Ferret
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It's human nature. Yet... guys end up losing their houses, etc... for being so dumb to trust a woman.
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Guys over 30 who got married young, do you regret it?
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Bottom_Feeder
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Oh. For sure. It's more common than not. We used to have a "unconventional" type relationship also so...
Chieftain
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I think that youth exists, that it is to develop as much as possible, to invest in oneself and to know this world. And in the end, make a career and make money. And marriage and children, I think this is a little later
Chieftain
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Great story you have, man. I shake hands and am glad that everything turned out like this. Life loves to give us surprises and that's cool. The main thing is to find your person who will support you in any problems, ups and downs. Who will be your closest and best friend.
Chieftain
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What a completely creepy picture. The feeling that this is not about marriage, not about a wife, but about violence and prison. I don't think it's worth starting a relationship with such negative thoughts. It all depends on the people as usual. And here is not only love, but also respect for each other and friendship. And not banal only sex and attraction)
Ferret
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Humans are not monagamous creatures. Ask anyone who has been divorced, or had a long term relationship end if they once believed it would last forever! Then ask them how much they lost via a divorce or child support. It's your choice, look at life pragmatically, or be a fool and be treated like one by women.
Ninjaturtle2020
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My first girlfriend I met at 15. We dated until I was 28. She too was my best friend. By then we had grown into different people but I don't regret the experience. Nor am I implying people shouldn't try, just maybe avoid the marriage part due to statistics.
I nearly had the whole marriage experience but instead of divorce we broke up and she moved out lol.
Then I spent 28-32 being a fuckboy with excess money due to a union trade and now I'm 33 settled with another 'ride or die' girl who I also am not gonna marry.
Most women just want the wedding not the marriage. I've learned to train them(and myself) into what i want. My current girlfriend took up my motorcycle hobby, got her license and I picked up a baby kawasaki ninja as a 2nd bike for her to use, she also learned to swim, and accepted my firearms/redpilled herself.
She started working out more, brought her camping/kayaking. Now she's like a proud outdoorsy chick who can kinda swing an axe and park in the lines now. It's pretty cool, work in progress. I adopted all kinds of Asian culture. Going to temple to eat is legit af.
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The views on relationships and marriage in Meso always give me a good laugh.
Ferret
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Keep up the good training!
Bang the hos bro. It's less expensive.
Like said just above, hard to go wrong with some Asian cultures. Asians are giving and supportive and amazing in bed
Divorce rates have been high since I was a kid back in the early 70's.
Never buy into the propaganda and advertising of love everlasting. Study the people around you, spend time noting the divorced.
At my age I have no friends that haven't been divorced, many of them more than once. They spent years paying child support, some alimony. All of them were hurt financially and forced to work past the years they wish they could have retired.
Divorce rates can be deceiving, because less people are getting married and those that do probably are in a group less likely to get divorced cutting down on the number of high risk marriages.
If a man is well off financially, is well educated or highly skilled and in demand he won't have problems. If he's on shaky ground with regards to employment I would always steer this man clear of doing anything legally binding to avoid problems. To women you aren't the love of her life, you are resources, she is driven to nest and your job is to make sure her nest is to her satisfaction. If there are money problems, a women will quickly turn on you and attack.
Never buy into the propaganda and advertising of love everlasting. Study the people around you, spend time noting the divorced.
At my age I have no friends that haven't been divorced, many of them more than once. They spent years paying child support, some alimony. All of them were hurt financially and forced to work past the years they wish they could have retired.
Divorce rates can be deceiving, because less people are getting married and those that do probably are in a group less likely to get divorced cutting down on the number of high risk marriages.
If a man is well off financially, is well educated or highly skilled and in demand he won't have problems. If he's on shaky ground with regards to employment I would always steer this man clear of doing anything legally binding to avoid problems. To women you aren't the love of her life, you are resources, she is driven to nest and your job is to make sure her nest is to her satisfaction. If there are money problems, a women will quickly turn on you and attack.
Bottom_Feeder
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With basic knowledge of psychology, sex, and evolution. One can understand how to properly lead a partner and/or family. Leadership is one of the most overlooked rolls in any power dynamic. Monogamy is not natural in humans, but a healthy relationship is. Maybe I'm naive. Don't care either way. Would I ever get married again? No. Do I recommend others too? No.
The last paragraph, psychology and evolution. Well said. That is human nature. Think of any relationship they are all based off of selfishness from both parties with common ground, be your coworker or your partner.
