I don’t know where to post this, sorry

[Jankauskas]

I know this isn’t the best place to post this but then again this is a subject that has nothing to do with this website, but for some reason this is the only place I wanted to share this, maybe because of the time that I spent here with you guys.

I know that sometimes I might have said some stupid shit in here and pissed people off but you guys are the closest to a family that I have where I can share my misfortunes without being judged.

I’m not posting this for you guys to have pity or anything like that, it’s just that I don’t know how to deal with this and maybe some of you have been through a similar situation.

A little over a week ago I broke up with my girlfriend, she was a really nice person and a great companion, but I just didn’t love her and wasn’t happy anymore, and sometimes I felt miserable because I was with her only for the comfort, it was a relationship of habit.

When I gave her the news she took it really bad. She told me to come pick up my stuff at her place and leave some of her things that I had at a time she wasn’t home.

And so I did, and while I was there I noticed she had bought cigarettes, which she had quit a long time ago. I quickly realized that she was going down a path of self destruction, and left her a note urging her to not destroy her life because of me, that I wanted her to be happy and successful.

I didn’t hear from her anymore.

Today I got a text from her pretty much stating that last Tuesday she had a irregular vaginal bleeding (sorry if that’s not the correct term), and that she went to a clinic and was told that she had just miscarried our 1 month old son.


When I read these words I didn’t know how to react or feel, I still don’t know. She was always a honest person, and a very good person for that matter, so I believe her 100%.

I don’t know what to say, think or feel about this.

I’m 29 years old but I feel like a teenage boy that doesn’t know how to deal with this situation.

If you guys want to share a similar story I would appreciate it.

Thanks for taking the time to reading my story.

 

[AlwaysHungry]

90% she's lying
Even she's the best girl she's a woman they do that kind of things only to see how you react.
And if you feel something to be with her again.
Just stay neutral

 

[Jankauskas]

90% she's lying
Even she's the beat girl she's a woman they do that kind of things only to see how you react.
And if you feel something to be with her again.
Just stay neutral

I believe in her but you gave some solid advice here.

thanks man

 

[TideGear]

I know this isn’t the best place to post this but then again this is a subject that has nothing to do with this website, but for some reason this is the only place I wanted to share this, maybe because of the time that I spent here with you guys.

I know that sometimes I might have said some stupid shit in here and pissed people off but you guys are the closest to a family that I have where I can share my misfortunes without being judged.

I’m not posting this for you guys to have pity or anything like that, it’s just that I don’t know how to deal with this and maybe some of you have been through a similar situation.

A little over a week ago I broke up with my girlfriend, she was a really nice person and a great companion, but I just didn’t love her and wasn’t happy anymore, and sometimes I felt miserable because I was with her only for the comfort, it was a relationship of habit.

When I gave her the news she took it really bad. She told me to come pick up my stuff at her place and leave some of her things that I had at a time she wasn’t home.

And so I did, and while I was there I noticed she had bought cigarettes, which she had quit a long time ago. I quickly realized that she was going down a path of self destruction, and left her a note urging her to not destroy her life because of me, that I wanted her to be happy and successful.

I didn’t hear from her anymore.

Today I got a text from her pretty much stating that last Tuesday she had a irregular vaginal bleeding (sorry if that’s not the correct term), and that she went to a clinic and was told that she had just miscarried our 1 month old son.


When I read these words I didn’t know how to react or feel, I still don’t know. She was always a honest person, and a very good person for that matter, so I believe her 100%.

I don’t know what to say, think or feel about this.

I’m 29 years old but I feel like a teenage boy that doesn’t know how to deal with this situation.

If you guys want to share a similar story I would appreciate it.

Thanks for taking the time to reading my story.

I agree with @AlwaysHungry that she's lying. I've broken up with women in similar situations and they always take it hard. All I can say is stay the course. You already know you did the right thing.

 

[Perrin Aybara]

Not saying it's impossible, but in my 20+ years of dating I've only had one ex that didn't turn vindictive in some way when we broke up. Whether it's true or not it changes nothing.

 

[TideGear]

Also, at one month how would she know it was a boy? Details man.. I just googled it and it takes 10 to 12 weeks. She's lying buddy.

 

[Jankauskas]

Also, at one month how would she know it was a boy? Details man.. I just googled it and it takes 10 to 12 weeks. She's lying buddy.

