What is a normal libido?

[Dunkirk]

I've read your posts, and skimmed through the others, so if I repeat something that's been sad, ignore it.

Full honesty, it's not looking good. This is coming from someone that was in a situation very much like yours. You're taking care of your self, you're becoming more attractive. Believe it or not, she's getting jealous. This is a huge red flag supported by her throwing away your shit, not taking care of herself as much, and not supporting your new self improvement.

I'm sure there's excuses to "prove" me wrong, and that's she's a wonderful person. No offense, but tell yourself that, not me. Been there, done that, got the shirt for it.

I know this is all harsh, it's kinda meant to be. Asking dudes online for help isn't the smartest idea, so why listen to me... Good question. Anyway, talk to your wife, see a counselor if you want this to last. You two will drift apart if communication doesn't improve.

In my most honest opinion, sometimes the damage is too much and you're delaying the inevitable. Hopefully I'm wrong. I've experienced it first hand (married with kids) and see it in friends. Hopefully it's not for you, but something needs to change.

 

[Malevolent666]

I've read your posts, and skimmed through the others, so if I repeat something that's been sad, ignore it.

Full honesty, it's not looking good. This is coming from someone that was in a situation very much like yours. You're taking care of your self, you're becoming more attractive. Believe it or not, she's getting jealous. This is a huge red flag supported by her throwing away your shit, not taking care of herself as much, and not supporting your new self improvement.

I'm sure there's excuses to "prove" me wrong, and that's she's a wonderful person. No offense, but tell yourself that, not me. Been there, done that, got the shirt for it.

I know this is all harsh, it's kinda meant to be. Asking dudes online for help isn't the smartest idea, so why listen to me... Good question. Anyway, talk to your wife, see a counselor if you want this to last. You two will drift apart if communication doesn't improve.

In my most honest opinion, sometimes the damage is too much and you're delaying the inevitable. Hopefully I'm wrong. I've experienced it first hand (married with kids) and see it in friends. Hopefully it's not for you, but something needs to change.

Unfortunately when your life revolves around Testosterone related things and other things like: bodybuilding, metal music and family. I'm not the most "normie" of a person. With that said, I have an extremely small circle. Most normies can't relate to spending hours in the gym while listening to Cannibal Corpse.

Lucky if they even stick out this lifestyle/hobby. They usually do it for the wrong reasons and fade away.

That is why I post here. I know not the wisest of decisions and probably need to gain a stronger support system.

 

[Nidus]

Pretty good thread and interesting information overall. Finding the right woman for life really makes a big difference. Not just emotionally and based on a character but things like libido should match, otherwise (in my case) i dont think i would be able to express my feelings and love properly, feeling rejected and neglected. Big on physical touch here.

 

[malomkarom]

Pretty good thread and interesting information overall. Finding the right woman for life really makes a big difference. Not just emotionally and based on a character but things like libido should match, otherwise (in my case) i dont think i would be able to express my feelings and love properly, feeling rejected and neglected. Big on physical touch here.

For real.

I'm fine with a no once, maybe twice a week sometimes, but every other day is rough and onlygonna get worse. She's prolly thinkin about it just as much, spiraling this whole thing out of control.

OP I'd drop provi, I remember I couldn't stand someone not touching my dick every couple hours. You have a wife and kids. You shouldn't be horny 24/7 especially with a wife that has trouble with your off cycle libido already.

Telling your SO their libido turns off yours is a perfectly woman thing to say by the way. That would have been the relationships last hour for me.

 

[Bigoldguy]

What is normal for how often a 40 year old man should want sex with his wife? Obviously I'm enhanced but I want it everyday, multiple times would be perfect.

I'm currently running only 250 Test C a week and 50mg of Provirion every other day. Libido is still high. Not as crazy high as when I was running Deca but still high.

It's creating a problem in my marriage. I'm an attractive guy and in great shape (40 years old) . My wife is 37 but her Libido is no where near mine.

I lose my mind when she's wearing yoga pants lol. It's like I'm obsessed with her. We have been together 12 years. She says my abundant need for sex just makes her want it less.

Do I drop the Provirion altogether? It is a shame because I do enjoy being on Provirion.

I have no idea what normal would be. Im 61 and want it several times a day but the wife is more a few times a week...a lot of beating off in between to keep my sanity.

