I don’t know where to post this, sorry

[jaymaximus]

Bullsh*t. I had a chick tell me she was pregnant, we started talking again, and she magically miscarried. Just be happy she really wasn't pregnant and you didn't end up in a loveless partnership based around a kid. Remember in the future, if you don't see someone as mom material, wrap up! Don't trust any birth control talk. Don't have unprotected sex until you've been married at least 10, maybe 15 years, enough time to REALLY get to know her.

 

[Iron_Yuppie]

You will need to find out the truth at some point. Maybe she’s lying, maybe she’s not. But one day—after you’ve put some distance between you and this breakup—you’ll need to know if she really did miscarry. Because I don’t go more than a few days without thinking about the child my wife and I never got to meet. It’ll be five years in January. Since then we both moved on, got divorced, and I’m getting remarried. But I’ll never get over the hurt of knowing that my son will have that little brother. So you really, really need to be certain. Because it’ll mess with you for years to come.

 

[Iron_Yuppie]

But I’ll never get over the hurt of knowing that my son will have that little brother.

Obviously I meant will not have that little brother. Otherwise that sentence makes no sense.

 

[Jankauskas]

You will need to find out the truth at some point. Maybe she’s lying, maybe she’s not. But one day—after you’ve put some distance between you and this breakup—you’ll need to know if she really did miscarry. Because I don’t go more than a few days without thinking about the child my wife and I never got to meet. It’ll be five years in January. Since then we both moved on, got divorced, and I’m getting remarried. But I’ll never get over the hurt of knowing that my son will have that little brother. So you really, really need to be certain. Because it’ll mess with you for years to come.

That’s how I feel. That I lost the baby I never got to know, maybe it would have been someone important, and not a loser piece of shit like me...

 

[Iron_Yuppie]

That’s how I feel. That I lost the baby I never got to know, maybe it would have been someone important, and not a loser piece of shit like me...

Usually loser pieces of shit don’t do as much introspection as you’ve done here. You left a relationship because staying and lying to her would have been worse. That’s the right thing to do. And you didn’t cause her miscarriage. That’s not how it works. From where I’m sitting you look like a decent guy who’s trying to make the best of a tough situation.

 

[WolfGain]

I know this isn’t the best place to post this but then again this is a subject that has nothing to do with this website, but for some reason this is the only place I wanted to share this, maybe because of the time that I spent here with you guys.

I know that sometimes I might have said some stupid shit in here and pissed people off but you guys are the closest to a family that I have where I can share my misfortunes without being judged.

I’m not posting this for you guys to have pity or anything like that, it’s just that I don’t know how to deal with this and maybe some of you have been through a similar situation.

A little over a week ago I broke up with my girlfriend, she was a really nice person and a great companion, but I just didn’t love her and wasn’t happy anymore, and sometimes I felt miserable because I was with her only for the comfort, it was a relationship of habit.

When I gave her the news she took it really bad. She told me to come pick up my stuff at her place and leave some of her things that I had at a time she wasn’t home.

And so I did, and while I was there I noticed she had bought cigarettes, which she had quit a long time ago. I quickly realized that she was going down a path of self destruction, and left her a note urging her to not destroy her life because of me, that I wanted her to be happy and successful.

I didn’t hear from her anymore.

Today I got a text from her pretty much stating that last Tuesday she had a irregular vaginal bleeding (sorry if that’s not the correct term), and that she went to a clinic and was told that she had just miscarried our 1 month old son.


When I read these words I didn’t know how to react or feel, I still don’t know. She was always a honest person, and a very good person for that matter, so I believe her 100%.

I don’t know what to say, think or feel about this.

I’m 29 years old but I feel like a teenage boy that doesn’t know how to deal with this situation.

If you guys want to share a similar story I would appreciate it.

Thanks for taking the time to reading my story.

