The parenting thread.

[Human_backhoe]

I know a shit ton of us have kids. So from time to time I get curious. What are other guys parenting "styles" like?

I try to almost be a Hobbs to him. I try to be his "moral compass " while exposing him to as much as possible. Try to create experiences and "adventures " that he can learn from and incorporate into who he is. I will definitely let him do something stupid (within reason) and stand back and usually laugh when the consequences bite him in the ass.

I rarely raise my voice, I would rather guide him logically through it and take the time to explain why what he did is retarded or wrong.

When he gets mouthy and tells me he is the boss. I will pick him up by a leg and hold him upside down and laugh.

I'm not against spanking but have only given him on whack on the ass in 6 years lol


What about you guys? Are you more strict? Why? What are your thoughts on sheltering kids from how fucked up the world can get?

Most importantly. How do you deal with things like media? Is there a balance in exposure and shelter from the ideas widely circulated that can do harm?

I personally don't like the fact that WAP is even a thing . That being said I won't cut him off from "society " .

Really interested in hearing some of your options. A lot of really solid guys here, with their heads screwed on straight!

Thanks boys!

 

[Cumminstech]

Great idea for a thread. I don’t have kids yet but I’ve thought about what I’d like to be as a parent for sure. One thing I could never got on board with hearing as a kid and even now is “don’t throw the first punch”

fuck that

don’t attack people, but stand your ground. If someone is being aggressive with you, they don’t have to hit you first. If you feel threatened, lay em the fuck out! If he had a good reason to kick a kids ass I wouldn’t be mad, but I’d probably have to act a little mad so that it didn’t become a regular thing and he only did it when it was totally justifiable. I just don’t want my kid to be a pushover basically, I don’t want him to be a bully but I definitely want him to have a backbone and not get walked on. If that means getting in a fight here or there then oh well.

Also wouldn’t care if my kid swore, as long as it was only around me and not his teachers or grandparents etc etc.

definitely would discourage him from listening to cardi b and that garbage though. He’s gonna grow up listening to Metallica and megadeth and I will heavily influence him and maybe even brainwash him that the “modern” music and even culture as a whole is just total complete shitty garbage.

 

[Human_backhoe]

Honestly. I went from being a hot head, and I mean BAD to a really gentle guy, the moment my son was born.

My son has been in a fight already. He is raised on a farm. Was getting picked on in kindergarten by some older kids. He dealt with it then and there lol. The rest of the time he is gentle as hell!

I had lamb of God tickets for us before it all got cancelled!


All the things we think we are gonna do change in a instant once we have them lol

 

[Cumminstech]

Honestly. I went from being a hot head, and I mean BAD to a really gentle guy, the moment my son was born.

My son has been in a fight already. He is raised on a farm. Was getting picked on in kindergarten by some older kids. He dealt with it then and there lol. The rest of the time he is gentle as hell!

I had lamb of God tickets for us before it all got cancelled!


All the things we think we are gonna do change in a instant once we have them lol

Did he get in any trouble at home for the fight

 

[Human_backhoe]

Did he get in any trouble at home for the fight

Nope. Not one bit lol

 

[Logan44551]

Man, I've been struggling lately. Parenting is tough. I want to raise my daughter and son to be self confident and resilient. My daughter's is very sensitive, she's an absolute sweet heart. I'm just worried the world is going to rip her apart. Anyone got any suggestions on raising a strong, confident women? I have a much easier time with my son.

 

[Demondosage]

My son had his first sip of beer when he was 6 yrs old when we were camping. From that point forward it was mandatory you had a sip of beer when camping, and it was an open language zone where it was ok to curse. At 7 years old he drank his first full beer and smoked a cigarette. One day I picked him up from school and he got in trouble for cursing. I punished him because he was stupid enough to curse in front of the teacher. I explained to him that curse words emphasize things and they're ok to use, but when you say them all the time you sound like a dirtbag. "You want ppl to think you are a scumbag?"

He is almost 12 now and could care less about a sip of beer and he rarely swears.

I taught him how to swim, I taught him how to skateboard. I taught him how to jump his bike, ride dirtbikes, shoot guns. I took him shooting when he was 6 years old and he shot a .410, a 9mm Beretta, and a .22. We then got into skeet and I got him a 20 gauge over and under. His shotgun is loaded and under his bed, in case he has to protect his mother and I'm not at home.

When he was having trouble with math I took him to subway for a sub one day, I handed him a 20$ bill and said ,"now if you can figure out the change in your head then you can keep it." He couldn't do it. The next time we went out he did, really fast too! I would go grocery shopping with him and ask him things like ,"do you get the 4 pack of those or 4 singles? Which way is cheaper?" And he learned pretty quick because I would give him real life lessons.

One day he got a C+ in a class and I said to him, "I don't really give a damn if you get a C+ or an A+, I care that you try your best. Was that C+ your best?" From that point almost every one of his grades went to A's.

See, here is the thing about being a solid parent, you have to lead by example. If you are teaching your kid to swim, ride bikes, shoot guns, do math, lift weights, if you are a credible source for all that stuff then why would you lie abt avoiding something that could get them in trouble one day?

Everything I ever wanted to know as a kid I've given to mine. I've already talked abt how the wrong woman will destroy your life, take all your shit.

