Guys over 30 who got married young, do you regret it?

[CoffeeZombie]

Not 30+.

I agree with posters saying to start building capital and / or skills in your 20's. It's really nice to be in your 30's and have a degree (preferably masters or higher). You simply don't have time or the drive to achieve this when you're older, following strict orders from a prof to do nonsensical assignments is not something you should be looking forward to doing when you're 30+. Of course not everyone is capable of or aspires to do university. In that case it is important you find an industry you're comfortable working in that allows you to both build some capital as well as allows you to expand your skills (for example through certifications). These steps are far more important to your overall well being.

A marriage / relationship can cost you a lot of time. It's important to prioritize your education / career above your relationship at this stage. That doesn't mean that you should neglect your relationship, but it means that sometimes it might be smart to skip contact / meeting up for a bit since you need to allocate time elsewhere. Marriage is very difficult before 30 especially during the 18-25 stage, I don't think most people have business getting married at this age. Simply because at this age most are too busy getting into a career, completing education and are also quite immature when it comes to dating and expectations.

Although this seems logical, but as for me, if everything is fine with the organization of goals and the family is not a hindrance. More often than not, we hide behind a desire to build a family, some great goals, career, work and other moments)

 

[Ferret]

Life never turns out the way you plan it!

Get ready for a ride kid!

 

[Bigskip]

Go find 5 attractive women... look at their tits, then look at their ass. Do you only want to fuck one of them? Or all 5? There in lays your answer my son!

 

[Chieftain]

Life never turns out the way you plan it!

Get ready for a ride kid!

It always doesn't go according to plan, always). This is a part of life and this is its beauty, interest and complexity. If everything was known in advance, life would be boring and without surprises.

 

[MegaDaveMustang]

Interesting...

The only thing I feel you are incorrect on is... letting a woman talk your ear off. I tell my woman... "When you are talking you are not thinking!"

I fully believe women are meant to be looked at, not listened to. A womans breasts should speak for themselves!

The most appreciated thing I must give complete respect for in your post is that you understand the difference between "woman" and "women".

It's a minor annoyance of mine when people cannot comprehend or at least display that they get the proper way there...anyway, thanks for that, it was nice to see because it is becoming increasingly rare.

 

[crtx]

zero regrets. if anything would of got married earlier. had our 3 boys along the way. 40's around the corner wont be changing nappies but holidaying and enjoying our family time.

you find the one rest falls into pieces. no one tells you how hard kids are good luck to those in your 40's having kids late. your tired now thats nothings whats ahead.

 

[Chieftain]

The most appreciated thing I must give complete respect for in your post is that you understand the difference between "woman" and "women".

It's a minor annoyance of mine when people cannot comprehend or at least display that they get the proper way there...anyway, thanks for that, it was nice to see because it is becoming increasingly rare.

Often, any position is caused by overly negative emotions after the end of the relationship. And this, as a rule, is not always objective, or rather not at all objective. Then grievances, which later, after a long time, have to be regretted. That it was said on emotion

 

[Chieftain]

In general, I also read a lot of nagging words and experience. It seems that marriage is akin to prison and hard labor. And women are generally monsters) but they are not. Marriage is wonderful, as well as the beloved woman nearby, who is both a friend and a loved one, will always support you in the most difficult times. Guys, happiness to everyone)

 

[DannZ]

In general, I also read a lot of nagging words and experience. It seems that marriage is akin to prison and hard labor. And women are generally monsters) but they are not. Marriage is wonderful, as well as the beloved woman nearby, who is both a friend and a loved one, will always support you in the most difficult times. Guys, happiness to everyone)

Seems like absolute bullshit man. No way in hell liberated females will always be so pleasant and submissive for years in end like you suggest

 

[may2021]

Better yet, if marriage and her looks, are a concern, look at each of their mothers.

You see that fat ass, sagging tits and huge stomach, that each of their moms has in common?

That's her in 25 years, if you're lucky.

 

[Ferret]

Who's going to clean , cook, and shop for grocery's if you don't get married? That stuff isn't fun like jacking off. I mean, you don't need a woman for sex, but this other stuff, thats hard labor!

 

[z666z]

Marriage has absolutely no benefit to the man, it was set up for women and children just like our entire society. I've helped too many of my friends move out of their home they paid for when the women decided she wanted rid of what I would have considered pretty solid guys.

