Sex Drive, how are you handling it: hookers?

[BobbySweeney]

Maybe I have a disorder and just don't know it yet, but I have been on test (and other shit) for 15 years and am constantly wanting sex.
My wife isn't going to put out anymore than once-twice per week, and I don't want to get into a long discussion about that: she's a good woman but she's tired as fuck. She's fat, we have kids, it'll get better but it'll be a year or two.

My question is have any of you turned to hookers, massage parlors, or escorts? Or is your sex drive under control?

I don't jack off ( or watch porn) because I found over the years it really had a negative effect on me overall.

 

[FR0Z3N_B0MB3RRR]

Maybe I have a disorder and just don't know it yet, but I have been on test (and other shit) for 15 years and am constantly wanting sex.
My wife isn't going to put out anymore than once-twice per week, and I don't want to get into a long discussion about that: she's a good woman but she's tired as fuck. She's fat, we have kids, it'll get better but it'll be a year or two.

My question is have any of you turned to hookers, massage parlors, or escorts? Or is your sex drive under control?

I don't jack off ( or watch porn) because I found over the years it really had a negative effect on me overall.

i v been with an escort and i hated it since i fuckin hate condoms... i dont feel a fuck... i didnt even cum and was so fuckin pissed... and that was a bad experience overall... i wasnt excited / involved etc... so fuckin boring... the only Escort i wanna pay for is a Cosworth one... Martini Racing with white forged OZ wheels

When I secretly met my ex girlfriend that was so fuckin hot, my (at time) actual girlfriend discovered it after some times because i forgot my fuckin phone unblocked and she saw some messages... everything went downhill but it was a mess already , because she was fuckin fat, she was lazy and didn’t want to diet and train.. etc.. we broke up some months later because of my choice anyway.. i think without all the cortisol i made in those years during that insane cohabitation i would have won at least 2 Mr Olympias..

i have a plan for my future... finding a good lady , fit , eager to be cumshotted in mouth and gettin Analized.. i hope she will be bisex and can have fun with other girls... but i know i m askin a lot and that s very rare to have all those circumstances on a row..

THEN... i would run my secret porn productions.. with an alias... some fake moustach, a nice sculpted wig with ponytail, some sunglasses, and would be fine... a fuckin chicano motherfucker ahahah..

You can : fuck hot chicks without condom... do what the fuck you desire... do it very fuckin easy peasy without the risks traditional cheating exposes you to.. no tinder headache no time wasted.. if you succeed to make money from your movies youre da champion.. instantly Black belt Dan 10...

Whatta a fuckin dream ahah

 

[Eman]

I thought my sex drive was semi out of control... But it now occurs to me that I've not yet paid for sex, so it can't be that bad. She would only be mad if she didn't get to come along to get in on the action...

If this isn't something she's aware of or on board with, my advice is to figure something else out or talk it over with her to feel things out... I would not start with the escort/hooker conversation, massage parlor to get a handy will possibly go over better.

You can get involved on non monogamous apps and such as well, but again, only if she's 100% on board with it. Otherwise, porn will cause you significantly less distress. Having an orgasm is not worth breaking up a family or marriage.

 

[BobbySweeney]

Correct.
I won't be cheating on my wife.

I just wanted to know how you monogamous guys are handling all the libido without sex.

1-2 times a week for a short period is not a broken marriage if there are good reasons (tired, low self esteem, baby/small kids) that are temporary. So I don't want this to turn into some BS marriage advice thread.

Personally, I'm going to attempt to use the tension to push harder in other areas of my life.
I'm definitely not going back to porn or jacking off.

 

[Eman]

Correct.
I won't be cheating on my wife.

I just wanted to know how you monogamous guys are handling all the libido without sex.

1-2 times a week for a short period is not a broken marriage if there are good reasons (tired, low self esteem, baby/small kids) that are temporary. So I don't want this to turn into some BS marriage advice thread.

Personally, I'm going to attempt to use the tension to push harder in other areas of my life.
I'm definitely not going back to porn or jacking off.

