When Nothing is Good Enough

[steveboomer]

Just found out I got a job at a PE firm. Literally interviewed with a billionaire. As long as I don’t get fired I’m set for life.

Call to tell my parents I got the job. They downplay it like I got a job at Taco Bell. I’m so done with these boomers man.

You bust your balls your whole life to make your parents proud, and at least in my case, today I realized it was never about me. They are just hopelessly miserable people who can’t be happy for anyone else.

I knew in my mind that was exactly how they would respond, and my mind told me not to call…but my heart wanted them to be proud of me.

I hope they can afford a good nursing home.

 

[Oldhand]

Just found out I got a job at a PE firm. Literally interviewed with a billionaire. As long as I don’t get fired I’m set for life.

Call to tell my parents I got the job. They downplay it like I got a job at Taco Bell. I’m so done with these boomers man.

You bust your balls your whole life to make your parents proud, and at least in my case, today I realized it was never about me. They are just hopelessly miserable people who can’t be happy for anyone else.

I knew in my mind that was exactly how they would respond, and my mind told me not to call…but my heart wanted them to be proud of me.

I hope they can afford a good nursing home.

Steve, sorry to hear this.

Sounds like you are doing great in your profession. I hope one day your parents will give you the validation you desire, but you cannot control what other people do or how they feel.

Keep your chin up and do what makes you happy!

 

[Tbaz192]

My Parents grew up in a generation where true feelings were hidden & more than likely also major stubbornness.

They don’t give a rats ass. And it’s because they’re hard headed and still at their age afraid to fully open up. Absolutely ridiculous.

Tough pill to swallow but at the end of that day, you really only got yourself.

Chin up man. You secured what seems to be an amazing opportunity. Just don’t lose yourself in the process.
Stay jacked and get rich

 

[djedo]

Just found out I got a job at a PE firm. Literally interviewed with a billionaire. As long as I don’t get fired I’m set for life.

Call to tell my parents I got the job. They downplay it like I got a job at Taco Bell. I’m so done with these boomers man.

You bust your balls your whole life to make your parents proud, and at least in my case, today I realized it was never about me. They are just hopelessly miserable people who can’t be happy for anyone else.

I knew in my mind that was exactly how they would respond, and my mind told me not to call…but my heart wanted them to be proud of me.

I hope they can afford a good nursing home.

Live your life for yourself,not the parents,no matter how much you love them.

 

[Juicedhead]

Just found out I got a job at a PE firm. Literally interviewed with a billionaire. As long as I don’t get fired I’m set for life.

Call to tell my parents I got the job. They downplay it like I got a job at Taco Bell. I’m so done with these boomers man.

You bust your balls your whole life to make your parents proud, and at least in my case, today I realized it was never about me. They are just hopelessly miserable people who can’t be happy for anyone else.

I knew in my mind that was exactly how they would respond, and my mind told me not to call…but my heart wanted them to be proud of me.

I hope they can afford a good nursing home.

dude this is how my parents are. I have just accepted it, I dont let it bother me. Some people are just that way and I have accepted that. My dad passed away 2017 but we had a good relationship, my mom and I have a good relationship to. Its just that generation, you cant change people. Ive learned to not have expectations of anyone. People are who they are not who you want them to be. I sure they are proud of you.

 

[hellyeahrell]

Just found out I got a job at a PE firm. Literally interviewed with a billionaire. As long as I don’t get fired I’m set for life.

Call to tell my parents I got the job. They downplay it like I got a job at Taco Bell. I’m so done with these boomers man.

You bust your balls your whole life to make your parents proud, and at least in my case, today I realized it was never about me. They are just hopelessly miserable people who can’t be happy for anyone else.

I knew in my mind that was exactly how they would respond, and my mind told me not to call…but my heart wanted them to be proud of me.

I hope they can afford a good nursing home.

I'm going to be honest with you, brother, I know it sucks but one of the best things you can do for yourself is stop caring about making your parents proud. In fact, make some decisions that you know will disappoint them. Get that tattoo if you want, book that trip to Asia, buy that motorcycle! I'm partly joking but once you stop caring about that, you will respect yourself more! You should be proud of you. I do not know you but I am. Your parents will not lay in your death bed with you. Do not ever forget that.

 

[SlamSumTest]

I’m jealous of you, I wish I cared what my parents thought of me and I looked up to them this way. I don’t think I’ve ever bothered to call or text them when I got a promotion.

