How do I get intimate with someone I’m not sexually attracted to at all?

[Desibaba]

This sounds like a young mans issue? You've been a member since 2003. I've been a member since 2006. I think i can remember having a female friend in high school who used to drive me to school and let me drive her car. I would talk about issues I was having with my girl with her etc. She really liked me. She was cool, but we hung out more out of convenience. She tried moving on me once when I had a lot to drink. I remember being pissed one time cuz she dialed my girls number on the house phone(no cell phones back then) and let her listen while she tried to make it sound like we were having a heart to heart conversation and giggled like i was tickling her or trying to kiss her.
You say this girl is "Nice to your mom"? My mother is in her 70's and had me when she was 19. I'm in my late 40's. I call bullshit.

I turned 37 on the 14th of this month. June 14 83 is my bday

 

[CompoundLifts31]

I turned 37 on the 14th of this month. June 14 83 is my bday

Well happy mother fucking birthday sir

 

[notdeadYET]

Last night we started watching some cut gems Adam Sandler movie on Netflix on the big screen 75” in the living room. I have always liked getting drunk way better than pot even when I was in college. So we are both drinking and she pulls out some prescription muv pure THC vape stick she scored. So I took a couple of hits with her. And just like before I absolutely hate the feeling of time slowing down that weed does. Luckily she is tired and wants to keep watching the movie in the bedroom and all I want to do is sleep. We lie down and before I know it she is sleeping on my chest with one leg on top of me with her hair almost suffocating me before I had even turned the tv on. Thankfully between the alcohol and pot I managed to fall and stay asleep in that exact painful position holding her the entire night.

Wake up at 7 and my neck and arm were completely numb and I could tell my breath smelled worse than the nastiest public toilet I can ever imagine. For some weird reason I was not bothered by that at all and I gently put her on the pillow and went into my bathroom like I usually do and went straight to the toilet and started pooping.

All of a sudden it hit me that my last 3 girlfriends I wouldn’t dare poop with the door open and stinking up the place because I did not want to gross them out. With her it’s almost like I feel like when I’m around my mom (Fart loud if I feel like it).

Strange but we had a fairly fun day so far. I took her for a ride on my motorcycle then had lunch at this Cuban place and hopefully we can make it to the range because she wants to try out my AR, .45 and 9mm. At least so far we are both having a 2 day staycation until we go back to our daily drinds Saturday morning with me trying to sell cars and her selling houses.

You seem like a genuinely good guy with feelings and emotions and all that shit. Good for you I guess. Personally I would have fucked the hell out of her. You live once. Fuck as much as you can.

 

[4Figgy]

50mgs viagra, 25mgs cialis, and a BJ to get things going. If that doesn’t work nothing will. I’ve never been able to force an erection. Even drunk off my ass with a chubby chick in college. Goggles said “sure”, and dick said “fuck no”.

 

[curiousG]

Tell her you're gay. But there might be other consequences in doing that

 

[Gbro]

Tell her you're gay. But there might be other consequences in doing that

Consequence being that she finds out the truth.

 

[Rippidy Dippidy]

Why are you trying to fuck some ugly chick in the first place? Get the fuck outta there

 

[Multislacking]

Why are you trying to fuck some ugly chick in the first place? Get the fuck outta there

He said she had a nice face, just too skinny for him.

 

[Rippidy Dippidy]

He said she had a nice face, just too skinny for him.

Nice face and skinny... sounds g2g to me

 

[LeoTC]

Short answer?

You don't. I'm not sure why this is even a question. :/

 

[Desibaba]

If I had erectile dysfunction I most certainly would not be embarrassed to admit to it because it affects a lot of men. I never had a hard time getting it up if I am watching porn or meeting some random girl off of tinder. She knows me well and I know her. I had my motorcycle accident in 2007 and she took care of me until my mom got here. Even helped me clean up after I pooped because both my hands were covered with road rash in early 2007. I think when I think of all that it is hard to imagine her sexually if that makes any sense. I feel comfortable if she has a key to my house, etc because I know she will never hurt me but I am having a hard time thinking of her sexually.

 

[DonaldPump123]

If I had erectile dysfunction I most certainly would not be embarrassed to admit to it because it affects a lot of men. I never had a hard time getting it up if I am watching porn or meeting some random girl off of tinder. She knows me well and I know her. I had my motorcycle accident in 2007 and she took care of me until my mom got here. Even helped me clean up after I pooped because both my hands were covered with road rash in early 2007. I think when I think of all that it is hard to imagine her sexually if that makes any sense. I feel comfortable if she has a key to my house, etc because I know she will never hurt me but I am having a hard time thinking of her sexually.

Totally understand. With that being said, she sounds like wife material to me haha

 

[Villain]

Tell her you're gay. But there might be other consequences in doing that

Lol, yeah like all of a sudden she has a gay friend looking for a gem such as OP

 

[curiousG]

I did put my warning disclaimer in there. I just said it would solve his original problem!

 

[Demondosage]

The only guys that wanna be friends with a girl are gay guys and guys that wanna get in their pants but are stuck in the friend zone. Which one are you?

If neither, then ask yourself what the fuck you are doing rt now.

I actually feel bad for this chick, here it is you guys are hanging out and she probably thinks something really great is happening, meanwhile you aren't attracted to her and are spending time because you feel bad for her. Dude, that shit is cutting, like painful and evil thing to do to a person. It's just fucked up you even got this far with it.

Now, let's say you stay with her and you aren't attracted to her, how long is that gonna last before you go out and cheat on her? Sex is a big part of a relationship, so if it's not there then stop lying to yourself or convincing yourself you even need to try making it work

 

[Jankauskas]

A friend of mine who recently become single and depressed came over to spend a couple of days with me. On paper she is perfect. Nice to my mom. Has a great career, etc. We get along so well as friends. Problem is I just don’t feel sexually attracted to her at all and I know she wants some companionship during this time.

Last night she is in my bed and I kept trying to get aroused and I couldn’t and she even asked me if I had erectile dysfunction. I just told her I might have it because I don’t have the heart to tell her I don’t find attractive. She is here with me till Saturday. Any advice on satisfying her? I even tried visualizing other girls while I was with her but couldn’t even get it up. And NO I’m not trolling.

Jesus Christ this is just depressing...

 

[Jerry5000]

Anal ??

 

[DrinkFlintWater]

Jesus Christ this is just depressing...

I dont know why this made me laugh so hard

 

[Jerry5000]

Up your test

 

[Peltz]

Scent has a lot to do with sexual attraction.

Wolves will kill when scents are off, I suspect scent is much more important to sexual attraction then most of us recognize.

I've been around women that are really attractive, but the smell of them put me off, they might have everything going for them, but their natural scent prevented any sexual attraction.