ANY married VETs out there i need advice

[quedog123]

sup bros hanging around the board i notice alot of you older vets talkin about your wifes and and stuff most of them i am assuming know about your use of AAS. I am a younger bro no kid tho but my problem is that marrige is coming up with my current g/f and she has no idea about my use of aas i mean its nothing i am ashamed of but i just have never told her and felt better keeping it from her. any advice on what i should do i mean i am pretty good about being open and shit and dont want to have to lie but what if she flips out and tells me to loose the juice or somthin that aint kool. Please bros dont flame me on this im sure a couple of you are gonna be itchin to its just im am stumped on this one so my meso bros are where i am used to turning thanks
QUEDOG

 

[Bob Smith]

Educate her. Show her how the media bias is total propaganda. Have her read the articles on this site. Be knowledgeable enough yourself so that you can answer her questions.

 

[deadguy]

sup bros hanging around the board i notice alot of you older vets talkin about your wifes and and stuff most of them i am assuming know about your use of AAS. I am a younger bro no kid tho but my problem is that marrige is coming up with my current g/f and she has no idea about my use of aas i mean its nothing i am ashamed of but i just have never told her and felt better keeping it from her. any advice on what i should do i mean i am pretty good about being open and shit and dont want to have to lie but what if she flips out and tells me to loose the juice or somthin that aint kool. Please bros dont flame me on this im sure a couple of you are gonna be itchin to its just im am stumped on this one so my meso bros are where i am used to turning thanks
QUEDOG

Bro, I'm married, have been for almost 2 years, and with the same person for 3. She still doesn't know I use. I've been smart about it...eat alot, train hard, don't get angry or moody, and do smaller cycles that allow me to grow gradually and not overnight. I don't condone keeping it a secret, but if it's the juice or the girl, I'd pick the girl if you truly love her.

 

[Chip Bronson]

Bro, I'm married, have been for almost 2 years, and with the same person for 3. She still doesn't know I use. I've been smart about it...eat alot, train hard, don't get angry or moody, and do smaller cycles that allow me to grow gradually and not overnight. I don't condone keeping it a secret, but if it's the juice or the girl, I'd pick the girl if you truly love her.

well said deadguy. right on bro. i also agree with bob on educating her but i can tell you from experience, if your girl is against them, it won't work.

 

[quedog123]

Bro, I'm married, have been for almost 2 years, and with the same person for 3. She still doesn't know I use. I've been smart about it...eat alot, train hard, don't get angry or moody, and do smaller cycles that allow me to grow gradually and not overnight. I don't condone keeping it a secret, but if it's the juice or the girl, I'd pick the girl if you truly love her.

tru tru i hope it dont come down to that bro i am shootin for both as of right now

 

[monsoon]

you might want to feel her out about how she feels about them, maybe work it into light conversation.
I am very lucky with my wife, she knows and does not give me crap and is very discreet about it, people ask her all the time.

 

[peytonpaw]

I have been married for 13 years, and I say educating her is the best way to go...If your marriage starts with a lie then it can lead to nothing good....Hell my wife gives me my shots right in the ass...I think she gets off on doing it

 

[pgjy]

tell her the truth...I did what Bob said; about letting her (my wife) read about
steroids / sides. I read to her / with her. After 2 years of reading / research, I took the plunge...She is fine w/ the whole situations...and have her full support.

 

[maxx]

I have been married for 13 years, and I say educating her is the best way to go...If your marriage starts with a lie then it can lead to nothing good....Hell my wife gives me my shots right in the ass...I think she gets off on doing it

i agree dont lie to her.if shes not down with it,you may have to choose,but choose wisely.like bs said educate her and show her that its not all that bad if you go about the right way.i was up front with mine and she took it suprisingly well,and what cha know she does cycles now.its a very touchy subject,and i wish you all the luck.

maxx

 

[Grizzly]

I wish you had come to me a long time ago. This is why I mention it right off the bat. "Do you take steroids?" "Yeah, you got a problem with it?" This way, I never have to worry about getting into a situation like you are.

