Finding new friends?

[bolder]

After many years on drugs (pills) and ending a 12 yr marriage, then some jail time, I found myself starting over. I was by myself and didn’t have any friends because the two closest ones I had before had overdosed.
What I have learned from all that was I had to be happy with myself (love myself).
If I was happy by myself, and anywhere or anyone that I did hang out with, I was still happy. And if I was home alone I was also still happy.

Sometimes (marriage/relationships) just don’t work no matter what. In mine, we just brought out the worst in one another. Apart, we get along just fine.
Now I’ve found a wonderful woman whom I’m engaged to. We have a combined 6 kids, (4 are mine previous marriage) and I have a grandson and another grandbaby on the way apparently lol. (I’m only 36 lol) Never been happier though.
For me anyway, I think it’s from finding happiness in myself and loving myself and everything else fell into place.

 

[wedorecover]

Thanks WDR. Im tryin to make the most of a bad situation. It was inevitable anyways. We lost trust a few years after my son was born, which was 8yrs ago. Bitch wants to keep keepn roun, then she can keep her ass away from me....

Trust is huge man ..... iv ruin the trust in all my relationships ... its never the same after that .... and i know it’s hard when kids are involved man ... i have 3

 

[HIGHRISK]

Thanks 7DG. Yeah bro it sucks big time but the constant fightin infront of the kids shit was gettin old an they don't need to be seein that shit. It was time for me to step, so i did wit my head held high. A day later, i was replaced smfdh. It is what it is smh. Im a survivor an will keep on keepin on

I'm still having a rough time with this also.

Just for that fact of you not posting anymore naked photos

 

[x11]

Only one does not mean lonely one.

 

[johntt44]

Trust is huge man ..... iv ruin the trust in all my relationships ... its never the same after that .... and i know it’s hard when kids are involved man ... i have 3

This is exactly right! If you cant trust someone you'll eventually be apart anyway. I have a couple of formerly married friends whose wives cheated on them or they cheated. Every single one of them eventually got divorced. People dont get over losing trust, it would definitely be in the back of your mind, eating away.

 

[Morefyah]

Exactly what @Skull said. No better place to find people that love what you do at the place you love to be.
Ive always been curious about how many of us on meso have possibly seen each other or even workout at the same gym and never knew it.

I completely agree with your first sentence but I don’t think the gym is the best place to find a girl. Lol, well maybe a cougar. The reason being that it’s kinda played out and overdone. Most women are rocking there earphones and don’t want to be bothered.

I find women have more of a defense up at the gym then say chatting at the dog park.
Lol, but they’ll still eye fuck you. Even if they have a ring on there finger.

 

[x11]

Agree, gym is not the place to meet girls IMO......good place to find sources tho.

 

[Morefyah]

Agree, gym is not the place to meet girls IMO......good place to find sources tho.

Not at my gym ,so I don’t blend in very well.
I’m nothing special compared to guys on here.

 

[Sk8man101]

Yes sir

that sucks man..

 

[Skull]

that sucks man..

Its all good brother. Now im lookin at it like a new start to a new beginning. ...Life goes on an as long as i get to see an have my kids in my life....I will survive...Jus gotta keep my head up an focused on the better things that are in store

 

[x11]

@Skull, like your positive attitude bro, I can tell you gonna get past this.

Now its all about the quality of relationship with your kids, forgive yourself and your ex there doesn't have to be a fault of anyone. Life happens and unfolds in unpredictable ways that we would sometimes wish for other outcomes.

Keep your head up bro and walk a straight line.

 

[Skull]

@Skull, like your positive attitude bro, I can tell you gonna get past this.

Now its all about the quality of relationship with your kids, forgive yourself and your ex there doesn't have to be a fault of anyone. Life happens and unfolds in unpredictable ways that we would sometimes wish for other outcomes.

Keep your head up bro and walk a straight line.

