're someplace some chick frequents, maybe the gym, you say something along the lines of ,"hey, I like when I see you in here, you motivate me. Actually, you sort of motivate me AND distract me. My name is so and so, what s yours?"

If she continues to talk she likes ya, if she is short then either she is not into it, not available, or just shy. But still, throw it out there and see what's up.

Women try to look nice to get approval. If they get a guy that actually has the balls to tell them "I like when I see you in here" all they hear is that someone is pleased when they see them. It works man, it works so fucking good that it'll bag married chicks too. But that's not something I condone anymore...well, hey if it wasn't me it was gonna be someone else anyways

 

[Dead]

2 things, my approach was "I've noticed you" and girls like to be validated, and the fact that I got her at a time she was pissed off at the guy she was seeing before. Actually, when we started hangin out she dropped some dude who drove a brand new corvette, my ass was in an older 2 door accord. She talked abt how he ignored her a lot and then here you have this guy telling her he's noticed her.

Now, this technique works very well bro! Like if you're someplace some chick frequents, maybe the gym, you say something along the lines of ,"hey, I like when I see you in here, you motivate me. Actually, you sort of motivate me AND distract me. My name is so and so, what s yours?"

If she continues to talk she likes ya, if she is short then either she is not into it, not available, or just shy. But still, throw it out there and see what's up.

Women try to look nice to get approval. If they get a guy that actually has the balls to tell them "I like when I see you in here" all they hear is that someone is pleased when they see them. It works man, it works so fucking good that it'll bag married chicks too. But that's not something I condone anymore...well, hey if it wasn't me it was gonna be someone else anyways

Appreciate these replies man serious

 

[Demondosage]

I don’t have a desire to sit around and be texting buddies with a girl and buy her shit and compliment her over and over. You know that type.

but I just don’t got direction for the finesse side of things.

And dont. This is exactly the way they assume everyone is. Be a straight shooter. Come right the fuck out with it.."I wanted to go out to eat and grab drinks Wed night, why dont you join me? No, I don't wanna tag along with you and your friends, I want to get to know you. You down?"

The more you text, the more you talk abt meaningless nonsense and go back and forth, the faster she is gonna get bored and the less she is gonna respect you. Also, keep on mind that there are no rules when a guy makes a girl float high on life. Some other guy may get it after a month, you may get it after 2 dates. It's all how you make her feel. Be spontaneous, be semi aggressive. When you kiss her do something most wouldn't have the balls to do, such as grab her hair as you're doing it. No fear bro, it's a woman. We walk up to weight on the floor and deadlift it, shit that would cripple the average guy. This is a chick, it's not that hard when you simply don't give a fuck and go after what you want.

Also, let me just throw this out there. Many women are not comparable with guys like us nowadays. They wanna act like the man and control shit. That's a no go. The bitch starts doing that then end it. It'll only be a headache

 

[Demondosage]

Another thing also, I've had several that acted like "I shouldn't be doing this with you yet."

I had one who was a gorgeous blonde chick, a straight 10. The date idea was supposed to be going for a walk. As soon as I was in the car with her I told her to park behind a building on the property. She said ,"I don't know if I'm supposed to park there."

I replied ,"do you always follow the rules? Look, I'm gonna be honest here, I don't give a damn abt going for a walk." She then said "well....I mean I guess we could go to my house" went to her house and destroyed it. Sounds more fun than going for a walk eh? But my point is, as much of an asshole as I am, even I had to get out of my own comfort zone to do that one. But the way I said it made her want that shit even more. And so it happened.

 

[stomps]

Not trying to brag but I've always been good with woman however I never really understood why I'm decent looking but nothing crazy. Then one day I had a friend who is a woman explain why.
She said it's because I portray a sense of confidence. Also that I'm a fun person to be around I can be goofy sometimes and that let's others around me be more themselves and have fun. However she said the biggest things were I makeep woman laugh and have fun and I make them feel special by complimenting little things about them or giving little nicknames ect.. she said when I do those things I do them without having an ulterior motive so it means more.

Me I always thought it was me being dressed nice and having nice shoes lol.
Also @Demondosage nice to see yah around I've been gone a long time nice to see people I remember. It's been nice I've seen more and more familiar faces.

 

[Demondosage]

Also, you always wanna at least try to get it. How would you feel if you fucked around for a month when some other dude could have had it in a day?

You would feel sort of cheated. Now the key is when you get one that's actually worth a damn and you try from the beginning and she isn't down with it yet, but you like her so much you wait for it. THAT'S the one you keep! But 90% are just flakes and sluts so if I was a betting man I would say it'll be quick usually.

Nice guys don't get ahead because they're nice guys, they don't get ahead because they're worry wart soy boys. A guy that acts like he takes shit is always more appealing, even to a good woman!