As for the wifes libido, try and have an honest talk (its difficult) and find out what gets her excited. Surprisingly, its usually not muscles and such after you've been married a while...its little shit like helping around the house, grabbing the kids and taking them to get ice cream or something while she gets a break. Lol...when I grab the vacuum anymore, the wife laughs and says "Someone is looking to get laid...a probably will!"

 

[Malevolent666]

I have no idea what normal would be. Im 61 and want it several times a day but the wife is more a few times a week...a lot of beating off in between to keep my sanity.

As for the wifes libido, try and have an honest talk (its difficult) and find out what gets her excited. Surprisingly, its usually not muscles and such after you've been married a while...its little shit like helping around the house, grabbing the kids and taking them to get ice cream or something while she gets a break. Lol...when I grab the vacuum anymore, the wife laughs and says "Someone is looking to get laid...a probably will!"

It is brutal when we are getting over a fight and my wife is walking around the house in yoga pants or sport shorts. My wife isn't the make up sex type AT ALL. She is the, if you behave properly, when I'm ready, I'll ask for it.

It's brutal because I hate beating the meat to get through this get back on her good side period.

The Provirion has made this 10 times worse. I have to trash the stuff.

 

[Malevolent666]

I have no idea what normal would be. Im 61 and want it several times a day but the wife is more a few times a week...a lot of beating off in between to keep my sanity.

As for the wifes libido, try and have an honest talk (its difficult) and find out what gets her excited. Surprisingly, its usually not muscles and such after you've been married a while...its little shit like helping around the house, grabbing the kids and taking them to get ice cream or something while she gets a break. Lol...when I grab the vacuum anymore, the wife laughs and says "Someone is looking to get laid...a probably will!"

It's actually depressing going without during a I'm in the dog house period. Literally depressing. That's sounds like a bitch thing to say but it's the truth.

 

[DugPrime]

She gives head on average once a month. If that

Get her on 5–10mg of Anavar daily plus 1mg of Testosterone Enanthate or Cypionate per day — you won’t regret it, haha. That’s my gf micro-cycle year-round.

 

[Malevolent666]

Get her on 5-10mg of Anavar a day + 1mg of Testosterone Enanthate/Cypionate a day, you won't regret.

I wish! She is anti putting any "supplemental" medication or supplements period into her body. She prefers to stay as natural as possible. Even if its a disadvantage

 

[Bigoldguy]

I wish! She is anti putting any "supplemental" medication or supplements period into her body. She prefers to stay as natural as possible. Even if its a disadvantage

Lol! I found the best supplement is a nice foot massage!

 

[amazonas]

Damn... she's giving you sex 3-4 times a week and you want more? Count your blessings sir, most people i know in marriages get it once or twice a week, maximum.

 

[Malevolent666]

Lol! I found the best supplement is a nice foot massage!

Lucky for her I have a foot fetish. Unlucky for me, she thinks the massages are for my pleasure as well haha

 

[Ciaranko]

I'm FAR from ugly my friend. In fact I'm the better looking in the relationship. Not by a long shot but I am. She's overweight. Ever since I've been on Test the extra weight doesn't bother me whatsoever. Before test, yes it bothered me enough where I left her. On test, could care less and can't get enough of her.

Her own weight is probably a huge reason why. Women who are not confident in themselves are the biggest relationship killers. Doesnt matter what you do, if she doesnt believe she deserves it she will lose respect for you. She probably doesnt feel she is sexy enough for you to rightfully want sex with her everyday so she probably now starts seeing you as desperate rather than a loving loyal husband. Once that happens she slowly loses respect for you. if sex gets even rarer then this is the path youre going down on.

 

[Malevolent666]

Her own weight is probably a huge reason why. Women who are not confident in themselves are the biggest relationship killers. Doesnt matter what you do, if she doesnt believe she deserves it she will lose respect for you. She probably doesnt feel she is sexy enough for you to rightfully want sex with her everyday so she probably now starts seeing you as desperate rather than a loving loyal husband. Once that happens she slowly loses respect for you. if sex gets even rarer then this is the path youre going down on.

That could possibly be the case. I would argue also my super high libido turns her off as well. She can't keep up and I do talk about sex too much for her liking.

 

[Ateam2023]

I wish! She is anti putting any "supplemental" medication or supplements period into her body. She prefers to stay as natural as possible. Even if its a disadvantage

well You can't hate her for that, but in this situation, Your damned if you Do And Just Damned All around im afraid,,

 

[BigDadd7]

That could possibly be the case. I would argue also my super high libido turns her off as well. She can't keep up and I do talk about sex too much for her liking.

