Cheating

[TNH]

I see a lot of posts on here about cheating on wives or gf's. The shit I read here and the shit I see and hear when I go out makes me feel like humans are pieces of crap.
I'm 22, been in love with my girl for 1.5 years. She had to move a couple months ago and we tried long distance until I was going to be able to meet up with her permanently in two weeks. Unfortunately for me, she cheated on me before I got there. Breaks my fucking heart, which sounds gay, but what the fuck, that is the way I am feeling.
I used to fuck everyone, never gave a shit about anyone, and always wanted to be single.....until I met her. This was one of my only real relationships, I truly loved her, and I was always faithful to her. I don't want to go back to the old ways, I really liked being with one person I cared about.

I just feel like shit, kind of lost faith in women. Is there anyone out there worth trusting? I've never really felt like this before, not sure if it's normal or not....sucks ass though.

 

[Bob Smith]

Sorry to hear about the loss of your gf. Not all women are that...Ill be nice.

I find it disgusting reading through the board and seeing how people are bragging about tagging the girl at the bar while their wife sits home taking care of the kids or other such stories. Apparently a large percentage of men and women really are dirty scumbags who place no value in the sanctity of marriage or even a bf/gf relationship. To me, there is nothing honorable in cheating on a spouse. It makes you a loser, a total dirtbag.

 

[spound]

I definately agree....my mom went on a trip w/ one of my buddies moms and said they went out and had a few drinks and the next thing she knew, she saw my frined's mom making out w/ another man (and she is married) it just made me feel really weird inside. It kinda makes you not wanna trust anyone, but really not everyone is like this.
I just feel that when men do this same thing, they are not really living up to their responsibilities of being a man....i dont really know where im goin with this, just my thoughts on the topic

 

[Mark Kerr]

Sorry to hear that TNH, I really am. You seem like a great guy that didnt deserve that kind of treatment. You are right, sometimes this world seems sick, and I think in many ways it is. Being completely honest, I only trust 2 people in the world (myself and my father). He is going to die soon, so it is going to be just me. (BTW, I too have a GF of 1.5 years, so this really hits home for me). The only thing I can say is that keep trying to find the right girl for you. Statistically, a little over 50% of women have cheated on a spouse/loved one. There are faithful women out there, so I hear...

[MK]

P.S. If you ever need to talk to someone, dont hesitate to PM me bro.

 

[Southernjuice]

Men will be as faithful as their oppurtunities let them. Try being tempted by ten different beautiful women every time you go out...not saying cheating is right or justifiable but being faithful is hard with all those hot hunnys out there eager to worship you.I would like to believe that most cheaters are on their way out of the marriage and would not take advantage of their partners forever. However...cheating is not always just one persons fault....most will agree ,to include the women ,that if both were treating the other right and giving them what they needed it would'nt be happening.

 

[fatboy]

Cheating can come back to ruin your life, but good.
I cheated on my highschool sweethart, whom which I was engaged. she was my first love, but I was young and dumb.She found out, and still today hates me I think, but for me, the worst part I still think about her.

 

[Bob Smith]

Souther, I like you, but thats the lamest fuckin excuse Ive ever heard for cheating on someone! "Well, this chick at the bar was smokin hot..." Give me a fuckin break. If someone cheats on their wife because of that, then the wife deserves way better than what that guy is, because he is just a piece of shit. Now Im all steamed because of how f*ckin stupid that excuse really is, and that guys will actually try to use that as justification for banging some other chick. Holy shit!

 

[spound]

yes true, but if this was the case in the relationship, what is the point of continuing it and cheating. Shouldnt something like that be ended if it is unsalvagable

 

[Mark Kerr]

"However...cheating is not always just one persons fault....most will agree ,to include the women ,that if both were treating the other right and giving them what they needed it would'nt be happening."

So it is the ole' "if I think I should be richer then I should be allowed to steal from others" mentality eh?

P.S. Statisically, according to cnn.com, it is actually very common for people who cheat to be happily married. It usually isnt about happiness, it is about the thrill and excitement.

 

[Southernjuice]

"However...cheating is not always just one persons fault....most will agree ,to include the women ,that if both were treating the other right and giving them what they needed it would'nt be happening."

So it is the ole' "if I think I should be richer then I should be allowed to steal from others" mentality eh?

P.S. Statisically, according to cnn.com, it is actually very common for people who cheat to be happily married. It usually isnt about happiness, it is about the thrill and excitement.

No it the ole" If you was getting what you need at the house then you would'nt go looking around" Not hard to understand guys.I've went to bars with guys just like ya'll and I'll be damn when the skins come around they get unmarried as hell...

 

[Bob Smith]

However...cheating is not always just one persons fault....