As for doing domesticated stuff, it's not that hard and most of the women these days can't cook. I haven't ever dated a women that could cook at all. I do all the cooking when I'm dating a women because I grew up with a dad that did all the cooking because everyone knows men are the best chefs on the planet. As for cleaning, I'm sorry to say, but most women are slobs these days. I keep a very clean house, the women I've dated were fkn nasty with hair all over the place.

 

[DannZ]

Marriage has absolutely no benefit to the man, it was set up for women and children just like our entire society. I've helped too many of my friends move out of their home they paid for when the women decided she wanted rid of what I would have considered pretty solid guys.

As for doing domesticated stuff, it's not that hard and most of the women these days can't cook. I haven't ever dated a women that could cook at all. I do all the cooking when I'm dating a women because I grew up with a dad that did all the cooking because everyone knows men are the best chefs on the planet. As for cleaning, I'm sorry to say, but most women are slobs these days. I keep a very clean house, the women I've dated were fkn nasty with hair all over the place.

99.99999% of men in the west over age 35 won’t have any other viable alternative than jerking off if they don’t settle down before then

Life gets kind of old when you’re older anyhow.

 

[z666z]

99.99999% of men in the west over age 35 won’t have any other viable alternative than jerking off if they don’t settle down before then

Life gets kind of old when you’re older anyhow.

It depends on your personality.

This idea that there is "one" ideal way to live life has probably made a lot of people miserable.

My personality is that I like to work alone. Before I retired my last job was setting up stat labs, setting up all the analyzers,tests, interfacing and validating with the information systems before they went live and the crew came in to take over the lab. I basically walked into empty clinics and hospitals before they went live and worked 18hr days 7 days a week. Often sleeping on the floor and wouldn't see anyone for weeks on end except perhaps the CEO who would come in to check on how I was getting along. I loved doing that, but eventually those jobs dried up and I left the profession. Give me a job that is nothing but endless problem solving, a phone number so I can talk to engineers, and leave me in a room and I'll be perfectly happy not to talk to anyone except over the phone for years.

This was my personality from the time I was a small child, my parents told me I just didn't care to talk to people I was off building stuff and doing my own thing. So marriage isn't something I've ever wanted, I want something to accomplish, I can't deal with the noise of a family and waste of time of wiping someones ass or cleaning up their problems.

I can honestly say I'm more lonely when I'm in a relationship, if I'm around family I can't wait until they leave so I can get back to something more productive. For me trying to please the female mind long term is an exercise in futility, it's program with too many bugs and sometimes it's best just to have some quick fun and get out of there before it blows up in your face.

 

[may2021]

It depends on your personality.

This idea that there is "one" ideal way to live life has probably made a lot of people miserable.

My personality is that I like to work alone. Before I retired my last job was setting up stat labs, setting up all the analyzers,tests, interfacing and validating with the information systems before they went live and the crew came in to take over the lab. I basically walked into empty clinics and hospitals before they went live and worked 18hr days 7 days a week. Often sleeping on the floor and wouldn't see anyone for weeks on end except perhaps the CEO who would come in to check on how I was getting along. I loved doing that, but eventually those jobs dried up and I left the profession. Give me a job that is nothing but endless problem solving, a phone number so I can talk to engineers, and leave me in a room and I'll be perfectly happy not to talk to anyone except over the phone for years.

This was my personality from the time I was a small child, my parents told me I just didn't care to talk to people I was off building stuff and doing my own thing. So marriage isn't something I've ever wanted, I want something to accomplish, I can't deal with the noise of a family and waste of time of wiping someones ass or cleaning up their problems.

I can honestly say I'm more lonely when I'm in a relationship, if I'm around family I can't wait until they leave so I can get back to something more productive. For me trying to please the female mind long term is an exercise in futility, it's program with too many bugs and sometimes it's best just to have some quick fun and get out of there before it blows up in your face.

Interesting. That sums up my personality as well: always trying to improve and dealing with other people's BS interferes with this. However, as I've gotten older, real companionship seems more... meaningful.

 

[Gbro]

It depends on your personality.

This idea that there is "one" ideal way to live life has probably made a lot of people miserable.

