I think it’s done

[Dead]

Had a long thread codependent on a girl with a kid that’s 23 with no car a kid her mom basically watches and raises and she’s just a total mess and was always talking about she wants a kid blah blah blah… bipolar narcissist cheater. Spoke to my family about this one and was like I thought I was getting played but maybe she just has no idea wtf she’s doing at all and they basically told me no. She’s not playing. She just has literally no idea what she is doing in life.

She officially wanted me to sign a lease and move in and her child was going to be there 24/7 and I’m not ready to start a family or live with a child especially one that didn’t come from me. She signed the lease and I obviously wasn’t going to. So it’s over now. It was a completely codependent relationship… she has no goals ambition she spends all her money on bullshit and hardly does much for her kid.

My point is she’s a mess. It hasn’t been 24 hours and I feel relief… I don’t even think I miss her that much. I’m just creating this thread to ask if I dodged a bullet? I was scared she was trying to baby trap me and get me to become mr provider or help her raise her kid or get child support that seemed like a serious scenario. I don’t think I realized how close I was playing with fire.

So I guess I’m just asking if I dodged a bullet and what could have potentially happened to my life if I kept this going on or even worse did decide to move in with her.

 

[MadBret]

Really tough to say, bud. Sounds like you weren't too attached anyway so probably for the best.

 

[Dead]

Really tough to say, bud. Sounds like you weren't too attached anyway so probably for the best.

Someone told me something that was really correct. I didn’t like her as a person but I was addicted to the attention and extreme clingyness. That’s all it was. Within the first couple weeks all I could think about was how much she annoyed me

 

[MadBret]

Sounds like she was more attached to you than the other way around. If you don't really have feelings for her, I think it would have been wrong to move in with her and continue to string her along when you really weren't too serious to begin with. Sounds like the best case scenario for you to have done it this way. And for her too, though she is likely hurt over it presently.

 

[Gbro]

All of the hell you put us through, and not a single pic

 

[deeeznuts]

Bro even if she had "just" done the cheating without all the other shit, it should have been game over.

But on top of that, there's this huge list of other things that's wrong with the relationship.

Honestly, I can't even understand how you made it this far with her.

 

[Dead]

Bro even if she had "just" done the cheating without all the other shit, it should have been game over.

But on top of that, there's this huge list of other things that's wrong with the relationship.

Honestly, I can't even understand how you made it this far with her.

Either do I. I was worried about being lonely. So I played dumb pretended to believe her excuses about how she wasn’t actually cheating and kept fucking her..

. I only toured the apartment with her because I thought my credit would be denied. Suddenly one day randomly she’s like we got approved and I’m like alright cool whatever. Then 30 minutes later she’s like “I signed the lease” I said you did what? Yeah I actually called and got that shit reversed since her rent was $250 more dollars than her current place because we “we’re gonna split it” I tried to save her from that atleast and she flipped shit in me so I called em back and told them not to reverse it.

Then she kept pushing me to sign the lease over the next few days. And there was no keeping this going after that. She wants to be a stay at home mom and do nothing

Let’s put it this way, if she was genuine and truthful I would’ve halted everything and told her I’m not looking to raise a child I don’t even know what I’m doing for myself in life right now.

But she was a liar and a cheat so I played her along as I continued to get hurt by some genuine feelings I did have.

She lost the opportunity at a family, a car, me paying for her schooling putting her kid through school and being a stay at home mom. Due to my income that would’ve changed when I got my degree. Oh and he rent is $250 more now. I NEVER TOLD HER TO SIGN. And THIS NEVER WOULD HAVE HAPPENED BUT SHE HAD THIS IDEA IN HER HEAD ALL THE WAY.

so In her head she kinda lost all of that but I knew this wasn’t the girl for me. Even if she never cheated. The only difference is I would’ve ended it the moment I started to feel I wasn’t ready to be a parent and been honest. But she said so much shit and did so much to me I just said okay I’ll just get out of this what I can until it meets it’s ending point.

I’m not proud of that decision. I’ll justify it by saying i did have some real feelings up until the end.

