Where the fuck did I go wrong?

[Ferret]

One thing is for certain, he needs to question his future career choice.

If you suffer from depression and can't see that a relationship lost is no big deal at all, then he shouldn't become a Nurse Anesthetist as that is a pressure cooker of a job that only the most calm and focused individuals should do.

Having worked healthcare for 25 years before I left I was around NA's all the time helping them with collecting spinal fluid that I would later do all the testing on, arterial lines, IV's on extremely difficult patients from newborns to elderly.

If you come to work depressed without a total focus on what you're doing you will be loathed in a setting where you really are the end of the line and are expected to pull off the impossible over and over all day long year round.

Forget women if you are serious about your career, love is a silly emotion and causes you to lose your grasp on reality. I'm not here to tell you that you have to make lots of money in life to be happy and that buying things is gonna fill the void because that won't lead to long term happiness either as I found out when I approached middle age and was sitting on a pile of cash and investments and walked away from everything(getting rid of most all of my possessions except my cash and investments) and found myself much more happy and lighter on my feet without having to drag a bunch of shit around with me anymore.

Philosophers have dealt with this issue of feeling lost and uncertain for thousands of years. There are no objective universal answer. You gotta be honest and don't just do something because those options are available, a philosopher would call it living in bad faith if you just choose something like being an NA because it's and option that is available instead of choosing something that is more authentic to your own desires.

Over those 25 years I spent working in labs I worked with 6 doctors that killed themselves through all means of suicide from drug overdose to blowing their brains out. Many people think just because you have this great career that you're on top of the world, and that's total bullshit that is sold to people in a capitalist society that thinks money and power is everything and solves all problems.

I can remember when I was in college in a lot of pre-med courses with guys that went on to medschool and you would be surprised the number that were only interested in making money, no mention of a true desire to be a doctor, they wanted to make as much money as possible. That's scary if you ask me and someone has poisoned us with these ideas that money is the only goal in life. I can tell you at the certain point where you have enough cash to insulate you from life's ups and downs, money is just money it doesn't mean jack shit, just like relationships end up being baggage as well. At the end of the day you only have you and your own mind, that's all there is and all there ever will be.

I would rather have a Dr who's only after $, than some idiot who's emotional thinking he's doing it for "good".

 

[z666z]

I would rather have a Dr who's only after $, than some idiot who's emotional thinking he's doing it for "good".

Trust me you don't want either one.

I've seen a lot of doctors that are in it for the money that order unnecessary surgery's that have cause grave harm to patients. I knew one doctor that was charged with about $30 million in medicare fraud that was a urologist removing men's prostates that didn't even have cancer.

What you want is someone that is very well practiced, intelligent, compassionate and has the upmost concern for the patient and knows when to back off and stop treating a patient when it will cause more harm than good. Hospitals get paid for treatments and as such a very conservative doctor isn't valued when keeping patients on ventilators and doing lots of surgeries is far better for the bottom line.

A money grubbing doctor is basically a psychopath in a hospital setting when you're constantly dealing with life and death decisions and things that are far beyond our human control.

 

[Ferret]

Trust me you don't want either one.

I've seen a lot of doctors that are in it for the money that order unnecessary surgery's that have cause grave harm to patients. I knew one doctor that was charged with about $30 million in medicare fraud that was a urologist removing men's prostates that didn't even have cancer.

What you want is someone that is very well practiced, intelligent, compassionate

Come on.. people don't get paid to be compassionate. It's a job.

and has the upmost concern for the patient and knows when to back off and stop treating a patient when it will cause more harm than good. Hospitals get paid for treatments and as such a very conservative doctor isn't valued when keeping patients on ventilators and doing lots of surgeries is far better for the bottom line.

No one cares about the DR, why should he care about the patients? It's a dog eat dog world. Only a fool would care about patients. If the system cared about the Dr's, they would pay them more!

A money grubbing doctor is basically a psychopath in a hospital setting when you're constantly dealing with life and death decisions and things that are far beyond our human control.

How do regular MD's get paid by hospitals? Do they have to meet a min # of patients? They must not be paid by the hour. I called the hospital about this, no one ever got back with an answer

 

[Dead]

One thing is for certain, he needs to question his future career choice.

If you suffer from depression and can't see that a relationship lost is no big deal at all, then he shouldn't become a Nurse Anesthetist as that is a pressure cooker of a job that only the most calm and focused individuals should do.

Having worked healthcare for 25 years before I left I was around NA's all the time helping them with collecting spinal fluid that I would later do all the testing on, arterial lines, IV's on extremely difficult patients from newborns to elderly.

