Relationship problems at home and cheating.My story

[jdemon519]

To give you a little background...I have been with my gf for 5 years, I met her when she was 19( I am 31 now).First everything was great and I had a nice cushy job in IT field making tons of money.We moved in together 3 years ago and then the economy collapsed...
So there I was collecting unemployment and working odd jobs not really making good money.In a meantime she was slowly climbing a ladder with her job when she finally reached the top of her field(the top there is about $24/hour).When all this shit was going on, I was really depressed and slowly but surely she started losing respect for me.She was faithful but it just wasn't the same.I was too preoccupied trying to find a new line of work to even worry about shit like that...huge mistake.
So I finally started working as a personal trainer, doing cycles and getting my confidence levels up.At the same time, the things at home were going from really bad to decent to worse to decent to worse again.She gained quite a bit of weight and basically disregards the fact that it bothers the shit out of me.So there I am still making less money then her but loving my job and slowly but surely building the clientele base working for myself.I am 5'7, 209 and 9%bf, leaning out every day and my confidence is through the roof.and then I meet this other chick who is a complete opposite of my gf..fun,spontaneous and in really good shape.We haven't had sex yet but she seems to be really into me and it's coming to that.She doesn't know I have a gf.My gf is getting more bitchy ed...Should I give my gf a chance and take charge?What should I do with the other chick?

 

[KTCKSports]

Is she is only your girlfriend, and not your wife what do you have to lose? Always keep your options open. Maybe your gf is losing interest in you and wants to pursue other guys? Since she was so young when you started dating, there is a greater then 0 chance that she is a different person now then at 24.

To give you a little background...I have been with my gf for 5 years, I met her when she was 19( I am 31 now).First everything was great and I had a nice cushy job in IT field making tons of money.We moved in together 3 years ago and then the economy collapsed...
So there I was collecting unemployment and working odd jobs not really making good money.In a meantime she was slowly climbing a ladder with her job when she finally reached the top of her field(the top there is about $24/hour).When all this shit was going on, I was really depressed and slowly but surely she started losing respect for me.She was faithful but it just wasn't the same.I was too preoccupied trying to find a new line of work to even worry about shit like that...huge mistake.
So I finally started working as a personal trainer, doing cycles and getting my confidence levels up.At the same time, the things at home were going from really bad to decent to worse to decent to worse again.She gained quite a bit of weight and basically disregards the fact that it bothers the shit out of me.So there I am still making less money then her but loving my job and slowly but surely building the clientele base working for myself.I am 5'7, 209 and 9%bf, leaning out every day and my confidence is through the roof.and then I meet this other chick who is a complete opposite of my gf..fun,spontaneous and in really good shape.We haven't had sex yet but she seems to be really into me and it's coming to that.She doesn't know I have a gf.My gf is getting more bitchy ed...Should I give my gf a chance and take charge?What should I do with the other chick?

 

[joe shmoe]

have a sit down with your GF. explain to her that you dont like the situation that you're in...you know, the good, the bad, the good, the bad. ask her if she wants to work things out. if she does, give it an honest shot. if she doesnt, get rid of her.

as for the other chick, dont bang her yet. keep it simple and friendly. dont complicate things by trying to be with 2 chicks at the same time.....thats assuming that you want to work things out with your GF. if you dont, throw her ass out and bang the new broad.

have a nice day

 

[jdemon519]

Is she is only your girlfriend, and not your wife what do you have to lose? Always keep your options open. Maybe your gf is losing interest in you and wants to pursue other guys? Since she was so young when you started dating, there is a greater then 0 chance that she is a different person now then at 24.

She was 19 when we met and a virgin. And no, she is not my wife.Our sex life is decent but only cause I am on AAS, otherwise I'd have no interest in her especially after she gained the weight.

 

[jdemon519]

have a sit down with your GF. explain to her that you dont like the situation that you're in...you know, the good, the bad, the good, the bad. ask her if she wants to work things out. if she does, give it an honest shot. if she doesnt, get rid of her.

as for the other chick, dont bang her yet. keep it simple and friendly. dont complicate things by trying to be with 2 chicks at the same time.....thats assuming that you want to work things out with your GF. if you dont, throw her ass out and bang the new broad.

have a nice day

I do want to work things out with her but she would have to change.I don't need to be the one calling all the shots but I demand respect and I expect her to consider my wishes and at least find a compromise.She's got some good qualities but I will not be supressed by her.The other chick is really interested but I will hold off on banging her just for a little while.Plus, she's not one of those types you bang on a first date.

 

[joe shmoe]

i re-state the first 2 sentences in my post.

and add in the weight part.

have a nice day

 

[crewboss]

i re-state the first 2 sentences in my post.

and add in the weight part.

have a nice day

joe hit it dead on. sit down with your GF. remember she could have dumped you when you lost your job, and even though i'm sure she made your life a living hell, she stuck by you. she deserves a talk. ask her if she's happy, tell her you're not. if she makes a strong effort to work things out after that, i'd have a tough time dumping a chick with that kind of loyalty. in that case i'd try to work things out and get her on a treadmill. if she doesn't show a concerted effort, i'd give myself the green light w/ the hottie. good luck.

