SprintR said:
I'm a 29yr old male who has never used AAS. The only serious drug i have taken in my life was accutane between the age of 20-22. My libido and sexual sensation has been declining gradually since the age of 25. Over the last 6 months, my libido has become extremely low. I have difficulty getting an erection, and when i do, i can never hold it for too long. What is perhaps most disturbing, however, is an almost complete loss in sexual sensation. Intercourse does not feel pleasurable to me at all. I may as well have an artificial penis attached to me. I find it very difficult to ejaculate, and if i do, it does not feel pleasurable.
I can't work out what has gone wrong with me. I feel quite healthy in other respects, I'm not under stress, my sleeping, eating and exercise habits are all normal. Body weight has remained the same, although strength levels are definitely down. I'm also not quite as energetic as I once was.
Obviously, it would be a good idea to consult my doctor, but before I do, can anyone guess what might be going on? Also, if I need to have some tests done, which ones should I have in case my doctor doesn't know which tests to order?
Thanks.
i was in your situation after a very long term period of abstinence. no one interetested me, so i kept it in my pants. eventually, my mind went off of sex and onto other things.
then, i hopped back into the sack with a chick, and i had your almost exact problem.
sex was strange and alien. uncomfortable and akward. i just wanted to hurry up and come or quit.
what got me back into the swing was her having a sense of humor about it, and me being very honest as to why i thought it was going on. so, for a few weeks the sex was lackluster, but i made sure to give oral liberally. she was into me for me, and that made a big difference as far as attitude.
life being what it is, we couldnt be together all the time. so i pretty much fucked her silly while i was around, then had a few days or a week without her.
over the period of about 2 and a half months, i went from almost functionally impotent, to minor ED, to pretty much back to a 16 year old. it took time, but i now have no trouble getting and maintaining a full erection throughout the entire sexual act. thats something most guys whove never had problems have trouble with.
i can say now that mine was a 'use it or lose it' problem. i had almost totally disconnected from my sexuality, and it took some time to reconnect. the effects are cascade, and too numerous to name here. but, if what im saying sounds familiar, hit me with a PM and well talk more in depth.
i almost made the mistake of becoming reliant on HRT, because i was convinced that my test had up and left me LOL.
as it stands now, no one has any complaints. indeed, its a personal triumph and a testament to patience and understanding.
i would imagine like many ppl who suffered or are suffering with ED, it really hurt my whole outlook on women. after i became aware that things had went south on me, out of no where seemingly, i took a dark opinion on the ladies.
there was hatred and jealousy there, certainly. but the biggest thing with me is, im going to be alone the rest of my life. im not talking about, well im not getting married. im talking about never having a close female relationship ever again.
im a young guy, who dates older girls. these women are not going to accept this. to a man who hasnt gotten married and was basically single, ED is a death sentence. you can only imagine the infidelity sure to be rampant in your relationships.
i was scared and pissed off. i had started going bald early, and here was another problem traditionally associated with age visited upon me, a young man. i didnt have the guts to tell any of the women i knew, lest it get out. lest i be laughed at, if not to my face behind my back.
its quite a secret to carry around. its almost like being a criminal on the run, because you are seperated by a thing only you know. you soon become apart from them, and them is the entire fucking world.
until i met the girl im currently with, i had made the desicion that i just wasnt going to date... ever. having this sort of talk with her before having sex wasnt easy, and i gave her the option to back out with no hard feelings on either side. i just asked that she keep this secret between us, and we could go on our merry ways. she said wed figure a way around it. and we did.
its not an easy thing to come to grips with, and luckily my issues werent of a medical nature. but dont do what i did, and this goes for everyone who reads this. do whatever it takes, even TRT, even viagra, to help yourself. the time wasted is what bothers me the most now.
upward and onward.