Trying non monogamy type apps/sites is probably your best bet, IMO. Unless you really do want to keep it super simple and easy, then an escort might be better for you.. I just don't personally recommend it because paying for sex kind of turns me off from the get go. The lifestyle type websites and dating apps can be a great way to go but single dudes are a dime a dozen so be patient and realize that the girls will need some connection, very few are interested in casual sex with a complete stranger.

I'm not trying to turn the thread into a "fix your broken marriage" thing either when I say the following, this is just something that's helped me sync up sex drives -

give her a helping hand sometimes. Doing a load of laundry, or dishes, etc can make a huge difference. I've noticed my ladies have always had a to do list and sex is rarely at the top because they don't think of it as often as we do. You knock some of those things off that to do list for her, sex moves up the list by default and it makes for a good emotional bond for her.

Also, giving her a massage but letting her know you're not just looking for sex... You just want to make her feel good.. stuff like that. It turns to sex frequently because it removes the expectation on her part. It's not an enjoyable massage when she's thinking it's just you going through the motions so you can get something for yourself.

Again, these are just my personal experiences that I've come to understand dealing with hypersexuality... Even once a day for me is a struggle to remain satisfied so I learned a few things to boost her sex drive to even things out.

 

[Demondosage]

I think twice a week is pretty average in a long term relationship with kids around. If it's circumstances that don't allow it that's one thing, if she has lost interest or feels like shit because of her body that is another thing altogether.

I don't care how you try to justify it, the 2 things we need as men are sex and respect, and they are both about 50/50 of the equation.

Now, I'm not suggesting that most men tell their wives this, but I have flat out told mine in the past that I'm not the type of guy that is going to go without sex....and it's her choice whether it's her or the random blonde headed slut.

You are overanalyzing it here, the bottom line is that you are either going to start getting sex on the regular or you are going to cheat on her. It's how we are programmed by nature.

 

[Demondosage]

But in my case it was more circumstantial than lack of interest. This fucking Covid bullshit and e-school has really made shit difficult! But I won't send my son to a place where he has to wear a mask and distance hinself from everyone, not get to eat lunch in a cafeteria, and listen to some half wit teacher mumble all day behind a mask!!!

 

[Old-timer36]

Hooked get expensive fast. They also charge by time and that sucks.

Find a girl thats really in to you and is okay with just fucking. Fuck her as much as possible and keep the feelings out of it.

Raise your wife's self esteem, make her feel better if possible. Let her know sex doesn't always have to be long sometimes she can just bend over and let you bust one real quick. Like right before she gets in the shower.

 

[FR0Z3N_B0MB3RRR]

I truly think fake mustache, sunglasses and ponytail alias is the real way to go... DEMONPORN PRODUCTIONS INC.

 

[Eman]

Raise your wife's self esteem, make her feel better if possible. Let her know sex doesn't always have to be long sometimes she can just bend over and let you bust one real quick. Like right before she gets in the shower.

Lol... Raise her self esteem by turning her into a human fleshlight for a few minutes? Or were these just two separate but poorly placed suggestions? Wtf.

 

[Demondosage]

Hooked get expensive fast. They also charge by time and that sucks.

Find a girl thats really in to you and is okay with just fucking. Fuck her as much as possible and keep the feelings out of it.

Raise your wife's self esteem, make her feel better if possible. Let her know sex doesn't always have to be long sometimes she can just bend over and let you bust one real quick. Like right before she gets in the shower.

Sex ain't gonna be long at all if you never get it anyways. A cpl pumps and you lose control. Then they get pregnant again and the evil cycle of no ass continues

 

[Old-timer36]

Lol... Raise her self esteem by turning her into a human fleshlight for a few minutes? Or were these just two separate but poorly placed suggestions? Wtf.

Two poorly placed but different suggestions lol

 

[Old-timer36]

Sex ain't gonna be long at all if you never get it anyways. A cpl pumps and you lose control. Then they get pregnant again and the evil cycle of no ass continues

Thats so true. Today's is the last day of us living with my family. Been building a house and can finally stay in it tonight. Birth control works wonders though, maybe not for everyone.

