I am seeking help here because I am not finding it anywhere else. My husband is 45, showed low test. for his age, 45. Went on Androgel 5mg the same time he went on Zoloft 50mg. I tried to tell him not to start both the same day because you would not be able to figure out side effects if you had to but he did not listen. First 6 weeks were great. Saw dip mid December but not sure if it was due to seasonal affective disorder problem he has (we live in New England). Dr. doubled his Zoloft to 100 mg. and saw libido disappear. At the same time he had test. level done and saw that his number had gone from 390 (pre-Androgel) to 300 (post Androgel 5mg usage). Endo told him to go from 5mg to 7.5 mg for a few days and then go to 10mg. Did not listen to her, went straight to 10mg. He was very argumentative and yelling yesterday. Saying mean things to me. ETC. Annoying to kids/teasing them. I cannot deal with this part of him because he went off Paxil one year ago cold turkey (see a pattern with him not listening to dr's re: meds?) and he deteriorated into a violent jerk with extreme mood swings and got in trouble with cops. He left for a month and decided we should make it work...went though anger mgmt and counseling requirements from court. Once he went on Zoloft and 5mg Androgel, he improved. However his behavior for just the past 2 days on the 10 mg Andro. is scaring me. I think I remember that he was like this for a little while when he started on 5mg. but then calmed down. CAN SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME? Can this happen when someone doubles a dose? Can a guy calm down once your system gets used to the increased dosage? I desperately need someone to answer me because if he gets worse, like last year, I will need to leave him. This behavior is not ok, especially with children around. PLEASE HELP/ANSWER
BBC3 is quote obviously insane. I came here for help. You do not know us. You do not know that if he was like this to begin with, I would never have married him. I am the one chasing him. I have never lost my sexual appetite for him. I am the one requesting movies, dinners, buying lingerie. HE IS THE ONE WHO HAS CHANGED. I have supported him by going to doctors and trying to help research things for him. I gave us a chance even after he raised his hand to me, had my young son by the shoulders on the ground when he tried to defend me...why, because he was never like this before. He was a great guy and I suspected a problem with either depression or low T which would explain his mood problems. I could go on and on but I won't give you the satisfaction. I know someone exactly like you...people like you thrive on upsetting people, riling them up, and negative emotion. It appears from the length of your post and your grandiosity that you are most likely a person suffering from bipolar disorder. Could it be that you are off of your meds or you are not "person" enough (I won't say "man" enough because that does not suit you) to pursue treatment of your disorder.
Thank you to everyone who has been supportive.
I came to this site because it is difficult to find real-file Androgel users who are frank and honest. I wanted to see men actually post their true experiences. The same side effects that are specified on the Androgel web site and package info are repeated across the web on tons of sites. I wanted to get true feedback. I will post his numbers tomorrow.
BBC3 - I beg to differ. Bipolar is your true diagnosis. Read up on it and stop the denial.
My husband is a retired public safety officer (47 yo, retired with pension after 20 years). We still have a young child so is working a laid-back driving job he likes. He is a changed person after the 20 year public safety job (for the worse). Very angry, depression that presents with anger issues especially in winter (seasonal affective disorder). Child of an alcoholic who died from cirrhosis, a veteran (Navy on carrier...no combat but saw men die in machinery, etc.) Had to clean up after suicides with public safety job. Showing signs of PTSD, hypervigilance, etc. He had a breakdown two years ago after stopping Paxil cold turkey. Got in trouble with domestic issue at home, did what the state made him do to nolly the charge, entered marriage counseling with me, started Zoloft. Unfortunately, started Androgel at the same time so it is impossible to tell what the deal is now. He has since also had to go on Risperdol for additional issues. When he uses his Androgel, we all (kids and I) want to leave the house. Within a few minutes/hour and for many hours after, he is aggressive, boisterous, peeking at neighbors through the curtains and berating them, mean, verbally abusive, needling us about insanely tiny issues (like the noise a chair makes when you slide out from the table). He acts like a three-year old. Endo cut dose in half last year after he would get so angry that he would spit when he was yelling. That improved slightly but he is still way over the top. I fear that without the Zoloft and Risperdol he would be arrested again. When endo checked aromatase last time it was normal (really normal...not just what endos say is "within range"...believe me, I did my reseach). Some days he is better after application....weekends are horrible. I think that when he applies during the week he goes to work right after so many hours elapse before he is in our presence again. Weekends we are all around immediately after application. Please help if you have any ideas about what is going on here. I am ready to contact endo and complain (and yes, she does consider spouse's input). Please no negative comments. Truly looking to maintain peace in a marriage that survived twenty years of a career with an 85 percent divorce rate. Don't want Androgel to end our marriage. P.S. there is also a maternal family history of untreated depression and maternal aunt with schizophrenia.
