How the f*ck do you make relationships work??....Christ

[seand95]

Im in the same boat man, 4 almost 5 years now me and her have been together, were both 24. My guts are being torn apart right now, she is on a vacation in orlando with one of her "MALE" friends. Im pretty sure she wouldnt fuck him, but i allready caught her lying about shit. shit like, i was told they had seperate rooms, turns out its 1 room, but 2 beds. Stuff like that.

Anyways, she said she needed a break and just wanted to go there and have fun, hit the parks. At this point i have hardly any trust, but i just cant break it off. Its like i want out, but i love her so much, feels like ill have a heart attack if i dump her.

Anyways, ive got 6 days till she gets back, and all i think about is her and him 24/7.

ps, MALE FRIENDS SUCK

My rule is male freinds arent allowed and if i begin seeing a girl who has a lot of male "freinds", ill try to get away from that. only reason is because i put up with all the disrespect that goes along with it for quite some time. you know that dude has it in the back of his mind. and unless he's terrible unattractive or majorly feminine, than hes probably thinking about bangin her and she thinks abou it too!

Dont sweat your situation dude. when she gets back, feel it out, but it sounds like your relation has more problems than just the male freinds. really, ask her if it would be ok if you just hung out with girls all the time (a habit that im begining to see the benefits too!). she might say its no problem, but really for your own sake, start doing it and you'll 1. Benefit and network with more chicks and 2. make her jelous, thus getting ther to work for your attention.
childish i know, but when dealing with some chicks, its all games!

 

[RH81]

My rule is male freinds arent allowed and if i begin seeing a girl who has a lot of male "freinds", ill try to get away from that. only reason is because i put up with all the disrespect that goes along with it for quite some time. you know that dude has it in the back of his mind. and unless he's terrible unattractive or majorly feminine, than hes probably thinking about bangin her and she thinks abou it too!

Dont sweat your situation dude. when she gets back, feel it out, but it sounds like your relation has more problems than just the male freinds. really, ask her if it would be ok if you just hung out with girls all the time (a habit that im begining to see the benefits too!). she might say its no problem, but really for your own sake, start doing it and you'll 1. Benefit and network with more chicks and 2. make her jelous, thus getting ther to work for your attention.
childish i know, but when dealing with some chicks, its all games!

I noticed that too,I was all cool with my ex having guys as friends...that was until I learned that she was lying to me about things,caught her in lies...got pissed...she got pissed saying I was just overreacting,but if another woman ever called my cell phone she'd get pissed,fuck that double standard.

Oh well,there's plenty more fishies in the sea for me to have sex with.

 

[Bob Smith]

Im in the same boat man, 4 almost 5 years now me and her have been together, were both 24. My guts are being torn apart right now, she is on a vacation in orlando with one of her "MALE" friends. Im pretty sure she wouldnt fuck him, but i allready caught her lying about shit. shit like, i was told they had seperate rooms, turns out its 1 room, but 2 beds. Stuff like that.

Dude, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but your relationship is over. Besides the fact that shes fucking this guys brains out in Orlando, she has lied to you numerous times about it, and even had the nerve to disrespect you by even thinking of going on a vacation with a male "friend." As much as I love Jewel, I would kick her ass to the curb if she ever went on vacation with a male "friend." And Im sure she would do the same to me if I went with a female friend. There is nothing but lies and disrespect in that ype situation.

My advice, dont even bother with her when she returns. Its over.

 

[Bob Smith]

and 2. make her jelous, thus getting ther to work for your attention.
childish i know, but when dealing with some chicks, its all games!

I bet I could make a very accurate guess as to how successful your relationships have been. Thats about the most retarded advice Ive ever read.

 

[esco]

i havee also heard people answer the question of how much of a relationship is give and take and people answer 50/50 & now i see the answer 100/100 when actually inho when asked how much of a relationship is give and take ... the answer should be 100% give and never take ... just my .02 neo-very good post! made me rethink a couple of things.

 

[shredalean]

No fake compliments, no techniques, not even any thought... just be you, and seek her. You will feel something pulling you back when you get talking, telling you not to give away too much, not to spill the beans, not to let her know 'this or that'.

That is your worst enemy.

Go for intimacy, honesty, and transparency. You be you, let her be her, and if the magic is supposed to happen, it will... as you seek intimacy.

Keep that first in your life. It will tend to be pushed aside at times. You will need times of renewal.

Good luck

Right there's some words of wisdom bro. You gotta go from the heart and throw away those inhibitions and go with it, otherwise your playing ngames.

I never thought I would have a relationship like the one I am in now, and man my boys call me pussywipped, and all that shit that goes with it, but I treat her the way it comes to me naturally, with no preconcieved notions of the way we should interact. MAn it's refreshing.

Good luck!