Dude.. u dodged a bullet.. a 50 Cal. Don't be all sensitive bro. You're gonna meet a bitch one day you have no problems with and thank the high heavens you took so long to find her and maybe the same chick ur talking about just a different mindset later on who knows......... Be strong ppl are unpredictable

 

[Jankauskas]

Usually loser pieces of shit don’t do as much introspection as you’ve done here. You left a relationship because staying and lying to her would have been worse. That’s the right thing to do. And you didn’t cause her miscarriage. That’s not how it works. From where I’m sitting you look like a decent guy who’s trying to make the best of a tough situation.

Thanks man.

being in a loveless relationship is the most miserable feeling in the world.

You feel bad about yourself and you feel sorry for your partner and it all melds into a negative cloud that’s over your head all the time.

I felt bad for her when I ended it, but I felt at peace when I got home and laid in my bed at night.

 

[johntt44]

That’s how I feel. That I lost the baby I never got to know, maybe it would have been someone important, and not a loser piece of shit like me...

You did the right thing. Nobody can make themselves love somebody, it's impossible. She'll come to realize this eventually. You know how many times in my lifetime I've heard someone say they didnt "click" with another person? My wife even told me that the guy she went out with before me was just about perfect but he didnt click for her and she couldnt put it in words. That's a real thing but you cant define it, right? Now shes stuck with me!

 

[gear shef]

She’s lying

And in the hypothetical situation that’s she’s not. There isn’t a whole lot to deal with here, if anything.

If you don’t love her you don’t man. Nothing wrong with being friendly after the breakup but don’t fall for this sympathy crap.

Oh and One more thing. Wrap that shit up till your married. Wtf are you thinking man. You don’t want to end up having kids with someone if it ain’t gonna work out.

 

[johntt44]

Bullsh*t. I had a chick tell me she was pregnant, we started talking again, and she magically miscarried. Just be happy she really wasn't pregnant and you didn't end up in a loveless partnership based around a kid. Remember in the future, if you don't see someone as mom material, wrap up! Don't trust any birth control talk. Don't have unprotected sex until you've been married at least 10, maybe 15 years, enough time to REALLY get to know her.

I cant believe someone could lie to someone like that! Crazy.

 

[Jankauskas]

She’s lying

And in the hypothetical situation that’s she’s not. There isn’t a whole lot to deal with here, if anything.

If you don’t love her you don’t man. Nothing wrong with being friendly after the breakup but don’t fall for this sympathy crap.

Oh and One more thing. Wrap that shit up till your married. Wtf are you thinking man. You don’t want to end up having kids with someone if it ain’t gonna work out.

Man im fucking crazy in the head to be honest, I just love to fuck girls raw and you can say I’m the most irresponsible idiot on the planet and it might be true.

I just don’t have a lot of sensation down there for some reason and with a condom I feel like I’m fucking a cloud.

 

[Jankauskas]

You did the right thing. Nobody can make themselves love somebody, it's impossible. She'll come to realize this eventually. You know how many times in my lifetime I've heard someone say they didnt "click" with another person? My wife even told me that the guy she went out with before me was just about perfect but he didnt click for her and she couldnt put it in words. That's a real thing but you cant define it, right? Now shes stuck with me!

I know exactly what you mean with te clicking thing, it might sound like woman talk but that’s the way I have to feel for things to work.

I have met girls I have fallen in love with in just a couple of days after meeting them, and I was with this one over a year and never felt that.

 

[johntt44]

Man im fucking crazy in the head to be honest, I just love to fuck girls raw and you can say I’m the most irresponsible idiot on the planet and it might be true.

I just don’t have a lot of sensation down there for some reason and with a condom I feel like I’m fucking a cloud.

I've worn a condom exactly once! I've been married a long time but before that I was just winging it. I'd be like"shes way too cute to have vd, I'll be fine."

 

[Jankauskas]

I've worn a condom exactly once! I've been married a long time but before that I was just winging it. I'd be like"shes way too cute to have vd, I'll be fine."

I have worn it once also with a girl that refused to do it without it.