If you come to work depressed without a total focus on what you're doing you will be loathed in a setting where you really are the end of the line and are expected to pull off the impossible over and over all day long year round.

Forget women if you are serious about your career, love is a silly emotion and causes you to lose your grasp on reality. I'm not here to tell you that you have to make lots of money in life to be happy and that buying things is gonna fill the void because that won't lead to long term happiness either as I found out when I approached middle age and was sitting on a pile of cash and investments and walked away from everything(getting rid of most all of my possessions except my cash and investments) and found myself much more happy and lighter on my feet without having to drag a bunch of shit around with me anymore.

Philosophers have dealt with this issue of feeling lost and uncertain for thousands of years. There are no objective universal answer. You gotta be honest and don't just do something because those options are available, a philosopher would call it living in bad faith if you just choose something like being an NA because it's and option that is available instead of choosing something that is more authentic to your own desires.

Over those 25 years I spent working in labs I worked with 6 doctors that killed themselves through all means of suicide from drug overdose to blowing their brains out. Many people think just because you have this great career that you're on top of the world, and that's total bullshit that is sold to people in a capitalist society that thinks money and power is everything and solves all problems.

I can remember when I was in college in a lot of pre-med courses with guys that went on to medschool and you would be surprised the number that were only interested in making money, no mention of a true desire to be a doctor, they wanted to make as much money as possible. That's scary if you ask me and someone has poisoned us with these ideas that money is the only goal in life. I can tell you at the certain point where you have enough cash to insulate you from life's ups and downs, money is just money it doesn't mean jack shit, just like relationships end up being baggage as well. At the end of the day you only have you and your own mind, that's all there is and all there ever will be.

I enjoyed reading this a lot. So what advice do you have for a male mid 20s who just recently got an ok job despite deciding to still go to school for radiology tech. Enjoys the gym, not a lot of people In my circle, not many at all. Bodybuilding makes me happy. I would like a faithful partner but seems unrealistic and a waste of investment. I would like to make more money than current job eventually tho this one is a huge upgrade from retail to career job. Any advice?

 

[z666z]

I enjoyed reading this a lot. So what advice do you have for a male mid 20s who just recently got an ok job despite deciding to still go to school for radiology tech. Enjoys the gym, not a lot of people In my circle, not many at all. Bodybuilding makes me happy. I would like a faithful partner but seems unrealistic and a waste of investment. I would like to make more money than current job eventually tho this one is a huge upgrade from retail to career job. Any advice?

You needed a career and radiology tech is a good one. I spent years working up trama cases in the lab and worked side by side with emergency and radiology. I'd say radiology is a lower stress field that makes good money and something you can do until you retire. I just couldn't deal with the relentless stress of the lab anymore, it was endless paperwork and getting ready for inspections, I ended up taking home hours of work every night that I did off the clock and realized I was working 16hr days and wasn't getting compensated for it. Talking with radiology and asking them how much time they had to spend outside of work maintaining their department, most of them looked at me with a blank stair like they had no clue what I was talking about.

 

[Dead]

You needed a career and radiology tech is a good one. I spent years working up trama cases in the lab and worked side by side with emergency and radiology. I'd say radiology is a lower stress field that makes good money and something you can do until you retire. I just couldn't deal with the relentless stress of the lab anymore, it was endless paperwork and getting ready for inspections, I ended up taking home hours of work every night that I did off the clock and realized I was working 16hr days and wasn't getting compensated for it. Talking with radiology and asking them how much time they had to spend outside of work maintaining their department, most of them looked at me with a blank stair like they had no clue what I was talking about.

Alright I appreciate this a lot. Don’t got a lot of advice from people in terms of helping me with direction so I look for it from time to time.

 

[Chieftain]

One thing is for certain, he needs to question his future career choice.

If you suffer from depression and can't see that a relationship lost is no big deal at all, then he shouldn't become a Nurse Anesthetist as that is a pressure cooker of a job that only the most calm and focused individuals should do.

Having worked healthcare for 25 years before I left I was around NA's all the time helping them with collecting spinal fluid that I would later do all the testing on, arterial lines, IV's on extremely difficult patients from newborns to elderly.

If you come to work depressed without a total focus on what you're doing you will be loathed in a setting where you really are the end of the line and are expected to pull off the impossible over and over all day long year round.

Forget women if you are serious about your career, love is a silly emotion and causes you to lose your grasp on reality. I'm not here to tell you that you have to make lots of money in life to be happy and that buying things is gonna fill the void because that won't lead to long term happiness either as I found out when I approached middle age and was sitting on a pile of cash and investments and walked away from everything(getting rid of most all of my possessions except my cash and investments) and found myself much more happy and lighter on my feet without having to drag a bunch of shit around with me anymore.

