Peanutbutterballs
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Old member, had to get a new handle do to some bs but some of you might recognize the story, luckily sense I am less identifiable now I can go in more detail to help someone who may go through the same.
So I split with my ex things were going great until I found out she was drinking and driving with my kiddo in the car, and she wrecked 3 vehicles one into a house while she was drunk, woke up in a hospital (and never got in trouble. No DUI nothing, the officer never tested her or ordered a test from the hospital)
Crazy right?
I found out about this all at once so I took my kid, we had no orders in place.
After I took my kiddo her friends came forward one by one and told me awful stories about how she would have guys in and out with my kiddo sleeping in the same room, she did over $200 worth of coke and never picked up my kid from her babysitter. Just awful stuff I had absolutely no clue about.
So I lawyered up and shit got way worse.
We brought up the drug use and she countered with steroid use but she also claimed I never showed any aggression or adverse symptoms from the usage and we were both ordered to take tests. She pissed dirty for a few recreational drugs and pissed dirty for a laundry list of compounds. Even though she had all sorts of hardcore illegal shit in her system, the judge was still leaning toward giving her custody. Keep in mind we had witnesses that talked about the drug use, her drinking and driving with the kid etc. The judge still felt that I was a worse parent because of steroids. I did nothing else wrong, I had a consistent job I paid more than what would have been required in child support, no criminal record etc.
I argued that my test results stemmed from using pre hormones (which I was using) I spent a lot of time and money crafting a defense that would prove this to the judge and the judge still stood on the fence.
During the trial my ex broke 8 direct court orders, and we even caught her lying on stand and proved it (also known as perjury) and guess what happened? Not a damn thing (the judge was on her phone during that part)
After proving her drug use, showing photo and video evidence of her using elicit substances and breaking court orders, the judge gave no shits. So we had to pull some legal magic and get a new judge. A Male judge, who lost his shit on my ex for breaking court orders. It was magic.
The new judge accepted my argument of pre hormones because I had tons of research and I finally caught a break. This trial lasted for almost TWO FULL years.
I wanted this story to be shown because I never in a million years thought telling someone about my usage would bite me like that. I know keeping secrets from your partner isn't always practical, however unless you're sure you will be with them forever. Keep that shit to yourself. I almost lost my kid to someone that would have for gotten my child killed all because a judge was too ignorant to learn about AAS.
Anyway I hope this helps someone sometime, if you are ever in the same bind I was reach out I'd be happy to help anyway I can.
So I split with my ex things were going great until I found out she was drinking and driving with my kiddo in the car, and she wrecked 3 vehicles one into a house while she was drunk, woke up in a hospital (and never got in trouble. No DUI nothing, the officer never tested her or ordered a test from the hospital)
Crazy right?
I found out about this all at once so I took my kid, we had no orders in place.
After I took my kiddo her friends came forward one by one and told me awful stories about how she would have guys in and out with my kiddo sleeping in the same room, she did over $200 worth of coke and never picked up my kid from her babysitter. Just awful stuff I had absolutely no clue about.
So I lawyered up and shit got way worse.
We brought up the drug use and she countered with steroid use but she also claimed I never showed any aggression or adverse symptoms from the usage and we were both ordered to take tests. She pissed dirty for a few recreational drugs and pissed dirty for a laundry list of compounds. Even though she had all sorts of hardcore illegal shit in her system, the judge was still leaning toward giving her custody. Keep in mind we had witnesses that talked about the drug use, her drinking and driving with the kid etc. The judge still felt that I was a worse parent because of steroids. I did nothing else wrong, I had a consistent job I paid more than what would have been required in child support, no criminal record etc.
I argued that my test results stemmed from using pre hormones (which I was using) I spent a lot of time and money crafting a defense that would prove this to the judge and the judge still stood on the fence.
During the trial my ex broke 8 direct court orders, and we even caught her lying on stand and proved it (also known as perjury) and guess what happened? Not a damn thing (the judge was on her phone during that part)
After proving her drug use, showing photo and video evidence of her using elicit substances and breaking court orders, the judge gave no shits. So we had to pull some legal magic and get a new judge. A Male judge, who lost his shit on my ex for breaking court orders. It was magic.
The new judge accepted my argument of pre hormones because I had tons of research and I finally caught a break. This trial lasted for almost TWO FULL years.
I wanted this story to be shown because I never in a million years thought telling someone about my usage would bite me like that. I know keeping secrets from your partner isn't always practical, however unless you're sure you will be with them forever. Keep that shit to yourself. I almost lost my kid to someone that would have for gotten my child killed all because a judge was too ignorant to learn about AAS.
Anyway I hope this helps someone sometime, if you are ever in the same bind I was reach out I'd be happy to help anyway I can.
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