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[spound]

I was wondering the same damn thing

 

[moralanimal]

We understand the attention imposed by women when we are bigger and/or leaner than the other 99% of the population. We also understand that marriage is a bond between two people that is meant to be sacred and honored, not thrown away so that one person can feed their ego in a meager attempt at boosting their self-esteem. We understand the physical aspect of what you are talking about.

I would also say that a large percentage of us are good upstanding members of our communities. We want to provide for our families, improve our own little world, and do be the best we can be. For most of the guys that are married, they have stated how important that connection is with their wife. They dont take that lightly. Others of us are in long term committed relationships that are moving towards marriage. We arent married yet, but we still hold to those ideals of honoring our girl. Sleeping with a bunch of other chicks is not honoring a gf/wife, nor is it in any way beneficial to one's relationship.

IMO, your marriage is doomed and stands a small chance of survival. I would highly recommend that you seek out the school psychologist wherever you are and talk this over with a professional. Dump the other chicks immediately and cease all contact with them. Hopefully you didnt give them your home phone number or address. i would also suggest withdrawing from your fraternity and finding somewhere else to get a positive influence.

Bob, I like your posts- I think you might be Dear Abbey. You write well.

 

[moralanimal]

To be honest I would not confess. Not b/c I agree with what you are doing but b/c confessing in this case is likely to make the person who was wrong feel better and the victim feel horriable. Confessing to make yourself feel better at anothers expense is the same concept as cheating- it is done with a lack of reguard for the other person and self serving. If you want to right the wrong there is no need to make her feel badly. You can make it up (kind of) by doing the right thing from here on out.
Now, I don't mean to take the moral high ground, as I am not saint but I am honest and up front with my girl.

 

[SikFuk!]

www.verbaladvantage.com

Good program.

LMFAO - This had me rolling...sorry Que, but this is to funny. Bob has me laughing out loud...

Everyone has basically said what I would have said....I disagree about fessing up though...If you have enough balls to step up to the plate and lie/cheat/break the law/whatever, never confess...unless someones life depends on it. It was stupid in the first place to do it, deal with it and move on..."Deal with it" means end the marriage, your obviously not ready for it. Besides, your in college...having just a girlfriend in college is stupid. Your suppose to be out there fucking ever girl in sight. Just my two

 

[Bob Smith]

Bob u always seem to come up with a link for every kind of post.........you got a separate powehouse computer just running google searches all day to keep u prepared for any topic?

I dont even have a single powerhouse computer, let alone "another" one! My little box is...bought it in 1998 and it easnt even top of the line then. Pentium II 350 and Ive filled RAM as much as I can, which only tops out at a measly 192MB. But it does the job for now and I dont run any super intensive programs. Maybe I should check out http://www.dell.com for a new machine.

As for links, Im usually pretty good at finding stuff. And using Mozilla's tabbed browsing makes surfing the web so much easier and more efficient. I literally surf with 3 tabs at once, one is usually only a click or two away from Google.

As for being Dear Abbey, I dont think so. But if you pay me her salary, I will be more than happy to revive my "Dear Bob" column that was quite successful on the old Meso.

 

[plmuscle]

I'm cutting it off with the 2 females. I would never give them my home address or home phone number. Thanks for the positive advice Bob. I'm the 1st to admit I made a mistake by cheating on my wife and now I'm going to steer clear of females and fraternity parties. I just got caught up in the mix and hoopla. I thought by having sex with multiple women, "I was a stud or such" but to be honest it's not all what people think it is.

 

[ramboj70]

I'm cutting it off with the 2 females. I would never give them my home address or home phone number. Thanks for the positive advice Bob. I'm the 1st to admit I made a mistake by cheating on my wife and now I'm going to steer clear of females and fraternity parties. I just got caught up in the mix and hoopla. I thought by having sex with multiple women, "I was a stud or such" but to be honest it's not all what people think it is.

hey bro where do you live? how would you like it if your wife had another guys cock in her? She is awsome for doing all those things for you, my wife does the same thing for me and she knows how I am but with all the test in the world I would never cheat on her, when you tell your wife let us know what comes out of it, STOP BANGING THOSE OTHER WOMEN BRO, Post a picture of your wife and those other women, we has weight lifters and body builders should be intiltled to see what your fucking up then we could give you the best advice,

 

[aneas]

If I was you I would admit to my wife what I did. If not the lack of honesty in your marriage will destory it. I have never cheated on my wife and been married for 12 years. If I did cheat I would at least have the balls to own up to it.