Lol... Raise her self esteem by turning her into a human fleshlight for a few minutes? Or were these just two separate but poorly placed suggestions? Wtf.

You should have seen what else I backspaced kinda thought I removed that to. He is in a tough situation and honestly there's not a whole lot that will truly help him especially if he gets caught. Helping her to enjoy it more and feel better about herself and masturbation is about it unless she is ok with sleeping around.

 

[Whopperflopper]

Sex ain't gonna be long at all if you never get it anyways. A cpl pumps and you lose control. Then they get pregnant again and the evil cycle of no ass continues

Evil cycle of no ass continues....
Since I'm on a low Trt dose right now, I could take it or leave it. So much more to a relationship at this point. I even missed a couple hints lately, you know," I'm taking a bubble bath today while your at work" things like that. I come home tired and just want to eat and goto sleep for 6 hours. I'm a dumbass, I need to start paying attention.

 

[Demondosage]

Evil cycle of no ass continues....
Since I'm on a low Trt dose right now, I could take it or leave it. So much more to a relationship at this point. I even missed a couple hints lately, you know," I'm taking a bubble bath today while your at work" things like that. I come home tired and just want to eat and goto sleep for 6 hours. I'm a dumbass, I need to start paying attention.

I wish the clues were more like ,"come here, pull your dick out!!"

 

[Old-timer36]

Evil cycle of no ass continues....
Since I'm on a low Trt dose right now, I could take it or leave it. So much more to a relationship at this point. I even missed a couple hints lately, you know," I'm taking a bubble bath today while your at work" things like that. I come home tired and just want to eat and goto sleep for 6 hours. I'm a dumbass, I need to start paying attention.

I'm about the same when im on a cruise aka trt. Thats when my wife gets a break. Thankfully though when I blast and add tren she takes care of me well.

Best advice I can give to op is make her feel beautiful, be open and resist the urge to cheat. Identify the problems and help fix them, also some things can not be fixed, like medical issues or certain things, make sure she knows without a doubt that everything about her is what he loves and what turns you on.

Sure you can find some hoe that'll shack up with ya and let you root her out on demand but from experience I can promise you she won't be good for much else. She will not do most of that long list of nonsexual things the one you love does all the time.

Its almost certain you will eventually get caught and lower her self esteem more.

 

[Old-timer36]

Correct.
I won't be cheating on my wife.

I just wanted to know how you monogamous guys are handling all the libido without sex.

1-2 times a week for a short period is not a broken marriage if there are good reasons (tired, low self esteem, baby/small kids) that are temporary. So I don't want this to turn into some BS marriage advice thread.

Personally, I'm going to attempt to use the tension to push harder in other areas of my life.
I'm definitely not going back to porn or jacking off.

Sorry I missed part of this before my last post. Might just have to wait it out and rub one out from time to time

 

[FR0Z3N_B0MB3RRR]

I'm about the same when im on a cruise aka trt. Thats when my wife gets a break. Thankfully though when I blast and add tren she takes care of me well.

Best advice I can give to op is make her feel beautiful, be open and resist the urge to cheat. Identify the problems and help fix them, also some things can not be fixed, like medical issues or certain things, make sure she knows without a doubt that everything about her is what he loves and what turns you on.

Sure you can find some hoe that'll shack up with ya and let you root her out on demand but from experience I can promise you she won't be good for much else. She will not do most of that long list of nonsexual things the one you love does all the time.

Its almost certain you will eventually get caught and lower her self esteem more.

lot of good people here... nice stuff.. Meso is bringing some hope to humanity

 

[Old-timer36]

lot of good people here... nice stuff.. Meso is bringing some hope to humanity

Yeah, I kinda got a little off topic from what op asked but to directly answer his question what I do is. Just tough it out or rub it out, all I can to do is try to get it. Definitely not gonna cheat again.

 

[anonymous_475692]

honestly when i get back on gear, and try tren for the first time, i am just going to be friends with some girls and just be straight tf up and ask if they wanna fuck lol