 

[Chip Bronson]

bros, it's not just about educating her. even after the educating, when she realizes that proper use with precautionary measures will not be harmful, if she is against aas there will be other obstacles to overcome with her. for example, she can say, hey regardless of health concerns, or lack of them, aas are still illegal and if you get busted, you get arrested have to spend time and money on a lawyer, risk losing your job, etc... how does education overcome this? it can't.

there is a reason this bro hasn't told his girl. i still agree with deadguy. sometimes it's just like fighting a losing battle.

 

[deadguy]

bros, it's not just about educating her. even after the educating, when she realizes that proper use with precautionary measures will not be harmful, if she is against aas there will be other obstacles to overcome with her. for example, she can say, hey regardless of health concerns, or lack of them, aas are still illegal and if you get busted, you get arrested have to spend time and money on a lawyer, risk losing your job, etc... how does education overcome this? it can't.

there is a reason this bro hasn't told his girl. i still agree with deadguy. sometimes it's just like fighting a losing battle.

I tried this angle once:

Wife...Can I get some fake tits?
Me...sure, but I get to start using steroids again(she knew i used before we met)
Wife...forget the tits then.

 

[monsoon]

I tried this angle once:

Wife...Can I get some fake tits?
Me...sure, but I get to start using steroids again(she knew i used before we met)
Wife...forget the tits then.

Too bad, that would have been a win win.

 

[Chip Bronson]

I tried this angle once:

Wife...Can I get some fake tits?
Me...sure, but I get to start using steroids again(she knew i used before we met)
Wife...forget the tits then.

don't i know it bro.... lol

 

[finafreak]

tru tru i hope it dont come down to that bro i am shootin for both as of right now

In all honesty bro,be truthful to ur marriage,.My wife knows that i use aas,I rather tell her than letting her find out on her own,.you know women ,when you keep anything hiding behind their back and they find out,they will flip out.

Good luck

fina

 

[Rod]

I disagree with everyone (except Chip until his last few sentences); I don't see why you need to tell her. I would only tell her if she asks you about it.

 

[eleven11]

Don't lie to her. That would be no different than keeping a drug habit from her. If she is truely your ultimate partner then educate her on it. and if she can't except it then thats a decision you are going to have to make. Better to know now then a couple years into a marrage. I've been with my wife for 24 years, amost 18 of that marrage. And I didn't even start till well after we were married and she knew it was something I wanted to do. I read up on it for almost a year before I did and she read most of what i did. Make sure you really know everything about someone before you marry them, and she has the right to know evrything about you too..........11

 

[finafreak]

I disagree with everyone (except Chip until his last few sentences); I don't see why you need to tell her. I would only tell her if she asks you about it.

Be a man about it,would u like your wife lie to you on her habits,.

Respect,Honesty,Loyalty-if she loves you,she won't mind.


peace
fina

 

[Hogg]

heaven forbid any of you guys that told the wifey about gear ever end up in divorce court...

HE USES STEROIDS!!!

Now apply that to a custody battle...you lose. Hell, it would probably affect an alimony hearing as well......you immediately become the anti-christ in the courtroom....there is no such thing as educating the masses for sake of changing their viewpoint. You either have a prescription which allows everyone to feel ok with the issue, or you are a felon using controlled substances and thus a piece of recalcitrant shit in the public's eye. There are no two ways about it......your chick can even compliment on how well you look, say it doesnt bother her, etc, but if the gloves come off and it is no longer 'til death do us part', you can rest assured that the issue can and will come back to haunt you.

Now on the other hand, take a guy like me for example, Ms. Hogg knows of my past steroid usage and we are getting married regardless. God help me if I am wrong about her character but I doubt we would ever get divorced (enter sucker here). If we did happen to get divorced at some point following marriage, if she was really pissed at me, she'd probably throw it out there.

"IF" I went back on without a doctor's prescription, you can rest assured that I would not tell her. She doesnt need to know....as fucked as that sounds. She knows enough about wellness clinics and the like so with a prescription, no problem....now mind you, its the same thing, I probably would never use more than HRT dosages now anyway, but the legality of my usage is critical if we ever walk into opposite sides of a courtroom.

Hedge your position brothers......you always have to hedge.

 

[peytonpaw]

Good reply eleven...See you have to respect the wisdom of the old married guys