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[Jankauskas]

Okay, listen here... Just because your piece of shit father left you, or you left your kid. That does NOT mean you should advise others to be DEAD BEAT DADS. Do you know what you do? You MAN UP and get along with your wife, you become cordial but keep it together for that BABY that you had?! Are you fudging kidding me? Are you??

You CREATED something, so it's your fudging RESPONSIBILITY to MAN UP and spend the first 18 years of that child's life to ensuring they go to sleep EVERY NIGHT! To kiss and hug, to tell that baby she or he is the most beautiful thing in the world, he is smart and so forth. Do that for 18 years! That is your responsibility buddy, and your wife's. Don't ever think that just because you don't realize that you are a fudge up you should spread that BS here.

Oh, if this was a troll. It was executed perfectly.

Man my old man didn’t abandon me.

When I say they should split,
I don’t mean the father should abandon the kids, he should still be there to support them.

You can’t be serious when you say you should stay married in a loveless relationship for a lifetime for your kids sake man, that’s some fucked up shit right there.

What it seems to me is that maybe your father left you and your mother and you resent him for that? I don’t know.....

 

[Oldschool]

I used to think like many of you younger guys stating "you dodged a bullet". Becoming a father is the greatest thing to ever happen to me. Creating something so special is awesome. The love your kids show you is stronger than from anywhere else trust me. It's a good fucking thing! I do think you got lied to @Jankauskas . Just be cordial to her and move on. Sorry this has happened to you. You are good people. Keep your head up.

 

[Jankauskas]

I used to think like many of you younger guys stating "you dodged a bullet". Becoming a father is the greatest thing to ever happen to me. Creating something so special is awesome. The love your kids show you is stronger than from anywhere else trust me. It's a good fucking thing! I do think you got lied to @Jankauskas . Just be cordial to her and move on. Sorry this has happened to you. You are good people. Keep your head up.

I don’t think I dodged any bullet, I’m sad that I never got to meet my child man, I think the guys that say that don’t have the maturity to understand that yet.

thanks for the kind words man.

 

[gear shef]

@Jankauskas you just have to try a bunch of different ones and find the one that works for you. Look bro, you really need to think about it before you go raw doggin it. You could make three lives very difficult unnecessarily

 

[gear shef]

Okay, listen here... Just because your piece of shit father left you, or you left your kid. That does NOT mean you should advise others to be DEAD BEAT DADS. Do you know what you do? You MAN UP and get along with your wife, you become cordial but keep it together for that BABY that you had?! Are you fudging kidding me? Are you??

You CREATED something, so it's your fudging RESPONSIBILITY to MAN UP and spend the first 18 years of that child's life to ensuring they go to sleep EVERY NIGHT! To kiss and hug, to tell that baby she or he is the most beautiful thing in the world, he is smart and so forth. Do that for 18 years! That is your responsibility buddy, and your wife's. Don't ever think that just because you don't realize that you are a fudge up you should spread that BS here.

Oh, if this was a troll. It was executed perfectly.

Well said and I agree 100% with a few exceptions. We don’t have much men anymore, we are becoming more and more feminine and don’t have the courage, strength, mental fortitude, or morals to do what is right. Selfishness today

 

[Sworder]

Man my old man didn’t abandon me.

He sure as hell didn't tuck you in for 18 years straight!

You can’t be serious when you say you should stay married in a loveless relationship for a lifetime for your kids sake man, that’s some fucked up shit right there.

Ummmm. Yes, I am extremely serious. If you decide to create a life, take care of it! Not that crazy morals is it? What else is life about? Getting bigger muscles?

 

[Jankauskas]

He sure as hell didn't tuck you in for 18 years straight!



Ummmm. Yes, I am extremely serious. If you decide to create a life, take care of it! Not that crazy morals is it? What else is life about? Getting bigger muscles?

Man I’m all for caring about the kid even if you don’t stay together with the mother, but do you really think that making yourself a martyr for the sake of a supposed better upbringing is the answer?

For how many years can you hold the fake happiness persona before you snap?

Shit like that is the reason some people shoot up schools or malls man.

And you think your kids wouldn’t notice? Kids are smarter and more aware than people generally think.

 

[Big_paul]

A clean break always worked best for me. Don't see her or talk to her.

 

[Sworder]

Man I’m all for caring about the kid even if you don’t stay together with the mother, but do you really think that making yourself a martyr for the sake of a supposed better upbringing is the answer?

You are depriving the CHILD of a MOTHER AND FATHER by splitting up. Both you and that person you decided to cum into need to learn to get along. If you guys aren't romantically interested then you don't need to f*ck. That's fine, be cordial with each other and raise the kid. That's what the plan was when you guys had the kid right?

Do you realize how statistics change once a kid has a broken home? Well just think of your own childhood. Ain't no Ivy League school for you!

For how many years can you hold the fake happiness persona before you snap?

You don't have to fake happiness?? You still need to talk to your wife on a daily basis since you guys are raising a child together.