Congrats on the PE gig though, I work a cushy AM gig and think about breaking into the dark side of high finance, the money and connections are insane.

 

[2lanes]

I hope they can afford a good nursing home.

No need to get mad. Many parents are like this. They can't help it.

There is a good book on this

Amazon.com

 

[marsupial]

If they just don’t know, then they don’t know. Nothing you can really do. Think of it as a big hurdle that you got over and now you’ve got an exclusive career most people won’t have access to. At the same time, you’ve still gotta prove yourself to the firm to get that giant bonus(es) that sets you for life. Depending on how you look at it, could be one small step, or could be one giant leap.

 

[czechboy]

Just found out I got a job at a PE firm. Literally interviewed with a billionaire. As long as I don’t get fired I’m set for life.

Call to tell my parents I got the job. They downplay it like I got a job at Taco Bell. I’m so done with these boomers man.

You bust your balls your whole life to make your parents proud, and at least in my case, today I realized it was never about me. They are just hopelessly miserable people who can’t be happy for anyone else.

I knew in my mind that was exactly how they would respond, and my mind told me not to call…but my heart wanted them to be proud of me.

I hope they can afford a good nursing home.

I feel your pain bro I am actually a mens coach irl and this has been the story of mine and most of my boy's lives.

I have at this point learnt to realize that they just do NOT "get it".

And they never will.

My girl has helped me understand this a lot as well, and not in an aggressive F them kinda way, but more for my own mental health peace and clarity.

I've also told my dad for over 10-15 years now to please get into lifting weights and do trt for his health, but he just does NOT get it.

I'm not sure why he is so hell bent on taking medicines and the like instead of just building up his health but he doesn't get it. Neither does my mom.

They just don't understand how the world works and how it's changed over time.

They do not even understand the concept of mental health let alone spirituality etc.

Their only connection with spirituality or god is to be afraid of him like he's the boogeyman lol.

Anyways sorry you're going through this, but big kudos to you bud you're killing it!

Edit : at the end of the day, is the man looking back in the mirror proud and happy of you? If yes you can't get anything better than that.

If no, well you now know what to do next.

Edit 2 :

I've actually helped talk people out of suicide, fixed a lot of eating disorders for kids under 18 yo on top of doing absolutely insanely sensational things in my life already.

But I don't think my parents will ever understand what I do. They only see I believe, to an extent that I am NOT what they hoped for me or something.

Not that I have gone leaps and bounds beyond everyone else and already done more with my life and provided ridiculous amounts of value.

I cried about it a bit recently too a couple of months ago.

But it just is what it is, we are the ones giving their opinions this power over our emotions.

 

[marsupial]

I feel your pain bro I am actually a mens coach irl and this has been the story of mine and most of my boy's lives.

I have at this point learnt to realize that they just do NOT "get it".

And they never will.

My girl has helped me understand this a lot as well, and not in an aggressive F them kinda way, but more for my own mental health peace and clarity.

I've also told my dad for over 10-15 years now to please get into lifting weights and do trt for his health, but he just does NOT get it.

I'm not sure why he is so hell bent on taking medicines and the like instead of just building up his health but he doesn't get it. Neither does my mom.

They just don't understand how the world works and how it's changed over time.

They do not even understand the concept of mental health let alone spirituality etc.

Their only connection with spirituality or god is to be afraid of him like he's the boogeyman lol.

Anyways sorry you're going through this, but big kudos to you bud you're killing it!

Edit : at the end of the day, is the man looking back in the mirror proud and happy of you? If yes you can't get anything better than that.

If no, well you now know what to do next.

Edit 2 :

I've actually helped talk people out of suicide, fixed a lot of eating disorders for kids under 18 yo on top of doing absolutely insanely sensational things in my life already.

But I don't think my parents will ever understand what I do. They only see I believe, to an extent that I am NOT what they hoped for me or something.

Not that I have gone leaps and bounds beyond everyone else and already done more with my life and provided ridiculous amounts of value.

I cried about it a bit recently too a couple of months ago.

But it just is what it is, we are the ones giving their opinions this power over our emotions.

Never try too much harder than they do. If they’re incapable of understanding at the end of the day, it’s on you to not waste your time

 

[Chicken Joe]

I feel you bro, my dad doesn't give a fuck what I do and doesn't support me at all because I'm not a Seventh Day Adventist. Congrats on the job!