Need training advice for my wife

[ErikR]

And they are all like that man my wife fights me on everything

Tell me about it..... can't win

 

[MassiveEating]

Looks good. Now I just need adjust it to her daily caloric intake. The funny thing is she would follow a diet if it's posted by someone else as opposed to me. Lol, and I been at this shit a long time. I'm going to tell her your wife's a fitness model and this is what she eats.

Mate, this sounds like your wife doesn't trust you if she prefer someone else advice over yours, show her you're smart in some way should help

 

[MassiveEating]

Mate, this sounds like your wife doesn't trust you if she prefer someone else advice over yours, show her you're smart in some way should help

I mean, you have the body to proof you know what you're doing. Why wouldn't she trust in your advice, idk just force her to train until she see result and then tell her "I told you" haha

 

[ErikR]

I mean, you have the body to proof you know what you're doing. Why wouldn't she trust in your advice, idk just force her to train until she see result and then tell her "I told you" haha

It's not that she doesn't trust me. she's just stuck in the mindset that men and women train diffently. That I push her too hard. If it came from a women , for some reason it would be different. Go figure!!! The fact is she's just lazy and doesn't have the same passion for training as I do.

 

[MassiveEating]

It's not that she doesn't trust me. she's just stuck in the mindset that men and women train diffently. That I push her too hard. If it came from a women , for some reason it would be different. Go figure!!! The fact is she's just lazy and doesn't have the same passion for training as I do.

I see.

By the way, I told my wife not to read any article on magazines or women webpages so she doesn't get biased by bullshit, I just let her read t nation mainly hehe.

But yeah your situation is quite difficult, as I see, there's not so much to do. Just accept she probably won't like this lifestyle as you do.

The bad thing about her not being that motivated is that people often think they don't really want much results, they just want to do ok. So they think " if I put little effort I'll get little results, that's enough for me". The truth is that little effort = zero results , maximum effort = little results. Specially for natties

 

[Deepwaters1987]

I can't train with her. I tried. We just wind up fighting, because she says I push her too hard. She just wants to go through the motions and that's it. That's why you see people in the gym year after year wasting time. They don't push themselves hard enough.

Several years ago that's how my wife was. She would just get mad and tell me I was pushing her to hard. I would get mad because I was there to put in work and she was holding me back. Then last year she got motivated and was my workout partner 3-4 days a week. I had to drag her there at first. Finally I put some weight on some different exercises that she didn't think she had a chance to get a rep like squat, bench, and deads. I told her that she is more powerful than she could ever imagine and just to try it. She got all of them at least one rep. After that things changed, she believed in herself. She ended up not going for 6 months or so because her hips were bothering her. I told her injures happen and you just have to learn to work around them and learn what works for your body. She's been back going for 3 or 4 weeks now. We've only been getting there a few times a week because my work schedule has been a bit crazy but it's nice to have my workout partner back.

 

[Applejacked]

You should peace your girl

Honestly though teach her but don't train with her. Let her learn about macros, rep schemes, progressive overload, etc. it's one thing to get told what to do but it's a whole different thing to understand why you're doing it.

Have her sign up for Pilates, I thought it was for pussies till I did it. My core couldn't be more grateful.

Lastly, give her full blown image issues. Say little things to get into her head like point out another girls form in the gym.

Worst case scenario, revert back to the first thing I said.

 

[herc2316]

I know most gym rats hate it, but I 100% recommend crossfit. I worked out off and on for years, but could never do it consistently. I would get bored with the same shit all the time and would end up stopping. My wife tried going to the gym several times, but she doesn't know where to start.

Then we gave crossfit a try and it was what we both needed. It's working out and a community, which the girls love. She doesn't have to worry about programming or anything, just show up and do it. You need help? There's always a coach there to help. My wife's confidence went through the roof when she learned how to clean, jerk, and snatch.

But, this should go without saying, not every crossfit gym is equal. I've been to several, some excellent ones and some mediocre ones. You have to search around, take a trial class, check out the coaches, equipment, facility, etc...

 

[herc2316]

Mate, this sounds like your wife doesn't trust you if she prefer someone else advice over yours, show her you're smart in some way should help

That's the way women work man. I'll tell her something and she'll just be like "eh..." then someone else will say the same damn thing and she's like, "oh really?!?!?" My daughter is the exact same way!