Relationship problems at home and cheating.My story

[tonyton]

Drop her and move on. Once they get bitchy it never ends, or if it the wt thing let her know how you feel about it. Buy her a treadmill and put a hotdog on a string dangling in front of her.

after 5 years she is being bitchy and u are fighting more than getting along?..Dont waste any more of your time pal. Move on!...It sounds simple, and I know its not but life is short and u are not getting any younger so I would make a decision soon and stick with it..

 

[thick]

man, i cant believe some of the advice here. This is such a no brainer. If she made your life hell and has that type of attitude about your thoughts on her weight than what are you waiting for? SHE WILL NOT CHANGE! THAT IS A FACT. You owe it to her and yourself to cut it off now. Than pursue the other girl if you wish but you should be honest with the other girl. Dont start a relationship with her based on lies

 

[Bob Smith]

I am in complete agreement with Phreezer. You reap what you sow.

And in reality, is it all that hard to see why she lost respect for you? You lost your job, became depressed, your self esteem went down the shitter. Why is it a surprise? Chicks dont like guys that are pussies and get down on themselves all the time. She stayed with your poor ass and helped support you while she was working hard to advance in her own career.

As for her weight, you really do sound very shallow. Granted, I dont want Jewel adding 20 pounds, but its no the end of the world. Most likely she added all that weight indirectly because of YOU! You stress her out, she supports you, she has to deal with whatever her job entails. If your relationship was going fine up until you lost your job, then it became a roller coaster, now you have to EARN her respect back. No person can be forced to have respect for anyone else. Commanding respect from someone will only work to have them lose even more respect for you.

IMO, giving up on your relationship is the easy way out and in the long run wont solve a single problem.

 

[Chip Bronson]

i can't believe all you fucking guys. all these posts and noone has addressed the most important point. who has the biggest, jammingest titties bro? now, i agree about talking it over with her but if she's porked out like this in her early 20's, wtf is going to happen in her 30's, 40's, etc. if there is no physcial excuse like a bad back, etc then fuck it bro, like thick said, she'll only get fatter. and all that bullshit about reaping what you sow is just that. plain bullshit. just guys parrotting back what they've heard or read somewhere... so talk to her and definitely address the weight issue as it seems to be of paramount importance to you. if you don't address it, it will only get bigger and bigger of an issue. and why not bang the new girl? definitely bang her. you're not married bro. and the new pussy will make you feel better, add some zest to your life and remove some stress from your life. and don't tell her you have a girlfriend. it's none of her business. just don't get stupid and mistake the excitement you'll get over the new tang for any real feelings. you're only banging her for pragmatic purposes.

look, you're a young, single guy. you're in good shape. your dick works. you're on aas. c'mon bro. reach out and touch someone... preferably the new girl and preferably with your dick.

 

[thick]

lmao. cant believe i missed that. Also, you arent shallow if you are not attracted to fat chics. That is my opinion. I feel that being sexually attracted to someone is important in a relationship. If a fat chic is repulsive to you than that should definitely be entered into the equation. Same with your gf. Sounds like she knows there are guys that will appreciate her for her fat bitchy personality. Let her go find desi, umm i mean another guy. One last thing. If your gf lost respect for you when you were down than she will never be there for you. I dont remember your first post so i might be a little off base with that last statement. Girls with good qualities will be there for you at all times.(good luck finding one lol). She will always be a bitch. She will get fatter. If you knock her up she will push 200 pounds and eat all of your supper when you turn to look away.

As for the other girl. If you like her than i would tell her the truth.

i can't believe all you fucking guys. all these posts and noone has addressed the most important point. who has the biggest, jammingest titties bro?

 

[crewboss]

i'm agreeing more and more with the "fuck it, she won't change" constituency, because I'm recalling all the times I should have called it quits with the miserable bitch I was with. They're right, people don't change much. You definitely owe it to her to at least talk about it. Tell her she's a cow and it makes you want to bang a chick who doesn't put on her belt with a boomerang. It's that simple, when people get fat they need to know they're pathetic. It's a kick in the ass to get her motivated. Don't blame yourself for her lard ass, everyone's responsible for their own physical appearance. Tell her that all your problems w/ her bum you out and ask her if she will make an effort to change things. If she is not receptive, then son you've done your due dilligence.. Get up, put your shoes on, grab the jimmy caps, get in your car, and drive to the hottie's house to commence the post-breakup pilgrimmage to the Whorie Land.

 

[bigpmp]

Bro, listen to me. I was married to a miserable bitch for 7 years. She was young when we married. I put up with all kinds of shit to try to make it work, lies, cheating, stealing (13 grand over 3 years she embessled from our account while she worked at the bank). After 7 years she walked out on not only me, but our 14 month old daughter. Don't make that mistake. If this new girl makes you happy, pursue it. Do not lock yourself into someone that does not make you happy. You do not owe your current girl friend anything. Remember it is your life. Why live it miserable? Once you are married, and not to someone that makes you happy, it becomes a much tougher issue.

 

[crewboss]

damn bro that's a tough break. are you raising the kid as a single dad?

