Hope there is some females or male experts on women’s health. My wife is 53 and about 2 years a go she started what she says is menopause. And about then her sex drive has went way down and she has very little female lubricant that she produces. We have to use lubricant to even start. And then it still gets dry in that area. It really don’t feel very good for her as it use to. She don’t even like me talking sexy to her in fact it kinda irritates her most the time. She does get snappy at me for little things but not angry. But to keep this a little shorter she knows I’m here and she does my injections for me and has seen how I feel when I’m on cycle. Energy feeling more confident and more go to me. For the first time she asked me about my stuff for women. And as I know very little about female hormones I told her I don’t know. So she actually asked me ( which I was very pleased from her to want to know more and possibly help with her sex drive and better mood) so I told her I would check because there are women on this forum and they could have some simple answers that may help. She has tried all the so called natural over the counter stuff and nothing. I call them just marketing gimmicks. But can anyone chime in on what would be a good start with I guess would be her hormones.
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readalot
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You won't get much help at the typical PCP. I'd get in touch with Defy or other competent HRT clinic. Run hormone panels plus regular bloods. If blood work supports treatment, Testosterone cream applied to labia or anus 2 to 3x per day can dramatically improve symptoms mentioned above. Life changing in some examples.
Testosterone is not FDA approved for women so regular PCP will pat you on the shoulder and write Rx for antidepressant. Meanwhile, the androgen (potentially estrogen and progesterone as well) deficiency is never addressed.
Best wishes.
Anthonybeach
New Member
Don't really want to mess with women's hormones without blood work/doctor help.
1.Get blood work done. Full hormone panel, thyroid, liver, kidneys etc.
2.Find a good Hormone Replacement Therapy clinic for women.
3.They'll probably prescribe some combination of test/estrogen/progesterone
and possibly thyroid meds.
1.Get blood work done. Full hormone panel, thyroid, liver, kidneys etc.
2.Find a good Hormone Replacement Therapy clinic for women.
3.They'll probably prescribe some combination of test/estrogen/progesterone
and possibly thyroid meds.
iris
Well-known Member
This.
No guess work = comprehensive blood tests.
See a specialist that will follow her and be responsible for her treatment, whatever she will be given.
No guess work = comprehensive blood tests.
See a specialist that will follow her and be responsible for her treatment, whatever she will be given.
Yea I forgot to mention what her Dr. said. Kinda pissed me off. He told her that she would have to just let everything run its course. Never asked to do anything but give her an anti depressant which her Dr had tried many times to give her. He passes them out as they are a cure for everything. Plus not never referee her to any dr that helps in this area. But is the kind of Dr that I can give you the vax would you like it. I sure do recommend it. Yea that type of Dr. there’s not much around here for hrt Dr. I have mine and that’s about it. The only one around and he is stingy as you can get on having hrt prescribed. He wants below 200 before he will do anything. So what kind of Dr should she see
readalot
Member
Dr. Saya or another provider at Defy Medical. I would recommend starting with him. Good place to start. Good luck.
Jabroni_Meathead
Member
My wife has the same exact issue. We went through Defy and they found her testosterone to be very low. During the doctor consultation, the doc said that hormonal birth control causes a rise in SHBG and thus lowering free test in a woman's body. My wife has been on 10mg/week of test cyp for the past 3 years and has never been better. Lubrication, energy, and sexy drive all increased dramatically.
HOWEVER, she is now going through the change the the sex drive has dipped a bit and the constant PMS attitude that fluctuates weekly is getting old.
HOWEVER, she is now going through the change the the sex drive has dipped a bit and the constant PMS attitude that fluctuates weekly is getting old.
Superchicken
New Member
I’m a woman and posted info in this thread that may help
EmberWave
Member
My friend, the more you push yourself and focus on sexual urges during this process, the worse it becomes. Please, before seeking professional treatment, avoid putting pressure on yourself. It will be the best for both you and your partner—trust me on this.
EmberWave
Member
My wife used to have vaginismus... In fact, she still does, but it's not as severe as before. We’ve struggled a lot to overcome it, and I’m still putting in a lot of effort—it’s very exhausting. However, my experience has shown that letting go and seeking professional treatment is the best approach. Yes, the issue might be different, but the underlying problem is the same. I hope everything turns out well.
iris
Well-known Member
Did your wife develop this condition when she entered menopause and was not affected, before?
Nunya
Member
Our vaginas change a lot as we go through menopause. Find a good doc BUT, don’t limit yourself to ob/gyn docs. Look for a urologist who is interested in menopause and women’s issues. Telehealth options are pretty plentiful as well. Lack of lubrication, changes in the tissue and function, urinary issues (urgency, UTI, leaking) can often be helped a lot with vaginal estrogen cream. It’s not *just* testosterone.
Here’s a nice link (Reddit) that may serve as a good jumping off point: https://www.reddit.com/r/Menopause/s/gajIh04UBC
There are a couple of good podcast episodes mentioned in there - that whole podcast “You are not broken” is a pretty good one, lots of good stuff in there on hormones, menopause, women’s health, sexual health, etc.
Here’s a nice link (Reddit) that may serve as a good jumping off point: https://www.reddit.com/r/Menopause/s/gajIh04UBC
There are a couple of good podcast episodes mentioned in there - that whole podcast “You are not broken” is a pretty good one, lots of good stuff in there on hormones, menopause, women’s health, sexual health, etc.
HeatherSwanson
Member
This was a tough thread to read. Bunch of good hearted men that love their women trying to make the best of a shitty situation. Heart goes out to you guys, and lady.
Couple of you mentioned lubricant, I'd recommend making a trip to Costco and getting that big container of Coconut Oil, the one with the orange lid. We go through about 2 a year, you'll never go back. The pH is correct for vaginas and it doesnt absorb into the skin. Works wonders for a butthole too.
Anecdotally, a buddies wife was going through menopause and they had success with horny goat weed for her.
Couple of you mentioned lubricant, I'd recommend making a trip to Costco and getting that big container of Coconut Oil, the one with the orange lid. We go through about 2 a year, you'll never go back. The pH is correct for vaginas and it doesnt absorb into the skin. Works wonders for a butthole too.
Anecdotally, a buddies wife was going through menopause and they had success with horny goat weed for her.
Nunya
Member
Agreed. This forum is a great one in so many ways.
Costco Coconut oil ftw - Costco has some MCT oil that’s good for this as well.
HeatherSwanson
Member
We have sacrificial bamboo sheets for the coconut oil. Sometimes one of us will sneak them onto the bed, its a cute game.
Have to get some MTC and try it out.
Nunya
Member
Get a little pump bottle to keep some in your bedside drawer and it’s game on
I’m gonna have to look in to your sacrificial bamboo sheets, though!Turns out MCT is good for more than just AAS
HeatherSwanson
Member
Anal, its good for anal too.Get a little pump bottle to keep some in your bedside drawer and it’s game on
Turns out MCT is good for more than just AAS