Get some therapy you suffer from low self esteem and are looking to get validation from other people. It will never be enough.

 

[dolfe1]

Dude, try this... www.webgrammar.com

Good call.

 

[diesldud]

If you are asking what you should do its probably because you are starting to feel the guilt (or the fear of being busted). I have been in this situation and know that it will turn out to be a bad deal in the long run. If you love your wife and the life that you have with her dump these woman fast and get your head back to whats important. If you just cant stop yourself leave your wife and let her find someone that will truly have her back. Bro, its just not cool.

 

[brooklynheight]

pl-out of curiosity--did you have a hard time getting chicks growing up?
and now its wasy ez for you ?

 

[plmuscle]

Yeah, when I was younger I wasn't all that great with the ladies. Seems like pussy is so easy to get now. I truly love my wife. I'm contemplating telling her because I don't want to hurt her feelings, she thinks the world of me. If I told her she would never forgive me and I know the marriage would be over, plus I would look like a liar to her grandparents who helped me out in my time of need.

 

[Fast Food]

I been cheating on my wife with 2-3 other women. I can't stop fukking these other females. They both 22 and in college and all they want is "Daddy Dick"

I tried to dump one broad last night but the bitch called my cell phone crying. I think I'm in over my head. If my wife finds out my ass is grass. One chick has the best head I ever had, I nut everytime when she sucks it.

She complains that I have a wife. I told the female if I can't be the only man you fuck then I don't want you, this dumb broad fell for it(or at least I know I'm the only man fucking her). I wear condoms everytime. I wish females were this easy when I was in college.

they are real easy, college has the easiest chicks in the world i'm just mesmorized after being graduated....

 

[brooklynheight]

my best friend is exactly like you---deep down hes not a jerk--and he
truly loves his wife, she means the world to him,--just some emotional
issues he has to work out--it truly may be a self esteem issue,

I advised him not to tell his wife--

seems like whenever he goes out, if girls dont stare at him, he thinks
something is wrong with him

 

[Fast Food]

hate to break it to you dude, but, uh....how do i say this? oh yeah! fraternities are kinda for fags man. (unless you're Frank the Tank

then i was frank the tank.... cause i was president of mine when i was in... and your sterotypical views are fine, but inaccurate.

 

[Fast Food]

Yeah, when I was younger I wasn't all that great with the ladies. Seems like pussy is so easy to get now. I truly love my wife. I'm contemplating telling her because I don't want to hurt her feelings, she thinks the world of me. If I told her she would never forgive me and I know the marriage would be over, plus I would look like a liar to her grandparents who helped me out in my time of need.

dude, i'm telling you now from experience... things will never be the same if you told her and could ruin a lot.... you are just getting this ass now because you are married and are what women see as, "something they have to work to get" once you divorce, you are just an ex-husband that everyone sees as too easy to get, and not really a prize anymore.... my advice is do not tell your wife, completely cut off everything extracurricular going on out there, totally see all the wrongs you have done, go to church some and ask for forgiveness, and do everything in your power never ever to do those things again. Surpress it from your mind, dont get a concious about it, make everything well, and just never tell her. people are human and make mistakes and you will never have her trust again, no matter how good you actually are being forever.... just do everything right from now on.

 

[diesldud]

dude, i'm telling you now from experience... things will never be the same if you told her and could ruin a lot.... you are just getting this ass now because you are married and are what women see as, "something they have to work to get" once you divorce, you are just an ex-husband that everyone sees as too easy to get, and not really a prize anymore.... my advice is do not tell your wife, completely cut off everything extracurricular going on out there, totally see all the wrongs you have done, go to church some and ask for forgiveness, and do everything in your power never ever to do those things again. Surpress it from your mind, dont get a concious about it, make everything well, and just never tell her. people are human and make mistakes and you will never have her trust again, no matter how good you actually are being forever.... just do everything right from now on.

What he said. All good advise. Dont tell her unless you are planning on leaving anyways. Wash your hands of this shit and take care of your wife.

 

[thick]

any kids involved or are kids in the future?

 

[plmuscle]

Thanks for the solid advice FastFood. I really appreciate it.

My wife is currently 5 months pregnant and we have a 5yr old daughter together.

 

[thick]

thats some pretty important info to throw out there bud. You need to quit being so fucking selfish. THose kids are the ones your actions are going to hurt the most. as a meaningless sidenote, your wallet wont be to full either from the child support

Thanks for the solid advice FastFood. I really appreciate it.

My wife is currently 5 months pregnant and we have a 5yr old daughter together.