Ever feel you missed out on "the one"?

Brothers,

It's funny that we are discussing this topic, because I recently started talking again to a girl that, even with my cold heart, I used to truly love years ago, and thought I could be with in a long term relationship with.

Here's the thing, it was magical and lovely when it was hot and heavy, but we ended on a bad note, infidelity on both sides. But hers toward me really hurt me, because it was in the midst of her expressing her deep love toward me. You see, I wasn't playing the game. I lost my alpha frame. I thought she was "different". I thought that love was real, when in reality, it's just a fleeting feeling. I lost my view that women are women.

Here's the caution brothers: You can never ever ever repair a broken relationship. Once the garbage has been taken out the curb, there's no use in picking though it. No matter how much you "love" a woman, in the back of your mind there will always be the time in Cancun she banged the guy. In the back of your mind there will always be the guy at the office she had an affair with. Whatever your situation may be.

You can say "well you fucked around too", but here's the thing. Men and women are different. When women cheat, it means something emotionally. When men cheat, they just need to get a physical release.

You never take a woman back who strays on you. It is over as over can be. A woman will never respect you if you take her back after she cheats. That I promise you. And you want a woman to respect you more than she loves you.
 
It's 2022. Not every woman who wants to have sex is a slut. I don't bang sluts anyway brotha. The girl I fucked twice today has only had sex with 3 guys in her lifetime.
Yes but when those guys had sex with 150 girls and 6 guys, each, lol, that stat is irrelevant?
 
You ever wonder why people go to a funeral and talk about how great a deceased person was when they were not? A big part of that stems from not seeing that person in a while before they died. Point being, you made up this whole story in your head about the one that got away. If you asked the Genie to grant you the ability to live with her, I am certain that after a few years you will ask "the one that got away", to just go away.
 
One day I may tell my whole story on why I even felt this way to post. But it would take a very long detailed post.
Sometimes people are taken away when things really are best.
Life with kids and two family's can pull you apart.
If I feel the way I feel it's easy to understand why people steal and rob at desperate times. To me these are thoughts that slowly fade but are going to take a very long time.
On the death note again. It's not like those memories just dissappear good and bad. But when the time is right maybe I can control it and only pull them when I want. Until then they haunt.
 
You ever wonder why people go to a funeral and talk about how great a deceased person was when they were not? A big part of that stems from not seeing that person in a while before they died. Point being, you made up this whole story in your head about the one that got away. If you asked the Genie to grant you the ability to live with her, I am certain that after a few years you will ask "the one that got away", to just go away.

So true brotha! This is the reason that the divorce rate skyrocketed during Covid. Couples had to be together! All the time!

There is just no such thing as the fairy tale happily ever after relationship. People change. Events change. You learn stuff about each other that is off-putting. Usually it's the women who end things because women are always chasing "happiness". Men put up with loads of bullshit because we are the more romantic of the sexes. Men know what love and loyalty truly is. Women are different animals.

That's why you never get close to a woman. This has the paradoxical effect of them wanting you even more. True facts brothers. Only the most intelligent of guys out there have found this secret.
 
Don't know exactly where you are at in life. Kids are tough. But the focus should be on the kids. Your joy will come by living vicariously through their youth.

I definitely fall into the death trap. Someone dies and the mind automatically goes into what a great person they were. And in some ways that's selfish. Because you are thinking about the good things that made your life convenient that you can no longer have. One day I would like to break that barrier. I would finish a eulogy with "well, I didn't like so and so about this person" and finish it off with, I guess that will never bother me again.

Everyone does the day dreaming thing, the one that got away, the new girl that can do no harm, etc. Time to take a step back and think about how great certain things are in your life right now and focus on long term goals.
 
A really bad STD will quickly kill this silly idea of "the girl that got away".


It wakes you up like nothing else and makes you realize that vagina is a portal to death and destruction.
 
All I know is if anything bad came out of It it was likely my doing. I grew the most and also made the most mistakes in 2020.
I'll try to slowly put the story together if anyone gives a fuck. Sometimes I legit think I could write a romance novel women would die for the way things turned out. But again this may not be the place for my story but was definitely a productive place to put out the base thought.