What's the bottom line to all of this shit in sharing? You have to SPEND TIME WITH YOUR KIDS!!! You know what the problem is with most fuck up parents? They're only around to punish, not to spend time together!! Once you dedicate your time and get to know them, you would be surprised at how well they do with life. Oh yea, another tip for parents...dont claim to know it all, humility goes a long ways also. When they see you are open to learning new things or learning new things together with them, it shows you don't know it all and you never get too old to stop learning

 

[Silentlemon1011]

My son had his first sip of beer when he was 6 yrs old when we were camping. From that point forward it was mandatory you had a sip of beer when camping, and it was an open language zone where it was ok to curse. At 7 years old he drank his first full beer and smoked a cigarette. One day I picked him up from school and he got in trouble for cursing. I punished him because he was stupid enough to curse in front of the teacher. I explained to him that curse words emphasize things and they're ok to use, but when you say them all the time you sound like a dirtbag. "You want ppl to think you are a scumbag?"

He is almost 12 now and could care less about a sip of beer and he rarely swears.

I taught him how to swim, I taught him how to skateboard. I taught him how to jump his bike, ride dirtbikes, shoot guns. I took him shooting when he was 6 years old and he shot a .410, a 9mm Beretta, and a .22. We then got into skeet and I got him a 20 gauge over and under. His shotgun is loaded and under his bed, in case he has to protect his mother and I'm not at home.

When he was having trouble with math I took him to subway for a sub one day, I handed him a 20$ bill and said ,"now if you can figure out the change in your head then you can keep it." He couldn't do it. The next time we went out he did, really fast too! I would go grocery shopping with him and ask him things like ,"do you get the 4 pack of those or 4 singles? Which way is cheaper?" And he learned pretty quick because I would give him real life lessons.

One day he got a C+ in a class and I said to him, "I don't really give a damn if you get a C+ or an A+, I care that you try your best. Was that C+ your best?" From that point almost every one of his grades went to A's.

See, here is the thing about being a solid parent, you have to lead by example. If you are teaching your kid to swim, ride bikes, shoot guns, do math, lift weights, if you are a credible source for all that stuff then why would you lie abt avoiding something that could get them in trouble one day?

Everything I ever wanted to know as a kid I've given to mine. I've already talked abt how the wrong woman will destroy your life, take all your shit.

What's the bottom line to all of this shit in sharing? You have to SPEND TIME WITH YOUR KIDS!!! You know what the problem is with most fuck up parents? They're only around to punish, not to spend time together!! Once you dedicate your time and get to know them, you would be surprised at how well they do with life. Oh yea, another tip for parents...dont claim to know it all, humility goes a long ways also. When they see you are open to learning new things or learning new things together with them, it shows you don't know it all and you never get too old to stop learning

I like your approach of not making things "Taboo" like a bit of beer or swearing
I believe people and kids become enamored with taboo things and end up over using/over drinking etc.

It's great that you show time and place for it, it's not evil
It's just that there are situations that are okay to swear and some not

Kudos to you brother.

Man, I've been struggling lately. Parenting is tough. I want to raise my daughter and son to be self confident and resilient. My daughter's is very sensitive, she's an absolute sweet heart. I'm just worried the world is going to rip her apart. Anyone got any suggestions on raising a strong, confident women? I have a much easier time with my son.

I can only speak to the confident girls/women I know
A few possibilities, combat sports like boxing (For fun obviously)

Getting into boxing and MMA etc really boosted my confidence as a kid.

Of course working out really helped
and you're already a rock star at that brother!

Does she show interest in your workouts etc?

 

[KingCahoot3627]

Man, I've been struggling lately. Parenting is tough. I want to raise my daughter and son to be self confident and resilient. My daughter's is very sensitive, she's an absolute sweet heart. I'm just worried the world is going to rip her apart. Anyone got any suggestions on raising a strong, confident women? I have a much easier time with my son.

What about martial arts? I think that learning that fear is normal and how to respond to difficult situations can help a sensitive or shy person feel more proud and decisive.

 

[Logan44551]

What about martial arts? I think that learning that fear is normal and how to respond to difficult situations can help a sensitive or shy person feel more proud and decisive.

Totally I had them in karate, then Corona hit and I still haven't gotten them back into it yet. Stuff in California is still pretty weird and I don't want them doing online instruction for karate it cost too much

 

[Logan44551]

I like your approach of not making things "Taboo" like a bit of beer or swearing
I believe people and kids become enamored with taboo things and end up over using/over drinking etc.

It's great that you show time and place for it, it's not evil
It's just that there are situations that are okay to swear and some not

Kudos to you brother.



I can only speak to the confident girls/women I know
A few possibilities, combat sports like boxing (For fun obviously)

Getting into boxing and MMA etc really boosted my confidence as a kid.

Of course working out really helped
and you're already a rock star at that brother!

Does she show interest in your workouts etc?

She does, she pretty young, she's only 9. I got her on a little routine with body weight stuff. Once some more stuff opens up I'd like to get her back into dancing and karate.

 

[Demondosage]

Totally I had them in karate, then Corona hit and I still haven't gotten them back into it yet. Stuff in California is still pretty weird and I don't want them doing online instruction for karate it cost too much

Stuff in California has always been weird. Move!! Hahaha