Is seem like every where you go these days ass is in you face. In the Gym, IG Facebook. TV ads. It's seem now that I'm older that it just falls on my lap and I have to sorry Girl Im married. Is it because I'm married? maybe better looking or is it just that dam easy these days? It seems to such a hard struggle not to be tempted to cross that line.I never have but when it falls in your lap How do you guys that are married deal with that struggle?
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Being a Man and the Temptation temptress
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Rockclimber
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I think about my kids. I try not to think about my wife's infidelity either.
Same here. I've never acted on but in my mind it's a different place but at what point does that shit become unhealthy for the mind?
Yes, it's that easy and always has been. And if you think muscles make it easy, try throwing some cash around and see what happens.
To answer your question, if you're struggling to remain faithful to your wife, it might be time to reevaluate your marriage. Unless you've both agreed to an open relationship, which doesn't sound like the case, it shouldn't be difficult to stay faithful if you love your wife.
To answer your question, if you're struggling to remain faithful to your wife, it might be time to reevaluate your marriage. Unless you've both agreed to an open relationship, which doesn't sound like the case, it shouldn't be difficult to stay faithful if you love your wife.
System7
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this^^^^and I love my wife.
I've worked hard to get to where I'm at in life. Its Not worth throwing that away for a piece of ass. It is highly amusing when I'm out with my single friends and the girls are chasing me and settle for them. Particularly if they then date at all. Buddy knows it. The girl knows it.
When it becomes an obsession.
I never would but I love my wife we've been through to much
But I'm talking about in the mind and to what point do think that becomes unhealthy?
Thank you. Im very happily Married and very much in love I just feel guilty mind wise. And it can be hard to avoid some times
It's normal. The kids will keep you straight, think abt how it could hurt them, one dumb decision and your kids can grown up hating you
Im poor, old and ugly.
Problem solved.
Problem solved.
Very True brother and Im sure you know what I mean when your in the fitness industry and compete Its every where at times i do a good job of keeping it a bay and there are times that shit just creeps up on me. And I know its wrong some days it just tuff.
Thank you for the advice thats a good thing to think about
If it ever happens.do.it.smart. never confess and always deny.
Better to not.just do.it... but well we are imperfect human being.. mistakes will be made.. it's how you deal.with it that make a.difference.most of the time.
Better to not.just do.it... but well we are imperfect human being.. mistakes will be made.. it's how you deal.with it that make a.difference.most of the time.
elgriff
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Wife's infidelity either the kids wouldnt be on her mind kicking you to the curb
Bigweights2009
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If in a committed loving relationship then you should never make another female feel comfortable enough where she just "falls in your lap" and then you tell her you are married. It is one thing to look and think she is hot and what i could or would do. But when it gets to a point where your spouse begins to feel like they are not the one you look at in that way anymore or you find yourself attracted to other women more often then your spouse then that is when it begins to be unhealthy.
If you are feeling that guilty about just looking and begging to struggle to be faithful then there is something missing in your relationship that your eye has started to look for it elsewhere.
Cheating is one of the most painful ways to end a relationship. Especially if there are children involved. No matter how young or old they will hold resentment against the parent that cheated and destroyed the family.
If you truly are happy in your marriage and love her then you should be able to speak to your wife about your guilt and figure out together what is going wrong and either it can be fixed or not. Then you can decide together where to go from there and the pain and anger will not be from something to did.
We as fathers have to treat the mother of our children how you would want your daughters to be treated by their future spouse. They learn that from you.
We have to teach our sons to be hardworking, respectful, faithful men and show them how to treat women and children and provide for their families. As they one day will be in your same situation.
I am not saying in anyway that you treat your woman badly or with no respect.
just stating a fact in life as our children learn from fathers and are very important in their lives and we do not always get the importance of our capabilities in raising respectful, kind, loving, happy adults.
If you are feeling that guilty about just looking and begging to struggle to be faithful then there is something missing in your relationship that your eye has started to look for it elsewhere.
Cheating is one of the most painful ways to end a relationship. Especially if there are children involved. No matter how young or old they will hold resentment against the parent that cheated and destroyed the family.
If you truly are happy in your marriage and love her then you should be able to speak to your wife about your guilt and figure out together what is going wrong and either it can be fixed or not. Then you can decide together where to go from there and the pain and anger will not be from something to did.
We as fathers have to treat the mother of our children how you would want your daughters to be treated by their future spouse. They learn that from you.
We have to teach our sons to be hardworking, respectful, faithful men and show them how to treat women and children and provide for their families. As they one day will be in your same situation.