Philosophers have dealt with this issue of feeling lost and uncertain for thousands of years. There are no objective universal answer. You gotta be honest and don't just do something because those options are available, a philosopher would call it living in bad faith if you just choose something like being an NA because it's and option that is available instead of choosing something that is more authentic to your own desires.

Over those 25 years I spent working in labs I worked with 6 doctors that killed themselves through all means of suicide from drug overdose to blowing their brains out. Many people think just because you have this great career that you're on top of the world, and that's total bullshit that is sold to people in a capitalist society that thinks money and power is everything and solves all problems.

I can remember when I was in college in a lot of pre-med courses with guys that went on to medschool and you would be surprised the number that were only interested in making money, no mention of a true desire to be a doctor, they wanted to make as much money as possible. That's scary if you ask me and someone has poisoned us with these ideas that money is the only goal in life. I can tell you at the certain point where you have enough cash to insulate you from life's ups and downs, money is just money it doesn't mean jack shit, just like relationships end up being baggage as well. At the end of the day you only have you and your own mind, that's all there is and all there ever will be.

It seems to me that you should not put your personal life and career as a counterbalance. You need to complement one another. Since love and family will fill a person. And the work will be better done because when a person is positive he is productive. Even though the family takes time, it's worth it and in the end you will be in the black. You can always do everything

 

[Chieftain]

Alright I appreciate this a lot. Don’t got a lot of advice from people in terms of helping me with direction so I look for it from time to time.

Yes, there is a lot of good advice, including what I notice for myself. But everyone makes the decision himself and what is more important and priority for him

 

[Chieftain]

You needed a career and radiology tech is a good one. I spent years working up trama cases in the lab and worked side by side with emergency and radiology. I'd say radiology is a lower stress field that makes good money and something you can do until you retire. I just couldn't deal with the relentless stress of the lab anymore, it was endless paperwork and getting ready for inspections, I ended up taking home hours of work every night that I did off the clock and realized I was working 16hr days and wasn't getting compensated for it. Talking with radiology and asking them how much time they had to spend outside of work maintaining their department, most of them looked at me with a blank stair like they had no clue what I was talking about.

Yes, it's bad when your job destroys you. And more and more every day. And every day you go there like a prison. And as a result, driving yourself into a lot of stress. Happiness is when work brings pleasure and good money

 

[Ferret]

I've never asked for, nor wanted anyones personal advice when it comes to my emotions or what I should do with them.

It amazes me that men are asking other guys what to do, when it comes to emotions.

 

[Ryu82]

 

[MFAAS]

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Cruel, but hilarious!

 

[MFAAS]

I've never asked for, nor wanted anyones personal advice when it comes to my emotions or what I should do with them.

It amazes me that men are asking other guys what to do, when it comes to emotions.

Seeing outside your own perspective can be quite beneficial. Especially when emotions are clouding your judgement. It never hurts to ask and listen a little bit.

 

[Ferret]

Seeing outside your own perspective can be quite beneficial. Especially when emotions are clouding your judgement. It never hurts to ask and listen a little bit.

No one understands my mind better than me.

Considering I live with myself 24/7/365. I know myself best.

Other people can't run their fucked up lives, you think they can help someone else?

And my intellectual capabilities are in the top 1 percent.

I've read tons of scientific studies, psychology articles. I have a general idea how we work ( like animals).

Sorry.. I'm not a sheep who needs to follow.

 

[z666z]

No one understands my mind better than me.

Considering I live with myself 24/7/365. I know myself best.

Other people can't run their fucked up lives, you think they can help someone else?

And my intellectual capabilities are in the top 1 percent.

I've read tons of scientific studies, psychology articles. I have a general idea how we work ( like animals).

Sorry.. I'm not a sheep who needs to follow.

There's nothing new under the sun.

If you are experiencing something then there are thousands or millions of people that are experiencing the same exact thing.

Reading about problems and scientific studies is great. I like to read a lot of philosophy myself as it gives me a better picture of how we think.

That said there is no substitute to trial by fire, to actually feel the heat and burn and live to talk about it. Life is tragedy and triumph. A person that has never failed or made a mistake, experienced defeat, misery, short terms of depression.....has never really lived or made anything themselves.

 

[MFAAS]

No one understands my mind better than me.

Considering I live with myself 24/7/365. I know myself best.

Other people can't run their fucked up lives, you think they can help someone else?

And my intellectual capabilities are in the top 1 percent.

I've read tons of scientific studies, psychology articles. I have a general idea how we work ( like animals).

