You're correctly pointing out that people are talking through crossed wires all the time regarding this and they don't realise it. Probably because most of us are 'lifestyle ' guys, and many want the best of both worlds - ultra anabolism whilst looking stage-ripped year round. Even if it's possible to attain both, the pharma means will be too heavy (why is the last week of a show prep so intense and short duration? for a reason).
If you want the most anabolism, look will take a hit.
If you want the look, anabolism will take the hit (because you have to swap the focus to drier compounds that mostly are, by definition of being drier, providing a less anabolic environment).
I have accepted I'll get a drop in definition whilst building, then transition to what gives a 'better look' during periods of lower dosing to see what the growth phase built.