My personality is that I like to work alone. Before I retired my last job was setting up stat labs, setting up all the analyzers,tests, interfacing and validating with the information systems before they went live and the crew came in to take over the lab. I basically walked into empty clinics and hospitals before they went live and worked 18hr days 7 days a week. Often sleeping on the floor and wouldn't see anyone for weeks on end except perhaps the CEO who would come in to check on how I was getting along. I loved doing that, but eventually those jobs dried up and I left the profession. Give me a job that is nothing but endless problem solving, a phone number so I can talk to engineers, and leave me in a room and I'll be perfectly happy not to talk to anyone except over the phone for years.

This was my personality from the time I was a small child, my parents told me I just didn't care to talk to people I was off building stuff and doing my own thing. So marriage isn't something I've ever wanted, I want something to accomplish, I can't deal with the noise of a family and waste of time of wiping someones ass or cleaning up their problems.

I can honestly say I'm more lonely when I'm in a relationship, if I'm around family I can't wait until they leave so I can get back to something more productive. For me trying to please the female mind long term is an exercise in futility, it's program with too many bugs and sometimes it's best just to have some quick fun and get out of there before it blows up in your face.

Aspergers is a hell of a drug

 

[Villain]

I almost did that very thing last year with the most beautiful redhead I've ever seen. I still can't believe she was into me, beautiful. The thing is, there's only one thing you can have a meaningful conversation about with someone 30 years younger than yourself and as much fun as that would be for a short period of time, you basically end up raising another kid.

Big wisdom right here

 

[DannZ]

It depends on your personality.

This idea that there is "one" ideal way to live life has probably made a lot of people miserable.

My personality is that I like to work alone. Before I retired my last job was setting up stat labs, setting up all the analyzers,tests, interfacing and validating with the information systems before they went live and the crew came in to take over the lab. I basically walked into empty clinics and hospitals before they went live and worked 18hr days 7 days a week. Often sleeping on the floor and wouldn't see anyone for weeks on end except perhaps the CEO who would come in to check on how I was getting along. I loved doing that, but eventually those jobs dried up and I left the profession. Give me a job that is nothing but endless problem solving, a phone number so I can talk to engineers, and leave me in a room and I'll be perfectly happy not to talk to anyone except over the phone for years.

This was my personality from the time I was a small child, my parents told me I just didn't care to talk to people I was off building stuff and doing my own thing. So marriage isn't something I've ever wanted, I want something to accomplish, I can't deal with the noise of a family and waste of time of wiping someones ass or cleaning up their problems.

I can honestly say I'm more lonely when I'm in a relationship, if I'm around family I can't wait until they leave so I can get back to something more productive. For me trying to please the female mind long term is an exercise in futility, it's program with too many bugs and sometimes it's best just to have some quick fun and get out of there before it blows up in your face.

But jerking off for that many years or finding a chubby hooker now and then can’t possibly be acceptable

in fairness….most men in marriages are eventually jerking off for the rest of their life too, but then they have kids at least for what that’s worth

 

[z666z]

Aspergers is a hell of a drug

No I am a loner. Not a serial killer type, but I've read several books on the loner subject and I fit with those that like to work alone, accomplish alone. Every major thing I have every done and figured out was done alone. Having others around would cause me to lose focus.

It really has more to do with personal energy. Our society values those that are outgoing and extremely social, that is considered the ideal American person. Think Tony Robbins the self improvement guru/con-artist, he is what America is all about, all talk and bullshit to get you to drop your pants while he sticks his dick up your ass.

Those that just want to do their work, can't stand bullshit, fake compliments, talking about the weather and are probably a little weird and into stuff that is eccentric would be your loner type. We simply don't have the energy to play the game of reaching over and stroking someone off to let them know we care.

 

[Gbro]

No I am a loner. Not a serial killer type, but I've read several books on the loner subject and I fit with those that like to work alone, accomplish alone. Every major thing I have every done and figured out was done alone. Having others around would cause me to lose focus.

It really has more to do with personal energy. Our society values those that are outgoing and extremely social, that is considered the ideal American person. Think Tony Robbins the self improvement guru/con-artist, he is what America is all about, all talk and bullshit to get you to drop your pants while he sticks his dick up your ass.

Those that just want to do their work, can't stand bullshit, fake compliments, talking about the weather and are probably a little weird and into stuff that is eccentric would be your loner type. We simply don't have the energy to play the game of reaching over and stroking someone off to let them know we care.

Embrace your aspergers- you are in good company with it