Thanks for that brother. Your words are almost exactly what my bro jus told me tye other day. I have to forgive myself an her to ever get past it, even if shes in the wrong to forgive her anyways. Thats gunna be the hardest part but as each day goes by, its gettin easier an easier.....especially since tye recent visit with my kids. My lil boy which is now 9yrs told me all her an her new man do is fight an argue....makes me glad im not the person on the recieving end of the arguments anymore. Im currently on probation from her ass anyways. Ive fought way to many guys over the years an got into more trouble being with her than i ever did back when i was partying an doing drugs smh. I cant keep fighting for her an over her when its a losing battle even when i do when the fights, i still lose the war in the end. Time for me to step. Worst part about it us watchin my mom drive off with my kids an my lil 4yr girl is ballin her eyes put cuz she wants me to come back home with her smfdh....that puts me in instant tears

 

[HIGHRISK]

Thanks for that brother. Your words are almost exactly what my bro jus told me tye other day. I have to forgive myself an her to ever get past it, even if shes in the wrong to forgive her anyways. Thats gunna be the hardest part but as each day goes by, its gettin easier an easier.....especially since tye recent visit with my kids. My lil boy which is now 9yrs told me all her an her new man do is fight an argue....makes me glad im not the person on the recieving end of the arguments anymore. Im currently on probation from her ass anyways. Ive fought way to many guys over the years an got into more trouble being with her than i ever did back when i was partying an doing drugs smh. I cant keep fighting for her an over her when its a losing battle even when i do when the fights, i still lose the war in the end. Time for me to step. Worst part about it us watchin my mom drive off with my kids an my lil 4yr girl is ballin her eyes put cuz she wants me to come back home with her smfdh....that puts me in instant tears

Hey brother you just be the best fucking dad you can be and that's all you need to do!!! If you ever wanna get away brother you bring your ass down here and we'll take the jetskis to whore island and see how many bitches we can dump off the back of them! You'll forget all about her lol

 

[x11]

@Skull this gonna take more strength to stay above than all your best lifts in the gym wrapped into one.

That women gonna always be trying to frame you as the bad guy and poison the kids mind. Don't provide any evidence to reinforce that picture just provide evidence that you are positive, caring and loving albeit imperfect. The kid will eventually see what's being said doesn't match the reality. Be there for the long game not the momentary small shit.

 

[Skull]

Hey brother you just be the best fucking dad you can be and that's all you need to do!!! If you ever wanna get away brother you bring your ass down here and we'll take the jetskis to whore island and see how many bitches we can dump off the back of them! You'll forget all about her lol

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Damn if i had a license an a car, id have to bring my ass on over for a visit lmao. That sounds an looks like a giggidy good time bahahaha

@Skull this gonna take more strength to stay above than all your best lifts in the gym wrapped into one.

That women gonna always be trying to frame you as the bad guy and poison the kids mind. Don't provide any evidence to reinforce that picture just provide evidence that you are positive, caring and loving albeit imperfect. The kid will eventually see what's being said doesn't match the reality. Be there for the long game not the momentary small shit.

That is exactly what iam doing. Im playin the bigger person. Their is sucha thing as killin em with kindness. Theyd honeslty rather stay with me cuz all her an her new man has been doin is fightin...id say alot of it is over me. My boy says that she crys all the time. He said that she says its cuz her tummy hurts but my son isn't stupid. He looked at me an said....I know its cuza you daddy.....Yeah cuz she fuckin knows that i was a damn good father an provider. I know, she knows shes done went an fucked up 1 to many times....

 

[HIGHRISK]

Damn if i had a license an a car, id have to bring my ass on over for a visit lmao. That sounds an looks like a giggidy good time bahahaha

That is exactly what iam doing. Im playin the bigger person. Their is sucha thing as killin em with kindness. Theyd honeslty rather stay with me cuz all her an her new man has been doin is fightin...id say alot of it is over me. My boy says that she crys all the time. He said that she says its cuz her tummy hurts but my son isn't stupid. He looked at me an said....I know its cuza you daddy.....Yeah cuz she fuckin knows that i was a damn good father an provider. I know, she knows shes done went an fucked up 1 to many times....

Either way the invitation stands my brother!
Hey I can't PM you here but I sent you one on SG.