I am not saying in anyway that you treat your woman badly or with no respect.
just stating a fact in life as our children learn from fathers and are very important in their lives and we do not always get the importance of our capabilities in raising respectful, kind, loving, happy adults.
Wes G
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Well said !!
MamaLifts
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Know you directed your questions at the guys here, but...
IMO, having the temptation in no way means one needs to evaluate their relationship. That may be the case for some, but the one doesn't facilitate need for the other. To me, it's more of a need to evaluate yourself.. to learn how to keep your thoughts in check, which IS possible. It just takes discipline.
Recognizing that another person is attractive is normal, but that's where it needs to end. *Usually* someone would only approach another in "that way" if they sense some sort of green light. It starts with simple things like eye contact.. especially when it comes to someone you KNOW you find attractive. It can't always be avoided, but use a ONE second rule.. after that, LOOK AWAY! And do your best to not look in that direction again. We say a lot with our eyes.. keep it from ever starting there. May sound stupid, but when it comes to practical ways to deal with "animal instincts", reciting consequences isn't always the most helpful solution. You may need to come off as a cold asshole to some, but so be it! You don't need everyone to like you. However, you do need to like yourself. Laying down your self control & letting random bitches rule your mind isn't how to get it. There's pleasure to be had in knowing you're above it. Focus on that!
And if someone WERE to approach you, be short & quickly drop a line about your wife if the person needs further shutdown.
For the "if you really loved your spouse" view.. what's love anyway? It goes beyond some "feeling". It's about commitment- and that comes down to choice. Choose to be faithful & true to your spouse. We're ALL human & have different inclinations.. but it's definitely not an excuse for poor choices. It's a reason to recognize the bad shit you're prone to & taking whatever steps necessary to not go down that path. It's a reason to ask yourself "what kind of person do I want to be". We are in control of that [emoji1320]
IMO, having the temptation in no way means one needs to evaluate their relationship. That may be the case for some, but the one doesn't facilitate need for the other. To me, it's more of a need to evaluate yourself.. to learn how to keep your thoughts in check, which IS possible. It just takes discipline.
Recognizing that another person is attractive is normal, but that's where it needs to end. *Usually* someone would only approach another in "that way" if they sense some sort of green light. It starts with simple things like eye contact.. especially when it comes to someone you KNOW you find attractive. It can't always be avoided, but use a ONE second rule.. after that, LOOK AWAY! And do your best to not look in that direction again. We say a lot with our eyes.. keep it from ever starting there. May sound stupid, but when it comes to practical ways to deal with "animal instincts", reciting consequences isn't always the most helpful solution. You may need to come off as a cold asshole to some, but so be it! You don't need everyone to like you. However, you do need to like yourself. Laying down your self control & letting random bitches rule your mind isn't how to get it. There's pleasure to be had in knowing you're above it. Focus on that!
And if someone WERE to approach you, be short & quickly drop a line about your wife if the person needs further shutdown.
For the "if you really loved your spouse" view.. what's love anyway? It goes beyond some "feeling". It's about commitment- and that comes down to choice. Choose to be faithful & true to your spouse. We're ALL human & have different inclinations.. but it's definitely not an excuse for poor choices. It's a reason to recognize the bad shit you're prone to & taking whatever steps necessary to not go down that path. It's a reason to ask yourself "what kind of person do I want to be". We are in control of that [emoji1320]
Thank you. you defintly understand what I'm trying to talk about
. Its not that ever would(But I would like it to be most avoided that it never happens or put in a situation that it does come close). But I try my best to avoid it ever happening in the first place. and yes i tend to be too nice which can send off wrong messages. I defintly agree with your advice focus avoid, and let my wife know if i feel uncomfortable in a situation. Thank you so much.
It also puts me at ease that it's ok for some one else's to be attactive. And that's fine to think that but that's it! I believe that is some of the root of this this guilt I have that you can find some one else attactive other than you partner. BUT IT SHOULD STOP THERE.
I appreciate your response and really understanding what I was talking about mind wise. Thank you
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MamaLifts
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Definitely get it. Been married 13 yrs.. I've learned a lot & am still learning. We've all got our struggles. LIFE...
& You're Welcome [emoji846]
& You're Welcome [emoji846]
I actually enjoy being a prick to hot women. Kinda like Eastwood "Get off My Lawn" kinda way. Im committed so that pretty much gives me a green light to sluff off pussy like a dog shakes off water. Ya know...cuz im so hot?!?
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