If you don't want to take the responsibility WEAR A CONDOM! That simple guys!!! If you guys want to impregnate women and then leave them... Just wear a condom, and your selfish nature is swell and all. But wear a rubber or get yourself fixed. Not all parents should be parents!

Also, if you are a parent and you are reading this. That means you have gone out of your way to learn more about steroids. I certainly hope you have taken a parenting class or two as well or do at the very least equally as much to learn how to be a parent....

And you think your kids wouldn’t notice? Kids are smarter and more aware than people generally think.

Again, is it difficult for you to be cordial? You don't have to play no games with the wife, but you are living together so both of you can keep an eye on your child 24/7. Because that's what parents do!

If you leave your woman with a child. You are a piece of shit! Sorry for your daily dose of truth!

@Jankauskas I will pay for your vasectomy so you don't have to create any bastard children with those values! The world will thank you!

 

[Jankauskas]

You are depriving the CHILD of a MOTHER AND FATHER by splitting up. Both you and that person you decided to cum into need to learn to get along. If you guys aren't romantically interested then you don't need to f*ck. That's fine, be cordial with each other and raise the kid. That's what the plan was when you guys had the kid right?

Do you realize how statistics change once a kid has a broken home? Well just think of your own childhood. Ain't no Ivy League school for you!


You don't have to fake happiness?? You still need to talk to your wife on a daily basis since you guys are raising a child together.

If you don't want to take the responsibility WEAR A CONDOM! That simple guys!!! If you guys want to impregnate women and then leave them... Just wear a condom, and your selfish nature is swell and all. But wear a rubber or get yourself fixed. Not all parents should be parents!

Also, if you are a parent and you are reading this. That means you have gone out of your way to learn more about steroids. I certainly hope you have taken a parenting class or two as well or do at the very least equally as much to learn how to be a parent....


Again, is it difficult for you to be cordial? You don't have to play no games with the wife, but you are living together so both of you can keep an eye on your child 24/7. Because that's what parents do!

If you leave your woman with a child. You are a piece of shit! Sorry for your daily dose of truth!

@Jankauskas I will pay for your vasectomy so you don't have to create any bastard children with those values! The world will thank you!

Im not married, I’m not a father and I didn’t abandon anyone.

She was my girlfriend and I broke up with her, simple as that.

 

[Sdryx]

You can be an amazing parent without being in a bad relationship. A relationship with a woman has absolutely NOTHING to do with your relationship with your child.

@Sworder you clearly don’t have any children and your post indicates that. That’s not a diss or me coming at you, but more or less me stating that there is some insights that a loving parent genuinely has over someone who has not raised a child.

I left my son’s mother when he was 8 months old... and that was a decade ago. I have been tucking him into bed and ever since as well.

My mother, on the other hand, chose to stay with my father when she did not love him. Why? Because she told me that she did not want to split up the family. So she endured an unloving relationship which eventually filled with resentment, turmoil and lead to domestic violence. I was raised in a home with zero love and my earliest memories of my life were filled with fear. But my mother still pushed through... for the kids you know. I had to endure shit that I would not wish upon my worst enemy. Things that I can’t even write on this board.

When my parents finally split up, I was in my twenties. I cheered with joy that the fighting was finally over and felt peace when I saw my mom happy for the first time in twenty years. Most importantly, however, I will NEVER forgive her for dragging me through HER bullshit for twenty years. Never.

@Jankauskas you did the right thing and in your heart you know that. If she did have a child... you sound like the kind of guy that would be there for your child. You did right by yourself and most importantly you did right by the child that may have been.

 

[QueenBee]

I read a lot of really great advice in here. I also think she lied as a last ditch effort to get you back. Stay strong and follow through with what you want in life. If she didn't make you happy, then you did the best thing.

 

[Sworder]

You can be an amazing parent without being in a bad relationship. A relationship with a woman has absolutely NOTHING to do with your relationship with your child.

Yes, it does. Anything you do and the child witnesses it will have an effect on them.

@Sworder you clearly don’t have any children and your post indicates that. That’s not a diss or me coming at you,

Oh yeah I don't have any kids! I am smart enough to know I am too stupid to have a kid currently! Seems like you were not smart enough to realize that. How many parenting classes have you taken?

but more or less me stating that there is some insights that a loving parent genuinely has over someone who has not raised a child.

I left my son’s mother when he was 8 months old... and that was a decade ago. I have been tucking him into bed and ever since as well.

Sucks that you made a bastard child. You can't take that sh!t back you know. Every time some kid talks about "Mom and Dad" your kid has to think that he doesn't have both a Mom and a Dad. On the playground all his friends have a full family but he is the bastard child. Good job!

This is scary to me, you guys don't realize how f*cked up you are. You guys think you are "normal..." This leaving the mother shyt indicates that you guys are pieces of sh!t! Wear a condom! Clearly you guys don't know how to raise a child properly.