Yes it is. 100% yes it is. Your wife didnt take off the other chicks clothes. She didnt pull your throbbing meat out and push your hips up against this hot chick at that bar. It absolutely is just 1 person fault for cheating. You decided to pick up this chick, drive to her place/sit in the car/whatever and steam up the windows for 15 minutes. The wife had nothing at all to do with that. Could their be other factors at home, sure, but that isnt even close to being a reason (notice I didnt say excuse) for cheating on your wife. Thats being a weakwilled boy. IMO, a real man wouldnt cheat on his wife.

 

[Southernjuice]

Souther, I like you, but thats the lamest fuckin excuse Ive ever heard for cheating on someone! "Well, this chick at the bar was smokin hot..." Give me a fuckin break. If someone cheats on their wife because of that, then the wife deserves way better than what that guy is, because he is just a piece of shit. Now Im all steamed because of how f*ckin stupid that excuse really is, and that guys will actually try to use that as justification for banging some other chick. Holy shit!

Nope reread the post chief....I admitted that it should not be justified by that excuse however that mentality is how it happens quite often. Yes I agree the wife deserves way better but maybe the man does too and that gets in your head when you're 2 sheets to the wind and this hot thang is offering to do to you what you hav'nt had done.

 

[Southernjuice]

I know right from wrong Bob i just try to speak truthfully...I no longer act that way but admit i hav'nt been faithful.

 

[Bob Smith]

Im the same. I cheated on my ex (we were together for about 5 years) literally dozens of times. No intercourse, but plenty of other. I only felt guilty the first few times. Now I look back and feel terrible about what I did to my ex (even though she never knew) and how much of a piece of shit I was. It disgusts me to think of how I acted.

 

[Southernjuice]

Yes it is. 100% yes it is. Your wife didnt take off the other chicks clothes. She didnt pull your throbbing meat out and push your hips up against this hot chick at that bar. It absolutely is just 1 person fault for cheating. You decided to pick up this chick, drive to her place/sit in the car/whatever and steam up the windows for 15 minutes. The wife had nothing at all to do with that. Could their be other factors at home, sure, but that isnt even close to being a reason (notice I didnt say excuse) for cheating on your wife. Thats being a weakwilled boy. IMO, a real man wouldnt cheat on his wife.

I have had friends who have been cheated on and the first thing i hear out of their mouths is...."What have I not given her...What did i do wrong...What does he do that I hav'nt... bet your bottom dollar if he thinks hard enough he'll find the answer...she probably begged him for whatever was missing for years to no avail. I would love to be able to sit at the table amongst you guys whom have obviously NEVER cheated but....I never will. I've made mistakes...I have been forgiven by the two people who count.

 

[Grizzly]

It's definitely SUPER hard to turn down the free ass being offered by the super hot chick. However, if you can't do it, then there is an obvious solution. Don't go out. It's cheaper to stay home and get drunk anyway.

 

[Southernjuice]

It's definitely SUPER hard to turn down the free ass being offered by the super hot chick. However, if you can't do it, then there is an obvious solution. Don't go out. It's cheaper to stay home and get drunk anyway.

I agree.....seems like a good solution....I'm cured!!!

 

[Mark Kerr]

Southern, I do respect your honesty, and I hope it doesnt seem like I am being disrespectful. However, I do have to disagree. A buddy of mine WORSHIPPED this girl he dated, and he was a great guy. He gave her jewelry, money, was nice to her, everything. But she was just a slut and slept with one of our friends (BTW, he got his, but that is another story). When he asked her why, what was wrong with him, crying, etc. Do you know what she said to him? "I do whatever I want. You dont tell me what to do! I'll fuck whoever I want, what are you gonna do about it?" (That is actually the exact time the man mention above got a horrible beating). There werent needs not being met, she just wanted to fuck someone else, she let lust overcome her and didnt care. I dont know many married people myself, but from the college girls I know...cheating isnt about needs being met, it is about being a fucking slut...

[MK]

 

[Mark Kerr]

Shit, we totally hijacked TNH's thread guys...

Lets remember why we are here, sorry TNH...

[MK]

P.S. My GF is mad I didnt include her in my trust list, but hey, "trust is earned, not given."

 

[Southernjuice]

Southern, I do respect your honesty, and I hope it doesnt seem like I am being disrespectful. However, I do have to disagree. A buddy of mine WORSHIPPED this girl he dated, and he was a great guy. He gave her jewelry, money, was nice to her, everything. But she was just a slut and slept with one of our friends (BTW, he got his, but that is another story). When he asked her why, what was wrong with him, crying, etc. Do you know what she said to him? "I do whatever I want. You dont tell me what to do! I'll fuck whoever I want, what are you gonna do about it?" (That is actually the exact time the man mention above got a horrible beating). There werent needs not being met, she just wanted to fuck someone else, she let lust overcome her and didnt care. I dont know many married people myself, but from the college girls I know...cheating isnt about needs being met, it is about being a fucking slut...

[MK]

I hear ya bro...no disrepect taken. Some of those needs i'm refering to are not material things...they are bedroom things.Some people are just plain sorry ass cheaters my man...just think that sometimes it's not that way.