Meeting New People as an Adult

As an adult, it can be challenging to meet new friends and expand your social circle. Many people tend to stick to their established routines and habits, which limit their opportunities to interact with new and different people. However, doing new things is the best way to meet new friends as an adult, for several reasons.

First of all, doing new things exposes you to new environments and situations, where you are more likely to encounter people who share your interests and passions. For example, if you join a new hobby class, a volunteer project, or a travel group, you will meet people who have similar goals and values as you, and who are also open to learning and exploring new things. This creates a natural basis for friendship and connection.

Secondly, doing new things challenges you to grow and develop as a person, which makes you more attractive and confident as a friend. When you try something new, you learn new skills, gain new perspectives, and overcome new obstacles. This enhances your self-esteem, your creativity, and your resilience. You also become more interesting and engaging as a conversationalist, as you have more stories and experiences to share.

Thirdly, doing new things enriches your life and happiness, which makes you more positive and supportive as a friend. When you do something new, you experience more joy, excitement, and satisfaction. You also discover more about yourself and your potential. This improves your mood, your outlook, and your well-being. You also become more empathetic and compassionate towards others, as you appreciate their diversity and uniqueness.

Therefore, doing new things is the best way to meet new friends as an adult, because it exposes you to new people who share your interests and passions, it challenges you to grow and develop as a person who is attractive and confident as a friend, and it enriches your life and happiness which makes you positive and supportive as a friend.

Give this speech to all my kids in their 20s at some point. Life is hard and comes at you fast you are doing great.
 
There are Facebook groups with ppl with the same interests. That’s a good place to start, for example I got into riding dirtbikes with my son, and we meet ppl all the time and exchange numbers and they’re guys that wanna ride but need ppl who are into it also. I’m sure there are other groups out there. Don’t just do the gym exclusively, live a little and get into something new
 
You know what it is, most people already set with their friends they grew up with or people they know. Anytime I moved to a new city and I been all over east coast I knew people so it was easy, but moving somewhere where you don’t know anyone it has to be hard…
 
People i find who mountain bike are friendly, and fishing, just activities. Also people who run races. Look for jungle races, or the racing groups, like road warrior or things of that nature. They have gatherings after usually.

That said i dont go engage with people myself, shy. Some people are just shy, and persistance can be engaging.
 
I’m lucky enough to have a group of long-standing close friends, who most are far closer to family, than my actual family, but as an adult I met a ton of new people, when I was crossfitting, someone else said jiujitsu, which is a really similar feeling. They can both be a little cult-like, but you naturally end up close with people that you’re suffering through that stuff with, every day or 2. There are a bunch of transients that show up for 3 days and never come back, so it takes some time, but if you can establish yourself as a regular, and you have a decent personality, you’ll be golden. Plus there are some straight smoke shows in barely any clothes, which is definitely an added bonus.

We have a big rodeo, that requires a ton a volunteers, you meet a bunch of people doing that, here at least, and it only requires a couple of weeks out of the year.
 
Real. I’ve never had a problem meeting people on tinder and I’m short 5’4” and dare I say a little handsome (at least to myself and that’s all that matters)
Short, extremely strong and intelligent people of the world, UNITE!

Most intelligent ppl however gave up on women a long time ago.
These days I turn away when women start staring at me.
Fuck that bullshit.
 
I've had to cut ties with most of my best friends because they aren't doing anything in life. They just want to get stoned / drunk and do nothing all day. I have a family of my own now but I don't think it's healthy to depend on them for all of my social needs. I also need some of that "bro time" because I can not be around my wife and toddler 24/7. Love them to death but they drive me insane when they're both having bad days.

I've been debating the church train for a very long time now. I used to go off and on it was fun. Definitely more productive than jerking off and sleeping all afternoon. Just know that 90% of people in church aren't gonna try to seduce you with Jesus. They're just trying to be a part of the community and *attempt* to live a better life or at least look the part. You'll probably meet some damn good connections there for work and other areas if you go to one in a nice suburban area. Lots of girls at church as well and they're less likely to be skeezy bar girls. (Depending on the area of course)

Honestly though, people are overrated. More often than not once I get to know someone on a deeper level I realize they're either crazy, or still stuck in a high school mentality. There aren't as many hard working and responsible people out there as you think. I like having acquaintances. We get along, we talk about our common stuff, every once in a while we get philosophical. But at the end of the day we go our own ways and leave it at that. Don't care about their politics. Don't care who they're fucking. And we're not close enough for them to ask me to borrow money.

I will say the lonely grind is worth it if you're actually improving yourself. I just landed a great job and it's because I'm "boring" now. The owner sees me as professional and reliable so he made me GM after a few weeks. Now I'm getting paid well and running the business solely because I chose not to clique up and be "friends" with all the dipshits who worked there before me. They wanted to be get fucked up with coworkers and slowly made themselves all look bad. I was the one guy minding his business and it worked out for me in the end.
 
It gets harder every year of age. I moved to a new state at age 45, and now 6 years later, really don't have "friends" but just people I know. Being in the internet age doesn't help anything. Make friends based on common interests. Gym etc. Hopelessly lonely, yea I get it man.
I almost the same age and I agree on everything.
 
