...or at least on your terms. I'm lost and need someone to punch me in the face and wake me the fuck up to reality. Here's my situation I feel stuck in.
Man, where do I start. Ok, started dating this cool chick 2-1/2 years ago. She's a few years older than I. I'm in my 40's.
At first we hit it off great. Met some of her friends then 3 months into it I got pissed at her for being despondent and since I raised my voice at her, she dumped me. At that time I really didn't care. Wasn't all that in to her anyways.
A few days later I stop by to pick up my stuff. I ask if she just wants to be fuck buddies as the sex was great. She accepted. This was November 2016. Fast forward to now and we are still together, monogamous, but live our own separate lives. I've never met any of her friends since the arrangement and vice versa.
As time went on I asked her to be my girlfriend again. The answer was no. She liked things the way they were. I accepted as I have a busy life, am a single dad, and quite honestly it worked for me. She's always been kind, generous, 100% faithful to our agreement of not sleeping with others unless we talk first.
So over the past few months I've been wanting out. I want to be with someone that wants to do shit with me outside of the house. I want a real relationship. But for some damn reason haven't mustered up the courage to end it. Why is this so damned hard? She is rarely available as she has a demanding job and very full social life. I often make plans with her and she changes them to later a few hours before were supposed to get together. This is pissing me off greatly. I just say "yeah, whatever. Let me know when I can come fuck your brains out" and move on.
I think its time to put my foot down and end this shit. Today for example. We made plans lastnight to have dinner. I get a text an hour ago saying she forgot its her friends bday and they are going out for drinks and appetizers. Can we meet later at 8. She wont be hungry for dinner. I reply "Cool, have fun and text me when you're on your way home and I'll head over". As much as I wanted to tell her to go to hell I kept my cool. I don't argue over text.
Should I dump her ass, cancel tonight, or just let it go and enjoy the sex?
Man, where do I start. Ok, started dating this cool chick 2-1/2 years ago. She's a few years older than I. I'm in my 40's.
At first we hit it off great. Met some of her friends then 3 months into it I got pissed at her for being despondent and since I raised my voice at her, she dumped me. At that time I really didn't care. Wasn't all that in to her anyways.
A few days later I stop by to pick up my stuff. I ask if she just wants to be fuck buddies as the sex was great. She accepted. This was November 2016. Fast forward to now and we are still together, monogamous, but live our own separate lives. I've never met any of her friends since the arrangement and vice versa.
As time went on I asked her to be my girlfriend again. The answer was no. She liked things the way they were. I accepted as I have a busy life, am a single dad, and quite honestly it worked for me. She's always been kind, generous, 100% faithful to our agreement of not sleeping with others unless we talk first.
So over the past few months I've been wanting out. I want to be with someone that wants to do shit with me outside of the house. I want a real relationship. But for some damn reason haven't mustered up the courage to end it. Why is this so damned hard? She is rarely available as she has a demanding job and very full social life. I often make plans with her and she changes them to later a few hours before were supposed to get together. This is pissing me off greatly. I just say "yeah, whatever. Let me know when I can come fuck your brains out" and move on.
I think its time to put my foot down and end this shit. Today for example. We made plans lastnight to have dinner. I get a text an hour ago saying she forgot its her friends bday and they are going out for drinks and appetizers. Can we meet later at 8. She wont be hungry for dinner. I reply "Cool, have fun and text me when you're on your way home and I'll head over". As much as I wanted to tell her to go to hell I kept my cool. I don't argue over text.
Should I dump her ass, cancel tonight, or just let it go and enjoy the sex?
~Ogh