Sorry.. I'm not a sheep who needs to follow.

Sure, but as @z666z said, thousands or millions of others have gone or are going through whatever you are going through already. So soliciting their opinion or at least learning about how they dealt with it certainly won't hurt, will it? it's additional knowledge to take or leave.

Everyone has blind spots and there's just no downside to ask how others have handled things before. It can give you ideas. You are not omnipotent. Reading studies is great, but when you're in a stressful situation, often times that knowledge goes out the window. Often it is the hardest to take your own advice...I have experience bed that before. So yeah, someone with a fucked up life might give best advice plus it's objective andthey have no horse in the race.

I never said they don't know your mind, that's not the point: your mind is limited.

 

[Ferret]

Sure, but as @z666z said, thousands or millions of others have gone or are going through whatever you are going through already. So soliciting their opinion or at least learning about how they dealt with it certainly won't hurt, will it? Everyone has blind spots and there's just no downside to ask how others have handled things before. It can give you ideas. You are not omnipotent. Reading studies is great, but when you're in a stressful situation, often times that knowledge goes out the window. Often it is the hardest to take your own advice... so yeah, someone with a fucked up life might give best advice. I never said they don't know your mind, but your mind is limited.

I deal with my mind 24/7. No way can someone else understand it better than I can.

On top of that, I find many on this board are like a mess of cry babies when it comes to emotions. Maybe its the steroids affecting their Estrogen!

Males have been feminized / sissy-fied, ohhh how obvious.

 

[z666z]

I deal with my mind 24/7. No way can someone else understand it better than I can.

On top of that, I find many on this board are like a mess of cry babies when it comes to emotions. Maybe its the steroids affecting their Estrogen!

Males have been feminized / sissy-fied, ohhh how obvious.

I wouldn't dare to underestimate the ability for those with vast knowledge or genius to give you insights into how to solve or avoid problems. To do so would be to ignore the past 3000 years of human knowledge.

I've gathered lots of knowledge from the Buddha, Lao Tzu, Dogen, Diogenes, Hume, Hegel, Kierkegaard, Nietzsche, Heidegger, Zerzan.

Neuroscience even if it's a reductionist approach, gives you the humbling that you may or may not be registering and perceiving things as they truly are as you are dependent on how the brain interprets everything around you.

When I was younger and had some anxiety over a few issues, I wasn't solving my own problems with any real intelligence, it was when I read Kierkegaard, Nietzsche, Camus and Sartre that I had access to genius that offered insight and discussion of what is anxiety and how to approach it, not eliminate it, but how to view it as a necessary part of the human experience.

 

[Ferret]

I wouldn't dare to underestimate the ability for those with vast knowledge or genius to give you insights into how to solve or avoid problems. To do so would be to ignore the past 3000 years of human knowledge.

I've gathered lots of knowledge from the Buddha, Lao Tzu, Dogen, Diogenes, Hume, Hegel, Kierkegaard, Nietzsche, Heidegger, Zerzan.

Neuroscience even if it's a reductionist approach, gives you the humbling that you may or may not be registering and perceiving things as they truly are as you are dependent on how the brain interprets everything around you.

When I was younger and had some anxiety over a few issues, I wasn't solving my own problems with any real intelligence, it was when I read Kierkegaard, Nietzsche, Camus and Sartre that I had access to genius that offered insight and discussion of what is anxiety and how to approach it, not eliminate it, but how to view it as a necessary part of the human experience.

I have no problems reading scientific based articles on psychology. But to ask some fukface on a message board "What should I do", LOL. No one knows what you should do better than yourself, Well unless you are a commy/socialist/democrat, then I guess you think someone else should run your life.

Women talk to women about their problems. Men don't, unless you are a girly man

 

[Dead]

I have no problems reading scientific based articles on psychology. But to ask some fukface on a message board "What should I do", LOL. No one knows what you should do better than yourself, Well unless you are a commy/socialist/democrat, then I guess you think someone else should run your life.

Women talk to women about their problems. Men don't, unless you are a girly man

Let’s drop gender for a second. We are all a species on planet earth. Some of us have been here longer than others. It’s called experiences. Just like the veterans on this board who know how to vet sources.

not helps to reach out and get an opinion from this who have been here longer than you. It’s still up to you whether you reject it or accept it.

drop this manly man girly woman shit.

i had some dude tell me he was gonna kill me with a gun two weeks ago he’s 35. Almost 10 years older than me. I waited in his home. He came home to his apartment and called the leasing office and told them he felt unsafe. I ain’t no bitch. But I do appreciate guidance from time to time.