Interracial relationships

[pahick]

........ in the end you got to do what's right for yourself......

Thats where I started out the conversation in my head. I wanted her to know where I stood, its gonna be hard, and im not sure. I also was hoping to hear from her some type of comfort on her part. When she told me she felt the same type of pressure I knew I had to think more than about my own feelings. I cant say baby no worries I got this, then 6 months down the road I not only dont have this on my end, not having it on my end makes it harder on her end. And the last thing I wanna do is make life harder for anyone, lifes hard enough.

We're good. We've been friends since she moved to town. We'll still be friends. Honestly I doubt it'll go farther than friends due to the pressure we both feel....if we played around, the feels can get deep, then we'd feel forced to jump in head first and that would be a mistake, as I said we both are on the same page. Pressures too much right now. Hard to explain over the computer.

Appreciate the replies though.

 

[Hightower]

I had a long talk last night with "M", shes one of the black women I said about. Shes 38, 5'4 145 and very dark skinned. So sweet. Grew up city but moved to country for nursing. I felt like such a douche at first, I know she thought I was going to ask her out. But I didnt. I wanted to talk to her, let her know I do like her but I have concerns. Stated my concerns, which mainly focused on how we would be treated if we do proceed. I basically friend zoned myself.

She was very understanding, and actually opened up about her concerns, which mimicked mine. She told me shes treated very well by the people in our town, but her coworkers...even though they treat her well, when the subject of dating comes up and she mentions her interest in white men, they try to change the subject or ask her if she knows any nice black men.

I was surprised by that honestly. I hugged her and gave her a kiss, said no matter what friends forever. She agreed, and told me she only wants me to be happy. I want the same for her.

In this day and age, its still not easy folks. On one hand im glad I had the talk, on the other im kinda down about the whole deal. I know she would make a great partner, she is so country its not funny now. We have so much in common. It sucks that we both feel societal pressure thats way outdated.

This is a great story, a story of just good people, no matter what gender or skin color she is.