I've only been with this girl for a couple months (we met probably 5 months ago) and I've been thinking the last few days about breaking it off with her, and I'd really appreciate advice from you guys. I know a lot of you have been around the block a few times and hopefully can share some wisdom. I hate to sound like a pussy for asking for advice about this, but I've never been in an exclusive relationship before so this is all new to me, and I really don't know how to handle a situation like this.
She's a really good girl but I'm just not crazy about her. I was asking my buddies what they think about this and when they asked if I'm really into her/super happy with her, my response was along the lines of "ehh..." She's very pretty, she cooks, she's really cool and laid back, down to earth, her family loves me, her friends are all cool and fun to be around..
My problem is that I've been noticing that she's very immature. Now honestly, for her age (20), she's probably just as mature/immature as any other girl her age, so I feel bad for holding that against her, but regardless it does bother me a little. She also has a very poor attitude when it comes to handling controversy/problems. I don't know if this is related to her lack of maturity, or if that's just how most girls are and I should just accept it, or what. But either way it also bothers me.
For example: she's been having problems with her roommates lately, because her dog barks uncontrollably when she's not home and puts him in his crate. Understandably, her roommates have been getting very upset with her for not doing anything about this dog. And I don't blame them for a second. If one of my roommates got a dog and it wouldn't stfu when I was trying to sleep or do work or whatever, I would absolutely lose my shit. But my girl doesn't know what to do abut the dog, so instead of trying to fix the problem, she goes to her friend's place and drinks to forget about the situation, which really bothered me... I couldn't imagine personally having a problem that was negatively affecting my friends, and just not actively try to fix the problem.
My last issue isn't THAT big of a deal, but it's enough to be worth mentioning. I'm a very goal-oriented person, as I know you all are, hence being on meso in the first place, but she literally has zero goals or ambition to accomplish anything out of the ordinary. Just go to school, graduate, get a job, work/get married/whatever, retire, etc. I mean I guess she does have goal-job, so that's something, but that's about it. Is that just normal for women? I really don't know the answer. I'm only in my early 20s. Most of you are older and know a hell of a lot more than I do.
I just don't know what to do. I'm just worried of ending it and ending up regretting it later, for letting a good girl like her get away, but at the same time I'm just not crazy about her. We're together in the first place because she was really into me and I figured I'd give her a chance cause of all the positive qualities I mentioned earlier, so idk if I'm just not giving enough time for her to grow on me enough.
Thanks to anyone who actually read all this.