I did NOT get married before 30 (still am not married after 30) and am very glad I didn't. Although I have been with the same woman for like 8 years and there is no sign of us having issues, I just don't really feel like marriage is worth it. The main benefit is that I would save like $12k a year on my taxes if I was married filing jointly. Oh well.
Always, always, always get a pre nup.
Also, even if we got married we wouldn't have a wedding. Neither of us are into it. I'm not spending thousands or tens of thousands of dollars to put on a show for a bunch of other people. I wont ask my parents to spend that either. It's just a stupid tradition. Stick that money in retirement savings or use it to buy a house instead. The whole wedding industry is just bullshit.
Always get a pre nup. If you don't feel comfortable enough to talk about a pre nup then you shouldn't be marrying this person.
I am also very glad I didn't fuck around too much and was able to stay 100% clean of STDs and I only wound up dating ONE crazy bitch and that was in high school. Everyone else was sane/stable and never had any issues with cheating or anything like that.
So yeah, have fun. But most importantly, figure your shit out and make yourself into the person you wanna be. Don't worry about societal or family expectations to get married or have kids. This is your life not theirs and you don't "owe them" grandkids or anything like that. So just do what makes you happy. Wear protection and don't get anyone pregnant.
Always, always, always get a pre nup.
Also, even if we got married we wouldn't have a wedding. Neither of us are into it. I'm not spending thousands or tens of thousands of dollars to put on a show for a bunch of other people. I wont ask my parents to spend that either. It's just a stupid tradition. Stick that money in retirement savings or use it to buy a house instead. The whole wedding industry is just bullshit.
Always get a pre nup. If you don't feel comfortable enough to talk about a pre nup then you shouldn't be marrying this person.
I am also very glad I didn't fuck around too much and was able to stay 100% clean of STDs and I only wound up dating ONE crazy bitch and that was in high school. Everyone else was sane/stable and never had any issues with cheating or anything like that.
So yeah, have fun. But most importantly, figure your shit out and make yourself into the person you wanna be. Don't worry about societal or family expectations to get married or have kids. This is your life not theirs and you don't "owe them" grandkids or anything like that. So just do what makes you happy. Wear protection and don't get anyone pregnant.
I agree with the above. Don't screw around too much. I've never been married and will never marry especially now that I'm almost 50. What it did for me was allowed me to save and invest 70% of my income for decades and basically retire, although I still work about 7-10 days a month, doing remodeling and jobs that put a nice amount of cash in my pocket so I don't have to pay taxes.
Guys that think having sex with lots of women is great. It's great until you catch an STD and it doesn't take much at all these days. I had one in my early 30's that damn near killed me and knocked me down for about 9 months. This STD caused so much pain that I had to sleep in ice cold baths because my temps were 108+, my eyes yellow, I wanted to claw my skin off and I had severe jaundice that even to this day elevates my liver enzymes. The women I caught this from didn't give a shit and she was off fucking some other guy in nothing flat. I'll probably get cancer when I'm older from that bitch.
I had a friend years ago that would never have sex with a women until she had a whole battery of tests done to make sure she was clean. He could get away with it because he had the looks and body of a Greek god, lots of money and high IQ, he ended up marrying a great women holding to his high standards.
Guys that think having sex with lots of women is great. It's great until you catch an STD and it doesn't take much at all these days. I had one in my early 30's that damn near killed me and knocked me down for about 9 months. This STD caused so much pain that I had to sleep in ice cold baths because my temps were 108+, my eyes yellow, I wanted to claw my skin off and I had severe jaundice that even to this day elevates my liver enzymes. The women I caught this from didn't give a shit and she was off fucking some other guy in nothing flat. I'll probably get cancer when I'm older from that bitch.
I had a friend years ago that would never have sex with a women until she had a whole battery of tests done to make sure she was clean. He could get away with it because he had the looks and body of a Greek god, lots of money and high IQ, he ended up marrying a great women holding to his high standards.
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Bottom_Feeder
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This guy gets it.
That might have worked back in the 50's or if you belong to a religious cult, but that doesn't fly with the modern women.
She knows the legal system and she knows it's been set up to protect her and any children.
You don't and you won't own anyone, the legal system owns your ass once you sign on the dotted line, I don't care what kind of pre-nup you sign, if there's children involved you're screwed if it goes bad.