She didn’t explicitly say it was a boy, she said baby, it was my mistake when writing the post.

 

[TideGear]

She didn’t explicitly say it was a boy, she said baby, it was my mistake when writing the post.

Oh gotcha

 

[KetoMuscles]

I'm going to go from the other side. She's 100% telling the truth.
So you dodged a bullet.
I say show some compassion. It's hard for women to lose a baby. Ask her if she's ok. If you want, tell her it makes you sad to hear that. You can also tell her that maybe its for the best.
Dude, she's not asking you for anything. Talking to her doesn't mean you're back together.
If she's lying then it's bad karma on her. And so what?
Be a man. Be a decent human being. What do you have to lose.
Get the good karma for seeing if she's ok.
JMHO

 

[Sworder]

I believe in her but you gave some solid advice here.

thanks man

She is lying. You are experiencing the "halo effect" basically you think she is an angel because of your love for her.

This break-up is part of the emotional learning process, we all have been there and it's scary for everybody. Thanks for sharing this here, that means that you like us and trust our support and opinions.

Keep your head up and you can't save everybody.
If you try to make everybody else happy you will get stuck doing that non-stop and your own life will be miserable. Hakuna matata

 

[GarlicChicken]

90% she's lying
Even she's the best girl she's a woman they do that kind of things only to see how you react.
And if you feel something to be with her again.
Just stay neutral

I agree 100%. Almost guaranteed to be a lie

 

[johntt44]

Be the decent person you've always been. Just take her word for it, be nice, but still move on. Theres no reason to be cold towards her at this point. Be a gentleman but dont let that story whether true or not, sway your resolve.

 

[jJjburton]

Not saying it's impossible, but in my 20+ years of dating I've only had one ex that didn't turn vindictive in some way when we broke up. Whether it's true or not it changes nothing.

That is so true.

 

[JMpMasterSteve]

Masturbate for post nut clarity

 

[murray312]

Lie. Absolutely. She just happen to miscarriage your child right after breaking up. Yea Ok. No offense brother.

 

[murray312]

On a side note. I feel like I can relate to your feeling of staying in a long term relationship because it's comfortable. I'm in a similar situation. We argue all the time. I really think we make each other miserable but we own a house together along with all our other bills are intertwined. I commend you for making the decision to end the relationship.

 

[Eman]

You'll both get over it. It feels strange at first, makes you question your preconceived thoughts about a lot of things. It will always feel strange when you look back on it and you'll probably never know how to feel about it. But you'll think about it less and less as time goes on and you'll both move on and start relationships that you're (hopefully) happier in.

It's possible she's lying but I think that's just an easier idea than the alternative. Be kind, tell her you're thinking of her but you feel like you're making the best decision for yourself and for her even if it doesn't feel that way now.

 

[CDNGass]

I’m sorry to hear that brother. Me and my wife have miscarried twice , and I can tell you it’s way harder on the girl. You sound like a good guy. I can’t help but feel that you and I are a lot alike from the way you speak of your ex. Be there for her as best you can. Don’t assume or accuse, in the end it doesn’t matter if she’s lying or telling the truth. She’s hurting right now. You can be there for her and not still be together. Anyway things will get better man . Chin up

 

[CDNGass]

On a side note. I feel like I can relate to your feeling of staying in a long term relationship because it's comfortable. I'm in a similar situation. We argue all the time. I really think we make each other miserable but we own a house together along with all our other bills are intertwined. I commend you for making the decision to end the relationship.

I’m in the same boat buddy, just add two kids to the equation.

 

[Jankauskas]

I want to thank you all for your messages and words of encouragement.

I talked to her about it and offered my support, but she seems to insist in painting me as a villain, and even though she does not say it I think she blames me for what happened.

I always treated her with respect and will continue to do so, I’m not tossing blame around, because it’s no ones fault.

I wasn’t happy and I ended our relationship, I didn’t know that she was pregnant, and neither did she.

To the couple of guys that said they were in the same situation, just talk to your girls and end it.

There is nothing more miserable than being in a relationship because of habit.

Even if you have kids, there is this preconceived notion that the parents should stay together for their sake, I think that is some bullshit, because kids aren’t dumb.

They will grow up in the midst of conflict and strife, and that’s not a good environment for children to grow up in.

Just man up and end it, it took me some time to do it myself, and maybe if I had done it sooner this situation wouldn’t have gotten out of hand the way it did.