theotherguy
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I’ll address the rest of this post later, I’m at the gym right now. But when I said I didn’t expect an answer to the question, is it as because I was wanting to provoke thought, not because I didn’t think you could it would answer it. Most people are unable to be so objective with themselves as you somewhat appear to be, and I respect that.I’m not sure why you don’t expect me to answer the question, as I think if done so far. Since you have shown me a modicum of respect, the least I can do is answer your question. No, I do not live in an echo chamber. While I generally coexist with like-minded people, I do have spirited debates from other sides. I have listened to media on both sides, although some on the side I disagree with are hard to take.
I am guessing I am in a slightly more unique position than many on this board, I am a gay woman. As a gay woman, I have seen many on the other side of the aisle who have denigrated my existence, who would prefer I live in a shadow, and who think my daughter is perpetually screwed because she has 2 mothers and not a “safe” household of 2 opposite-sex parents. Many of those who speak on those media outlets have specifically denounced my way of life and have likened my life to that of a pedophile. So no, I don’t spend a lot of my time listening to them because I am a living, breathing example of their utter incompetence and hatred for anything that they don’t understand or “agree” with.
We are all swayed by our own life experiences, I had to wait to get married, I had to pay extra in taxes because of this, I have to worry that the very decidedly right-leaning courts will listen to a court case that will take my marriage away. And yet I still try and hear the other side, even when they have consistently tried to tell me that my opinion doesn’t matter because I’m a lesser citizen anyways.
I do not immediately write off other views as unintelligent, most times I find them ill-informed or based on their own biases and hatred. But don’t pee on me and tell me it’s raining. Don’t tell me the vaccine is bad and then bath your children in lead and arsenic dirt. Don’t tell me you love this country and then treat the leader of the country as a God (isnt that was dictatorships look like?)
Sorry for the rambling but I just have a hard time understanding a lot of this stuff- this is my attempt at explaining why I look at things the way I do. I’d consider myself pretty rational, and maybe you think I’m just naive. Maybe I am?
I was raised to believe that being gay is wrong or immoral, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve realized I don’t actually care about sexual orientation because it doesn’t affect my life in the slightest. And as a red blooded American, I believe you have the right to do whatever you want so long as it isn’t impacting others.
however, what I think you are missing, is that, IMO, an overwhelming majority of people don’t care whether or not anyone is gay, or whatever their sexual preference is. How many people do you hear tell you that they actually couldn’t care less? None of those people, because they don’t care and it doesn’t affect them.
to be clear, when I say I don’t care and neither do others, it’s not a dismissive or insulting thing. It’s that it just doesn’t matter to me, nor should it matter to anyone besides you and your partner.