But I needed some sort of redemption after she dragged me through the gutter to continue my own path in life. It was that bad. To be honest at this moment.., I don’t feel damn thing over the whole ending. I’m just like well shit time to wait til I run into someone again whose hopefully better for me

 

[Dead]

Actually yesterday before it officially ended she hopped on a lesbian dating app, and she was searching up after the break up how to uhmmmm… “transfer energy through sex” yeah this girl is so lost it almost makes me feel bad despite everything she did to me

 

[Dead]

I had severe socially anxiety from losing a parent to cancer… after this situation I had everyone of my insecurities shit on that there’s nothing to fear anymore because it’s already been said to me. My scars my appearance all that blah blah. I’ve never felt so grounded and confident in my life. Not ssris benzos or therapy did this for me. So maybe that’s why it happened

 

[Dead]

I can’t help but feel a little victorious the way this ended.

 

[MFAAS]

I had severe socially anxiety from losing a parent to cancer… after this situation I had everyone of my insecurities shit on that there’s nothing to fear anymore because it’s already been said to me. My scars my appearance all that blah blah. I’ve never felt so grounded and confident in my life. Not ssris benzos or therapy did this for me. So maybe that’s why it happened

Take the hard times and make them into fuel. Take the bad shit you've been through and make it the reason not to fear anything else and just go out there and fucking get it. You can do whatever you put your mind to.. it might be hard. It might even be the fucking hardest thing you have ever done in your life. But you can do it. Push yourself and you will become a stronger, better, healthier person. Just like in the gym, but with other things: reading; studying; working; learning new things for pleasure or to increase your odds in life; finding new hobbies and things to do for fun. You might even find some new friends along the way that help you strive to be better.

Remember. You are the average of the 6 people you spend the most time with. That's why people who hang out with shitheads usually become shitheads pretty fast. I have done it in my teen years and early 20s. Then I switched it up and cut out the people who were holding me back. It was tough, but I wouldn't be where I am today without it...and I have a damn great life. So get out there and fucking go get it man.

 

[Cherokee]

Actually yesterday before it officially ended she hopped on a lesbian dating app, and she was searching up after the break up how to uhmmmm… “transfer energy through sex” yeah this girl is so lost it almost makes me feel bad despite everything she did to me

I had a girl tell me she fucks the best 1 week after SHARK WEEK. I think she said it's coming up soon.

She wants to fuck all week she said.

Now, explain that one for me.

 

[Dead]

I had a girl tell me she fucks the best 1 week after SHARK WEEK. I think she said it's coming up soon.

She wants to fuck all week she said.

Now, explain that one for me.

Lol who knows man.. I guess the only thing you can say is uh….

“Women logic…”

This bitch just emailed me some stupid tik tok about why she’ll never beg to be with me or some shit. I’m like okay but you still emailed me so… ur the one with a kid at 23 and no car. U already lost

Anyways I just ignored it… found myself laughing to myself in my car today… deuces bitch

 

[Canknucklehead]

 

[Jbone90]

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This 100% brother
Always gotta follow our own intuition.

 

[jJjburton]

3 days back together

 

[Dead]

3 days back together

Nah. She signed a lease that I wouldn’t sign she stuck paying a lot more money for a rent “we were supposed to split” that’s a Nail in the coffin. If anything she’ll come back and try to get herself pregnant

My family told me that even though I feel like it’s a nail in the coffin this girl is gonna be a lot harder to get rid of than I am thinking atm. Idk

 

[Dead]

I already made a tinder and this girl I keep seeing everywhere matched and messaged me and this girl from work has been texting me constantly and she’s hilarious. As I said. I was just lonely. I’m over this one finally.

I still almost feel bad and hate myself for feeling this way. This chick asking people for money left n right just to get to work like she’s so screwed it’s not good. But she burned the bridge with me

 

[MFAAS]

Nah. She signed a lease that I wouldn’t sign she stuck paying a lot more money for a rent “we were supposed to split” that’s a Nail in the coffin. If anything she’ll come back and try to get herself pregnant

My family told me that even though I feel like it’s a nail in the coffin this girl is gonna be a lot harder to get rid of than I am thinking atm. Idk

Just shows how insane she is and how desperate she is to try to trap someone into being with her. Yall would have been fighting. I guarantee she'd have been throwing dishes at you by week 3 lol.

Fucking psycho bitch, man...fucking psycho bitch.

 

[MFAAS]

I already made a tinder and this girl I keep seeing everywhere matched and messaged me and this girl from work has been texting me constantly and she’s hilarious. As I said. I was just lonely. I’m over this one finally.

I still almost feel bad and hate myself for feeling this way. This chick asking people for money left n right just to get to work like she’s so screwed it’s not good. But she burned the bridge with me

dude just block her on every social media you have. Block her phone number and everything you can. Never respond to anything she sends you again. She doesnt even exist anymore. Future interactions are restricted to higher quality human beings.