For girls: bars, nightclubs and random approaches during the day. Those girls will introduce you to their guy friends or their girlfriend/boyfriends. Its a numbers game some will text you back some wont. Its okay to have female friends and not try to sleep with them.

For guy friends: sign up to a mma class or any other club. Ping pong, basketball?
You could also go to bar during the day and start talking to random guys by the bar or even a bartender.
 
Thanks for the replies. A bit of an update on my part: Recently got a part time job barbacking at a really busy bar here and I've met a lot of cool people. I like everyone I work with and made friends with all the female works/bartenders as well. I didn't want to quit my regular job so I sacrificed part of my weekend to try something new. If anyone else is struggling to meet people getting a part time job that is very social will help. Doesn't have to be a bar, could be helping the community or something of the ilk. Just have to put in some effort
 
Thanks for the replies. A bit of an update on my part: Recently got a part time job barbacking at a really busy bar here and I've met a lot of cool people. I like everyone I work with and made friends with all the female works/bartenders as well. I didn't want to quit my regular job so I sacrificed part of my weekend to try something new. If anyone else is struggling to meet people getting a part time job that is very social will help. Doesn't have to be a bar, could be helping the community or something of the ilk. Just have to put in some effort
Working in nightlife is the best way to meet people and get laid. You could also try becoming a bouncer. Congrats!
 
Working in nightlife is the best way to meet people and get laid. You could also try becoming a bouncer. Congrats!
Thanks man, I want to work to become a bartender eventually, but since that's a coveted job it takes some time. Everyone wants to be friends with the bartender/fuck them lmao. But hopefully I can build a lasting relationship from it too. The more opportunities the higher the chance is what I say.
 
I just moved to a new city too. I joined an adult kickball league. I thought it'd make me friends but really they're kind of just... Acquaintances we only wee each other weekly. It feels like the older I get the harder it is
 
@Orc419 thats dope man i want to do bartending as well because it can help huge obstacles in life like public speaking ya know? also breaks down that social awkwardness that alot of people have. but congratulations on this man! id like to find a way to meet new people but again i dont honestly trust people because my personal opinion of humans is they are shit bags. who only care about what they can gain from others. as well as i enjoy my gym time and reading time and relaxing time too much. lol and the cut season is here and now i gotta do 2 hours of cardio a day lol
 
@Orc419 thats dope man i want to do bartending as well because it can help huge obstacles in life like public speaking ya know? also breaks down that social awkwardness that alot of people have. but congratulations on this man! id like to find a way to meet new people but again i dont honestly trust people because my personal opinion of humans is they are shit bags. who only care about what they can gain from others. as well as i enjoy my gym time and reading time and relaxing time too much. lol and the cut season is here and now i gotta do 2 hours of cardio a day lol
After reading that I pulled up indeed and started lookin for a bartender position lol.
Oddly enough I'm in the same spot as this guy was/or still is. Can't find anyone to hang with. Gets lonely in small towns when everyone's already found their clique of people and outsiders aren't welcomed in easily.
 
After reading that I pulled up indeed and started lookin for a bartender position lol.
Oddly enough I'm in the same spot as this guy was/or still is. Can't find anyone to hang with. Gets lonely in small towns when everyone's already found their clique of people and outsiders aren't welcomed in easily.
meh you can look at Pornhub lmfao :D or watch tik Tok and befriend your local broccoli top gym shark wearing idiot lmfao but in all honesty yes bartending seems to be the way
 
meh you can look at Pornhub lmfao :D or watch tik Tok and befriend your local broccoli top gym shark wearing idiot lmfao but in all honesty yes bartending seems to be the way
Ive never actually made a tiktok account lol..
Not a fan of social media at all, and its probably been one of my biggest setbacks as far as branching out and connecting in the digital era. But I'm to hardened in my ways now, last time I had a social media account was when MySpace was still a thing lol. I did meet some cool people in the ultra marathons when I was more focused on running but they all lived in different areas around the state. So getting together for anything but the day before the event wasn't really conducive to anyone's scheduling.
As far as pornhub goes? Always been a Xhamster fan myself
 
Ive never actually made a tiktok account lol..
Not a fan of social media at all, and its probably been one of my biggest setbacks as far as branching out and connecting in the digital era. But I'm to hardened in my ways now, last time I had a social media account was when MySpace was still a thing lol. I did meet some cool people in the ultra marathons when I was more focused on running but they all lived in different areas around the state. So getting together for anything but the day before the event wasn't really conducive to anyone's scheduling.
As far as pornhub goes? Always been a Xhamster fan myself
lol i am looking at bartending jobs right meow. but to be honest my contractor i just met has a smoking hott grand daughter lmfao! but gotta keep things professional! lol
 
As an adult you meet acquaintances not friends.

Friendship is a long term thing, that is forged in struggles and bad times, FOR bad times.

Friends are the ones that go "Oh that's a terrible idea, when do we start?", the ones next to you in the holding cell, the ones that will not ask why, when you say to them "grab the shotgun my loved ones are in trouble"

You don't meet friends, you meet people, that in due time and through hardships, become friends.
 
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