 

[manfreakca]

The GOOD ,the BAD,and the UGLY

 

[jdemon519]

Bros, thanks for all the feedback that really helps.I got no kids with my gf(thank G-d).I'll give you an example of what happened a couple of days ago.She went to FL to see her family for 5 days(nothing wrong with that).So on Fri I go to work and then have lunch with that new south american chick i was talking about.Then couple of hour later I try to call my gf...voicemail.I try her again in a while, same thing.So I get home and start watching TV, it's about midnight here in CA.and she calls! So I say "why couldn't you find some time to call me during the whole day? I was worried.All I needed is a 10 second call that everything is alright." She says she was busy with some party preparation and didn't have a chance.So I brush her off and hang up.Then she had the nerve to call me up the next day and scream and bitch about how she doesn't have to justify herself!
She flew in last night and we sorta made up.She calls me up fom work today and I tell her that there's no food in the house, if she could stop by and buy some groceries."You eat it all anyway so if you want some food - go get it yourself".Now keep in mind that even though I make less money than her I am still paying 70% of everything and not 50%.
I spoke with the other chick last night, she is VERY interested and she asked me whether I was single.I told her that I do have a gf but it's really on a rocks and on a verge of breakup.She said she appreciated my honesty and still wanted to see me.

 

[jdemon519]

And my gf doesn't have any physical condition that would prevent her from exercising.I offered to train her, monitor her diet daily and do all kinds of things but all I got was a big NO.

 

[thick]

your last 2 posts reaffirmed my position and I stick by my advice. Dump her. I am glad you told the other girl the truth. If u like her than there could be a chance in that relationship.

And my gf doesn't have any physical condition that would prevent her from exercising.I offered to train her, monitor her diet daily and do all kinds of things but all I got was a big NO.

 

[Hogg]

I agree with thick, shitcan her and move on.

 

[Ian Smith]

Dont forget,, it is very easy to confuse the excitement of a new relationship with the "this is the one" syndrome.... Its that way with all new relationships,, its called puppy love... You know the woman you are with now,, but no-one is completely who they appear to be in the begining... A person doesnt have to have sex with someone outside of their relationship to be "cheating" what your doing is cheating... Im not pointing my finger at you, but it is what it is... Make sure you are certain before you jump... If her weight gain is the only reason you want to leave her,, then you may never be happy with anyone... I think the most important thing is,,, who do you see yourself sitting on a porch drinking tea with 50 years from now,,, when physical appearance no longer matters.
Who will stick with you through thick and thin...

Who knows, neither of them may be the one...

EDIT: I just saw your last post,,, I apologize for sounding judgemental... Maybe she is just responding to how you are acting towards her... If someone is hurting you, chances are you are doing something to hurt them, its all action and reaction.... I think its important to identify where it all began... Good luck

 

[jdemon519]

I'll give her one last chance.If she doesn't take me seriously and gets her shit together, she's out.I wasn't even gonna do that but since she does have some good qualities I owe to myself to give it one last try.In a meantime I am going to see the other chick.She knows the situation and still wants to see me.Glad I was honest with her.

 

[Ian Smith]

Ya, but the other woman is aware that you are in another relationship.... if she doesnt respect the relationship your in now,,, why do you think she will respect the potential relationship the both of you may eventually have?

 

[jdemon519]

Dont forget,, it is very easy to confuse the excitement of a new relationship with the "this is the one" syndrome.... Its that way with all new relationships,, its called puppy love... You know the woman you are with now,, but no-one is completely who they appear to be in the begining... A person doesnt have to have sex with someone outside of their relationship to be "cheating" what your doing is cheating... Im not pointing my finger at you, but it is what it is... Make sure you are certain before you jump... If her weight gain is the only reason you want to leave her,, then you may never be happy with anyone... I think the most important thing is,,, who do you see yourself sitting on a porch drinking tea with 50 years from now,,, when physical appearance no longer matters.
Who will stick with you through thick and thin...

Who knows, neither of them may be the one...

I have been through a puppy love stage so I am keeping my head clear.I am 31 after, not 18.That's why I am not dumping my gf tomorrow for the new chick.Weight gain is one of the reasons but not the only one.As far as who will be there in 50 years..I don't see either of them there.I don't even see myself there bro.

 

[jdemon519]

Ya, but the other woman is aware that you are in another relationship.... if she doesnt respect the relationship your in now,,, why do you think she will respect the potential relationship the both of you may have?

Don't know bro, I stopped trying to figure the chicks out.Maybe she hasn't gotten laid in a while so she doesn't care? I don't know whether she's a gf material either.She could end up being a psycho bitch from hell for all I know.That's why I am taking it real slow on both sides and observing...

 

[Ian Smith]

I have been through a puppy love stage so I am keeping my head clear.I am 31 after, not 18.That's why I am not dumping my gf tomorrow for the new chick.Weight gain is one of the reasons but not the only one.As far as who will be there in 50 years..I don't see either of them there.I don't even see myself there bro.

"Neither may be the one". Thats important to realize... Later

 

[shredalean]

Yo jdemon I want to nail her amiga!!!!