 

[thick]

dump her. she isn't going to change. well yes she will. She will add another 50 pounds pretty soon. Tell the other chic the truth now b4 it goes any further

 

[Data1000]

If you're not sure what to do, then first try to communicate with your girlfriend. Be patient because things won't get better overnight. If you cheat on your long-time girlfriend, you might regret that for a long time. It is really not worth it, bro.

 

[Manuel_Hung]

have a sit down with your GF. explain to her that you dont like the situation that you're in...you know, the good, the bad, the good, the bad. ask her if she wants to work things out. if she does, give it an honest shot. if she doesnt, get rid of her.

as for the other chick, dont bang her yet. keep it simple and friendly. dont complicate things by trying to be with 2 chicks at the same time.....thats assuming that you want to work things out with your GF. if you dont, throw her ass out and bang the new broad.

have a nice day

Good advice brother!

 

[occam]

Be honest with all involved, including yourself.

Level with your girlfriend about what your feeling, and let her tell you how she feels. Even if you end up apart this is the healthy way to proceed.

The other women needs to know you have a girlfriend, she may lose respect for you for not having told her already, but at least you haven't been intimate.

Your word is your honor, don't lessen it's worth because your situation is complicated.

Good luck to you.........if you handle yourself well your self confidence will deepen and be well deserved.

 

[ramboj70]

Be honest with all involved, including yourself.

Level with your girlfriend about what your feeling, and let her tell you how she feels. Even if you end up apart this is the healthy way to proceed.

The other women needs to know you have a girlfriend, she may lose respect for you for not having told her already, but at least you haven't been intimate.

Your word is your honor, don't lessen it's worth because your situation is complicated.

Good luck to you.........if you handle yourself well your self confidence will deepen and be well deserved.

bro it seems to me that your GF is into you, look she was with you when you got caned from your job and now she is climbing the ladder and your not, sit down with her adult to adult and ask her, how do you feel about this reallationship with us, are we going anywhere? do you love me, are you banging someone else? ok now she says she is not into you anymore, before you dump her get all you can from her! money remember you wont have a place to live, and dont bang that other chick just yet. wait until you have no more oblegations with your GF. and if I were you I would say nothing about her putting on weight, she will drop you like a fucking hot cake. good luck bro

 

[Peace Division]

Follow Joe's advice and keep us posted. Also, truly evaluate what you are putting into the relationship and if you can try harder. Hope all works out for you.

 

[DrMCM]

dump her. she isn't going to change. well yes she will. She will add another 50 pounds pretty soon. Tell the other chic the truth now b4 it goes any further

I hate to be harsh, but, chances are she will gain more weight. I hate to be shallow (okay, so I'm harsh and shallow ) but I can't stand heavy women. Never have, never will - end of discussion. If the weight thing really bothers you, I would consider that heavily in your decision. If you are not happy with her physical appearance now, you WILL be looking for someone else down the road.

 

[Salvia]

dump the lardass and fuck the hottie.....then dump her for an even hotter chick

 

[Phreezer]

You will always reap what you sow...

And if you are sowing Dishonesty and unfaithfullness and abandonment...so shall you reap those three and more....

She supported you through a rough time..you owe her the same... Explain your problems to her..but do it in a kind way... You may be suprised by what you learn.

 

[Ian Smith]

Well said........... Best to comunicate, and be honest,,,atleast that way you will know the answers to all the "what ifs"... She must care for you, if she stayed with you,,,,

 

[Rod]

It looks like your biggest concern is that your gf gained some weight. My advice is that you should dump her; let her cut her losses and then she can find someone who isn't so shallow.

 

[jdemon519]

I was gonna tell the other chick that I have a gf but I am still kinda hesitant.She assumed that I didn't and I didn't volunteer any info.I do wanna bang her though...My gf did stay with me, I give her credit for that but she did make my life a living hell.She also lost the respect for me.BTW, I did try sitting down with her before but that went absolutely nowhere.She basically told me that there's plenty of guys who will like her the way she is.I will try sitting down with her again but I cannot deal with being with someone who is overweight.If it makes me shallow, fine.I am not talking about being a fitness competitor, simply eating clean, working out and stayin in the same weight.She's 5'7 so her ideal weight is 135.She is 158 now.NOT GOOD.That's why I look at other chicks and wanna fuck them.Should I still keep in contact with the other chick?
I wanna give my gf another chance but if she doesn't come through I don't think I'd be able to deal with that.

 

[killerdice]

Drop her and move on. Once they get bitchy it never ends, or if it the wt thing let her know how you feel about it. Buy her a treadmill and put a hotdog on a string dangling in front of her.