I'll try to hit some bullet points and touch on them later or as asked if it's important
1. 2020 i was stupid selfish and lost everything
2. 2020 I learned who I really was and what I wanted
3. Late 2020 I met someone who couldn't care less if I was homeless
4. Late 2020 I do some shit that should loose her too but she stands by me
5. 2021 I know the time I have left is limited to make the decision that will effect every day for the rest of my life
6. 2021 the decision that will hurt 2 people minimum no matter what choice I make but I had to.
More chapters tbc lol
 
All I know is if anything bad came out of It it was likely my doing. I grew the most and also made the most mistakes in 2020.
I'll try to slowly put the story together if anyone gives a fuck. Sometimes I legit think I could write a romance novel women would die for the way things turned out. But again this may not be the place for my story but was definitely a productive place to put out the base thought.

I'll try to hit some bullet points and touch on them later or as asked if it's important
1. 2020 i was stupid selfish and lost everything
2. 2020 I learned who I really was and what I wanted
3. Late 2020 I met someone who couldn't care less if I was homeless
4. Late 2020 I do some shit that should loose her too but she stands by me
5. 2021 I know the time I have left is limited to make the decision that will effect every day for the rest of my life
6. 2021 the decision that will hurt 2 people minimum no matter what choice I make but I had to.
More chapters tbc lol
Just remember to take your ai high e2 is a mtf…
 
A really bad STD will quickly kill this silly idea of "the girl that got away".


It wakes you up like nothing else and makes you realize that vagina is a portal to death and destruction.

I'll go ahead and ask. What did you get brother?

Thankfully, I've only had the really tame stuff like crabs.
 
All I know is if anything bad came out of It it was likely my doing. I grew the most and also made the most mistakes in 2020.
I'll try to slowly put the story together if anyone gives a fuck. Sometimes I legit think I could write a romance novel women would die for the way things turned out. But again this may not be the place for my story but was definitely a productive place to put out the base thought.

I'll try to hit some bullet points and touch on them later or as asked if it's important
1. 2020 i was stupid selfish and lost everything
2. 2020 I learned who I really was and what I wanted
3. Late 2020 I met someone who couldn't care less if I was homeless
4. Late 2020 I do some shit that should loose her too but she stands by me
5. 2021 I know the time I have left is limited to make the decision that will effect every day for the rest of my life
6. 2021 the decision that will hurt 2 people minimum no matter what choice I make but I had to.
More chapters tbc lol

The story sounds interesting and I'm certain most people on this forum would be entertained by the details. However, I think it's best to let go of the past as it seems to be causing negativity and even worse unnecessary ruminating.
 
All I know is if anything bad came out of It it was likely my doing. I grew the most and also made the most mistakes in 2020.
I'll try to slowly put the story together if anyone gives a fuck. Sometimes I legit think I could write a romance novel women would die for the way things turned out. But again this may not be the place for my story but was definitely a productive place to put out the base thought.

I'll try to hit some bullet points and touch on them later or as asked if it's important
1. 2020 i was stupid selfish and lost everything
2. 2020 I learned who I really was and what I wanted
3. Late 2020 I met someone who couldn't care less if I was homeless
4. Late 2020 I do some shit that should loose her too but she stands by me
5. 2021 I know the time I have left is limited to make the decision that will effect every day for the rest of my life
6. 2021 the decision that will hurt 2 people minimum no matter what choice I make but I had to.
More chapters tbc lol
An excellent story, it is necessary to give it colors and there will be a novel - an autobiography.
 
Just that one girl(or whoever you loved no discrimination) who changed everything for you. But for whatever reason it didn't work out.
Like have that one person who if you could have one more chance with you would take it?
I know the idea of only one is dumb to alot. But I will say there are very few.
But I know for me there is someone out there I may never get to talk to ever again. And it tears me up inside. Makes it worse I can't even share my favorite parts of life with them like I used to. Even just friends would be nice.
You only believe in the true one until you meet another true one.

The fact that that one is no longer around is proof it wasn't a match made in heaven.
 
Love, romance.....these are are fairly empty experiences once you realize they are dependent on another's expectations. You have no control over any of this, even if you think you're doing everything right by the standards of the day, what are you really moving towards other than a process to see if you're desirable in the eyes of someone else. It's silly.
 
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