All the other ones didn’t care in the heat of the moment and neither did I.

I am by no means endorsing that people shouldn’t wear protection, this is especially for the young guys out there that see this

If I wore one I would have averted this misery.

 

[johntt44]

I know exactly what you mean with te clicking thing, it might sound like woman talk but that’s the way I have to feel for things to work.

I have met girls I have fallen in love with in just a couple of days after meeting them, and I was with this one over a year and never felt that.

Yeah, its mostly a woman thing but they seem to be onto something. I dated a girl who was on one of those water ski teams where they stand on each others shoulders(Ski a rees). She was beautiful, funny, etc. I could barely find common ground to have a conversation with her though. I actually told her that when I broke up with her. We only had about 2mos invested though. The longer it is the harder it gets.

 

[Sworder]

To the couple of guys that said they were in the same situation, just talk to your girls and end it.

There is nothing more miserable than being in a relationship because of habit.

Even if you have kids, there is this preconceived notion that the parents should stay together for their sake, I think that is some bullshit, because kids aren’t dumb.

They will grow up in the midst of conflict and strife, and that’s not a good environment for children to grow up in.

Just man up and end it,

Okay, listen here... Just because your piece of shit father left you, or you left your kid. That does NOT mean you should advise others to be DEAD BEAT DADS. Do you know what you do? You MAN UP and get along with your wife, you become cordial but keep it together for that BABY that you had?! Are you fudging kidding me? Are you??

You CREATED something, so it's your fudging RESPONSIBILITY to MAN UP and spend the first 18 years of that child's life to ensuring they go to sleep EVERY NIGHT! To kiss and hug, to tell that baby she or he is the most beautiful thing in the world, he is smart and so forth. Do that for 18 years! That is your responsibility buddy, and your wife's. Don't ever think that just because you don't realize that you are a fudge up you should spread that BS here.

Oh, if this was a troll. It was executed perfectly.

 

[johntt44]

Okay, listen here... Just because your piece of shit father left you, or you left your kid. That does NOT mean you should advise others to be DEAD BEAT DADS. Do you know what you do? You MAN UP and get along with your wife, you become cordial but keep it together for that BABY that you had?! Are you fudging kidding me? Are you??

You CREATED something, so it's your fudging RESPONSIBILITY to MAN UP and spend the first 18 years of that child's life to ensure that they go to sleep EVERY NIGHT for 18 years! To kiss and hug, to tell that baby she or he is the most beautiful thing in the world, he is smart and so forth. Do that for 18 years! That is your responsibility buddy. Don't ever think that just because you don't realize that you are a fudge up you should spread that BS here.

Oh, if this was a troll. It was executed perfectly.

What's worse for a kid? Being raised in a toxic, unloving relationship with bitterness, resentment and anger or seeing your dad on the wknds without the hate/fighting. Obviously people in this situation shouldn't be having kids in the first place.Ive known people who loved both their step dads/moms and their own dads/moms. It can work, not optimal but doable.

 

[Sworder]

What's worse for a kid? Being raised in a toxic, unloving relationship with bitterness, resentment and anger or seeing your dad on the wknds without the hate/fighting. Obviously people in this situation shouldn't be having kids in the first place.

Toxic relationship? You get along, you are two adults. ACT LIKE IT! Raise that child together. No sex for 18 years, hey that was your decision pal!

Or what? You are too horny? You need to fudge b!tches?! >.>

 

[johntt44]

Toxic relationship? You get along, you are two adults. ACT LIKE IT! Raise that child together. No sex for 18 years, hey that was your decision pal!

Or what? You are too horny? You need to fudge b!tches?! >.>

Not me personally. I'd raise my kid and not fight. Everybody is not cut from the same mold though, right?

 

[Sworder]

Not me personally. I'd raise my kid and not fight. Everybody is not cut from the same mold though, right?

Yes, we are. In the very beginning we are. But we get so jaded through trauma.