So stop talking about it so much?

 

[Malevolent666]

So stop talking about it so much?

I agree. They say communication is key but maybe it's overrated.

 

[Dunkirk]

I agree. They say communication is key but maybe it's overrated.

I think you missed the point, you have to listen to her as much as she listens to you. If that's all you talk about, maybe she's not the problem. Women are complicated, man has been trying to figure them out for centuries to no avail. You're not going to do it in a lifetime.

All the advice you get here is based on your POV of the relationship, so any advice will come at a bias. There's your side, her side and then the truth. Talk about your feelings to her, and if your libido comes from the supplements then you may need to compromise with her. You need to take a look at how much sex you've had before you started and use that at the basis. Before gear, I wanted it daily. Gear didn't change that for me, but I'm only on a slightly higher level of trt. In the end she married/fell in love with the old you. Maybe the new you isn't her type. Again, all of this is based on assumptions from what you told us... Hence true communication is key.

 

[Eddie.]

My man, this is like the third thread you create about your raging libido, you also made a thread worrying about what people think of you for wearing metal t-shirts and from your latest thread you sound unhappy from not having any hobbies. No offence but i think you need to seek some help, find a psychotherapist and opt for some sessions.

Regarding your relationship, the issue is clearly yours. Your wife is normal, she's like average to more than average if you still have sex 3-4 times a week. After 12 years, a marriage and kids i doubt there are many women wanting sex more than twice a week.

Don't force her to have sex, don't make her feel bad when she's not in the mood and you've left unsatisfied and obviously don't cheat on her if you want to be called a real man.

In my opinion your options are: A, show her you're always available without making it too obvious eg don't beg for sex or head, B, do the A and beat your meat in the meantime to calm your needs (this is what most of us with high libido do if i had to guess) and C, man up and get a divorce if sex is more important than your family and go out meet new chicks and have sex everyday.

Also, can you please enlighten me why on earth you insist using compounds that raise your libido when you're not pleased with your current intercourse frequency in the first place? It makes no sense.

What's your bodybuilding aspirations? Do you want to get huge and lean? If this stuff is messing with your brain and emotions, perhaps it would be wise to get to TRT+ levels, stay there for sometime and reassess later. If i remember correct you were permablasting with 500 test and you just switch compounds like mast and deca right? Ditch the proviron, the mast, the deca and go down to 200mg test only until you fix your life. Having a happy life, happy marriage, positive thoughts and a clear mind is more important than adding muscles in your 40's. Just my humble opinion, i hope i didn't offend you.

 

[Nidus]

My man, this is like the third thread you create about your raging libido, you also made a thread worrying about what people think of you for wearing metal t-shirts and from your latest thread you sound unhappy from not having any hobbies. No offence but i think you need to seek some help, find a psychotherapist and opt for some sessions.

Regarding your relationship, the issue is clearly yours. Your wife is normal, she's like average to more than average if you still have sex 3-4 times a week. After 12 years, a marriage and kids i doubt there are many women wanting sex more than twice a week.

Don't force her to have sex, don't make her feel bad when she's not in the mood and you've left unsatisfied and obviously don't cheat on her if you want to be called a real man.

In my opinion your options are: A, show her you're always available without making it too obvious eg don't beg for sex or head, B, do the A and beat your meat in the meantime to calm your needs (this is what most of us with high libido do if i had to guess) and C, man up and get a divorce if sex is more important than your family and go out meet new chicks and have sex everyday.

Also, can you please enlighten me why on earth you insist using compounds that raise your libido when you're not pleased with your current intercourse frequency in the first place? It makes no sense.

What's your bodybuilding aspirations? Do you want to get huge and lean? If this stuff is messing with your brain and emotions, perhaps it would be wise to get to TRT+ levels, stay there for sometime and reassess later. If i remember correct you were permablasting with 500 test and you just switch compounds like mast and deca right? Ditch the proviron, the mast, the deca and go down to 200mg test only until you fix your life. Having a happy life, happy marriage, positive thoughts and a clear mind is more important than adding muscles in your 40's. Just my humble opinion, i hope i didn't offend you.

Ah finally. Someone who hits the nail on the head and speaks what many people thought of this thread and the others. Thanks Eddie! Well said!