BBC3 is quote obviously insane. I came here for help. You do not know us. You do not know that if he was like this to begin with, I would never have married him. I am the one chasing him. I have never lost my sexual appetite for him. I am the one requesting movies, dinners, buying lingerie. HE IS THE ONE WHO HAS CHANGED. I have supported him by going to doctors and trying to help research things for him. I gave us a chance even after he raised his hand to me, had my young son by the shoulders on the ground when he tried to defend me...why, because he was never like this before. He was a great guy and I suspected a problem with either depression or low T which would explain his mood problems. I could go on and on but I won't give you the satisfaction. I know someone exactly like you...people like you thrive on upsetting people, riling them up, and negative emotion. It appears from the length of your post and your grandiosity that you are most likely a person suffering from bipolar disorder. Could it be that you are off of your meds or you are not "person" enough (I won't say "man" enough because that does not suit you) to pursue treatment of your disorder.
Thank you to everyone who has been supportive.
I came to this site because it is difficult to find real-file Androgel users who are frank and honest. I wanted to see men actually post their true experiences. The same side effects that are specified on the Androgel web site and package info are repeated across the web on tons of sites. I wanted to get true feedback. I will post his numbers tomorrow.
BBC3 - I beg to differ. Bipolar is your true diagnosis. Read up on it and stop the denial.
My husband is a retired public safety officer (47 yo, retired with pension after 20 years). We still have a young child so is working a laid-back driving job he likes. He is a changed person after the 20 year public safety job (for the worse). Very angry, depression that presents with anger issues especially in winter (seasonal affective disorder). Child of an alcoholic who died from cirrhosis, a veteran (Navy on carrier...no combat but saw men die in machinery, etc.) Had to clean up after suicides with public safety job. Showing signs of PTSD, hypervigilance, etc. He had a breakdown two years ago after stopping Paxil cold turkey. Got in trouble with domestic issue at home, did what the state made him do to nolly the charge, entered marriage counseling with me, started Zoloft. Unfortunately, started Androgel at the same time so it is impossible to tell what the deal is now. He has since also had to go on Risperdol for additional issues. When he uses his Androgel, we all (kids and I) want to leave the house. Within a few minutes/hour and for many hours after, he is aggressive, boisterous, peeking at neighbors through the curtains and berating them, mean, verbally abusive, needling us about insanely tiny issues (like the noise a chair makes when you slide out from the table). He acts like a three-year old. Endo cut dose in half last year after he would get so angry that he would spit when he was yelling. That improved slightly but he is still way over the top. I fear that without the Zoloft and Risperdol he would be arrested again. When endo checked aromatase last time it was normal (really normal...not just what endos say is "within range"...believe me, I did my reseach). Some days he is better after application....weekends are horrible. I think that when he applies during the week he goes to work right after so many hours elapse before he is in our presence again. Weekends we are all around immediately after application. Please help if you have any ideas about what is going on here. I am ready to contact endo and complain (and yes, she does consider spouse's input). Please no negative comments. Truly looking to maintain peace in a marriage that survived twenty years of a career with an 85 percent divorce rate. Don't want Androgel to end our marriage. P.S. there is also a maternal family history of untreated depression and maternal aunt with schizophrenia.
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. If you truely convey to him your physical attraction and NEED for his cock as you personal "love toy", he will soon enough understand that this is unquestionable beyond a doubt and ease up to a healthy twice a week lifestyle. BUT YOU HAVE TO MAKE THEM COUNT LIKE HE NEEDS THEM TO!!!! And as you would have in the past..
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But it does not serve you so you rudely scoff, and insultingly reject!! Who is the atrocious scab of society now really?. Where have I seen that before??