The only marriages that I've seen last and be successful are hardcore Catholics as far as white western men. They have lots of kids, they tend to be very well educated and their kids end up the same. Of course I'm an atheist and view it as completely batshit crazy, but it does seem to work even if there's dysfunction hidden from most peoples sight like priests sticking their dicks in kids asses.
Bottom_Feeder
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You don't get it. If you read my other posts within this thread maybe you will. I do not live in the 50's and others that I know with a similar lifestyle do not either. I am not affiliated with any cult or cultists practices. Maybe you need to be saved by Jesus. But... I am not religious either. I actually believe in multi-verse or simulation theory. I am not educated. I got through high school with straight d's, but don't that that really counts. I think I may be a little sharper than the average spoon. Although it's possible there is some the Dunn Kroger effect going on... no worries you got time to Google that.
I do not know how you think what I meant or adamcarpenter said is slavery. That's how you interpreted it. There is/was a common saying in the soviet union... you pretend to pay us and we pretend to work. Everyone was basically a slave to the government in the ussr and that shit don't work. Ima attempt to verbalize this in a easy to consume text for all the smoother brain type folks.
It's a very simple concept of proper leadership within a household. A yin and yang the feminine and the masculine. Fuck, look at alot of lesbian couples, no offense to anyone or the lifestyle they choose, ya got butch... ya got bitch. Masculinity is on a rapid decline throughout the world. Extreme feminism and leftist ideology has changed cultures and dehumanized boys and men to submission. That's why everyone is now a winner. IMO that's why we have gender politics. I identify as a pegasus so... don't hate on me. That's why a woman can have a abortion with or without the consent of the father. Yet the father does not have a choice to walk away, he is forced to pay child support with or without consent.
Women love manley men. Most of the masculine men I have meet are gay. Stand the fuck up for your self every now and again. Fuck your lady lIke the slut that she is. Stop making pathetic excuses for what you have or have not done. Express your raw masculine and feed her feminine. The reason most people are in shitty situations is because of their own choices. Either accept it or don't make shitty life decisions. Every decision you made was your fault. Stop blaming others for your shitty life choices.
Many guys abuse aggressive behavior. Aggression is normal for men. It's also common for women to subconsciously mistake aggression for confidence. It's no secret women love a confident man. IMO it's why many women stay or go back into abusive relationships. When a woman leaves a man she usually does not go with a lower status male, it either lateral or higher. Women will also cheat sometimes with another man if her sexual desires are not met. That man will be usually used for sex. A man should be totally enthralled with HIS woman's orgasms if he wants to keep her around. Sex is probably the best way for a man to release his aggression.
Most women are naturally submissive and would love to follow if you are capable of leading. Alot women of power; ceo's, doctors, political figures etc. are usually submissive at home. They make big decisions all day and have alot of stress at work. Many would love to not make another decision when they get home and have a mate to make all decisions for them ie. this for dinner, wear this, sit on my face, whatever.
Through evolution a woman has the primal instinct to breed and be safe. In a heterosexual relationship that is a man's job in the terms of evolution. Make a woman feel safe financially, emotionally and physically. It can be a simple hand across her chest when you slam on the breaks while driving. Stand up for her in a combative argument, get into a fight for a just reason; win or lose... ya stood up for what you believed was right, etc. Figure out how to save some money. Let her talk your ear off and DONT try to fix the problem she is having, unless she asks for a solution. Men are physical beings, women are emotional listen to her....
Nice guys finish last. Assholes will come second. Primal confident, powerful and masculine men will always come first. Its HIS choice to figure this shit out. HIS choice to lead. HIS choice to come or go. HIS choice of woman. Fuck this shit irritates me. Hold my pinky, daddy can put it out there for you to read... If you can control yourself, not half assed, you can appease her. You can have a great relationship with any woman if you can lead her and your family properly. She would love to follow you, it's natural. That is how you can make a long term relationship last. This shit will probably get me a bunch of hate. Piss off to the haters. Go hate your life elsewhere.
Ferret
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Interesting...
The only thing I feel you are incorrect on is... letting a woman talk your ear off. I tell my woman... "When you are talking you are not thinking!"
I fully believe women are meant to be looked at, not listened to. A womans breasts should speak for themselves!
WeightLossBurn
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Your forum picture has a girl on all fours wearing hardly anything. Was that picture approved by the wife? Is that the wife? I'm struggling to look at that picture and take your heart felt emotions seriously.
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