My mother, on the other hand, chose to stay with my father when she did not love him. Why? Because she told me that she did not want to split up the family. So she endured an unloving relationship which eventually filled with resentment, turmoil and lead to domestic violence. I was raised in a home with zero love and my earliest memories of my life were filled with fear. But my mother still pushed through... for the kids you know. I had to endure shit that I would not wish upon my worst enemy. Things that I can’t even write on this board.

When my parents finally split up, I was in my twenties. I cheered with joy that the fighting was finally over and felt peace when I saw my mom happy for the first time in twenty years. Most importantly, however, I will NEVER forgive her for dragging me through HER bullshit for twenty years. Never.

Your Dad is an abusive piece of shit, you better have done a lot of self-reflecting because chances are 70%+ that you have a lot of his same ideals and values.

I didn't say that the Man should be an abusive piece of shit, I said to be cordial and raise the kid.
Also, your Mom sounds like a fucking warrior going through what she did for YOU. I would smack you on your mouth if you talked bad about your Mom in front of me. You are too abusive and too big of a PoS to realize what she tried to do and you are siding with your Dad.

Save the "I don't know what I am talking about" I can see through all this crap. Fact of the matter is a mother's instinct is one of the most powerful things in this world. You don't ever get between a Mother and it's child. You can't convince me your Mom was in the wrong. I know how mother's act. Go show some respect to your Mom today, you might not understand it. But she did it for you!

YouTube "Mother saves child" I don't care if it is animal videos or whatever.
You don't fuck with a Mother and it's kid. Your Mom might be a crazy bitch but she fucking loves you and endured hell for You. She might not have done things right, but the love was there!

 

[Sdryx]

Yes, it does. Anything you do and the child witnesses it will have an effect on them.


Oh yeah I don't have any kids! I am smart enough to know I am too stupid to have a kid currently! Seems like you were not smart enough to realize that. How many parenting classes have you taken?




Sucks that you made a bastard child. You can't take that sh!t back you know. Every time some kid talks about "Mom and Dad" your kid has to think that he doesn't have both a Mom and a Dad. On the playground all his friends have a full family but he is the bastard child. Good job!

This is scary to me, you guys don't realize how f*cked up you are. You guys think you are "normal..." This leaving the mother shyt indicates that you guys are pieces of sh!t! Wear a condom! Clearly you guys don't know how to raise a child properly.


Your Dad is an abusive piece of shit, you better have done a lot of self-reflecting because chances are 70%+ that you have a lot of his same ideals and values.

I didn't say that the Man should be an abusive piece of shit, I said to be cordial and raise the kid.
Also, your Mom sounds like a fucking warrior going through what she did for YOU. I would smack you on your mouth if you talked bad about your Mom in front of me.

What do you think happens when two people who don’t love each other live together for 20 years? They are cordial? You are naive at best.

Forget the abuse... there was still no love. It was a fake relationship and you want people to live happy in fake relationships? A child to see all that fake-ness and to learn how to create a genuine loving relationship themselves?

I never took his mother away from him either. That’s some crazy shit you believe.

 

[KetoMuscles]

OMG! I have to keep reminding myself that there is no way he is really like this. It's just an internet troll that is trying to get a reaction out of people. It's impossible for someone to be that much of a dipshit.
It is very easy for someone to stand on some self-important, righteous moral high ground pile of shit and be intoxicated by their own off gases but the fact is none of it is based unreality.
Do not take advice or even engage in a conversation with someone that cannot relate in any way.
This dumbass has no wife, no gf, never lost a baby nothing. Hit the ignore button. Living in a toxic relationship is worse for the kids than leaving it. Being a man means making the best decision for everyone involved even if it isn't the ideal.
You dodged a bullet. Not because you lost a baby that was never meant to be. But because you didn't have a baby with someone you don't want to be with. Listen. Miscarriages happen for a reason. Nature self terminates usually due to chromosonal misfires.
I have a new prayer. Please dear Lord, guide me through this life and take me to a place where that clueless idiot can try to slap my face for taking trash about my own mother. And I swear Lord, after that day I shall never again break one of your commandments. Amen

 

[Sworder]

What do you think happens when two people who don’t love each other live together for 20 years? They are cordial? You are naive at best.

What was the plan when the Wife was impregnated?

Forget the abuse... there was still no love. It was a fake relationship and you want people to live happy in fake relationships? A child to see all that fake-ness and to learn how to create a genuine loving relationship themselves?

Why be fake? Just be cordial and love the kid. You guys are assuming you HAVE to LOVE the Wife? No... Just raise the kid if you planned on having a baby. If you didn't plan on having a baby get a divorce. Don't plan to have a baby and then skip on the Mother...

That's low-life dead beat Dad shyt.

I never took his mother away from him either. That’s some crazy shit you believe.

Well actually now you are basically admitting to it. Textbook projecting here.

I am done talking about this. Do whatever you guys want with your bastard kids. If you guys want me to leave Meso talk to me about how you guys treat your women and children...

 

[Sworder]

Being a man means making the best decision for everyone involved even if it isn't the ideal.

Let me guess, this includes leaving the baby with the Mother?...