I'm pretty amazed at how many regular posters just on Meso are affected by this. I guess we've come a long way since my childhood when parents were afraid to even admit there was a problem, much less ask for help.
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That was me when i first found out. Took me a bit to accept the fact my son was autistic. The funny thing is most of the population is the same as i was. Ignorant. Like, what actually is autism? Is a common question. They have this picture of a kid in a vegetable state with a helmet and making grunting noises. Like thats what it means...how terrible.
Most kids including my son are on the mild end of the spectrum. Look normal. Its pretty hard to deal with in public when a meltdown happens occasionally. You can see the judgemental parents that you know just think your kid is being a brat and thats what is thru and thru. Like some how its a reflection of our job as a parent. Simply because he looks "normal" . Thats the face of special needs
Interesting how you failed to pick up on the social cue that is the obvious jab at the alt right mentality from my post.
There was another cue in this post. That’s your hint. Furthermore your post is incoherent, so I’m actually quite confused as to what you’re alluding to.
Leave our differences aside. I’m just trying to help because I actually have experience in this field.
In light of that, one of the important things to differentiate is normal child behavior from behaviors that stem from autism and/or adhd. One of the worst things that could happen is to brush off a normal behavior as one from the disability. Working with a specialist can help.
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Let me know where the confusion sets in...
Our "differences"?
Like racists vs. The rest of us normal accepting folk?
How do you feel about black autistic kids?
Mexican autistic kids?
Lemme guess...you prolly didnt throw around language like that in front of the kids right? Let alone in front of their parents when that spic in the chevy low rider came to pick up his wetback kid?
CAswole
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Come on kids let's play nice and keep the thread constructive.
I know it can be frustrating as my sis has a 16 yo son with autism, but try to remember sometimes just being there is what matters most.
Cramps88
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It is frustrating at times. The most frustrating part for me is I know the behavior issues that we deal with come from him not being able to communicate and it is mentally affecting him. As parents we all naturally want to be able to fix our children's problems so they are happy so it's hard when you know that you can't just kiss the boo boo and make things right so to speak. I'd say for the most part he is a happy boy he just has his moments. I'm not good at many things in this world and was even once a very rough criminal but it turns out im a pretty good father. I'm also glad I started this thread so we can share our experiences, this has become a very nice thread for me. I hope we all continue it and maybe even help each other out.
Cramps88
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I definitely like the idea of a set routine. With all of my sons sleeping issues I've been trying for months to set a night time routine for him. I'm thinking there is something else going on in his head because getting him to not only go to bed but sleep period is almost impossible. I believe his poor sleeping patterns are also severely impacting his behavior from day to day as well. What kind of experience and work have you done in this field?
Establishing a pattern is generally a good idea being rigid is often counterproductive.
Learn to lead him towards a desired goal but remain flexible “within reason” esp early on.
People often cite “everyone is different” on PED forums, comparing the results to well established norms but bc each Autistic child is truly “different” behaviorally, intellectullly and/or otherwise TIME will tell what limits are reasonable or unreasonable.
To that end patience must become your best friend mate.
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Truth
I tried the military style discipline route. While extremely effective when shit MUST get done. It doesnt work long term like it would with a normal kid
Cramps88
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@gr8whitetrukker @Dr JIM. Any suggestions on the sleep thing I could try? Here is my normal routine and I'm going wrong or not understanding something. In the evening we cook and eat as a family, play for awhile. Then start getting the kids ready for bed. I always put my other two children to bed then my son. When it's time for him to go to bed I go to his room with him and usually lay with him because he gets upset when you leave him by himself. I try to just talk with him and rub his back to calm him because he tends to calm down with the contact. I then leave the room when he is close to sleeping or sleeping. This usually only last a few short hours and then he either wants to sleep in my room, the living room or wants to stay up. I know he is not sleeping well like he needs to and that worries me especially for his everyday health.
1) Bc they are different on many front Autistic kiddos infrequently establish “normal” ADL patterns and unless tempered with patience and understanding, efforts to Institute them will bring frustration, I promise.
That’s not to suggest they live absent rules, restrictions or controls but first allow HIM to determine what those limits will be while you define the construct.
I’m only suggesting to get him involved in the decision making proceess, as much as possible, bc rest assured he is equally as frustrated, if not more so, as you are with his inability to communicate more effectively.
Absent an ideal comparison
I find to useful to have
adults speak to another adult who has had a non-dominant hemisphere stroke similar to that of Hurricanes, bc it can enable caretakers to bette identify with Autistic child’s issues, on an “adult” level.
My suggestions are only general thoughts knowing very little about YOUR CHILDS capabilities.
Finally although the ailments and physiology are quite different much like a patient with diabetes, treatment can and does make a HUGE difference in outcome in both conditions.
Jim
Cramps88
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Understood sir and thank you for your input. That does give me a couple of ideas to try out. I think first I'm going to let him decide where he wants to lay down for the night instead of just taking him to his room. Honestly I don't care where he sleeps as long as he is sleeping and being well rested and healthy. Then from there maybe try to steer him towards sleeping in is room but not pushing it on him.
If you don’t mind I really need some baseline info
You may have mentioned it eatlrluer but what is your child’s AGE and what is his current LEVEL of COMMUNICATION?
Does he have any physical disabilities esp those which effect mobility?
Finally is he taking ANY medications, supplements or OTC compounds?
Jim
Oh sure an Aututic child MUST learn “no goes” as every child but there’s A LOT of grey in between and bc autistic kiddos ALL learn differently adults must learn to become innovative and try different approaches to determine which application is most effective for each child.
Once again unlike “most kids”
(baloney) this is why patience is something autistic parents embrace like no others
and as a lifetime enduring virtue that’s a good thing
Jim
Cramps88
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In a month he will be 3, he does not have any mobility issues and is quite active, he is incredibly strong and aggressive, the only supplement is melatonin at 2mg to try and help with sleep (but does not seem to work), his communication is maybe three words no sentences, grunts and noises. If I left anything else out please feel free to ask.
BRIEFLY describe what you have observed as aggressiveness
from a behavioral perspective.
Two to three examples is sufficient.
from a behavioral perspective.
Two to three examples is sufficient.
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PIZZABOY
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I spent about six months in Lawton.OK. that was enough for me. Mississippi sucked ass too.
Cramps88
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Flipped tables, head butts people, and throws objects when he gets upset.
Sounds like my boy. The teachers love him but they are also terrified of him at times.
